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stuffsabouttara:
I called these starter rules because, well, they seem somewhat insignificant, but they actually do help for a start. Babe and I had to sit and brainstorm before rounding it all up to ten. We tried to make them as unselfish and as fair as possible. Initially they seemed like they were quite useless and uncalled for, but over the past week, we've had more use for them than we can admit.
Not to keep you waiting any longer than necessary, I'd better start on the first 10 rules (aka starter rules) for every serious relationship. If you are in a casual relationship, you are welcome to use these too.

Rule #1

If you guys have plans to go out and an argument ensures, you are to postpone the argument till you are back.

This one is quite straightforward, actually all the rules are, but this is the most straightforward of them all. Maybe, maybe not. If there's a plan, you guys are about going out together, and somehow an argument about something totally unrelated creeps in, you have to cross it out in your hearts of hearts, go out and have a good time. And then when you are back, if you still remember and feel like going back to the argument, at that moment, you are allowed to.

Rule#2

If one person is already angry, the other person isn't allowed to be angry till the other person is completely done being angry.

This arises from my insistence that two people shouldn't be angry at the same time. So when Babe is pissed, no matter how hard it is, I tuck in my anger and remain as calm as possible until his fire is burned low. If I really can't take it, I out rightly ask him to be done with his anger so I can start mine. It makes him laugh really hard. Lmao.

Rule #3

Pick a side of the bed and always stick to it. Prior permission must be taken before laying on the other person's side.

Babe has a way of hugging the whole bed space (not complaining, it's cute on the contrary). But I just had to bring in this rule (my body was getting sore from sleeping on the cold ground night after night). I cataloged it under my bedroom etiquettes, which by the way, Babe calls "bedside flight tickets" because according to him, I make "etiquettes" sound like "air tickets". How annoying can someone be? Anyways, I made him pick a side and stick to it. Now I can actually claim a right to a bed side space and resist every form of emotional blackmail firmly.

Rule #4

Chores aren't meant for one person alone. There should be fair division of labour.

So we shared the chores, both at his place and at mine, and just like the bed space, we stuck to it. I do most of the cooking, all the washing and cleaning. He does the arranging. Every other stuff, we both get off our ass and do them together. No ojoro.

Rule #5

Be willing to compromise on personal preferences.

This is my absolute favorite rule. Love isn't always enough in a relationship, compatibility plays a huge role. I'm hardly compatible with my sisters who I've been with all my life, talking less of any other person in the universe. So one of the ways of staying compatible is compromise. I don't eat onions, so we limit the use of onions in our cooking. He doesn't eat fried food, so I grill or steam instead. He learnt the function of the toilet seat and in turn I gave up using my perfume as a general air freshener. He forces me to work out, I force him out of bed to read at night. The list goes on and on. It's all about compromise.

Rule #6


Physical abuse ain't allowed.

Under no circumstances should there be hitting or anything that would physically harm the other person. I should add emotional abuse to this too. There should be respect and humility at all times. You are equals, accept it or leave it.

Rule #7

So is snubbing and keeping stuff to heart.

I'm the Queen of SnubbVille. This was an especially specific rule for me. While I'm one of those rare people who forgive in an heartbeat and genuinely forget thereafter, I'm a pro in the snubbing industry. It's not healthy for a relationship. So yeah, I let it go. And you should too. And if you know you are not past it yet, chill... .take your time.. . Learn to forgive and wholly let it go, no matter how long it takes.

Rule #8

And flirting too.

It's not okay to be flirtatious with other people. No checking them out or talking obsessively about them (even celebrities), no no no. I'm a really jealous partner, except it's okay with the other person, some things should just be let go.

Rule #9

Don't be in a relationship and act all single.

And by acting all single, I mean your status updates, personal chats, conversations... Everything! Don't tell people you are single. Don't lead them on to think you are single. Don't give your number to that dude/girl that is obviously interested. Just don't, don't, don't. Don't act all single.

Rule #10

Never lie.

Under no circumstances should you lie (except it's for a good cause like you are planning a surprise party or something). You don't have to impress people to stay with you, the ones that truly love you will stay, they won't need to be convinced. And you should aim for that. Lying should never be an option.

