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Ex is another word for former. For example, an ex-boyfriend means a former boyfriend. An ex-boyfriend is a man who is no longer a woman’s boyfriend. For one to be a n ‘ex’ it means that there was a time both persons were an item, whether friendship, relationship, association or whatever, the ‘ex’ person and the person or persons who regards him as an ‘ex’ used to be together. During the past periods when this ex was still with the person or group, he is bound to have always done everything that are necessarily done within such relationship or group.

For example, the general presumption about an ex-boyfriend is that he must have done all the things a boyfriend does with his girlfriend during the pendency of the relationship. This includes romance, assistance, sex etc etc. Most times, these things still continue after the relationship has ended, due to the fact that once a line has been crossed, the probability of crossing that line again becomes high. This is because certain things have became normalize,- shyness and boundaries were broken. The guy isn’t shy to talk about his sexual urge, the girl is also isn’t shy to talk about her fantasies, they’re both not laid back from asking for support from each other, be it financial or emotional support. Now, they might move on to other relations, but still find it hard to move from this ‘normal’ which has become a part of them. Your greatest competitor in your relationship is your partner’s ex, and not the new ones trying to get in. There are many factors that might have caused the break up, For example, maybe the ex initiated the break up, but your partners was still and is still interested; maybe distance separated them, one travelled oversees, so they had no option than to move on, but the feelings is still there; maybe the one who initiated the break up is now regretting, (he misses her and has found out that ‘the grass isn’t greener on the other side’, she is much better than the one he left her for, and now he wants her back) etc etc

It takes a lot of courage, commitment, self discipline and conscious effort to go back on a boundary when a line has been crossed, especially when the experience one got when he crossed the line was fun and ‘easy’.. This is why they say, “once a soldier, always a soldier”, This can further be broken down to mean “once anything, always that thing”.. For example,- once a cheat, always a cheat (one who has cheated before wouldn’t find it hard to cheat again especially when he/she wasn’t caught and he/she had fun or got a reward from the cheating), once a smoker always a smoker (this is the same with one who has smoked before, he wouldn’t find it hard to do such again, after all, he didn’t die when he did it the first time, he has overcome that initial fear he had for it), once a hoe, always a hoe (one who has had sex for money before won’t find it hard to do such again, the fast and easy money from the first time gave her more encouragement, she would rather pick that ‘easy’ way than work legit for money, whenever she’s faced with little financial difficulty, instead of being innovative, all she’ll think of is who she can have sex with and be rewarded with it in cash, this is the reason behind the saying – ‘Never Make A Hoe an Housewife’, cos in most cases, the hoe tendencies is still there, she has been used to that normal and would find it difficult to change for better), once a fraudster always a fraudster (this is the reason a lot of guys involved in fraud don’t stop until they are caught and jailed. They have made lots of money they never imagined they would make in their lifetime but would still continue that illegal lifestyle until it ends them. This is because this lifestyle has become the new normal for them. They are now used to the ‘easy’ way of making money and even if they stop for a while, when faced with a little financial difficulty, they’ll be back to their vomit). This is the why they say “A Leopard never changes its spot”!

WHAT DO YOU DO?

1. Don’t be coaxed or pressured to involve yourself in any immoral or illegal way of life at all. Let that ‘beginners’ fear and doubt still hold you back from trying.
2. If you have already started, you need to take conscious and practical steps to pull out, you can’t say you want to stop a life style and still remain and hang around friends who still live and encourage such lifestyle, you are only deceiving yourself. In other words, you have to distance yourself from such friendship, this includes your ex in a relationship (you shouldn’t encourage still being friends with your ex after break up, it’s time bomb waiting to explode.. distance yourself from them as much as possible, break off unnecessary communication, like asking about your wellbeing and other stuff that are not formal, if possible break off communication totally), the only communication you can have with an ex or friends of your past should be formal discussion in formal settings, avoid having informal discussion and meeting in informal environment. (why would you be visiting your ex at home if you are not deceiving yourself, why would you be hanging out in club with your past friends who still involve in fraud or prostitution, it’s only a matter of time before you’re dragged back in)
3. Change your cycle of friends and relate more with people living moral and legal lifestyle. The popular saying of “show me your friends, and I’ll tell you who you are” is true. If you want to know who a person is, you can do so by just knowing who his or her friends are. Lions does not walk with goat, lions walk with other lions, if you’re comfortable being friends with people of questionable character, then obviously, something binds you all together.
4. Pray. While doing the work to pull out, you also have to pray, cause sometimes, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. sometime your strength would fail you and the only support you will need is from God. Don’t hesitate to ask him for help..
I’ll drop my pen here. Lets hear your view on what you think on this topic..

