kulkatty:
Hmm this thread is so for me
Thanks for the tips OP

people like u are very pretty.. if am wrong that means diaris no right and if am right it simply means diaris no wrong

Cokacola:
it started during my secondry school days, i was gathering with my friends when this uqly girl walk to me all started tell me that she likes me and wants us to be together(lol) i turned her down shamefull since then now till now anytime i approah fine girls they usually turn me down for silly reasons, now am about to get married and i cant marry an uqly girl.......please advice

u for just turn her down nicely nau not shamefully nau... now she might have used her ugliness to swear on ur head...

she be like shey "all pretty girsl will turn u down for the rest of ur life"

Cheadiva:
Will dis help

why not give it a trial 1st.. den u will knw weda it will work or not

Chiamaka01:
I normally do #7 and #10, and it helps a lot. But the internet still remains my solace.

good to know

swhiss:
I really feel shy to fully express how I appreciate this post...thanks Op.

hahahah... but u just did

adiec23:
Tanks a lot i'm so shy and introvert dat i find it difficult to talk instead i ask a lot of questions.but ur tips will help,tanks a lot.

welcome buddy... am glad someone appreciates it

sekzy99:
gud

so lets see wats u've got

ihedinobi2:

None taken. You're entitled to your thoughts. I'm entitled to my disagreement with them.

alryt then

ihedinobi2:

Yeah

Do you yet?

no offense bro, i think you are just a confused fellow!

Ezibless:


Berra

K

ihedinobi2:

That wasn't a question. I was stating that I did not agree that there is any idea at all to agree over.

Do you u even knw what u are saying?

danaiks:
If you think Vector is better than Phenom "like"

If you think Phenom is better than Vector "share"

Let's see who wins!!!

Heheheheh....
begging for likes since 200AD


anyways #Team Vector anytime

am reading this topic for the second time on NL now

ihedinobi2:

What question?

"if there is ANY idea at all to agree"



how about that one?

Ezibless:
Aiit.

God knows i woulda manage to read through if only the write up was spaced out

is it better now?

ihedinobi2:

We aren't disagreeing over whether anybody likes "DE idea", just over if there is ANY idea at all to agree over. I don't see any sense in what the article said.

if u have eyes and can read and understand u will answer that question urself

ihedinobi2:

So what is the bad trait exactly? A love for sex? Again, nonsense.

A desire to be sexüally appealing when one is dressed up? Again, nonsense.

And on and on and on.

There's nothing bad about wanting to be found attractive or actually enjoying and wanting sex. The bad thing is wanting to be everybody's sexüal fantasy and everybody's hot date. And that is not a trait I fancy in any woman.

And if we judge by how easily men "go to war" over women then it's not a trait many men want in their women either.

You follow my thoughts now?

chairman you may not like DE idea but they are several guys who likes it.. case close #end of story

MarthaK:
Turn us into your puppet na

how do u mean?

ihedinobi2:
Didn't read it all but the part I read? In a word, nonsense.

I'm a guy. I don't think bad girls monopolize sexuality. Matter of fact, I knew one bad girl once that has been on my case since Sunday School. I can't even conceive of sleeping with her.

I've never liked bad girls. I like well-kept, well-dressed girls. I hate skimpily-clad. That turns me on no less. I involuntarily react like that to any beautiful curvy woman dressed up to advertise her body regardless what her character is like. I've seen decent dressing that awakens my sexüal attention. And skimpy dressing that kills any waking sexüal desire in me.

I'll pick a good girl over a bad girl every time. I have been in unpredictability before. It's a hell that I don't care for. And I picked her thinking she was not like that. That was a long time ago though.

baba dont get it wrong the topic says "12 bad girl traits guys secretly wants their woman to have" it doesnt suggest that u choose between a bad girl and a good girl... try to digest and decipher the message before u post whatever u want to post..

gathering campaign money since 200Bc

sekzy99:
Na wash

I hear you..

Conversation can be a pain when you’re shy or an introvert, but if you use these 10 easy tips and tricks, you can change all of that effortlessly!

We all have our strengths and weaknesses. For example, you might be great at sport but are stumped when it comes to math. Unfortunately, we can’t all be good at everything, and that’s a fact of life!

