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- How do you stay one step ahead from false allegation of r@pe, domestic violence and assault?
- What do you do when you face false allegations?
- How do yo secure your from being used?
- What really is cheating?
- Can men and women really be just friends?
- Is celibacy a myth?
- The hypocrisy of Feminism
- The importance of Paternity test
- Okafor law
- How to make your marriage and relationship last
- Are you a real man?

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THE SIMP.

"Simp is an internet slang term describing someone who shows excessive sympathy and attention toward another person, typically to someone who does not reciprocate the same feelings, in pursuit of affection or a sexual relationship”. - Wikipedia

“'Simp' is slang for a person (typically a man) who is desperate for the attention and affection of someone else (typically a woman),” Connor Howlett

"Simp” is someone who tries too hard to do what another person wants, especially in a romantic relationship" Cambridge Dictionary.

Don't mind the Cambridge Dictionary that's trying to sound politically correct.

A Simp is a Man, who lives to please women, even to his detriment and survival.
A simp will make a fool of himself to get a girl's attention.
A simp will go hungry to please a woman.
A simp will become a slave just to make a woman happy.
A simp will join a gang because of a woman.
A simp will get into a fight and get his ass whooped because of a woman.
A simp will commit crime because of a woman.
A simp will end up in jail because of a woman.
A simp will live in regret and sorrow because of a woman.
A simp will die for a woman.
A simp in power would make laws to protect and favor women, to the detriment of men instead of making it balanced and fair to all.

You chat a girl up and ask her "how are you", she replies that she's not fine, and then proceeds to tell you she's broke, she's hungry, she needs ice-cream and shawarma and other silliness. A simp is the guy who goes ahead to provide any of the demanded things.

A simp is a man providing support for women and children but cannot do the same for a fellow man.

A simp is a man that is everywhere campaigning for support for the girl child, instead of all children in general.

A simp is a boyfriend who placed his girlfriend on salary when she hasn't earned it. A girlfriend should earn such support and commitment only when she has added or is adding value to your life and wellbeing.

Sex is not value. If it's only sex she's adding, you are in a hook-up relationship, pay her for her services and disconnect other attachments - Emotional, psychological, social, spiritual etc. what you have is just a pleasure service. It is for sexual service. You are paying for sex. Making it more than what it is makes you a simp.

The woman being “simp-ped” for doesn't have to be one you have a sexual relationship with, or one you are hoping for sex from. It covers all women in general. So long as you are doing anything, displeasing yourself, putting your reputation and life at risk, just to please a woman who is not adding value to your life, you are a simp, even if the woman is your MOTHER.

A true mother would not ask of her son for the impossible. A good mother would not put her son at risk just because she wants a good life.
So, if you're involved in fraud just because you want to make mama proud, you are a simp.

If your mama knows you do crime and she encourages you with prayers, pressuring you to hustle hard so you can build her a house like your mates, making ridiculous demands and you are following through because you want to please her and make her happy, you guessed right - YOU ARE A SIMP.

THE VICTIM GENDER.

The narrative of women being the weaker sex that should be protected have made most of them begin to take advantage of this, whereby they become the aggressor but come out to the public and pretend to be the victims, because society, have been programmed to protect women, they just respond to whatever narratives they put out without asking the right questions or making any investigation.
This has now become a tool women employ when they have an issue with a man and want to punish him, they do this by making false allegations of things the society frowns at and protects women from.

Some of these allegations includes:

- Rape
- Sexual harassment and molestation
- Assault
- Domestic violence etc.

When these allegations are made, even when there's no background story or evidence to corroborate the allegation or the narration told or evidence given in support doesn't add up, people won't even bother.

The man the allegations were made against is deemed guilty immediately in the court of public opinion and he begins to suffer as though the allegations are correct, his career and job is attacked, his friends are attacked, in fact anyone who choose to ask question concerning the allegation for a clear understanding is also attacked and bullied to silence with words like rape apologist, a supporter of violence against women etc., the man's image and reputation is tinted, he loses his career and all he has laboured for, and might even lose his life all from a mere allegation that might not be true and could have been made with malice.

These false allegations have become a menace that has destroyed and is still destroying many men, and it won't stop because women have been getting away with it.

Even when at the end the day, it is established that the allegations were false, the women are not punished, people feel the need to still protect them from being accountable and responsible for their actions, you begin to hear flimsy excuses like- “she's just a woman, that's how women behave, she's a mother, she was provoked, it was caused by post-natal trauma, she was on her period” and all other nonsense, not minding the harm that her action caused the man.