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Bigggloadofcum:


Personally, my girlfriend can't have a male bestie. I'll tell you why.

I have 3 female besties. All endowed with the goodness of the Lord. Created specially cuz damn, why would a woman be given what these women have? Bright future and glorious past (front and back).

Now two of these ladies are in a VERY serious relationship. Like very serious. But each time they visit, I am always privileged to taste of God's goodness.

Please don't blame me.

No same man would turn down a fat, soft and bouncy bum bum. No sane man. I've seen them lie to their boyfriend that they are at home, or in a female friend's abode while taking solace in my embrace.

So...

BEFORE EVERY SUPPORT THERE IS ENTANGLEMENT.

Wow!
I bet you'll be dealing with trust issues due to this lifestyle. You'll never trust your girlfriend

Bestie basically means a person’s best friend.

For one in a relationship or marriage, having a bestie who isn’t the person you’re involved in the relationship with is enough red flag. It’s cheating already by sharing emotions with someone who isn’t your partner. For one to be your best friend, it mean you share every details of your life and secret with the person, secret you don’t disclose to anyone else. Would you be cool if you find out your boyfriend or girlfriend shares secrets with another person other than you? Secrets you have no idea about, it’s even more hurtful when this bestie is of opposite gender.. this already signify the lack of trust in the relationship. Trust is a major element for a successful and peaceful relationship, it’s better not to be in a relationship, than to be in one where there’s no trust. Imagine bring suspicious of every move your partner makes, studying every actions of him or her, in an attempt to know what he or she isn’t telling or hiding from you, “no be die you dey so?”. Trust is gotten from communication, where there’s lack of communication between people in a relationship, problems begin to crop in. Communication is the bedrock of a peaceful and happy union.

Many besties are having sexual relationships, both of opposite gender and same gender. Some are friends with benefits while some are actually in love but can’t be together due to certain reasons. I’ll leave the discussion of same gender for another day, let’s discuss about that of opposite gender today.

I don’t believe people of different gender can be very close friends. Theirs always a catch Inbetween, even if the friendship started innocently like it sometimes happen, people tend to develop feelings for someone they communicate and spend more time with, this explains why a guy falls in love with a ‘not so good looking’ girl, and why a girl falls in love with a ‘not so rich’ guy most times.. Every guy wants a beautiful girl; every girl wants a successful guy, a guy who can hold his own . It all begins with the person being a shoulder to cry on (opening and sharing secrets with him or her).. and for men, there’s a saying that a shoulder to cry on becomes a dick to ride on. You’ll always hear them say “I don’t know how it happened but we just found ourselves having sex”.. the emotions have been building with every communication and time you spent together.

When I discuss this with male friends, most agree with me, but when I have this discussion with female friends most argue against, but end up saying that they’ll never allow their men have a female bestie but they can have a male bestie, their justification is that men always have ulterior motive. I don’t accept this excuse, it’s lame, selfish and it doesn’t hold water, if men have ulterior motive, then what makes their own male friends different? Is that not a good reason to avoid having a male bestie so as not to complicate your life, if you also don’t have an ulterior motive you don’t want to disclose. My submission on this is that they don’t want their man to have a female bestie because they know the atrocities they commit with their male bestie. Like they say no one fears a knife more than one who kills with it.

The ones not having a sexual relationship are doing it for the attention they receive and the one sided relationship they enjoy, in a platonic friendship between both gender, the male friend does the responsibility of a boyfriend while the female friend doesn’t give back the responsibility of a girlfriend.. yahoo yahoo kind of friendship. Your boyfriend or husband attention and care should sufficient for you, it should be all you need. Be contented.

