₦airaland Forum

Hipsofagoddess:
Thank you for taking the first step to the right path by adding a percentage.

in few years time the statistics will be 99.9% with the rate of what’s happening now...I pity the next generation of men cos there won’t be any woman left with morals to marry

compton11:
White will never understand the struggle of black,only black woman understand it.

and after understanding it what then happens? Would any Nigerian girl that’s high class according to there own definition have dated Abraham if he had nothing and is living in Nigeria ? But I will show you how many pretty classy whites that are dating Nigerians abroad that has nothing even housing our fellow men feeding them abeg there’s no justification that our girls are scum cos Trust me they truly are

HallaDaTruth:
The Perfect Answer

i beg to differ it’s the other way round

compton11:
white women only marry black men because of money but most idiot black men won't know that.

what gave you the impression that whites women marry blacks cos of money? Come to Toronto a lot of whites are marrying black guys that have nothing don’t stay there and conclude because of what you see on social media whites don’t marry cos of money except white models but an average white girl needs love you can date her for years and won’t spend nada my brother you need to travel and see it for yourself .... maybe you are talking about Nigerian women then I will agree with your point

makeherscream:
well said my man stop wasting your time with her jare

my Broda she should travel out and see how other women worship us ...they should be lucky they have men like us it’s only a Nigerian man that will spend money for his woman and still our ladies don’t value us ...later they will be saying men are scum they absolutely have nothing to offer except sex and food and they still feel they are doing us a favor it’s not like they are even fine and when they manage to be pretty they feel there parts are not in the market

Hipsofagoddess:
It's obvious you had a disturbed childhood courtesy of your mother. Why do I say so? I place my father on a high pedestal and because of that I'll never say all men are wicked, because I know men like my father still exist who give their wives and children peace.

So, for you to say such vile things against black women, your mother must have been one hell of a disappointment and its a pity. But you still have the responsibility to rid yourself of hate, because it will only lead to your destruction.

with all this your rant the only thing I can deduct from it is that you are a lady and Ofcourse I don’t blame you trying to aide with your fellow woman gone at the days when our parents had morals while growing up this our generation has gone to the dusts I read people’s comments on social media , see all sorts of things going on in the country and all I can do is wave my head in disdain you can say all you want it doesn’t distort the fact that Nigerian women doesn’t worth the stress and they have lost it... I pity this generation because sooner or later no woman will be left to be married no morals no brain all they care about is there looks and money my dear i have been out of the country visited a lot of countries and witnessed civilization 80% of Nigerian ladies of this generation are rubbish and nothing to right home about

Ugosample:
that's not a nice thing to say about black chics tho

they are leeches there’s nothing to hide even the so called working class Nigerian ladies are still leeches date a white and thank me later

maestroferdi:
Dont ask a dumb question...

If most black men were to have exposure/access to white ladies, most black women will enter demurrage...

Who wantsthe nasty attitude and silly behaviours of most black women....

Go and see how white women are taking the best of African American men while black women wander about helplessly...

thank you leave the useless Nigerian women always feeling entitled go out and see how other women are worshipping our men, all they care about is money and can’t even keep there shit together

safarigirl:
Which white women?

Lol..they are seeing a mugu, not a relationship. Black men have low self esteem and seek validation from dating white women. They don't feel relevant until they have a white woman by their side, because in their slave mind, that is the only way to get a semblance of approval from society.

who has dating a Nigerian or black woman helped? Abeg swerve I support him 100% times it has nothing to do with self esteem are our girls any better ? If I am to choose between a white and a Nigerian I will choose a white over and over again our girls that have absolutely nothing to offer once you are dating her you owe her everything and end up marrying her that’s the worse you are marrying the entire family

sinola:
Tammy, come home and pick a wife... Leave all this white girls, they will ruin your career.

