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JustPowerApps:
A man should marry in his 35-40yrs, Joeboy is not 35🌝

But men are getting married at 19. Why must he be 35? Hence the rise in children with autism. They're born when their father is closer to 50 or 60.

Your profile photo?

Ishilove:
Cyracuse Ibekwe 🤣🤣

Compared to what these people churn out everyday, Cyracuse was a Pulitzer prize grade journalist. At least he had originality. 🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️

Lmao. You remember him.

Wish he would come back and write again. His was an art—a lost one nowadays.

I never knew of a place called Igando, but while reading his stories my imagination went wild and, sad to say, embarrassing even, i wanted more salacious and outrageous tales of Igando. That man, a legend who disappeared like the avatar.

JustPowerApps:
Parents and marriage sha, what does Joeboy need marriage for exactly, he is balling, he is free.

Tying himself to boring responsibility is not really the best.

Yet there's a baby as your profile photo. Isn't that a responsibility?

Do you practice what you preach?

He's not looking his best either.

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airsaylongcome:
Longbrutality 😂😂😂😂😂. That's a new one

Regarding Eye of Lagos, their AI slop is overwhelming now. Every damned post has the hallmarks of AI all over it

Very tiring. Once you see the theme in the topic, don't bother opening.

It's like the time there was this Cyriacus Something- Something guy who would deliver some of the most outrageous news in Nigeria. Ishilove should remember him. That man made the news at AI proportions. Ghastly.

However, these threads with these colorful bullet points are losing attention because they are crafted. And obviously so.

VaginaAcademic:
God forbid I get my own clipper and na prayers no be by personal carefulness.

There are a lot of chronic diseases worse perhaps, and without subsidy. Nobody talks about them. Not even long covid.

airsaylongcome:
This Retroviral Solution moniker is so blatantly hawking it’s disgusting. Add to that using AI generated write up. Block for three weeks repeatedly.

That’s what I’ve been using to rest from EyeofLagos and all their alts

Airsaylongbrutality.

Eyes of Lagos is an interesting character though.

Gerrard59:
We've to agree to disagree.

Do have a nice day.

Because men are hypergamous?

Like everyone doesn't know men are after money and perks. 98% of men are princesses and wish to embody the princess treatment, but they don't get what they want. So they pretend women are hypergamous to conceal it.

Is this a gay unveiling or what? He should not feel different for his choices. But he must state them clearly, not these images. Lip gloss, rainbow colored hair, piercings, tight top... Let him be proud and say it.

Gerrard59:
In most liberal parts of the world, women have equalled the employment rate. For instance, in Nigeria, Zenith Bank employs more women than men. Today's women have more opportunities than their forebearers. In some industries, women constitute over 70% of the employees. Women have so much freedom, money and opportunities today than ever before.

The bold is untrue, and you know it. Women are hypergamous. It's innate and this applies across all cultures, racial groups, religions and counties. If men are hypergamous, it's because men are now playing in women's fields. Two can play the game.

Men are hypergamous, otherwise we wouldn't have this thread.

Gerrard59:
Because women have taken up 50% of the jobs in the labour market, yet women have maintained their hypergamy. So men are now playing in women's fields. Just as women are now being polygamous in nature.

May the best gender win.

50%?

Where? Worldwide?

Men are hypergamous, otherwise we wouldn't have this thread.

Fenrir:
Everyone is subject the law of a country, Every single citizen even the government and police, thats the problem with Nigeria Everyone thinks they are above the law

And avoiding cultures is the 2nd xenophobic and culturally narcissistic problem if you cannot blend cultures freely instead of demanding submission to yours then you should all strongly consider never leaving Nigeria

But Nigerian man wants to eat cake and have it all and more, even creating customs to enforce it. Otherwise they whine about the west.

Fenrir:
Its not the women that are desperate for it, its the fathers and uncles

The patriarchy?

Why should men be against these customs built by men to stay in control?

Gerrard59:
Women across all economic classes are hypergamous. They seek men who are financially higher than they. It is natural for a woman. Billing here means a woman desires her man or a man spends on her in one way or the other.
Do women earn their money? Yes.
Do they spend this money on themselves? Yes.
Do they still wish/want/desire their men or men to spend on them? Yes. This spending comes in many ways, but men have to spend. That is just the koko.

Men are hypergamous, otherwise we wouldn't have this thread.

Gerrard59:
I have addressed the bold in a series of comments on Nairaland.

Today's women aren't like yesteryear's women because they earn their own money, can independently control the childbearing process, and have so much freedom to decide what they want for themselves. Most importantly, as these women now earn their money, they become assertive, which is a normal trait for humans. A woman who earns her money, can decide how many children she wants and knows the freedom she has today isn't necessarily going to be as "submissive" as her mother.

The summary is that women have changed, but men have yet to realise this profound change.

Then why call women billers?

