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even Nicki Minaj ma sef say she be virgin, if all this ones na virgin then my great grand mother na virgin's x2 mtcheeeewn


plus me masef still be virgin o.

oooooohhh.. him for come make it give am correct dilute His...H2SO4 Na... idiotic element

from this it seems they did not actually cite de moon before beginning de fasting afterall..

using whatsapp+ since 1960
looks better

gratiaeo: Why always Igbo?

shey u no be igbo and u get sister...go train her make she win am so dat it won't always be igbo....
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nice one..
u've gat my comment now where is de pix of her in action?

boy: I love you
girl: I love YouTube

eleojo23: Does your mental soundtrack go anything like this?
‘’I don’t want to go out tonight, but Mike will think I’m boring if I stay in.’’
‘’I can’t wear these same shoes I wore last week again – people will think there’s something wrong with me.’’
‘’I’m over-committed already, but how can I say no to John? He’ll think I don’t like him.’’
‘’I’d be really refreshed by taking a day off just to do what I like … but my colleagues will think I’m just being lazy.’’

When we were kids, we didn’t have many things to worry about. We saw adulthood as a place of amazing freedom: when you’re an adult, you can do the things you like and go to places you like. Yeah, so much freedom
But somehow, by the time we reach adulthood, this world of vast possibilities has narrowed. We go to tertiary institution, because that’s what everyone else is doing. Then we look for a sensible, entry-level job, because that’s what everyone else is doing. Pretty soon, we think about getting a house, getting a better car, working towards a promotion … because that’s what everyone else is doing.

What Went Wrong?
Life isn’t supposed to be a dull, day-in-day-out routine where work is bearable and evenings are spent going through the motions: eating dinner, watching television, surfing the net … waiting for it to be time to go to bed, and get up, and repeat it all over again. But unfortunately, that pretty much describes the lives of many people.
Most times we try to show the world we are flawless in hopes that we will be liked and accepted by everyone. In some ways, this is a natural thing: as humans, we’re social creatures, and it’s hard to risk being derided or excluded by our community. But we can’t please everyone and we shouldn’t try. The beauty of us lies in our vulnerability, our complex emotions, and our authentic imperfections. When we embrace who we are and decide to be authentic, instead of who we think others want us to be, we open ourselves up to real relationships, real happiness, and real success.

There is no need to put on a mask. There is no need to pretend to be someone you’re not. Below are some reasons why you should stop trying to prove yourself to everyone.
I have tried to make a list from articles by persons who have discovered and are practicing this truth. I do hope you will find them useful on your quest for the freedom you seek. Please don't fall asleep on me yet! Ok, here we go...

1. Life isn’t a race; you have nothing to prove.
Everyone wants to get to the top of the mountain first and shout, “Look at me! Look at me!” But the truth is, all your happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing, not while you’re sitting at the top. Enjoy the journey by paying attention to each step. Don’t rush through your life and miss it. Forget where everyone else is in relation to you. This isn’t a race. You get there a little at a time, not all at once.
Let go of the foolish need to prove yourself to everyone else, and you’ll free yourself to accomplish what matters most to you. Sometimes you have to remind yourself that you don’t have to always be and do what everyone else is being and doing.

2. Most people are NOT thinking about you anyway.
Forget what everyone else thinks of you; chances are, they aren’t thinking about you anyway. Everyone is pretty much preoccupied with himself. If you feel like they always are, understand that this perception of them watching you and critiquing your every move is a complete figment of your imagination. It’s your own inner fears and insecurities that are creating this illusion. It’s you judging yourself that’s the problem.

3. The people worth impressing just want you to be yourself.
In the long run, it’s better to be loathed for who you are than loved for who you are not. In fact, the only relationships that work well in the long run are the ones that make you a better person without changing you into someone other than yourself, and without preventing you from outgrowing the person you used to be.
Ignore the comparisons and expectations knocking at your door. The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday. Prove yourself to yourself, not others. The RIGHT people for you will love you for doing so, and they will appreciate all the things about you that the WRONG people are intimidated by. Bottom line: Don’t change so people will like you; be patient, keep being your amazing self, and pretty soon the RIGHT people will love the REAL you.

4. People’s Expectations May Be Based On A Narrow, Inaccurate View Of You
People make snap judgments in life: they might meet you briefly, and proceed to offer all sorts of advice based on an inaccurate assessment of who you are.
Families often fail to recognize how you’ve changed and grown over the years. They also tend to label you – and it’s easy to end up conforming to these labels because you believe them. They say “Oh, Tunde’s always been the lazy one” or “Chidimma never does anything right” or “Ali never could focus on anything.”
It is your responsibility, and yours alone, to recognize that regardless of what has happened up to this point in your life, you are capable of making choices to change your situation, or to change the way you think about it. Don’t let the opinions of others interfere with this prevailing reality. What you’re capable of achieving is not a function of what other people think is possible for you. What you’re capable of achieving depends entirely on what you choose to do with your time and energy. So stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. Just keep living your truth. The only people that will fault you for doing so are those who want you to live a lie.
Your parents or your friends might have pigeonholed you – but you know there’s more to you than what they see. Even if you do have plenty of habits and characteristics that you’d like to change, you have the ability to do that.

