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Hello Fam.
Please, I'm trying to gather enough information about the emotional and psychological makeup of individuals based on their own perception of events that have occurred in their lives.

Now, I picked one aspect of this matter - heartbreaks. I believe that most people in the world have experienced this at one point in their lives or another...Either in a relationship (like being dumped), business deal (like being cheated), family decision (like being excluded in a Will), etc.

I see heartbreaks taking a lot of emotional and psycho-biological toll on both teenagers and adults (especially those you think are big enough and have the well-withal to come off it easily, and I ask why? I have seen people sink into depression, commit suicide and even murder due to heartbreaks. We see all these things around us and we either condemn, berate, chastise, encourage or sympathize with the victims going through such.

Now to you as an individual, what is it that really made a heartbreak so painful to you that it weighed you down? Please lend me a piece of your mind. I don't mind a sneak peek into your thoughts and what you've been through in live...Please share with me...(((smiles)))
Thank you!



Please Lalasticlala, Dominique, Mynd44, this post is for educational and research purposes, thus I will highly appreciate if it gets a slot at the front page for wider views and opinions.
Thank you once more!

Lalasticlala

Dominique

Let's get a wider view on this...

Please Read This To The End If You Have A Man In Your Life Either As a Boyfriend, Husband, Son or Father...

Let's read 1st Kings 1 verse 1-4.... "King David grew old. The years had caught up with him. Even though they piled blankets on him, he couldn’t keep WARM. So his servants said to him, “We’re going to get a young virgin for our master the king to be at his side and look after him; she’ll get in bed with you and arouse our master the king.” So they searched the country of Israel for the most ravishing girl they could find; they found Abishag the Shunammite and brought her to the king. The girl was stunningly beautiful; she stayed at his side and looked after the king, but the king did not have sex with her."

The story above reveals 3 truths about the sexuality of every Male....

1) Blankets Don't Keep Men Warm...
A teddy � bear, warm blankets and good pillows can keep a woman warm for the night, but not the man. The man needs someone with flesh and blood to keep him warm.
A man's first need from his woman is WARMTH.... The man's configuration makes him a cold beast without the warmth of a woman.... That's why as mother to a male child or wife to a man, you need to be intentional about his need of your PRESENCE. When you are not present, it is natural to the 'UNRENEWED MAN' to look for warmth elsewhere. And an intentional Male will be conscious of this need and fill their consciousness with the PRESENCE of the Holy Spirit until their Eve manifests. A blanket couldn't keep David warm, it won't also keep the man in your life warm. Stop advising your man to cover himself with blankets when he sings Flavor's 'OYI n'atum o' to you over the phone. Tell him that you will soon come to give his soul warmth - because it is a need.

2) David Had A Side Chick But.... �.
Please calm down. I am not saying what you are thinking �. But read the second verse very well and you will realize that the chick they got for David had one assignment - to stay by his SIDE. A chick who stays by the side of a king is called a Side Chick �.....
Ok...I just wanted to make you laugh but let's face a deep truth in that passage. There will always be another woman standing at the side of your King � and it doesn't mean that your king is having sex with her. Deal with this truth.... Embrace it.... If you fight it, you will live a frustrated life.
And to brothers, stop having sex with the woman God placed by your side.... In the Scripture we read, it was recorded that David didn't have sex with the woman who brought warmth to the last phase of his life.
To sisters, the woman your husband is having sex with is not his 'Side Chick' ☺..... I bet you on that... Remember that the word side chick means something different in this post... In this post, We use the word Side Chick in a POSITIVE context to mean the sister God placed at the side of your king to provide what you may not be able to provide at that particular period in time - besides Sex. Personally, I have drawn emotional support, spiritual support and even financial support from unique sisters God placed in my life and several times, world people thought I was having sex with them but they were wrong. The ones the man would have sex with will not be by his SIDE... they are usually out of view.... ☺. You don't see them on his phone's contact list.... They are usually invisible. They are the INVISIBLE CHICKS �... They could be around you yet INVISIBLE in your CONSCIOUSNESS because they are not the ones you can suspect. Do you understand? This is why I usually advise women not to fight anyone they consider a side chick.... Calm down. The real person is not a side chick, they are invisible.
David had many concubines but the visible Chick by his Side wasn't one of them.... Let this sink.
REMEMBER, there will always be another woman beside every King.... Except you are not dating, married to or raising a King �. But don't let it bother you. It's the nature of the Alpha male.

