Obviously you are much older than she is!
You should be a role model to her instead of complaining.
If she were YOUR OWN SISTER. . .would you be on NL. . . ?
What has Yoruba got to do with this?

Please, start taking charge of your environment in your marriage. If you can't solve simple problems without getting 'the world' involved. . .I doubt you can solve MAJOR ones.Not everything should be a 'village' court matter to judge!
Goodluck with that your marriage!

The fact that you can 'detest' her soooooo much tells the kind of person you are. ONE THAT LACKS LOVE, TOLERANCE AND PATIENCE! You married someone. . .you should be able to accomodate/CORRECT some issues with love, care and role-modelling. NOT EVERYONE CAN BE LIKE YOU!

Learn to see the good in others.

Goodluck!

Poverty is a bytch!
God bless the white man's land!

Seriously,
Do people really have these kinds of problems?

temmydude: "Callotti", i understand what you mean. But the reality is that the Reproductive Health of we humans at somewhat point in time need some boost. There is nothing wrong about giving our Reproductive Health a boost - It's part of life!.
You find it easy to make a baby or babies at the first time does not mean you can't find it challenging to achieve this feat the next time. And if you do find it successful at all times, then count yourself lucky. Thank you for your thoughts and time!

Ok!
Over to 'whom it may concern' then!

1)Why should a couple who after 2-3 years of marriage,suddenly decides to call in a third party(I hate this part so much)?

YES! YOU MUST HAVE MISUNDERSTANDINGS. . . It is not easy for 2 different people who have chosen to come together to AGREE on MOST issues of finances and children. The most difficult aspect in a marriage is LEARNING TO WORK TOGETHER without the other party feeling disrespected and a bit 'put-down'!

Being over-whelmed, couples may decide to invite 3rd parties to mediate for them. . . seeking re-assurance or validation that he or she is not at fault. Nothing wrong if the right people are approached INSTEAD OF IDLE GOSSIPS WITH WORSE SITUATIONS FOR COUNSEL! Couples MUST first go through this phase before they are strong enough to deal with their own problems independently.

2)Didn't they know each other well enough during dating/courting before heading to the alter?

Oh! It is only when you get married you start getting to know each other. . . .MARRIAGE IS QUITE DIFFERENT FROM DATING! People change and emotions change! IT IS ONLY AFTER YOU HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR SOME TIME YOU CAN BEGIN TO FIND OUT WHY AND WHAT YOU LIKE AND LOVE ABOUT A PERSON. . . .Not when desperation is calling you to jump into marriage AT ALL COST!

3)Is it not possible to have a near perfect marriage?

Depends on what you call a 'near perfect' marriage. I could say mine is NEAR PERFECT. . . because I have found happiness and peace of mind within myself and my spouse. . . no matter the shortcomings. One size does not fit all. There are no general rules that apply to ALL marriages. Customize yours the way YOU want it to be. . .and as long as you are happy, peaceful and content. . . YOU HAVE A NEAR-PERFECT MARRIAGE!

You can be in love and have a miserable marriage(domestically abused spouses fall in this category)
you can be happy in a marriage without being in LOVE with your spouse(those who love the idea of being married. . .THE CERTIFICATE. . . .not the spouse. . . .to them marriage is a CONTRACT!)

All a matter of choice!

4)What usually brings about this unnecessary fights/quarrels?Money?In Laws?

1. Material and spiritual poverty.
2. Lack of committment. EVEN WITH EVER CHANGING ROLES BETWEEN SPOUSES. Who says the man is ALWAYS the head of the household and breadwinner?
3. Lack of a SOLID FRIENDSHIP(no understanding or mutual respect)
4. MOST IMPORTANTLY. . . UNNECESSARY EXPECTATIONS FROM EACH OTHER!
5. Lack of emotional maturity. SOME PEOPLE NEVER GROW UP!!!

These opens up a can of worms in forms of resentments. A man or woman who is unable provide the basic needs and wants in a marriage will face many stressors and challenges.

YOU MUST BE FRIENDS BEFORE YOU CAN TOLERATE EACH OTHER IN A MARRIAGE! You only fall in love after surviving the trials of marriage and the ability to weather storms TOGETHER. If you do not like your spouse. . . YOU CAN NEVER BE IN LOVE WITH HIM OR HER!

Having children with people you do NOT like or love. . . COMPOUNDS issues. YOU ARE REMINDED OF THAT SPECIAL BOND WITH THE OBJECT. . . Talk about having 'issues' with the ENEMY! An everlasting DEATH IN LIFE SENTENCE!!!

"O Ye My Ode Pipo'!

Sanusi is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay better!

OBJ pocketted Soludo. . . .GEJ could not muffle Sanusi. . . .Lai-Lai!!!!