We've had wives allege that their husbands were even molesting their kids, only to later find out the allegation was false after these men have been attacked from every corner. Men have lost jobs, become traumatized, develop unstable mental health and even died as a result false allegations.

We have to put an end to this wickedness by doing the following:

1. Whenever allegations of this nature are made against a man, don't be among those that rush to condemn the man without listening to all sides. Ask reasonable questions that need to be asked to be able to reach a fair judgement. Refuse to be bullied to silence when you ask logical questions, a man's life is on the line here, there's no room for emotions, it could be you, your brother, family or close friend tomorrow who is being falsely accused and this might just save him from suffering for a wrong or doing time for a crime he didn't commit.

2. If you are being falsely accused, whether in public or private, don't take it lightly, if in private, make sure you give the lady a stern warning never to say such a joke ever again.
Don't overlook such or accommodate it with the excuse that she probably made the allegation because she is shy or unhappy, you're an enabler and she would one day make the same allegation in public and use your past silence or response to corroborate it.
If the false allegation was made in public, that is defamation and you must sue her for it. This would send a clear message to others like her and this menace would drastically reduce.

3.  . Make sure you always protect yourself by not doing anything that might implicate or be used against you. If a lady says you shouldn’t touch her, leave her alone, you are not the owner of her body, avoid hitting a woman, do not hit her for any reason unless when she hits you first and you might have to defend yourself.
Also, when dealing with women, make sure you always keep receipts and evidence that can save you in future.

FOREWORD

There are books written to comfort, and there are books written to confront.
I AM NOT A REAL MAN belongs unapologetically to the latter.

This is not a book that seeks validation. It does not plead for approval, nor does it bend its spine to social trends, emotional blackmail, or the fragile sensibilities of a modern audience trained to applaud feelings over facts. Instead, it asks dangerous questions - dangerous not because they are false, but because they are rarely allowed to be asked.

In a time when the phrase “a real man” has been stretched, weaponized, and redefined to suit convenience, manipulation, and double standards, this book dares to say what many think but are too afraid to articulate: that masculinity has become a moral dumping ground where responsibility is demanded without reciprocity, sacrifice without appreciation, silence without dignity, and provision without respect.

The author does not write from a place of fantasy or romantic idealism. He writes from observation - raw, uncomfortable, and often infuriating observation. Through real-life scenarios, cultural trends, public cases, and social contradictions, this book exposes how morality, feminism, love, celibacy, consent, and even kindness have been selectively reinterpreted to favor one side while criminalizing the other.

This is not a call to hate women. It is a call for men to think.

Time and again, the author makes one thing clear: the knowledge in these pages is meant to be a shield, not a sword. It is not an invitation to become cruel, reckless, or predatory, but a demand that men stop being naïve, disposable, and sacrificial under the illusion of being “good.” It argues - controversially but consistently - that self-preservation is not wicked, boundaries are not misogyny, and standards are not oppression.

You may disagree with some of the positions in this book. You may even feel offended. That reaction is expected. Books like this are not written to soothe; they are written to disrupt complacency and provoke honest reflection. What cannot be denied, however, is the courage behind its voice. In an era where dissent is punished and unpopular truths are silenced, it takes audacity to say, plainly and without apology: If this is what society calls a Real Man, then I AM NOT A REAL MAN.

This book will not hold your hand.
It will challenge your assumptions.
It will offend your comforts.
And if you let it, it may save you from costly mistakes disguised as love, morality, or progress.

Read it not with rage, but with reason.
Read it not to agree, but to understand.
And above all, read it knowing that sometimes, the most important truths are the ones that make us most uncomfortable.


Written by:
Emmapassions

INTRODUCTION

Picture this, you walk into a restaurant to get food, you see a girl who you'd like to be friends with and get to know her better, you approach her, exchange digits, buy your food and leave. Later on that day, you chatted her up, reintroducing yourself and what you got in response was a rude reply asking you how can she help you and a long insulting voice note berating you of not paying for her food at the restaurant after collecting her phone number and to your amazement some other ladies are supporting her that you were supposed to pay for her food for collecting her number because that's what a REAL MAN would do.

Imagine coming online to see a trending video of a podcast of a lady boldly saying if you're resident abroad as a man and you're on a talking stage with a girl in Nigeria, you should rent a house for her and her family, and instead of chastising the lady for her warped mindset, you see some other ladies supporting her and saying that's what a REAL MAN would do.