As for me, I’m shy and introverted. As a result, my weakness is conversation. If I’m meeting someone new or if someone is unfamiliar to me, I feel anxious and frequently struggle to find the right words to say. And this often means that I say very little or nothing at all!

I know I’m not alone in this. Social anxiety is quite common, and it can cause issues in day-to-day life and when attempting to form relationships. People struggle to get to know the real you, and write you off as quiet, cagey and sometimes, even perceive you as rude. Who can blame them, really? But it was never your intention and it can be frustrating as hell.

10 tips and tricks for introverts and shy people

People who struggle in social situations either accept that this is the way they are or hope that one day they will grow out of it. But as I have come to learn, all it takes is learning the right techniques and a bit of practice. Just as those who struggle with math can learn and improve, you too can improve your social skills with a little bit of effort!

#1 Don’t replay past failures. Most people who have social anxieties know exactly how they come across to people, where their conversational abilities fall short, and they recognize when an interaction has failed. And, if they are anything like me, they replay these failures in their minds several times after the event. There was an opportunity to make a good impression, but you failed.

Replaying and analyzing failures is anything but helpful. Don’t imprint these moments in your mind because they will haunt every other interaction you have with that person. This can only doom you to further failure.

Accept that you may have given that person the wrong impression of you, but forgive yourself. Despite what so many people tell you, first impressions aren’t always everything. The damage is not done. View a less successful conversation or interaction as a challenge and a learning curve, rather than a failure. Challenge yourself to prove that person and yourself wrong, and display your true self if another opportunity arises.

#2 Present your best self. There are many ways in which we can use our appearances and our physical selves to send messages. We can use clothing, make up and hairstyles to make ourselves feel more confident, as well as to put across our interests and beliefs. Body language and eye contact can be used to show our feelings and to aid in communication. But these are tools that introverts often forget to utilise.

Present the best version of yourself by picking an outfit that makes you feel great about yourself, and remind yourself to check your body language regularly. You might feel safer with your eyes pinned to the ground, slouched shoulders and your arms crossed, but you are inadvertently closing yourself off to people.

If you are struggling for inspiration, observe how confident people present themselves. Look at how they sit, their use of eye contact, and how they place their hands. One tip you always hear to combat shyness is to feign confidence. It can be tricky at first, but once you take the dive, you really do begin to feel more confident as a result.

Don’t feel like you need to impress people by being something that you’re not. The aim is to allow people to get to know the real you. Never try to change who you are, simply present the best version of yourself.

#3 Choose to like people. When meeting new people, it is often natural to pick out traits about that person that intimidates you, especially when that person is more confident than yourself.

Choose to like every person you meet *unless they give you a real reason not to*, and immediately make them less intimidating to you by viewing them in a positive light. Get into the habit of mentally listing three to five things you like about people you meet. If you associate that person with positivity, you are less likely to feel anxious when you interact with them.

It is important to remember, however, that you won’t always get on with everyone. Accept that fact, and know that your happiness does not depend on someone liking you. There are plenty of other people who will!

#4 Preserve the feelings of others. One thing that shy people tend to forget is that whilst wrapping yourself up in your fears of embarrassment and rejection, you are inadvertently rejecting people who attempt to interact with you. If you are failing to reciprocate their efforts to make conversation with you, you are damaging the other person’s feelings and self-esteem.

Remember, that by giving conversations and interactions your best shot, you are saving others from the rejection and embarrassment that you fear yourself.

#5 Express kindness, gratitude and politeness. This seems like an obvious tip for anyone, no matter what their level of confidence may be. But, expressing kindness, gratitude and politeness wherever possible is a great way to develop your confidence and show others that you care.

It can be difficult for people with social anxieties, as with any display of feeling and emotion, especially when the person on the receiving end is new or unfamiliar to you. You may feel vulnerable and scared at the time, but you will feel great afterwards!

At least one act of kindness a day will do wonders for your self-esteem, and will allow others to warm up to you and see your true nature.

#6 Be a positive person. Introverted people often resort to negative statements and topics of conversation because they are often the easiest. For example, your standard answer to the question “how was your day?” might be “boring” or “it dragged” because it is an easy answer. In my experience, negative comments send conversations to an early grave.

Try opting for positive replies as much as possible and attempt to elaborate. Try “my day was interesting because…” and return the question. People are more likely to want to enter into a conversation with you if you give positive and lively answers. Save your complaints for people you know well.