Sanusi is vocal and was able to give us the list of NIGERIAN GBESE GBILLIONARED. . . . Even with DANGOTE on the list!

Anything NORTH is faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar better than anything SOUTH!

The reason Nigeria can NEVER see progress! Keep pitching your tents with 'locusts' and 'vampires'!

Did Soludo win 'MAN OF THE YEAR'?

Ibori did not do one-tenth of this wan o!

Jonathan is not UGLY O!

Ujujoan: Lol . . AJ is back!

Thank you ma pickin!
God bless you too!

Una bye bye o. . . MAKE NO BARRY QUOTE MOI O!
Larrrah darrrrlinggggs!
SLEEP CALLS!

Doing the orals first to release the 'round one excitement'!
Remove your condom. . . it suffocates the PHEOHNIXXX! Especially the AFRICAN ONE. . .AKA THE NIGERIAN ONE!
If you don't wanno suffer PAWA FAILURE. . . just keep those condoms in ya wallet! Especially if you are above 30 YEARS OLD!
You will still catch the 'sointin' when you exchange silava or 'juices' with 'touching' hiarrandia. . .
So, please don't stress ya blokos!

After you finish the 'round' one. . . proceed to 'round' two.

Use her 'Pooty' to do 'Piano'. . . .TRUST ME. . .she will not know HOW LONG YOU HAVE BEEN DOWN OR UP THERE!


After round 2. . . proceed to round 3. . . .use your tongue to go from nip-ple to back of her ears THEN TO THE HOT 'CLI-T*. . . SHE SHOULD BE BEGGING FOR THE BLOKOS by this time. . . MAKE SURE YOU HAVE RELEASED ON THE BED LIKE 5 TIMES BEFORE YOU PROCEED TO ROUND 4!

Round 4 is the INSERTION PHASE! Oh gal go don dey beg for water by then!

*Please, for those of you who use extended release capsules aka VIAGRA, GANJA OR ALCOHOL. . . when 12Midnight NACK. . . CIDERELLA CHARIOT MUSTO TURN 'PUM-KIN'! Use your time well to give ya babe the TKO of her life. . . ALWAYS HAVE A SYSTEM.

The more natural. . . the less disgrace you will suffer! Please, eat well and feed your PHEONIXXXX pro-PRO-ly!

Ayyyyyyyyy! 6AM. . . Time for bed. . .off to work later.

UNA GOOD MORRRINYOOOOOH!

chaircover: Errrmmmmmmm Blazey why are you bringing frozen food to London Like we dont have food here

We have mcdonalds and KFC naw

Forget thinnest winter coat oooooo! Temperatures are minus 6 this week o! If you wan pose come in summer. Fashion is out of the window for most of us right now and even moi has these wooly granny gloves. I no fit die for cold

Nne, I taya for hidden posts. . . .your reply here:

https://www.nairaland.com/1126674/bukateria-callottis-kitchen

Top 1 reason for DIE-VORCE in 2013. . . .NAIRALAND!

Happy annivesary baby! One more year in the bag. . . . OPEN MARRIAGES RRRRROCK!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hn3SE7kzxkE

This awa marriage is sooooooooooooooo old. . .we are more in love with the 'marriage certificate' than the spouse! You can't go wrong I tellya. . . .

Wey my bags jare. . . off to London for some 'RRRRRRRRRRRRRUNS'! ALL XMAS PRESENTS NEATLY PACKED FOR MY OGA! He will not be spending the Xmas with his wife and children either. . . .LEVELS NA LEVELS!!
Time to fly home to pick up my thickest winter jacket. . . The husband's Xmas present/cards neatly packed!
Cheap tickets here I come!
Marrrrrrrrrrrrrrriage sweeeeeeet o!
ONLY FOR DESPERADOS IS IT A BITTER EXPERIENCE!
Not my portion!

Time to freeeeeeeeeeeze some food to carry go with me. . .

Could it be that their 'Jesus' sneaking in before his birthday to avoid DNA MATERNITY AND PATERNITY TESTS?

But the Arewa Youths Forum (AYF) said in a statement on Monday that instead of deliberating on how the north should produce a president in 2015, the leaders should tackle the current insecurity and insurgency ravaging the region.

Be quiet! You can only have security if YOU JOIN THEM TO PRODUCE A NORTHERN DICTATOR!
Is your 'region' less secure than other parts of Nigeria?
When last did any of you have your GRANDMAS OR GREATGRANDMAS kidnapped by OKIJA RUFFIANS?

Stoopid tins!

GEJ inherited MONUNENTAL FAILURE from OBJ and Yaradua. . . . !
Not his fault and he is virtually POWERLESS to address the 'Nigerian Nightmare'!
He has less than 2 and one half years. . . THE NORTHERNERS ARE TAKING OVER!