Like all general rules having exceptions, there are very few true friendship between opposite gender. But even the ones having sexual relations would still claim that they’re among the few true friendship until the bubble burst and yansh open Lol, so what I’ll still say is, it doesn’t matter if yours is a true friendship or not, so long as you’re in a relationship, your best friend (bestie) should be your lover of your husband, anything other than that is cheating. Cheating doesn’t need to be physical, sharing more emotions with another person other than who you’re in a relationship with is cheating too.. know where to draw the line with others. Create boundaries.

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Crowwe:
NIGERIAN Girsl Re toTtally Useless!!!!!!

It depends on the angle you're looking at it from

A bro doesn’t show off a bad habit he indulge in. A bro is aware that what is wrong is wrong, and doesn’t look for an excuse to justify it. He isn’t shameless, irresponsible and stupid to show it off for notoriety purposes. He doesn’t have to showoff himself getting ‘high’, having nasty wild parties, He and a girl in a compromising position if he isn’t married, pictures of him with his frat brothers, if he belongs to any etc etc

All these aren’t perceived to be responsible behavior, plus, these stuff has destroyed a lot of youngies, he shouldn’t be found encouraging them and thereby misled the people who look up to him as their mentor into such lifestyle, even if he’s guilty of doing them. We have a lot of people without a mind of their own, all they do is copy whatever they see a person they look up to doing. They think since their mentor does these stuff, then it’s cool. A bro has the responsibility to not be liable and responsible for these boyz to tow the wrong path..

A Bro Keeps It Real.. What is wrong is wrong, it doesn’t matter whoever is doing it, including himself or multitude of people..

Be a bro always.. Keep your image clean.

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A Bro stays fit. He has an exercise routine. He knows the importance of keeping his mind and body fit. He is not lazy. He know consistency is key. He knows the importance of looking good. He knows how ‘cul’ one who engages in exercises look. He knows he can’t increase his heights, knows he can’t change the look of his face, but he can get a great body by working out and living right. He also knows consistent work-out keep the doctor away which means good health. Health is wealth. A bro stays wealthy.

Start being intentional on your work-out routine. Be a bro..

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A bro takes his bros with him when he gets to the top. A bro doesn’t go up and forget his past, he doesn’t get to the top and forget his bros that were with him while he was down. A bro doesn’t get carried away with all the glam and fake bros he met at the top, he is wise to know who his real bros are. So long as a bro’s old bros are not envious of a bro’s accomplishment and success, so long as there’s no hatred and negative energy, a bro has no excuse not to take his bros with him into his new found fame.

A bro who gets to the top and begin to snub his old bros is not a bro. He is a f*#k boi..

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Our diet as humans is more than just the things we eat through our mouth. The things we listen to and the things we see are part of our diet and they are what make up the things we talk about and the things we do.. garbage in garbage out.. these things you take in by listening through your ears and by seeing through your eyes are all stored in your subconscious mind., and they manifest in your actions, that is, the things you talk about and the things you do. The subconscious mind is so powerful that it stores everything you have ever come across. Its the reason you perceive a smell and have a deja vu feeling of coming across such smell before, its the reason you hear a voice, see a face and remember having seen the face and heard that voice sometime in the past, even thought this face and voice was only seen or heard only one time,, this was all made possible by the subconscious mind. As much as this can be an advantage, it can also become a disadvantage if not used properly.

In essence, its more advisable to be intentional and mindful of the kind of things you expose yourself to, the kind of things you read, the kind of people you hang around with etc etc These things would either make you or mar you.

For example, when you hang around people who involve themselves in immoral and illegal lifestyle, with time you start to drop your guard,- “oh, these guys/girls are actually nice people when you get to know them, its just that they do so and so…. but who am I to judge, we all sin differently” bla bla bla… that’s your guards falling right there.. before you know it, you’ll start engaging in the same things they do and that’s the beginning of your problems.. You need to surround yourself with people and things that would always challenge you to do better and become a better version of yourself… not the ones who makes you let your guards down.

No one was born with in built knowledge, no one was born to be evil or good, these characters were imbibed by nurture and not by nature. Nurture here are the things such person is being exposed to while growing up which he/she begins to see as normal and makes it a way of life. Nurture are the things you listen to, and the things you see, they become your nature which are the things you talk about and the things you do.