#7 Be prepared with topics of conversation. In many situations, shyness can cause your brain to stall. As much as you may try to get your brain into gear, you just cannot think of anything to say. Sometimes, it can be the strangest feeling, but surely there’s something interesting that you can say?

Remember, you aren’t boring and there’s plenty of things in your life that you can talk about! Try listing three to five things that you have done or have learnt each day on your phone. If you’re stuck for something to say, give the list a quick read to jog your memory.

Another trick is to make simple observations. Take a look around, and take a look at the other person. Make positive comments about your surroundings, or pay the person a compliment.

#8 Confide in someone you trust and ask for their help. Even if you are the most introverted person in the world, you probably have at least one person in your life that you feel you can confide in. Talk about your anxieties and concerns. They may be able to offer you advice or help you in some way.

Before an upcoming social event, perhaps ask a confident friend to ask you questions to include you in conversation with others. By doing this, you won’t be sat silently in the corner, but you are relieved of the pressure of starting a conversation yourself.

#9 Keep a conversation going by asking questions. Not only is it tricky to get a conversation started, but you may often find that any conversations you do have draw to a close after just a couple of turns.

The best way to keep a conversation going is to ask questions. Listen carefully to the other person and determine any questions that could be asked. Furthermore, if a question is asked of you, give a positive reply and where appropriate, return the same question.

#10 Plan, practice and initiate. If you know you are going to be interacting with someone at a party or on a date, plan your conversational approach beforehand. Decide something you would like to find out about that person and plan questions you could ask to achieve the response you are looking for.

You could even plan an event or gathering yourself, which would allow you to initiate conversations in an environment that is comfortable for you. More often than not, if you have initiated the meeting in the first place, you will feel more confident and more in control.

Don’t force change, just feel it from within!

Slowly introducing these techniques into your life can make a whole world of difference to your relationships, your career and your overall well being! It may take some hard work and determination, as you would expect when learning any new skill, but it is doable, and you will reap the benefits!

Alice Tucker http://www.lovepanky.com/my-life/reflections/10-motivational-tips-n-tricks-for-shy-people-and-introverts

dre11:
Op where is the source of ur write up

Mr man have u seen it?

yeamesee:
yaaaaaay!!!!!i tot i wldn't c my bday mate.nice meetn u bro!

same here
how u doing? wic part of this our noble country are u?

There are good girls that guys want to introduce to their mother. And then there are bad girls that every guy secretly desires and fantasizes about.

Now every guy knows bad girls are bad news. After all, bad girls are unpredictable, frustrating and fickle. And they’re not the best of partners for a long term relationship either.

But yet, there’s something about the allure of a bad girl that makes every guy secretly admire her and want her.

As a girl, have you ever felt insecure when a bad girl takes a fancy to your boyfriend?

Your man may be all yours, but when a bad girls talks to him or flirts with him, he can’t help but melt or get nervous around her. It’s almost involuntary!

Bad girls vs. good girls

Good girls are the best. As a guy, I can tell you that life with them is like a soft pillow. It’s full of love, comfort, emotional security, happiness and bliss.

But then again, bad girls are like a scary rollercoaster. You don’t want to live in them but you sure as heck want a rough ride now and then!

A bad girl is every man’s fantasy and his nightmare too. A guy wouldn’t want a bad girl, but yet, he can’t stop wishing he could have her. So who wins in the eternal war between the good girl and the bad girl? Well, no one can tell for sure. But here’s something about the regular human mind. As humans, we always prefer stability and simplicity over near death experiences *even though the adrenalin junkie in us wants a near death experience now and then!*

The good girl and bad girl in you

Contrary to the sitcom portrayal of bad girls as slutty leather wearing bitchy women, and nice girls as mauve sweater wearing cute girls, real life isn’t that easy to read. Every girl has a bit of both in her, the good girl and the bad girl. But what stands out more brands the girl as goody-two-shoes or bitch-in-heels.

Sometimes, it’s never bad to be a bad girl, especially if you know what works for you. You may be a good girl who’s dating a great guy, but wouldn’t it be great if you can hone the desirable traits of the bad girl that make her so awesome?

Think about it, good girls win a parent’s heart, but a bad girl wins a man’s heart. If you could be both, you’d definitely be the girl of every guy’s dreams.