3). Men Are Aroused By Women, but committed to Wives...
The girl they got for David was a professional seductress and the King's servants made it clear that her job was to AROUSE the king, not to become the Queen. There's a difference.
Make peace with this truth - while you are married to him or dating him, several other women will be sent by circumstances to arouse your king sexually. It could be the nurse taking care of him in his sick bed or the secretary assisting him in his office. But a real queen will never let the presence of a seductress threaten her peace.... You are his Queen, not a seductress. Don't even change your nature to look like the seductress..... Unfortunately, even some pastors teaches that you can keep your man from cheating by becoming his seductress.... My sister, na lie..... Your king cheats out of CURIOSITY and QUEST FOR SELF VALIDATION, not because of the seduction of the Seductress. That's why he cheats with people who are not even as beautiful or hot like you because it's not about the seduction, it's about his curiosity.
The woman David snatched from her husband wasn't a seductress, but he was curious to KNOW her hence he couldn't help but peep into her bathroom from his balcony. That's curiosity, not seduction. Men cheat because of curiosity, not because of seduction unless the seductress first aroused their curiosity. Do you understand?

If you understand these three truths, you will REST when others are calling their men dogs... You won't stab your husband to death because you understand his nature better. You will help him become a better person instead of condemning him when he falls.

Please share this with #EveryWoman and Every Man.

Maranatha.

(c) Charles_Awuzie_2020

Let's share our resolutions. We might have something to learn from one another.

My top 5, amongst others, are to:

1. Have peace of mind at all cost.

2. Worry less and engage in positive and creative thinking.

3. Pursue more career, business and self developmental courses.

4. Create additional streams of income.


5. Rest well, eat right, excercise and live a more healthier lifestyle.


Seun, Obinoscopy, Lalasticlala, Mynd44 and Dominique what are yours? The forum is waiting to hear from you all!

sandra12345:
shebi now wey all of us don pass out nobody dey remember this our forum again...too bad o

lol
which cadre are you in ASP, Constable or Inspectorate Cadre?
I thought General duty ASP are still in Jos camp?

iphi:
I'm confused the bible should straighten things out but i can't seem to get my head around it, maybe I'm not seeing it well and i need help. Deut 24:1-4 and jer 3:1 had their shares and advice according to the law of God about how to divorce (encouraging divorce) BUT 1 cor 7:10-11 and Matt 19:9 and few other new testament chapters disallows divorce and even Luke 16:18 doesn't even allow a divorcee to get married again. According to the bible and todays law a paper for divorce must be given to them. According to the bible in deut 24:3-4. It is an abomination for a woman to get married and be divorced then get married to another man and divorce again (maybe the new husband dies) and return to the first husband if the exhusband accepts her its an abomination. My questions: 1. What is the fate of a woman who never re-married but the ex husband has already moved on after the divorce is it an abomination if this husband comes back to re-marry her (she was a first wife)? 2. Can we call couples that are separated (even when there was no legal paper or traditional backing acceptance) divorced? Bible scholars Nlanders help me answer these questions. Mods pls do the needful.

Op, 1 Corinthians 7:10, 11 and 15 is mostly about marriage desertion/departure of a spouse, not separation nor divorce.
And in that case, that is if your spouse departs/deserts/abandons the marriage, you are not under any bondage not to remarry (verse 15).

marvdon200:
seems there will be batch B

Sure, there will be.

Mattin:
Seventy Recruit Specialist 'Constables'?
Emphasis on 'Constable' I thought specialists are for professionals from several disciplines. Are they called Constable too?