We are what we ‘eat’,. when you eat poison, it would kill you, but when you eat good food, you will grow and develop properly. Here, by food, we mean the things you listen to (advice, discussion, music etc.) and the things you see (read, tv programs you watch etc.)..

See No Evil and Hear No Evil, so you don’t end up Speaking and Doing evil, thereby destroying yourself and others around you.

Lets gist, don’t forget to drop a comment, these are just my opinion, I’m open to learning more..

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Blessings!

ekensi01:


Come see useless bros in my side going to studio.
Then many

They are not bros

Wayne4uall:
A bro must not go to photo studio for his birthday pictures

My gee, I see you have visited my blog

A bro has no excuse to use hair relaxer on his hair. Whether to blow out the hair or for Jerry curl, it’s a no-no. A bro grows his hair natural and maintains it in it’s natural state.

A bro must stay handsome and not try to look beautiful- that’s what relaxer on a bro hair does.

A bro is not Korede Bello.. (before he stepped up his game and cut that rubbish).

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Artist: J. Cole

Song: Love Yourz

Album: 2014 Forest Hills Drive

Today’s song for the day is j Cole’s – Love Yourz. The perfect motivation and inspiration to get you through your day to day life challenges. Tells you not to compare yourself with anyone else as there’s ‘no such thing as a life that’s better than yours’. Making you appreciate your everyday wins which you take for granted.- from the moment you wake up, which is a blessing, to the beauty in your struggle, which signifies your growth through different levels of life, Contentment etc etc.

Deep Lyrical content.

This is the right motivation you need, not all those fake stuff from Invictus obi, hushpuppy and all those Instagram small girls with big gods..

Listen, Enjoy and Get Inspired!

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Any observations, additions or subtraction?

xxxXXXxxx:
Good orientation.

You're welcome

SmellySperm:
Excellent piece. Seconded!

Ma gee

To whom power is given, responsibilities is expected. More power comes with more responsibilities. The problem with our woke ladies is that they want the power but not the responsibilities that comes with it. They turn a blind eyes to the very much privileges they enjoy and complain about more power not at their disposal, while still pretending not to see the more responsibilities attached to these powers being held by the man.

I will outline these privileges they enjoy to the detriment of men under the below subheadings:

WAR:
In war, killing of women and children is regarded as a war crime. Men are dispensable. Men go to war, and die to protect and keep women safe. We don’t hear men complaining about this, we don’t see men saying it’s a female world because of this. Men have accepted this as part of what make them men since they have more strength biologically, and have taken the responsibility in good faith.

2. LADIES FIRST:

These words originated to protect women, It infers that a man must be a gentleman at all times and put the protection, safety and comfort of a woman first. It all began on the famous voyage of Titanic that sunk in 1852 upon hitting a rock off the coast of South Africa. The ship lacked sufficient lifeboats, so an order was given that all the solders onboard should stand at attention while the women and children made their way to escape the impending doom on the lifeboats. 74 percent of women were saved, 52 percent of children were saved, but only 20 percent of men on the titanic survived. This later became a code of conduct, favoring women’s lives over men’s. This was how the word Ladies first came to be. This has now been extended to all aspects of life. Are men making an issue of it? No. Men hold more power as the head, so we have to sacrifice more and take more responsibilities. It’s common sense. Are these ‘woke’ ladies always complaining ready to put their lives at risk to save a man? No. But they want to be the head to control things. You’ll agree with me that no common sense there right?

3. RELATIONSHIP AND FRIENDSHIP:

Men are the one that are meant to go all out to show a woman love. All a woman just has to do is to sit back and ‘aww’ and ‘ohh’s’ to all the gesture. It’s one of the reason girls enjoy friendship with men more, because they do less. Still they’re quick to announce that Nigerian Men are not romantic. I once asked on a blog on what romantic gestures Nigerian girls make, and for 2 days no one could answer me, even after asking the question again on the next day. Romance means sacrifice. Sacrifice means going out of your way to please and make someone else happy. This takes different forms, e.g. spending a larges sum of your money bearing in mind that it would make you uncomfortable for awhile but you don’t mind cause you’re doing it for love. Spending time to give your partner a full body massage, Clearing some of your important schedule off your list just so you can make out quality time to spend with someone, making plans and funding a date and get away etc etc.. these are all romantic gestures, and if we are to be honest, it’s men that does most of these. Still you don’t see men complain about how unromantic Nigerian girls are. We just do what we have to do and keep it moving.