12 traits of a bad girl that make her so awesome!

Bad girls aren’t dimwitted or the kind of girl who goes with the flow. She knows what she wants and knows how to get it. So if you’re a good girl who wants to have a bad streak in her, use these 12 bad girl traits to awe a guy and drive him crazy!

#1 The naughty bad girl. Bad girls aren’t prudish. They don’t pretend to hate porn, or shy away from a new sexual adventure. A guy’s sex life with a bad girl is never boring so learn to experiment in bed and try something new all the time.

#2 She’s sexy. Appearances do matter, even if you’ve been in love for ages. Dress up and look good, whether you’re at home or out on a date. Thick sweaters and faded pants are comfortable, but there are sexier looking outfits that feel comfortable too, don’t you think?

#3 She’s adventurous. A bad girl doesn’t hold back and borders on reckless now and then. A bad girl would be willing to try anything at least once. Go out there and experience new things, see what life has to offer and let your man know that you love a good adventure every now and then.

#4 She’s so flirty! Bad girls are little devils who know how to flirt and seduce any guy without making their intentions obvious. They’re fun, alluring and sexy talkers who can give a guy a hard on without even touching him!

#5 She stands up for herself. A bad girl has the confidence to stand up for what she believes in. She’s determined and motivated, and doesn’t let anything get in the way of achieving her goal or dream. And she can do this without the help of any man in her life!

#6 She is who she is. A bad girl doesn’t feel the need to conform to the rules of society. She’s a misfit of the good kind. Her friends may pretend like they don’t appreciate her life choices, but somewhere deep within, everyone secretly wants to be her or wants to be with a girl like her.

#7 She doesn’t sugarcoat it. A good girl will hold a guy’s hand and tell them that everything is going to be alright even if it was him that screwed up in the first place. But a bad girl will show her man the facts as it is, and help him understand his own mistakes.

It’s true, sugarcoating a problem helps ease the pain now and then, but almost every time, a guy would prefer a bullet in the head instead of five in the chest. A bad girl says what’s on her mind, and unless he’s feeling guilty and miserable already or if it’s a sensitive issue, a guy would appreciate that trait in his girlfriend.

#8 She’s high maintenance. Guys want a low maintenance girl around the house. But they always want a high maintenance girl when they’re walking down a street! High maintenance girls are always awed and admired by guys, even if they can’t be afforded.

#9 Bad girls don’t let themselves go. Most nice women just let themselves go once they get into a stable relationship or a marriage. They don’t dress up, don’t shave where it matters, and they start to overlook the Michelin Man curves that start to grow on their body *because they have better things to do*. But a bad girl knows the secret behind attraction and seduction, looks matter just as much as personality.

#10 They say NO. A guy could be infuriated by this bad girl behavior when she puts her foot down and take a stand when she doesn’t want to do something, but this trait will also make her be taken more seriously. On the other hand, a warm and nice girl who compromises all the time and puts up with a guy for everything will only be taken for granted or walked all over.

#11 She doesn’t wait for magic. She creates it. A bad girl doesn’t wait for a prince charming to walk into her life and fix her problems for her. She steps into the middle of the real world and fixes what she wants, with the assistance of drooling men or by herself.

#12 She’s extremely confident. She’s not cocky, but she’s not the insecure one either. In fact, she’s the kind of girl who’ll scare a guy and make him try harder to impress her all the time. Whatever she does, she’s confident of her skills, and everyone respects her for that.

I've heard now what next?

April 24th... dis one dey here so?

yes we've seen and heard of these guys dat begged u for sex as acclaimed by you...... you could also shortlist DE name and pix of DE guys u actually begged for sex....




mtcheeeeewn

na dis kind thread dey give Me headache

Truth is, her ex(s) ve al used n dumped her bt nw she has rememba
me (2 her she feels am a spare tire; God 4bid!!)..




u knw dis and still wants advice? unless u have u secret agenda towards her wic is not advisable

BreezyRita: 1.

20. Enjoy being single. It does not last forever.

oya na... by DE time u reach 40 and u r still single u will enjoy it better...

vizkiz: why will i feel uncomfortable I aren't a puss*y!

All i need to do is take control of the floor, walk up to her and shag her out

bro ma hear word.... easier said than done