stop talking trash you, I have always known that Nigerians are racists to the core tell me 3 white women that have ruined a black mans career and I will tell you 1million Nigerian women that have ruined a fellow Nigerians career , dating a white woman is the best thing that can happen to anyone as long as you remain truthful, active in bed they don’t need your money whatever happened to eboue or whatever his name is quite unfortunate and it’s once in a Bluemoon

stormborn28:
she said she has evidence of those charms... And again the husband was served court notice, why didn't he show up each time he was served. Or you didn't read all that part... I'm a man I hate nonsense... Like you rightly said the use of brain is needed here

an average man in Ibadan uses local charms both the Muslims and Christians I’ve been there before so am sure she was aware of the charms with the husband for a long time she just used it as an excuse to seek for divorce

agwom:
A policewoman, Sgt. Wuraola Babalola, has petitioned a Mapo Customary Court in Ibadan, seeking the dissolution of her marriage of 14 years to Oladimeji, over alleged attempt to use her for money ritual. According to the petitioner, alleged that Oladimeji, uses different kinds of charms whnever he wants to sleep with her.

She alleged that Oladimeji, has also turned her into his punching bag. ”At any slightest opportunity, he stripes me prevents my relatives from seeing me. ”He puts puts charms in my private part whenever he wants to sleep with me.

He also surrounds my plate of food with charms, saying he uses it to protect me. “He has also buries different kinds of charms in the house chanting my name. My first child saw him do that. “I have evidence of all the charms and how he maltreats me on my cell phone,” she alleged. Oladimeji was not in court to answer to the allegations. The bailiff informed the court that he had on several occasions served hearing notices on Oladimeji, who lives in Oluyole Estate in Ibadan.

After listening to the testimony of the petitioner, Chief Ademola Odunade, the President of the court, dissolved the marriage, on grounds of threat to life. He granted custody of the three children to the petitioner and ordered the respondent to pay N15,000 as the monthly feeding allowance. The arbitrator ordered the clerk of the court to ensure that copy of the judgment is sent to Oladimeji. (NAN)

Read more: https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/my-husband-wants-to-use-me-for-money-ritual-policewoman-alleges.html

when I read the comments here I can’t but wonder how we reason in this country, that’s why we could all sit at home and vote BBN when we have pressing issues in this country first of the police woman is a lier, let’s say the man used charm at all in his house I am very sure if he wanted to use her for money ritual should would have been dead by now, the honest truth is that when a woman is tired of you she will come up with flimsy excuses and it’s a woman’s world she will be believed because they see them as weaker vessels whereas they are the stronger vessels...please let’s start reasoning constructively in this country we are fast loosing our common sense by mere reading of comments here on nairaland and instagram is worse off

penguinpikin:
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Some men are stubborn. until you crash before u get sense. go and look for a mature woman. i will never sponsor anybody daughter because i wan marry her

you are right bro I learnt that the hard way after I trained a guy in a private Uni for years she went for NYSC and dumped my sorry ass please guys here never spend a dime for a lay that is still in Uni in the guise that you want to marry her to avoid the story that touches in the ratio of 99% she will definitely leave you lol

MYDEBBY:
Dear Nairalanders, I greet you all.

Pls I need candid advice, I have dated my wife for over six years without an issue and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.

She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school.

Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.

The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested.

She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it, only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees. I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.

While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her PARENTS, promising not to do so again, a guy knocked the door and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend, I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.

When we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.

After a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.

I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.

Pls no insult just help out.

Thanks

please move on for your own good the more you beg her the more she’s breaking your heart more , cut off all communications block her number if you both are on Facebook or Instagram leave one open for future communication, move on try as much as possible I know it’s difficult and you feel you can’t but trust me time heals everything bro it’s all about time you will look back and laugh over it, she’s with someone else that she feels is better give it few months or maximum a year she will run coming back but don’t ever accept her back do this and thank me later lol .... as for her parents stop involving them it’s eitger they are involved in whatever she’s doing and they are aware but just don’t want to accept it so they wouldn’t look bad to you after everything you’ve done for there daughter or they don’t have a control over her so cut off all communication with the family , let Karma take it’s vengeance For you

HBB1:
I have an above average I.Q and my girlfriend is as smart (or even smarter).