5. Your Values/Priorities Could Be Wildly Different From Theirs
This is one of the big problems with trying to meet other people’s expectations: they might have a completely different agenda to yours. You need to get clear about your own values and priorities: then you can figure out what you want to refocus your life around.
Walk your path confidently and don’t expect anyone else to understand your journey, especially if they have not been exactly where you are going. You have to take the steps that are right for you; no one else walks in your shoes.

6. Society’s materialistic measurement of worth is worthless.
No matter where life takes you, big cities or small towns, you will inevitably come across others who think they know what’s best for you – people who think they’re better than you – people who think happiness, success and beauty mean the same things to everyone.
They’ll try to measure your worth based on what you have, instead of who you are. But you know better than that – material things don’t matter. Don’t chase the money. Catch up to the ideas and activities that make you come alive. Go for the things of greater value – the things money can’t buy. What matters is having strength of character, an honest heart, and a sense of self-worth. If you’re lucky enough to have any of these things, never sell them. Never sell yourself short.

7. It’s Ok to fail Sometimes
If you try too hard to impress everyone else with your “perfection,” you will stunt your growth. You will spend all your time looking a certain way, instead of living a certain way. It’s impossible to live without failing sometimes, unless you live so cautiously that you aren’t really living at all – you’re merely existing. If you’re too afraid of failing in front of others, you can’t possibly do what needs to be done to be successful in your own eyes. You have to remember that it doesn’t matter how many times you fail or how messy your journey is, so long as you do not stop taking small steps forward.

8. You cannot Win everyone’s approval.
When you run into someone who discredits you, disrespects you and treats you poorly for no apparent reason at all, don’t consume yourself with trying to change them or win their approval. Don’t ever worry about the haters. Don’t let them get to you. They’re just upset because the truth you know contradicts the lies they live. Period.

Final words: Just know that You are GOOD enough, SMART enough, FINE enough, and STRONG enough. You don’t need other people to validate you; you are already VALUABLE.


Can you relate to this piece?
Feel free to leave a comment


Credits to Marc Chernoff and Aliventures.com for some excerpts used in this post.

nice one for dose Dat don't knw... good or bad people will always run their mouth.. I do what I like and I like whatever I do..don't give shitz about Wat people say
live ur life don't let people live it for u!

author=bliss2al]most of Dis people killing demselvs
are people who will
not even have a taste of de money dat will come out
of that oil stuff
are yet they are ignorant enough to kill each over de
money for the ogaz
at de top.. #smiles
nigerians will never sieze to be funy, how come kogi
people in anambra land?


what's Dis one saying

4. When Last Did You Have Sex?

Talk about crossing the line. I was on a date with this guy one time, and we were really enjoying ourselves, talking laughing, and there I was thinking “this might be the start of something special”, and then he just blurted out, “When last did you get some?” Excuse me. Just cos I’m laughing with you doesn’t mean you can just cross the line like that. It’s definitely not a first date question, and sends out the signals that you’re after one thing. I mean what if I’m a virgin. That’s just inappropriate, and needless to say


"what if I’m a virgin." hmmm
are you?

4. When Last Did You Have Sex?

Talk about crossing the line. I was on a date with this guy one time, and we were really enjoying ourselves, talking laughing, and there I was thinking “this might be the start of something special”, and then he just blurted out, “When last did you get some?” Excuse me. Just cos I’m laughing with you doesn’t mean you can just cross the line like that. It’s definitely not a first date question, and sends out the signals that you’re after one thing. I mean what if I’m a virgin. That’s just inappropriate, and needless to say


"what if I’m a virgin." hmmm
are you?

most of Dis people killing demselvs are people who will not even have a taste of de money dat will come out of that oil stuff are yet they are ignorant enough to kill each over de money for the ogaz at de top.. #smiles
w and leaves

logged in
checked frontpage
the worst tin I did Dis morning is to click Dis post.. de best tin is get de duck out
mtcheeeeewn

In a commando style, members of Ebonyi State House of Assembly, Monday morning impeached the Speaker,
Chukwuma Nwazunku.
18 out of the 24 members of the Assembly reportedly voted out the Speaker.
The members lifted the suspension of the three members before impeaching Nwazunku.
The three members are Hon Frank Onwe, Hon Eni Uduma Chime and deputy speaker, Hon Blaise Orji.
Hon Frank Onwe moved the motion for the Speaker’s impeachment which was seconded by the minority
leader, Hon Enyi C. Enyi.
Thereafter, Hon Eni Uduma Chima representing Afikpo South West moved the motion for election of Hon Helen
Nwaobasi representing Abakaliki South state constituency.
The motion was seconded by Hon Jerry Obasi


source: thenationonlineng.net/new/breaking-news-ebonyi-assembly-speaker-impeached/

CFCfan: Lovely! The Lagos State govt is doing well in providing quality health-care centres.
More grease to their elbows.

quality health care for rich niggers...u can't go there if ur pocket ain't heavy.. what's de essence if all men can't benefit from it...
#smiles

that's gonna be a pure definition of one biting more than what one can chew for Hamas ...they signed their death warrant wen they shot dose rocket at Israel ...

smiles

good... now where dat guy wey wan be house husband? make una call am come check Dis thread out

texanomaly: Date a reader…Thank me later!