Specialist constables are mostly artisans such as tailors, bricklayers, weilders, iron benders, mechanics, tilers, painters, etc with WAEC and Trade test certificates. Though not all may have it.

Eboynero:
Hi bob please let talk on my email is frankedeto@hotmail.com

Just do me a DM

Eboynero:
Please bro are u among the specialist asp for interview?

No, I'm not.

Babagana011:
they are not up to, not even a hundred but i don't know what will happen before the POP

Hmmm... Let the specialists on the waiting have hope. They should not give up coz I heard that those that are passing out were mostly in medical field. Those in other fields would be called up to train for a longer period (say, till December) or till when the GDs will pass out. If this is true, then I doubt if there will be NPF recruitment this year.

Babagana011:
Breaking! Specialist are passing out on the 19 of this month, this is the latest news

What's the total number of ASP Specialists that will be passing out on the 19th? Are they up to 500?
I heard another batch of Specialists will be called up for training.

nurey:
happybirthday, long life and prosperity. where is the party @, he don tey wey i chop cake?

for the engin oil, it all boils down to miss-information. how many people know the simple way to check how many cylinders available in their engine? even ask a mechanic what is the engine oil capacity of toyota camry tiny light, the guy will just say pour 4litres straight if him no guage we add more.

the best way to guage the engine oil is to follow the minimum and maximum mark on the dip stick even if you know the engine capacity. engine capacity is to guide you on litres to buy (if your engine volume is 3.5, just buy 4L instead of 5L) while the dip stick is to assist you in maintaining constant recommended volume of engine oil in the engine.

Thanks nurey for your good wishes. I was even so busy that I couldn't even celebrate it. I hope you will be able to receive a cup-cake from me via Bluetooth? Lols!

Most of the misinformations we get are from Kazeems to our ignorant car owners who jave refused to open their car manuals. This is so appalling! That's why I brought this topic up. It is one of the vital but neglected issues here.

I do hope that car owners will begin to open their manuals after seeing this thread, and not rely on the advice of kazeems as it regards their cars.

Periodically checking to make sure your car has enough engine oil is the best way to keep your engine running well for a long time to come. Engine oil is the lubricant between the moving engine parts; if the level is too low, the parts will wear quickly and increase likelihood of engine seizure.

There are two small lines on the end of most dipsticks. One corresponds to the maximum fill line in the oil pan and the other refers to the minimum. The minimum line is close to the tip, and the maximum is about an inch or so up from that on the dipstick.

During an oil change/oil check, we usually gauge the oil to the maximum fill line on the dipstick (note that some vehicles have dots instead of lines on their dipsticks).

Having looked into several car manuals, it is recommended that the engine oil be gauged in a manner that it will be halfway between the minimum fill line and maximum fill line of the dipstick.

One car manual says, "In a properly filled car that's cool, the oil level should be just about halfway between the two lines. "

Another one says, "Ideally get the oil level around halfway between "Min" and "Max"."

However, the oil should never be higher than the
maximum fill point, though it will be close to
that point when the oil is hot. If it is, you may
need to drain some oil from your car .

Due to this expansion of oil when it is hot and oil pumping when vehicle is in motion, the manufacturers of cars recommend that the oil level should be about halfway between the the minimum fill line and maximum fill line.

Now, my thought-questions are:
1. Why aren't we keen in sticking to the manufacturers' recommendations on this issue?
2. Why are we hell-bent on ensuring that we gauge the engine oil to the maximum fill line on the dipstick?
3. Don't we think gauging the oil to the maximum fill line when the engine is cold could have an adverse effect on the engine, crankshaft bearing, engine performance and spark plugs when the engine is hot, or at the long run/lifetime of the engine.?

Comments and Contributions are welcome.


Meanwhile....#HappyBirthdayToMe.

computerglobal:
Sir the vehicle does not have history on autocheck or carfax because its not a USA,Canadian or Mexican Vehicle.Its a German vehicle.So we couldnot find a report for it sir

Ok Sir. Thank you so much.

