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Sapiosexuality:
Seems you are catching up. That's good. Learnt any new skill or engaged in any venture yet or planning to?

Boole3:
200l first semester result is out... cgpa went up to 2.34
and no COs

pterson:
Boole3, are you from the North? Just that the North sef na wa for them sha o.

ashewoboy:
. wetin you wan gain if you see her cleavage? she don change am even before my post.

pterson:
No be bigotry. Have you seen the number of violent attacks that have made FP in the past few days? You'd be amazed they are taking it to a new level.

ashewoboy:
if i hear. and you dey expose your cleavage.?

Dee9977:
@ boole3 i just gave up on thinking nd worryn... bt i do feel bad atimes sha wen parents begin dia usuall talk. ( left to me i wont bother at all... bt to them im not making them proud )... bt i thank God im sha doing my best.

Sapiosexuality:
Hope you are better than before now?

Sapiosexuality:
That's because you were brainwashed to think school and good grades is what you need to succeed. My advice is simple, listen attentively when the lecturer is in the class and focus on a skill. Learn a skill that sells. If you've got passion try to see if you can monetize it. Don't injure yourself trying to a course you many not even love or pursue in future.

The idea that grades decide who you become is why our organized schools are dangerous. Throw that line out of your head. If possible, ditch school. Tell your sponsor to channel that money on a skill you want to learn. You can always go back to school.

Don't allow some grades decide who you are. Try your best but don't kill yourself over nothing. Grades are not worth such attention you are giving them. Learn something and be happy. Don't tie your happiness to grades. That's the the ugly tumour our systemic education creates.

Dee9977:
@ Bool3 im still in school oi

Dee9977:
dis depression im also going 2ru it since i b4 i gained admission and after... im a brilliant student bt i dont know wah happened oi.... i wud write exams nd see opposite results every year/level im been changed department previously cgpa waz 0.9...200level ...1.2 ......300level 1.5.and i read like madt... friends think I'm a snub bt im just carryin a restless soul up n down.... nd i dnt give a f**k abt life... even in my phone gallery 80percent of the photos are RIp so iv been preparing 4 d beyond.
Bt i just adopted a new strategy working partially for me... just do wat u like nd dont think about anythin.... to cut it short it is only d pleasure of S*X dt made me know atleast there is fun living. also pray n attend new churches every sunday so u can start mixing wit pple nd feel welcomed. (from a fellow depressed brother )

TreasuredLeidy:
lol, not kidding jor, I truly need it

DonOms:
Boole3, I tried to look through your thread to see what you have been told and if you have shed more light on your situation. I however decided to reply your post here instead of the thread.

I think it is clear you're studying a course you don't feel passionate about...although that's not the cause of your low grades. Passion only ensures 'ease' and 'consistency', it isn't the primary requirement for academic success.
I know people who studied courses they were "given" by their university and still came out with flying colours so here are things you should seriously consider:

1) Study Effectively: Now, this term means two things here - OBSERVE & STUDY. Observe patterns and styles your lecturers use and that which your individual courses have. Don't skip class as those lectures are more important than your reading sometimes. Then Study and not just read. If you study for 1 hour, even if it is just one concept in one page of your note, make sure you understand it enough to teach it. If you can do this for all your courses and cover at least 80% of your course syllabus, your grades will definitely improve.

2) Develop Interest: If you don't develop genuine interest in your course of study, there might be no improvement. Read things beyond your text book and notes leisurely and get some drive to succeed at your study.

3) Pray: I don't know if you believe in prayers (though you say you're doubting God's existence, that's kinda normal when one passes through difficulties). But I know prayer works. Just as @Margy said on your thread, there is the need for spiritual back-up in some situations. I for example had only one single course all through university where I had grades below what I expected after my first-year exams. When that happened and I couldn't possibly explain it (I saw my script later and I did exceptionally well but had a low but passable grade), I simply prayed about it. It never happened again ever.

4) Consider your Options: I read some people telling you to switch course or change school or leave school or get a job... And you seem too opened to all these. Please, take a break, go some place and sit down to consider what your options really are and what you'd want to do (write them down) - mark the best option that pleases you the most. Then do it. That way, you'd have less regret and you'd be happy for it hence no more suicidal thoughts. Even if the choice is to take JAMB again, don't be scared. Do it! And make it count! Don't do things to please anyone else...not your mom or the society. It's your life after all. Explain your choice to them with reasons and hope for support.

Finally, be involved in a variety of interesting things that interest you or you're passionate about. If your passions rise above your existence, you'll forever bid suicide thoughts farewell. You can also get a trustworthy adult/shrink you can talk to if need be. Discuss your issues and interests...this helps with the depression and suicidal thoughts. I pray you get better pretty soon.

TreasuredLeidy:
Abeg when u wan buy the new laptop? if the op nor need ur laptop, biko I need oo. thanks

stephenmorris:
nooo,it's too late

stephenmorris:
it's not just about reading bro,it's also about the course ..if you have no passion for it nothing will make you have good grades in it, even if you read forever.

Seun:
Really? I cannot identify it, but it seems to have a hooded neck, which suggests that it's some kind of cobra.

Boole3:
I'm having suicidal thoughts because of my poor grades in school.
I'm so tired.. i read for more than 8hours daily but I still fail... 200l sitting on a 1.8 cgpa with loads of carryover courses. I feel like a complete failure.
At the rate at which I'm having suicidal thoughts these days I'm scared that one day I might just do it ... I need your help I don't want to kill myself.
I cant even think straight anymore

Boole3:
I'm having suicidal thoughts because of my poor grades in school.
I'm so tired.. i read for more than 8hours daily but I still fail... 200l sitting on a 1.8 cgpa with loads of carryover courses. I feel like a complete failure.
At the rate at which I'm having suicidal thoughts these days I'm scared that one day I might just do it ... I need your help I don't want to kill myself.
I cant even think straight anymore

Margy:
I used to be like you before..but I tasted and saw for my self..trust me.. Try God, remove the idea of suicide, study and then see for yourself...I don't mean frequent going to church ooo..just spare time alone with God and then tell him everything
I mean everthing

dingbang:
please dump ur school now and go into IT.. Once I get myself a new laptop I will dash u my current lappy I am using so u can use it to begin to learn programming.


I have been in ur shoes before.. I don't want u to make same mistakes I did

Margy:
Can you go on your knees and pray...! If you read and understand but still fail your exams then you need spiritual backup..prayer is the key..try God first and see for yourself...he never ever fails..I got a testimony.

dingbang:
yes na.. There are jobs dat you can apply with ur waec..

ademiD:
Probably u ain't getting it right somewhere and I'm very sure u don't want to make your parents sad just because of your selfish interest of ending it all. Try to see a counselor or better still try group reading with friends or course mates ....and remember to commit your ways to God.

dingbang:
my dear apply for a job...

YorubaMod:
My dear, maybe education is not ur strength and no need forcing urself to it, just look within you and know where ur strength is, discover ur talent and it will give you more happiness in life than that education...If wizkid and the rest of top musicians had bagged a Phd certificate, it won't have made their life more meaningful compare to their talent, Same goes to film actors and comedians...my dear don't kill urself because of education, even if you read for 24hours in 365days it won't still make any difference because you're not destined to be there..simple.