You log on www.stelladimokokorkus.com and you see a post about a man who was alleged by his wife to have molested his two underage daughters, without hearing the man's side or seeing any prove, he is called a paedophile, a rapist whose penis should be cut off and all sorts by the blog visitors, only to find out after investigations that the allegations were false but now, the same blog visitors that were slinging judgement on the man are now making excuses for the woman - maybe she's going through post-natal trauma, maybe she has a mental illness, maybe the man provoked her and other nonsense talks, not minding what the false allegations has caused this innocent man or that it could have caused his death, they end up by saying the man should forgive the woman as that's what a REAL MAN would do.

Whenever the issue of paternity test is discussed, you see a lot of women warning that if their husbands ever do a DNA test, they'll make sure he never sees the child again, saying the man should trust them, as if we don't have many women who commit infidelity in marriages, like the famous Ebang Baltasar who is alleged to have about 400 sex tapes with over 100 being married women. They don't care that many men have committed suicide, fallen into depression and ran mad after finding out years later that the child they thought was theirs wasn't, instead, what you'll be hearing is talks encouraging and enabling the paternity fraud, like - a REAL MAN would accept any child a woman gives him and love the child even if it's not his, since he loves the woman, he would love everything that comes out of her.

You are in a relationship with a lady who isn't a virgin and has had many sexual partners, now she's telling you that she's celibate until her wedding night but when you raise your doubt about celibacy, you're being attacked for not believing her, after all, a REAL MAN would believe whatever his woman tells him, not minding that we all know of a lady who claimed to be celibate when she was called out by a famous musician of sleeping with his manager, then all of a sudden our famous celibate 'fell' pregnant and came to write a long epistle of rubbish trying to twist the narrative.

A woman who says she wakes up at 4:30 am in the morning to prepare the food her husband would take to work is attacked, called a slave and pick-me, but a man doing the same is called a kind, intentional and REAL MAN.

I refuse to subscribe to this 'modern' re-definition of what a Real Man is, as it has become a tool of manipulation, deceit and control, simply put, an insult to common sense and a sane mind.

If this is what a Real Man has become, then permit me to state at this point that I AM NOT A REAL MAN.

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TABLE OF CONTENTS.

- Introduction
- Forward
- The Simp
- Our Prime Differs
- The Victim Gender
- The Sham of Feminism
- Bestie
- Think Like a Woman
- Why Marriages Are Now Failing
- Shit Test
- Cheating
- The Ex-Factor
- Hypergamy is Equal to Polygamy
- The Myth of Celibacy
- Paternity test
- Sunk-cost Fallacy
- Diet
- What A Real Man Really Is

Our diet as humans is more than just the things we eat through our mouth. The things we listen to and the things we see are part of our diet and they are what make up the things we talk about and the things we do.. garbage in garbage out.. these things you take in by listening through your ears and by seeing through your eyes are all stored in your subconscious mind., and they manifest in your actions, that is, the things you talk about and the things you do. The subconscious mind is so powerful that it stores everything you have ever come across. It's the reason you perceive a smell and have a deja vu feeling of coming across such smell before, its the reason you hear a voice, see a face and remember having seen the face and heard that voice sometime in the past, even though this face and voice was only seen or heard only one time,, this was all made possible by the subconscious mind. As much as this can be an advantage, it can also become a disadvantage if not used properly.

In essence, it's more advisable to be intentional and mindful of the kind of things you expose yourself to, the kind of things you read, the kind of people you hang around with etc etc These things would either make you or mar you.

For example, when you hang around people who involve themselves in immoral and illegal lifestyle, with time you start to drop your guard,- “oh, these guys/girls are actually nice people when you get to know them, its just that they do so and so…. but who am I to judge, we all sin differently” bla bla bla… that’s your guards falling right there.. before you know it, you’ll start engaging in the same things they do and that’s the beginning of your problems.. You need to surround yourself with people and things that would always challenge you to do better and become a better version of yourself… not the ones who make you let your guards down.

No one was born with in built knowledge, no one was born to be evil or good, these characters were imbibed by nurture and not by nature. Nurture here are the things such person is being exposed to while growing up which he/she begins to see as normal and makes it a way of life. Nurture are the things you listen to, and the things you see, they become your nature which are the things you talk about and the things you do.

We are what we ‘eat’,. when you eat poison, it would kill you, but when you eat good food, you will grow and develop properly. Here, by food, we mean the things you listen to (advice, discussion, music etc.) and the things you see (read, tv programs you watch etc.)..

See No Evil and Hear No Evil, so you don’t end up Speaking and Doing evil, thereby destroying yourself and others around you.

Bless..