You are right, the manual was written in German language. It's a 1999 Ford Focus

computerglobal:
Sir the vehicle does not have history on autocheck or carfax because its not a USA,Canadian or Mexican Vehicle.Its a German vehicle.So we couldnot find a report for it sir

Ok Sir. Thank you so much.

computerglobal:
Good Afternoon Sir

Vin WF0AXXGCDAYD18277 is invalid,kindly check your vin and repost

Well Sir, that's what's written on Chasis: WFOAXXGCDAYD18277. What could be the error? It's a Ford Focus, i just want to get the car History

Pls kindly help out with this VIN:
WF0AXXGCDAYD18277

Whatever happens to their usual e-payment?

innocentjiale:
are we going to resume with the general duty on the 31st?

No! The training programme for the Specialists is yet to be drawn.

troubledheart:
Can't tell them. I run my own business and currently about to start my masters. I'm doing OK for myself and I'm turning 26 soon. Giving birth isn't an issue like I said before, but giving the child a quality life.

Look Babygirl, you need help and your family should be the Nô. 1 confidant to run to in time of need. Don't shy away from them, you can't bear this burden alone.

@troubledheart... If i may ask: how about your family? Your parents and siblings? Have you confided in them? Can't they be able to support? Are you working? How old are you now? How old is the pregnancy?
Answers to these questions will help us have a clear picture of what you are really into and what we can proffer.

troubledheart:
I honestly didn't see it coming.. we were friends for almost two years, he asked me out for over 8months, I kept him in a friend zone because I wasn't mentally ready for a relationship.. we dated now for roughly a year.. the truth is I don't know how to be tough in a relationship.. that's why I often take my time before getting into one.. he said things like am too good for him and he wants the best for me, I need to get married in at most a year or two and he won't be ready in another five or more and he doesn't want to tie me down cos he is not certain of the future. So I can't really say if he was using Me or not cos I don't in any way look like anyone's mother.

Hmmmm...so sad! Things men say and do just to get inbetween the thighs of a lady and after then, the tune changes!

But gal, break the damn news to him and send that chill down his spine! Not tomorrow he will begin to say that you never told him you were preggy for him or that you aborted his baby without his knowledge and permission.

troubledheart:
You won't understand..

Are you pitying him at your own detriment? Ok continue!

troubledheart:
Recent ex.
I must have conceived before the actual breakup. It's not really a question of him wanting the child, I know if I insist and throw lil tantrums,he will support me. But we broke up because he couldn't see a future for us.. then bringing this up to him would make it appear like am trying to trap him with pregnancy knowing fully well his stance about kids out of wedlock.. I don't want to force him to be with me because of this and in the end having an unhappy home, hence my decision to abort. And no, I can't take care of another child on my own.

Why couldn't he see a future with you? Because you are a single mum?
Could it be that he was just using you to satisfy his sexual urge for the mean time?!
Mehn! You could have seen it coming!

@troubledheart... The earlier you tell your baby daddy about your preggy, the better for you! You can't make a sole decision of keeping or aborting that baby - not alone. No matter how his reaction would be, i advise that you pick up the phone right now and break the news to him! Do it now! Don't wait till the next minute! I know what I'm saying!

@ OG2TURN

Thanks a Million!

OG2TURN:
they added inspectors, is d same as leadership newspaper.

Pls help me screen shot ABIA ASP SPECIALIST for me. A young friend of mine with the moniker PPrecept needs it. God bless you and safe journey!

flair19:
Any Abia ASP moving from Umuahia or Aba to Jos, pls notify via meet.mr.flair@outlook.com ASAP let's see if we can jet out together on 30th. Thanks

Pls help me screen shot ABIA ASP SPECIALIST for me. A young friend of mine with the moniker PPrecept needs it. God bless you and safe journey!

NgcoboP:
not easy to fish you out.... except for your weaknesses Lewis Hamilton..... Mercedes Benz etc

Is she the former MissMercedes and LadyMercedes?