4. MILITARY

In the military, men are drafted to go to war, while women occupy civilian offices and still get equal pay. This implies that one gender take more risk and the other less risk for equal pay. We haven’t seen men protesting this ‘unfairness’. Men have come to accept this in good faith. It’s what make us men. We have more strength, so it’s fine. No problem. Our woke ladies too also pretend not to see this part of life, they pretend not to see these responsibilities, all they just want is power.

5. LAW:

It is not a hidden truth that the law favor a woman more than a man. For example, I already wrote about how killing of women is regarded as a war crime, The jail time of woman and men differs for the same crime, In our Law, apart from FCT, the law doesn’t define the crime of rape to include women. What this means is that it’s believed that only men can be rapist. This is an injustice, untrue and very unfair assumption, we all know this position is not true, cause just like men, women also rape.

The use of a woman strength which lies in her mouth is not regarded as a crime, but the use of a man’s strength which lies in his fist is regarded as a crime. So a woman can go about cursing and insulting all she wants but a man can’t respond with his strength. Some of you would make excuses that insult doesn’t hurt or cause damage like a physical hit, this is false, they both cause damages, one causes emotional damages and the other causes physical damages. Still, we don’t see men throwing tantrum on how it’s a female world just to play the victim card and form a pity party.

6. MARRIAGE:

A man provides, He is the house electrician, Plumber, Car washer, Mechanic, Gardener and what not. All the woman does is to cook and clean the home, This little responsiblities of theirs have become an issue lately on social media with these woke ladies screaming that they are not cooks and how cooking makes them a slave to a man. If cooking makes you a slave, what should we call men that does all these stuff I just listed up there.

The worse of these group of woke ladies are the one that work but still don’t make any contribution to the finance of the home but want her husband to share the cooking and cleaning of the home with her, because she also work. How does your working benefit anyone? you have the mentality of “your money is your money and his money is our money”, Fine. Then do your little f*#king job and stop causing problems. He doesn’t ask you to contribute in the running of the home and his other responsibilities, why do you want to make him share your your small responsibilities with you?? I’m beginning to think ‘woke’ is another word for ‘stupidity’.

7. JOBS:

In jobs, men are given the more tasking ones, while ladies take the less tasking jobs. It’s common to see men on road construction, building of house, etc. ladies are given jobs in the office, where they don’t go through the stress and risk their counterpart men face daily, for equal pay. They are given maternity leave even though the birth of child is very tasking on both parent, Yes, I have seen how the husband would return from work and take over the nursing of the baby through the night so his wife can sleep, he works 2 jobs, one at home and the other at work, but the society only sees the woman as the only one doing the home and deserve a maternity leave.

Men don’t deserve all these unappreciative behavior being exhibited by these woke ladies, I was going through the list of world inventions recently and all the names I came across belong to men. Men go out their way daily to making the world a better place, the only support they need from you is peace, If you can’t give him peace then don’t become a demon causing unhappiness and more problems. Men are celebrated only ones in a year, women are celebrated more than thrice every year, still these woke ladies won’t allow the men to be celebrated in peace just that once.. SMH

With these few points of mine, I summit that “If It’s A Man’s World, Then It’s Definetly A Woman’s Paradise”

Would like to hear you view, opinion and counter opinion.

Stay blessed...

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Acensionboss:
who cares

I wan fuk big yansh

Don't be an agbero

A bro is never to be caught throwing tantrums in public. A bro must maintain calmness at all times. A bro doesn’t need to threaten or brag about what he would do or what he can do. He doesn’t have to be aggressive, he is respected and feared cos everyone know he means business. He means whatever he says even tho spoken softly. A bro lets his actions speaks for him. Talk is cheap, everyone can talk, action is what separates a bro from an agbero..

If your voice is louder than your actions, you’re not a bro. You are an Agbero.

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Spiritual banking is the Christianized concept of Karma. Karma is of Hindu and Buddhist religion, while spiritual banking of Christian religion.

