₦airaland Forum

gabbytabby:
We are all at different stages of life and paying for some of the domestic services if you can afford to is an issue frowned on by people with a poverty mindset.

I can do it all ends up shortening peoples life especially in patriarchal societies with a it’s a women job mentality. Get and pay for help if you want to.

Don’t let essentially lazy and poor men gaslight you into an early grave.

Kemadealadire:
Then, the man should go ahead and marry the hardworking uneducated lady and rest. You lots come online to say all kinds. You think it's easy taking care of children esp. little ones, feeding, cleaning etc. on a day-to-day basis and still combining that with working a full-time job and/or running a business for money that would still go back to taking care of the family.

If you can afford to outsource some, why not??. How many men can do all these successfully, most can't even tend to their children for 2hrs. How many men can provide everything their family needs 100% without their women supporting Whereas it's the man's curse to provide for his family.

Skj13777:
With that kind of salary you can employ a graduate . So house help cost you N200,000 a month and your saying your still looking for house help? Your story does not add up.

chatinent:
Suitors prefer a wife (maid, mango seller, hair dresser, classic girl, literate, illiterate..etc). It has nothing to do with being a maid. It's about being able to be a wife.

Emeskhalifa:
So who will marry them knowing fully well that so many players have played on that football pitch?

EmmyMaestro:
In other words, you can go into hookup but let it be temporal. Then after spending years handling different sizes of pistons, whos son will she settle with?

gracias124:
dont say what you dont know, this girl wey u dey call small pikin had an abortion 2years ago.

Akell:
You're commenting cus of your warped thinking and inexposure.

Try and travel outside the country for once, the man who's not idle and you'll be well educated on why the topic was brought up.

SEMACCOUNT:
No, Nigeria shouldn't introduce mandatory DNA test at birth

faxana:
They've not finish battling maternal mortality. It's DNA test mtchewwwwwwww 🙄

erad:
Nigerians and very warped priority scale.

Is basic healthcare available?

You leave that one, it's compulsory DNA testing that's important to you.

SmartPolician:
I have never slept with and can never sleep with another man's wife

SmartPolician:
That Chile has no conscience. In the old testament, people who commit this kind of sins will be punished by death.

Skydiv:
We've been friends for a long time. He was even the engineer who handled my building project, back then. I wasn't always in town due to the nature of my job, and as such we were not that close physically. We both lost contact for almost a decade, but when we renewed our friendship people were always complaining to me that my G was too violent and aggressive. He wasn't like this when I knew him.

Skydiv:
The lady called me today, thanking me for the kindness I showed towards the kids that day. She was pleading with me to forgive her heartless attitude. According to her, arrangements are being made by her family to conduct a DNA test for both kids. That my friend will pay half, her family will pay the other half, if the kids are his, he will refund the family's payment and if they are not his, the family will refund his half. But the beast doesn't, have a dime, and I told her boldly that I will no longer involve myself in their marital disputes. She said her family has tried to reach out to the beast of a friend but he is not picking up his calls, and he is nowhere to be found. He can go to hell for all I care, I'm cutting him off for good.

lordm:
They repay with their salary as well na .

Ana2022:
Now, back to the main reason I am writing all of this.

What I experienced has deeply affected me. To be honest, I feel ashamed to call myself a Nigerian citizen right now. This journey has opened my eyes in a way I cannot ignore. I now truly appreciate the countries abroad that have given me opportunities, stability, and a better quality of life. Things I once complained about, I now see differently. May God continue to bless those nations.

What I saw was in Lagos—I cannot speak for other states—but what I witnessed there was overwhelming.

I visited both wealthy and poorer areas, and I was left speechless. This is 2026, yet there is still no reliable 24-hour electricity. The roads are even worse than how I left them many years ago. Everywhere, I saw young children selling goods on the streets—even inside buses. These are children who should be at home, resting or in school, not out working in unsafe conditions, day and night.

Seeing them broke my heart.

The transportation system was another shock. Many of the buses on the road are in terrible condition and should not even be operating. On one occasion, we entered a bus during the rain, and water was leaking heavily inside onto passengers. It felt unreal—like something out of a nightmare.

The constant noise—especially in the markets—was overwhelming. It was nonstop, from morning until night. At times, it felt like my head couldn’t rest, as if there was continuous drumming around me 24 hours a day.

I also noticed exposed wires along the roads, and it wasn’t even clear whether they were live or not, yet people walked around them as if it was normal.

Crossing the road was another challenge entirely. I stood at pedestrian crossings expecting cars to stop—but they didn’t. Sometimes, we were nearly hit. I even saw a zebra crossing connected to a raised concrete divider so high that it made no sense—how is anyone supposed to cross safely?

I tried using pedestrian bridges instead, but many of them were damaged, poorly maintained, or completely abandoned. It honestly felt unsafe to use them. I just kept hoping no one would fall or get seriously hurt one day.

When it rained, the flooding was everywhere. Roads became almost impassable.

One day, I decided to go alone to Yaba Market. That experience was overwhelming. I could barely breathe. The area around Tejuosho Market felt extremely congested, loud, and chaotic. The noise, the crowd, the heat—it was too much. I honestly don’t know how people cope working in those conditions every single day. No one should have to live or work like that.

I also couldn’t ignore the sheer number of people struggling—working tirelessly, carrying heavy loads under intense heat, just to survive. It made me wonder how much the population has grown, because the pressure on daily life is clearly immense.

And then I thought about the elderly… where do they fit in all of this? What support is there for them? It seems like once you grow old, the system expects your children to take full responsibility. But what happens to those who don’t have that support?

The reality is painful. There is little visible structure to support the most vulnerable—children, the elderly, and those who are sick.

It is deeply concerning.

There is still so much more I want to say… I will continue later.

But one thing is clear: please, do not be misled into thinking everything is working. There are serious challenges that cannot be ignored.

VicM6:
All this super stories don tire me jor....
The height of the story....Remain with ur poor boyfriend. Period.

kiddaz:
Don't say what you don't know and Dangote isn't a yardstick for measuring what's right. I know men who are major players in Niger Delta region, married to many wives, they have chefs[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font] who assist but what they eat is cooked by their first or favorite wife. Una too sabi dey mention prominent people as yardstick for what's right or what should be normal because they are wealthy or famous.Think with your brain

tctrills:
What does protecting innocent, powerless and precious unborn babies have to do with misogyny?
Yup can't keep killing humans in the name of women's right

kiddaz:
Make people dey deceive themselves. Children need home cooked healthy meals to grow and develop properly and a man needs home cooked healthy meals to function and grow gracefully into old age amongst other things, so does his wife. If you like say house help or private chefs or wtv you want to call it. Your entire family will be at the mercy of one outsider that you don't know his/ her heart towards you. We like to play stupid games in these parts of the globe claiming it's being woke yet y'all are still in deep slumber with little hope of ever waking up

uzhiyeka:
People like you are the problem we have in Africa... A serious topic is been discussed and your bringing your brainwashed religious mentality here you better wake up day never still break for wia u dey so.