And we are done. Do you have any rules you think we should know, let everyone in, drop it off in the comments.

P.S: originally posted on my blog https://thesatblog.

Sorry dear but what you think is best for you might not be close to what I want cos the guys I fine pleasure in might not please you so you law of lasting relationship doesn't apply to everyone.

McBeal10:
OK, so I'll start off by saying yes I am an introvert. and my daily routine is either I'm reading a book or being on the internet or watching a movie or just allowing my thoughts to consume me literally. Sometimes I sit and think or should I say creating a scenario in my head... like I'm thinking of how the future would be or I'm recreating a past event that happened (to me) and you know turn it to how it should have been? sort of. Sometimes I'm curious about the littlest things it just makes wonder a lot. like there's just mysteries in this world, hell the universe like what if there's another planet like earth and there's another me somewhere out there in space?....

well anyways is this normal or it's just me?

You not alone dear. Cos for me I can't sleep till its around 4-6 am if I'm worried or curious. I also plan my day in my sleep cos I'm a light sleeper. When i find myself in trouble I take a long sleep just to be out of reality for that moment cos I'm an introvert like you.

pxjosh:
I love your dimples doc

Awwwn, thanks dear

The question is do you want her to be free with you? If yes,Take her out. maybe to the beach or anywhere that doesn't concern food so both of can play like a babies. Don't bring a dull moment for that day, do funny things you both do better bring battle sweet memories cos we ladies love sweet memories. Good luck!

Simple answer is Yes!

Did Medicine and surgery but want Mass communication

AngelAhnie:
You are the most beautiful nlder my Ble Ble .

The most beautiful people lie that someone else is more beautiful. AngelAhnie stop doing that.

She looks like her mom alot.

Hope she's safe. She probably has dementia and lost her way back home, I hope nothing worse than that happens to her.

optional1:
thanks dad u the best, love u big hugs and a peck on your cheek and say God Night dad.....



@ aunt Blessograo you can see now....
Btw Best wishes to u on ur exams success....

Thanks dear

optional1:
lol

borrow ke how can a father borrow his own daughter cos of Christmas?

Dad robosky02 me crying

You can do better

optional1:
ah

popsy

you forgot ur baby gal is here.

You not his baby girl, he borrowed you for the Christmas. His baby is AngelAhnie

robosky02:
yes I was down there licking it


just to confirm it

Yeye

Flashh:
Blessograo. What's up? Let's see yours.

Already posted 2 of mine

robosky02:
heres mine

lol

Optional2, Blessograo, AngelAhnie

You look like someone licking down there

robosky02:
wow bless

nice one

wish you success in ya exams

Thank you

optional1:
ok
I for cry for yoy oh.

Thank God best wishes from me and my super dad robosky02.

Lol, thanks o

optional1:
huh which kind school is that.

Monday 26th and tuesday 27th are both public holidays why will you have exam on monday? That monday paper is cancelled but still read.

It's not in Nigeria.

optional1:
wish you success...


But sorry to interfere dear which of the monday, wednesday and thursday..

This week

prettythicksme:
Why?

merry Christmas dear

robosky02:
to my special people
marry chrismas

ItsQuinn, safarigirl, shizzy7, AngelAhnie, Smellymouth, Mediapace, refiner, suwalee, optional1, vivianblog1, cruzita, klexycole, VickyRotex, blueto, TheSuperNerd, mikron, TonyeBarcanist, Ajibel, honeric01, prettythicksme, Blessograo, Rosemary216, Ednite, rokiatu, Tolexander, TheGoodJoe, Abraham4christ, EniHolar,

lets go there

Thanks dear just wish me success in my Monday, Wednesday and Thursday exam

Berlynn:
u pretty lady nice picture

Thank you

dukeolumde:
Wow...sweet

Thanks

RoyalBlak007:
.lovely.
[color=gold] ..thank u for not pouting[/color]

Thanks

Eleniyan15:
cute!!!! I can't find your dimple

Here

Here is mine Robosky02 AngelAhnie

Please move on, you just there to keep her company and you the last option.

Chizoz! See fine boy.