Why Readers, Scientifically, Are The Best People To Fall In Love With

http://elitedaily.com/life/culture/date-reader-readers-best-people-fall-love-scientifically-proven/662017/


Here are some excerpts:

“According to both 2006 and 2009 studies published by Raymond Mar, a psychologist at York University in Canada, and Keith Oatley, a professor of cognitive psychology at the University of Toronto, those who read fiction are capable of the most empathy and “theory of mind,” which is the ability to hold opinions, beliefs and interests apart from their own.
They can entertain other ideas, without rejecting them and still retain their own. While this is supposed to be an innate trait in all humans, it requires varying levels of social experiences to bring into fruition and probably the reason your last partner was such a narcissist.”

“Another 2010 study by Mar reinforces this idea with results that prove the more stories children have read to them, the keener their “theory of mind.” So while everyone thinks their kids are the best, the ones who read have the edge as they truly are the wiser, more adaptable and understanding children.”


“Readers, like voicemail leavers and card writers, are now a dying breed, their numbers decreasing with every GIF list and online tabloid.
The worst part about this looming extinction is that readers are proven to be nicer and smarter than the average human , and maybe the only people worth falling in love with on this shallow hell on earth.”


“They’ve learned what it’s like to be a woman, and a man. They know what it’s like to watch someone suffer. They are wise beyond their years.”

“Because reading is something that molds you and adds to your character. Each triumph, lesson and pivotal moment of the protagonist becomes your own.
Every ache, pain and harsh truth becomes yours to bear. You’ve traveled with authors and experienced the pain, sorrow and anguish they suffered while writing through it. You’ve lived a thousand lives and come back to learn from each of them.”


Here are the highlights for those who are not “Readers” –
The article says, this is how you will know them:

They Won’t Talk To You… They’ll Speak To You
“Do yourself a favor and date someone who really knows how to use their tongue.”
They Don’t Just Get You… They Understand You
They have the capacity for empathy. They may not always agree with you, but they will try to see things from your point of view.
They Don’t Just Get You… They Understand You
FINDING SOMEONE who reads is like dating a thousand souls. It’s gaining the experience they’ve gained from everything they’ve ever read and the wisdom that comes with those experiences. It’s like dating a professor, a romantic and an explorer.

If you date someone who reads, then you, too, will live a thousand different lives.



Hopefully you take the time to read the link. It's not too long. What do you think?

all Dis studies are carried out by profs from universitis outside 9ja it's a good and educating fact but when will our own home made profs carry out such studies

firstEVA: I really do not understand why someone would disfigure their skin in the name of tattoo. No I don't like men with obvious tattoo.

"obvious tattoos " does dat mean u like it wen it's not obvious? just be clear


for me noting join. me and u if I noticed any trace of tattoo on a lady's body


You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead nor print or tattoo any marks upon you; I am the Lord. (Leviticus 19:28)

no be both of dem be de ambassador? y Na only Genevieve come dey dia...where Mikel come dey inside de poster abi him no sabi English?

u think say Na Korea u dey ?

abi u be Ode?

de guy dey try make frontpage ni.

wen people dey find work like person wey dey find gold u get one com dey dia dey run ur mouth.


maybe ur father sister's husband brother Na Aliko Dangote

ozil

siri for apple, cortona for windows now where is android assistance?

if u ready for de aftermathz collect Wat he has to offer if not just forgive him and go ur way as he goes his way end of story. na only me dey smell trap?

Tholuwaniey: why is it that everyone sharing his/her own experience are remembering it in the concept of their EX ..
No long standing relationship??

u knw wen talking get too much u begin to pick errors n Dats how quarrel starts

hmm memory lane.. I lost some couple of friends back den coz I told Dem not to call me at nyt

I so valued my sleep..


hahaha I remember nearly getting a slap from one of my best dude den Coz I told him Dat during dat tym he calls at nyt I will actually wake up, put de phone on silence and go back to my sleep..

am sure de tin broke many friendship as well as mend some too.

pesty100: America must hear........... #dropping bombs BC

wetin America wan do before. Dem wey be die hard fan of Israel.. any nation wey try Israel is doomed go read ur Bible

BrokenTV: This is serious, something needs to be done.

oya Na start am

them go spell scolari today