The authority which made provision for this rule is Galatians chapter 6. The whole chapter explains the need to do good and be good at all time. As can be seen in verse 7-9 as quoted below:

“7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.

8 The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature [1] will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.

9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

The above verses are self explanatory, one can deduce that doing good and living right would bring blessings your way, while being evil and doing wrong stuff would cause you destruction. For whatever one sow (into the spiritual bank) such would the person reap (cash out).

If you understand how ‘normal’ bank works, you’ll know that when you put money there, it yield interest for you, and when you decide to withdraw, you’ll be richer. That’s the same way it works in spiritual bank. Whatever you sew into the bank attract interest, whether good or bad, you’ll reap bountifully. It can be either bountiful positive yield or bountiful negative yield. The choice is yours to make. (I said ‘normal’ banks, not Nigerian banks. Those ones are not normal)

Some examples of how this banking system works are-

You give help to someone in need, that week you got a major contract you have been hoping for
you paid offering in church only to get home and remember a large some of money you hid somewhere in your home and have forgotten about it
You frauded a person for some money, fell ill the next day and spent double the amount you got from scam to treat the sickness.
Now, the fact that you help someone with a certain amount of money doesn’t mean you’ll get money in return too, or because you cheat someone, someone will also cheat you, No, in spiritual banking, your yield (cash out) come in various forms and ways.. for example, you might reap good health and long life for sowing a seed of money into someone life, and you can reap sickness or life difficulty because you decieved and cheated someone.

In summary, doing good attract other good things into your life while doing evil will attract destruction and evils to one’s life. Don’t be decieved by what you see, when you see an evil person living like everything is perfect it’s all smoke screen. Smoke and mirrors stuff. They’re concealing the true position of things. It will end in premium tears for you if and when you decide to tow their part.

It’s good to be good at all times.

Let me know what you think about this. I’ll like to hear your view.

Good morning and stay blessed

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Dheji2:
Bro code kee you there

A black hair dye fan spotted
You better take the orientation and up your game. You don't get stuff like this for free..

A Bro is never to use a black dye on his hair.

Only exception is when a bro dye his hair to another color and want to switch back to its original black hair. But the general rule remains that a bro is not supposed to visit the saloon for a hair cut and put a black dye on after.

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Our very own Burna boy AKA Oluwa burna ( real name, Damini Ogulu), who celebrated his 30th birthday yesterday the 2nd of July, 2021 is our personality for the week for winning the Black Entertainment Television (BET) Awards 2021 again, for the Best International Act. The Award ceremony took place on 28th of June, 2021

It would be recalled that he also won a Grammy Award for World Best Music Album in March..

Great one boi!.. Keep making us proud

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SmellySperm:
Case closed!

Ma gee

donbachi:
So,married women don't cheat...abi!

They do..
The topic is about the ones that cheat MORE..
Single girls cheat MORE than single guys..
Married men cheat MORE than married women..

You dig?

EzegeNdiigbo:
OP ya gat level



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DISCLAIMER: this post does not support cheating in any level of life, rather it tries to bring out the issue from its root for better understanding, as an issue has to be understood from its roots first, before a perfect solution can be made. If not, we’ll keep going around in circles.

Cheating may be defined as a dishonest or unfair act, in order to gain an advantage.

“Infidelity is a violation of a couple’s emotional and/or sexual exclusivity that commonly results in feelings of anger, sexual jealousy, and rivalry”.-Wikipedia.

In other words, cheating can be defined as being ’emotionally’ or ‘sexually’ unfaithful to a partner who one is in a closed relationship with. That is, either intimate physical contact or emotional contact with another person is cheating as can be deduced from this definition.

Physical contact- kissing, cuddling, sex etc etc

Emotional contact- attention, sharing secret, love etc etc

When the above is done with someone other than who you’re in a relationship with, it’s cheating..

SINGLE LADIES..