Fenrir:
I have no problem with the bride price, I think it should be legally mandatory worldwide for a lot of reasons just done in a vastly different way

But 1 people in an entire country says its mandatory for a man to get on his stomach at his wedding no matter what country or culture he's from and if is a totally forbidden act in his culture they will still demand that he insults his people and his heritage while his people watch to please there is not a culture of humility and respect especially since there is direct evidence in your country that yoruba ancestors would not have done prostration if the bride is not a Virgin

Fella I was married to a yoruba woman and I didn't do it, I sent her father to prison over it and just took her and married her

If prostration was mandatory then I wouldn't have been able to do that

My daughter is half yoruba
Her mother passed of cancer and now im married to an igbo woman and still did no traditions its cultural narcissism to demand and manipulate the world into 1 particular culture and highly illegal under your laws

I wouldn't know the law, as I am not subject to it. But I'd say the prostration is their culture. If you don't want to do it, and you know she's desperate for it, don't marry her then. I think this is why people avoid certain cultures.

Fenrir:
Why do you keep using the bride price as your ammo? I have no problem with a bride price

I just wont do it the way you say, mother, father, siblings that who it should go to not irrelevant extended family that dont matter

And how are yoruba traditional people with values and respect and humility they claim if they wont admit they dont deserve prostration if they do the white cloth tradition as well

You've been writing about humiliation. And that is from the bride price, no? Because the custom wants prostration and a big family inclusion, right?

I don't know what the other tradition you mentioned is. I only know the bride price because it's universal.

Fenrir:
Nope
There are 371 tribes in your country
370 expect a man to kneel for a blessing but if that man says no the majority and mean almost 99% will just accept the word no and will substitute it with him sitting or bowing or just drop it completely

For 370 tribes nothing about a traditional wedding is mandatory at all and adjustments and compromises will be made because the families know its not about them in any form at all

Now whats the attitude with 1 tribe that demands prostration? Do they throw a hissy fit and start insulting and try to destroy the relationship if a man says no?

Why is it my country? Is it yours? Or are we all sojourners on a public forum?

The prostration tribe. Is that why you are bitter about marriage bride price customs? You felt humiliated by their dramatic rolling on the floor? We often see pictures of them doing it here on the forum. They do it all the time, even their celebrities. Why? That's their culture. Distasteful, but I've seen naked cultures so who am I to judge? What i don't want to see is people from such a culture who abide by it pushing western ideals when they want their women to bring the lazy, primitive men money.

Brimstone77:
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Now i want your honest answer, will you allow your sister or daughter to engage in those hustle you mentioned above?

He's advocating it, so he must.

Fenrir:
Women and children is just basic human decency chivalry is.....

A man opening all doors for his woman when out with him,

At restaurants and eateries making sure she is seated and comfortable before he is

Pulling her seat to seat her

Sending her random little gifts, nothing huge just so he knows hes thinking of her

Giving her his jacket or jumper if shes cold

When walking the streets making sure hes the closest to the road

Carrying her when shes exhausted

Etc, how does chivalry care not money? Chivalry is care not financial

The black guy from the marvel movies cant remember his name Anthony something said it best

If you are out and about with your man and other men harass and assault you, you'd expect your man to use his fists to have a discussion with them, so when your man ask you to make him a sandwich then you make him a sandwich

Thats the real problem with Nigeria in this case

The women are becoming men and the men are becoming women and still expecting submissive women

Lol the sandwich one. You've said it all.

There was a time on this forum that Nigerian men were demanding that women go to war, to prove equality at the height of the red pill, and I asked them why women should go to wars that men started. They have no responsibility or chivalry.

The only thing they can agree on is misogyny. Anything else beneficial to society? No, as it won't benefit them directly and soothe their egos. Money is the Nigerian man's chivalry.

What is the particular tribe?

I see you have a campaign against the very fabric of Nigerian men. What do you bring to the table?

Fenrir:
How? The Philippines doesn't have this attitude
Thailand doesn't have this attitude both countries the average salary is a lot less than a Nigerian salary

Where women can literally work in bars to be holiday girlfriends to men like me and still find a husband that adores her later In life

Its not poverty thats a problem with a country its the men that run the country that is always the problem with a country

Lady men are doing well, then.

I will agree with your last sentence.

Fenrir:
and how do you think they gained that attitude? Because you all lost the traditional values you all harp on about so much

If there is a disaster in this country, like titanic proportions are the men of this country of the belief that its women and children getting saved first? Or more the attitude its a free for all?

Take Norway for example (my home)
2 cars break down
1 is a woman and 1 is a man both are stranded in quiet country roads

The phones for help 20 minutes before the woman, who do you think is going to be sorted first?

If a man and a woman are stranded and both are alone and in different areas, what can happen to a woman that doesn't really happen to a man outside prison environments

The majority of men here simply are not men because they are not willing to take a bullet for their wife and kids

How is there chivalry in poverty? Though they were never chivalrous. I am yet to read a story of Nigerian men going to war. What they need is what women are bringing into relationships.

Fenrir:
Stop using poverty as an excuse, you are suffering a literal brain drain as a country your best and brightest minds are leaving the country because you hold them down from jealousy instead of seeing them as a resource to the country and using them to improve the country

You literally value religion over education, show me any country in the world that has dragged itself out of poverty valuing religion over education? In this country in today's world children have been abandoned and the family calling it witchcraft because the child was too clever to young

The majority of the time religion over education = poverty especially a particular religion where women are second class

Now remind me what particular religion is 52% of your country?