GEJ. . .the only 'figure-head' in Nigerian history to assume office by 'GOODLUCK'!
The only 'SITTING-DUCK' to serve 6 years out of 8 because his BOSS died. . . not by elections!
TYPICAL ODE FROM THE SOUTH-SOUTH!!!


GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO TIKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKU!!!

Is Ibori not Urhobo. . .?
If Urhobo land could not be turned into Disneyworld. . . no hope!

Please, you can't teach bushmen how to use fork and knife when eating 'STARCH AND BANGA'!
Period!

They glibly talk about the Urhobo interest but have a ruinous heart.

They really do! TRIFLING TOO!

Urhobo problem is the greed of our politicians, their selfishness, naivety, narrow mindedness and sense of betrayal for personal gain.

Absolutely correct!

The future of any nation lies in the youths and if the Urhobo Nation is to come out of her present political comatose, a change in approach is highly recommended.

Jesus will come down first! I SAY NO HOPE!!!!! The problem with Nigerians in general!

[b]Urhobo politicians cannot stake anything for Urhobo collective good. If they were good politicians that actually want Urhobo to control political power in the state, what they could have done prior to the last election, was to form a secret alliance with Ogboru at the wee hours to the elections to sabotage the rigging plot of Uduaghan in favour of Urhobo. By that, Uduaghan would have been given a shocker of his life as Gov Ikedi Ohakim of Imo. When Deltans and indeed the PDP would have seen that kind of unanimous politicking and unfaltering patriotism on the part of the Urhobo politicians, Urhobo would been feared in subsequent elections and seen to be prepared to control political power in the state. Thereafter, many entreaties both from the Federal Government and PDP would have come her way unsolicited for. Unfortunately, Urhobo does not have such caliber of politicians with selfless and patriotic spirits to take such pro-people and pro-democracy bold steps. They feared being in the opposition. For them, opposition is the road to irrelevance and poverty. They cannot understand that opposition makes democracy the best form of government. Lagos State, since 1999 is in the opposition. Is there any PDP state that is feared or can rank shoulder with Lagos? Opposition makes Bola Tinubu thick, a hero and political demagogue. Our politicians obviously need political upgrade.
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Gbam!
INSTEAD THEY SOLD THEIR OWN (IBORI) TO THE BRITISH IN EXILE, HAVING MANAGED TO TRICK HIM OUT OF THE COUNTRY WHERE HE COULD BECOME 'TOUCHABALE'.

A VERY USSSSSSSSSSSSLESS, strange breed indeed! EXTREMELY UNCOUTH AND DEVELOPMANTALLY DELAYED!

Too much drinking!

Kudos! Very nice write-up!

Done it all. . . .
Ready to die. . . life is sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet!!!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uM7J6aEWlPM

Then use the 'google' search on NL and see the millions of topics about ANY SUBJECT MATTER OF YOUR CHOICE. . .you will be surprised how many have committed the same banal mistake.
You see. . . NIGERIAN MEN ARE NOT STRANGERS TO LIVING LIVES OF PHYSICAL AND SPIRITUAL WHOREDOM. . . .

http://www.google.com.ng/search?q=site%3Anairaland.com+++my+father+is+cheating+on+my+mother&sa=Search

https://www.nairaland.com/9137/cheating-father

https://www.nairaland.com/93177/father-cheating-mum-what-should/1

https://www.nairaland.com/23325/dad-affair-another-woman-what

https://www.nairaland.com/23325/dad-affair-another-woman-what

I don't really notice. . . until they become pests!
Or have to deal with them from waist down. . . .
A short man can never have a 'big blokos'!

Driving to the village for annual family reunions. . . a time to meet all my handsome/beautiful cousins(not one single ugly one I swear. . . .about). The smell of rice and stew. . .cooked by all grandmothers and step grandmothers. . .in my grand-father's backyard. The good old days I tellya!

Sleeping together in the huge palor in my grand-father's house. . . THE ONLY STOREY BUILDING IN THE WHOLE VILLAGE IN THE 70S!

Going to the village for the Xmas holidays was sooooooooooooo FUN!!!!

Very gooooood!
Is Fasola not Tinubu's 'benefactor'?

One of the oldest topics on NL. . . *yawns*

ezeagu:
You sound jealous and bitter. This will not make the rotten place you came from any more Enugu-ish.

Hmmmmmm!
Jelous of a 'living corpse'
Even the 'bia-bia' for mouth looks sick from chopping too much congo! PAPILOMAS AND MAMILOMMAS!

Oh girl. . . I just dey come from work. I will deal with you later. Time to mastur-bate!

*like I am the one hiding from the world with terminal illness - wondering when last he did an H-O-V test*

Shiooooor!