In the early stages of life, ladies are more guilty of cheating. At this stage their beauty still blossom like a rose. Attention everywhere, they begin to lose focus and concentration. This is the reason why in most cases, in secondary school, from JSS 1 to JSS 3 a girl might be topping the class, but this changes in senior class, this time development has started taking place on her body, she’s looking more ‘shapey’ and beautiful, boys and grown men who don’t respect their old age have started telling how sweet things, how she’s the most beautiful girl in the world, how they’ll give her the whole world if she agrees to go out with them and other crap, all these begin to get to her head. She begins to lose focus. She has a boy within her age group who she’s already in a relationship with (relationship here might not be defined in words, but all the necessary ingredients that make up a relationship exists therein,- they’re always together, the go on dates, exchange gifts etc, so it’s safe to say they’re in a relationship).. now, she begins to see this boy as a loser.. “What is a Queen like me doing with this small boy, a whole me that bla bla bla who has a car and is working in mobile is ‘toasting’, me that bla bla bla promised an iPhone 12, what am I doing with this small boy that can’t even buy iPhone charger. Then the devil take over. Physical or emotional cheating begins to take place. She starts first by talking on the phone with other guys without her boyfriend knowledge, going out on dates with them, collecting gifts from them, all these with one lie or the other to cover up. for example, her boyfriend might call her up to 3 times while she’s on a long call with one of her toaster, when she eventually answers his call, she’ll lie that she was talking to her mom, same with when she goes on dates, she’ll lie about going somewhere with her sister, then for the gifts, she’ll say her cousin bought it for her.. All these are already cheating as her emotions are involved with someone else already, even though physical contact might not have happened yet. There are some necessary information a person you’re in a relationship with is supposed to be in the know, when you hide such information from him, you’re doing so because you know what you’re doing is wrong, this is cheating. Your boyfriend/girlfriend is supposed to be your best friend, when you’re sharing secrets with other people other than them, it’s cheating. Now like everything under the sun which doesn’t stay hidden forever, she’ll slip one day, and her boyfriend would find out the truth, he might find out himself, or someone who saw something might tell him, however it happens, it still boils down to the truth coming out. He becomes heartbroken. He thinks he would never find love until her measure up by having money. A monster seed is sowed, when he gets the money, either by hook or crook, he is more concerned about making up for ‘lost’ years in in the game. He begins to do to young boys the same thing that was done to him, taking their girlfriends by making her lose concentration in him, and still end up creating a monster in the girl cos he isn’t looking for love, he just want to sow his wild oath to make himself feel good that he didn’t lose after all, these girls too become damaged, they remember all the nice words and promises this guy said to them and at the end of the day he fulfilled only little or nothing, they develop trust issues, finding love become hard.

MARRIED MEN..

Just like single ladies who begin to get attention at their prime, which is in the years when their beauty blossom, married men also begin to get attention at their prime, which is when they’re older and have made money. The ones who haven’t made money have learnt a lot through life experiences on how to be deceptive and cunny in other to get what they want, they have learnt the power of sweet words and promises, so while the rich men are getting these girls with actions the not so rich men are doing theirs with ‘powerful’ words.. all these make them get so much attention from these ladies. They begin to lose focus in their wives and home. “What am I doing with this old woman, she’s not even beautiful anymore, everytime she’ll be tying wrapper like my village grandma, me that bla bla bla a 22 year old girl is calling me her ‘god on earth’,. Me that all these little girls would do anything to sit inside my Bentley and make a Snapchat video, me that I can just promise that beautiful undergraduate girl 20k and she’ll give me a mad-ass unforgettable weekend.. he begins to see himself as a King who is worth 10 women.. the devil takes over.. His wife begins to rant on social media on how men are cheats the same way young boys rant on social media on how girls her cheats Lol..

What’s the way forward?