Based on the topic of the thread, I'll bet you the person who had that conversation is or was poor. It's the only constant in misogyny. Poor men hate women.

Fenrir:
All men can bring is money? Thats just proof that you know nothing about traditional marriage only the humiliation rituals you call traditional weddings

In most countries, why did men get to vote before woman? Answer = because the men agreed that in the event of war they fight it so women and children stay at home safe, if you think all a man brings is money that kind of speaks volumes about your character and what you can personally bring but in a true traditional society that values TRADITIONAL MARRIAGES not humiliation ritual weddings

The man brings.......

Provision
Protection
Hes safety and security
There is a traditional reason worldwide why men take a particular side of the bed (whatever side os closest to the door) so if anyone breaks in they go through the husband before they can get to the wife

You seem to forget that traditionally worldwide women were the gatekeepers to sex and children. Marry her or you get neither

But men were always the gatekeepers to marriage, the family unit, protection, Provision no woman can get married unless a man wants to ask her to marry him

You're off on a tangent. I know what i responded to there.

In Nigeria, men don't work on themselves. They believe all they need is money. But they want the world from women, and condemn women so that women will take up their responsibilities as men. On other words, they want to become women.

Fenrir:
Its not a poor country or poor lifestyle phenomenon, almost all American men black and white are asking this question, as well as black men anx African men all over the world, the Philippines is considered a poor country are they asking this question? Thailand? Vietnam? Are Asian men at all asking this question? Its not about rich or poor, are Europeans? Some European countries are poor, Australians do you hear Europeans or Australians say any of this?

For Nigerians it is poverty. Their young men are poor, dumb and will ask students this question to prove a point that doesn't even exist. Why? Because in Nigeria that's not the culture, so when trying to be western they ask this dumb question meanwhile poverty is their way of life. I'm yet to see a rich Nigerian man ask it. One who was born rich. Not the poor misogynists who got lucky.

Ask why he doesn't approach a working woman.

Gerrard59:
I saw the post on Instagram.

This dating thing should be simple: date within your social circle/class. I find it odd that a working class man would ask a student what she brings to the table. In every part of the world, students aren't classified as workers. If you want your woman to be a working class contributor, date a working class woman. There are many women out there who earn their own money. Don't expect the same from a student.

It seems most men don't know what they really want. You cannot date a student and not expect immediate billing. Women generally are billers. So many confused young men these days.

You were right, until your penultimate sentence.

What would you say to "Men generally are greedy". Men want a home body and still want the person to bring them money, because the only thing men bring is getting money, but they can't even do that alone so create unrealistic expectations to make women fulfill their responsibilities for them and keep wanting more.

It's why a supposedly thinking man will want the body and full services of a teenager in university and still want her to give him money.

Then shame her publicly without addressing his greed. And get support from other dunderheads.

Fenrir:
Can you really 100% put the blame on gen z men? Who did they it learn from? What kind of positive masculine influences were the fathers? The truth is boys only grow to be like this if men of the generation before were complaining about it and this a black man, an African man and all American men phenomenon

Show me any evidence you can of European men saying any of this or asking this question at all? Show me evidence of Asian men asking this question? Australian men, 🤢🤢 the men of a particular belief system in the middle east?

It's why they are lazy, Young, primitive men. I didn't want to add that it is only poverty that births that stupid question they create threads about and post for 9 pages on it.

It's appalling how they follow teachings online and all start bleating the same thing. This what are you bringing question is something they were all taught to ask some years back, and because they don't think for themselves, they ask it always and in the dumbest situations possible. It makes them sound like gold diggers and exposes the average IQ of poverty.

Their fathers never asked that dumb question, yet they have mothers.

Kobojunkie:
Probably the very same thing your grandmother, great-grandmother, and maybe even your mother also brought to their tables. She is basically auditioning to be a traditional wife to the man. Why is that not good enough?

It's not good enough because most lazy, young, primitive men want to have their cake and eat it.

She's pretty clear with what she's bringing, though it's dumb to ask a student what they are bringing. To show you the perspective of the average dumb Nigerian misogynist, he's asking what someone who is probably still schooling and is 18 is bringing to the table for him. What was he doing at her age? What do 90% of kids whose parents send them to school do for a living while in school?

The slowpoke is asking what she brings. You'd be surprised he's only bringing money. And misogyny.

Lol. She knows you people are so incredibly dumb. There was a lot of jubilation at the judgement from poor men all over the forum. Now that she's spoken, watch the next twist they will give us here.

Hhh4444:
who did we copy white wedding from? Or you want to copy only some part and leave the rest? Go and check,oyibo hardly do loud weddings. Of course,there are outliers. Na we dey loud,to the extent we borrow to impress those that don't give a Bleep about us.

But why only copy the no wedding parts? Is that your Nigerian culture? Are you a westerner? Without western weddings, Africans have been doing glam weddings. Unless poverty nowadays has a hand in it.