The last girl I dated was also very smart too.

I dated an olodo once and I left after one month-- couldn't understand the lack of drive. It was a fling actually-- NYSC camp runs.

I have had very few girlfriends, maybe only one really, so...

If I don't see a smart girl, I am OK with YouTube and DSTV, it's not by force!

lol you are very funny anyway you should count yourself lucky to have been meeting smart and intelligent ones....most are not lucky and men are also the cause of al this problems , why would a grown man with full brain marry a slay queen and expect her to make a good wife it doesn’t happen anywhere later you will see them opening trend about how his wife left him or how he’s loosing his home

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Gforce2019:
There are intelligent ladies...even on this platform.. they might not be much but we have them around us... A lot of intelligent ladies has suddenly turned to feminist which is bad for the future that lies ahead..
There are a lot of foolish ladies that all they want you to notice about them is their hair-do, the new dress , jewelries or shoes they just bought...
Or their spoken English, sex styles or cooking abilities... Things has really fall apart

well you are right but that been said the rate of intelligent and virtuous girls are diminishing everyday and there’s always a law of diminishing return , the want to follow the latest trend use the latest gadgets hair cloths shoes thereby loosing the most important thing....for the feminists here they are actually practicing the wrong feminism because the advocate of the so called feminism Chimamanda doesn’t even practice it the way our girls do she still respects her husband cooks for him and she’s very humble I know her first hand all she’s advocating for is that men should respect women and stop seeing them as objects well I rest my case I am tired of Nigerian girls

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HBB1:
Intelligence is most important for me.

If the girl is not intelligent, there is no future.

I want to discuss politics, history, war tactics, music, money, business, gossip, work...just talk.

My wife has to be my best friend , so...

If I want yansh and breast, they are pumping it in Lekki, that one is simple.
Intelligence is not.

if that’s what you are looking for my brother you will end up disappointed as many of our girls in this country are intellectually dead all they want to talk about is hair cloths bbn in the next 10 years nothing will be left anymore I pity the next generation of men there won’t be any meaningful girls left

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henrixx:
Number one is my current problem. Cant hold a reasonable discussion. She must deviate to something trivial.

God help us in finding the right woman

its common this days without majority of Nigerian girls they lack the ability to hold a reasonable conversation without deviating and most times when you sound intellectually inclined they tag you boring what a generation we are in trouble

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pocohantas:
Did the people calling OP insecure go theough the opening post at all?

If all he stated there is the truth, then his concerns are valid. People should stop accusing their partner's of insecurity, as a way of getting off with their bad behaviour.

dont mind then I have noticed that majority of people here are kids and don’t know what been married is all about he’s concerns are very valid she’s either cheating or planning to I have been in. Similar situation and when I complained I was tagged insecured and paranoid till she left me with two kids when she went for NYSC in another city

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Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young.

But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with.

I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters.

She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse.

One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again.

She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.

my brother please for your own good don’t listen to whatever anybody here tells you majority of guys and ladies here are kids and don’t know what been married is all about not to talk of having two kids, I’ve been there done it and know how it feels having a flirtatious woman, listen it’s better to have a nagging woman than a flirtatious one because there’s a 100% chances that she’s cheating on you, the reason why we end up marrying the wrong person is because we neglect this little signs before getting married, don’t neglect this signs you are seeing some people here will tell you that you are been insecured or paranoid my dear you are not I can bet my last money that she’s planning on cheating on you or already doing that...birds of feathers they say flock together her friends are bad so is she I am sorry to say that because she’s your wife , you have two options it’s either you sit her down and talk to her and involve her parents if she doesn’t listen then file for a divorce