1. Parents should always remind their daughters that though they’re beautiful, they’re not goddess like those men want them to think, they should let them know that a lot of men would do and say anything just to get into their pants. they should let them know these men would destroy them. They should teach them contentment, dignity in labor and how to stay focused on the goal. They should teach them to value love and peace above material things. They should let them know that life is in stages and so long as you stay dedicated to your craft, you’ll definitely get to the top. They should let them know that no short cuts to greatness. Anything worth having is worth working for. They should know that no matter how far you go on the wrong path, it would never turn right.
2. Married men should know that these girls don’t mean well, they’re only out to grab what they can collect. They’re vampires. They’ll destroy your home at the end. when his wife’s get bitter, the home become a shadow of itself, a happy wife is a happy home, and vice versa.
3. Young boys should strive for success, no lady doesn’t want a successful guy. Don’t be so laid back and then complain that your girl left you, Omo, why she no go leave nah?.. however, if you’re a guy with prospect, and she still leaves, then her loss.
4. Wives should learn to take good care of their bodies and look good. No man doesn’t like a beautiful lady. Say him don marry you for house no mean say make you come lose guard.. you’re not in competition with those girls outside, yes.. but look good for your husband and for yourself. . It would boost your self esteem and help your husband eyes from roving up and down if he’s a good man with common sense. After all, what’s he looking for outside when he has a beautiful lady at home.. you get?
I don drop my pen.. let’s hear your view on the topic

https://bossdanteblog.com/2021/06/30/single-ladies-cheat-more-married-men-cheat-more/

So no one has a contrary opinion on anything I said above??

No matter how woke we try to be in this generation, a man and a woman cannot be ‘equal’ in the sense that they try to make it be. Our biological make up which is the root of our difference can never be the same. Men have more testosterone hormone while women have more estrogen hormone, this makes us process things differently to a large extent. It’s the reason behind a man’s strength and a woman’s ‘softness’, It’s the reason behind a man being more logical and a woman being more emotional, It’s the behind a man’s high libido and why a lady has more self control (That’s why a man can have sex without his emotions attach and a woman can’t, only few women can, unless when she does it for a reward- money, gift, job, esteem issues etc etc), It’s the reason a man looks manly with beards, thick voice and strong muscles and a lady looks the opposite. Now, like every other rules of life, there are always exceptions, so we have ladies that have more testosterone hormones like men, like we have the men that have more estrogen like a lady, you see these men being more effeminate and having these attributes associated with women and you see these ladies looking masculine and exhibiting these attributes associated with men. However, things are not defined in it’s exceptions, being that the exceptions make up very little percentage of the whole, so the larger percentage is what’s used for definition, and it stands as a general rule.

These difference, from my understanding is where our equality lies. What’s more equal when one person is logical and the other is emotional, one is strong and the other is soft, one looks manly with a deep voice and the other look sweet like a princess with a lovely tiny voice, What’s more balanced than this?? These special attribute of each gender is what’s needed to build a home, the man seeing things from a logical perspective and the woman from an emotional point of view, both would meet in the middle and that’s where the balance lies, that’s where the good nurturing of children lies,. This is how nature made us. Perfect.

However, some ‘woke’ people who can’t see things logically (I don’t blame them, its not one of their biological strength) have decided to cause more problems by making wrong comparisons, comparing and challenging men in their strength even though men don’t challenge them in theirs, for example, every one agrees that women nurtures babies more and its the reason why custody of young children are always given to women unless it’s established that she’s not a ‘good’ mother. Men don’t argue this fact because they all know it’s one of women strength, but in things that lies a man strength, these woke ladies want it, and when they cant have it because its not something you get without working for it, they begin to play the victim card and say its a man’s world.

I don’t agree that the world belongs to any gender in specific, I believe it belongs to both gender and each gender enjoy specific privileges that the other gender doesn’t.

However, since these woke ladies insist on the world being a man’s world because some sensible men have refused to be manipulated, I would tell them why these world is a woman’s paradise and they enjoy more privileges and opportunities than men.

TO BE CONTINUED IN PART 2.. click link below

https://bossdanteblog.com/2021/07/02/its-a-mans-world-but-a-womans-paradise-part-2/

siofra:
I'm in a relationship but I still exchange numbers with the opposite sex.

#single_until_marriage

You dey 'whine' yourself

SmellySperm:
Hope men don't turn out to be scum if the reverse was the case tho...
Coz if a man keeps a female friend,y'all say he's fvckin her but if it's a lady,y'all will say he's just a friend

They know what they do with their male 'friends', that's why they'll never agree for their man to have female friends

Kooldon:
A phone number given out today does not necessarily end up in sex but change your life tommorrow.

"Does not necessarily" means it does end up sometimes..
Giving out phone number is the first step

Regex:
The bolded above, is somewhat a difficult task for women to carry out given the fact they have a lot to gain following the rule.

You're not wrong