RisenPhoenix:


Restrict your rants to your maga boyfriend who did not train you well, woman. Did you really think I am at all interested in what you have to say? What do you have on offer that a $100 sex doll cannot offer a cleaner and less smelly version of?

Typical, predictable, sex obsessed thing
When you cant come up with an intelligent response to a woman, insult her vagina. Boring.
The earlier you unlearn and relearn, the better for your stale life.

RisenPhoenix:


Such concern about wanting to change his mind shows a simp mentality. It IS the wife's chore. Tell him that he's right about that but a man can help out with the chores ONLY IF HE WANTS TO, while a man's real chore is about making money for the family.

Otherwise, your approach will empower his wife to make him wash her undies in future and he'll have you to thank for that.

This is how you dolts "unsimp" yourselves into uselessness
Your redpill brain cannot envisage that the 4 year old child would get married in the next 25 years at least
Do you really think that this women belong to the kitchen and men belong to the office crap you people are struggling to hold onto would exist in the next 10 years?
Take a look around you, is it only men that were affected by this keke and okada ban? Did you not see men and women protesting side by side (occupy Lagos protest)
Everybody should learn how to wash clothes, everybody should learn to make money. It is a necessary survival skill.
If a man washes his wife's panties, is is bad? No be him dey chop wetin pant dey cover?
It is men like you that look after their wives after childbirth, cook for them, clean them up , hold the baby while she sleeps, they dont have two heads
yet some of you are pushing an outdated narrative that makes you so useless to your partner that you cant boil water
That why why your wives make useless shakara and refuse to cook when they are angry cos they know you are uselessly useless in the kitchen.
Keep making yourselves irrelevant, Women are replacing you in the boardrooms, dildos are replacing you in the bedrooms
Dont reinvent your selves please. Dont be a "simp". Mtcheeew

creolehunt:


So what's your point?

My point is that you people are quick to share bills with your wives/fiances but never share the domestic responsibilities
You people are quick to say what you did for her but never say what they do for you
See how all of you are on the other thread saying your families come before your wife, bla bla bla
Will you also tell your families your wives pay at least half of the bills?
I thought Nigerian women contributed nothing to the household and lives of their husbands? Why are we now being asked to pay for weddings
Abi would the man agree to answer our surname?

That is how the woman would pay most of the wedding bills and household bills, tomorrow they would wake up and say
"Get out of my house"
"I used my money to marry you"
"You don't have a say in this house"
"Your place is in the kitchen, etc
I hope you have also imposed half of the house work and child care on your self, the way you have imposed half of the wedding bills on her
This is the reality of a lot of married women in this country. They inherit more than half of the bills in the family, none of the equality, all of the chores, none of the respect etc.
Tomorrow, this one would impose his family on the woman wait on hands and feet, they would never tell the truth about how the bag of rice his family is swallowing was bought by the woman o
If only their ego was directly proportional to their finances. E for good o.

SaintsSamurai:
Absolute Rubbish.

For all the women selling in the market.

For all the women selling shoes on Instagram and Twitter.

Who gave them the money for the shoes and the business?

Is it not the same NIGERIA men.

The phone you are using to type this bullcrap, who bought it for you?

Is it not your boyfriend.

How many ladies are passing exams or graduating from the University, without getting forked by lecturers?

Tell me the truth, haven't you had sex with a lecturer before?

So yeah, the men still controls things in all levels.

How many female CEO do we have in NIGERIA that got there without the help of their pussies which was forked by this same Nigeria men?

Everything being held by women today in Nigeria were as a result of this same Nigeria men.

Sadly, your mind is so little. It cant comprehend
Which men are giving women money to start businesses?
Is it the naira abi naija bet addicts?
Or the ones that push their wives to collect loans on their behalf?
How many women have you started businesses for?
Wait o! are you even earning anything?
Dont tell me I have been wasting my time on an economically valueless pikin

SaintsSamurai:
In every country, there are both the good and the bad.

No country is perfect in the world.

In America, it's always gun violence.

In England, it's always knife violence.

In other countries like in South America, it's drug business.

So therefore do not put Nigeria on the stake and crucify the men because of internet fraud.

Take a look at the positive energy and recognition, the men are bringing to the Country.

Look at all what we have done.

Go to Onitsha and see creativity by men.

Go to the West and see how men are leading in Education.

Come to the south and see how men are leading in computer and IT.

Go to the North and see how men are leading in Security and fight to protect the country.

Yet there are no coresponding success response from the women.

All they know is Snapchat, Instagram and Twitter.

Trying to auction themselves to men.

Even the internet frausders you talked about, 90% of NIGERIA women will gladly open up their vagina for these same frausders.

For every man in onitsha hustling, there are 2 women making hair for a living
For every male westerner that passes an exam, there are 2 females that pass with same or higher scores
For every male Northerner fighting a war,there are 2 female northerners selling kunu under the hot sun to feed the children
For every male butcher in the market, there 5 market women with tables around him selling fish, vegetables, grains.
Women are toe to toe economically with men in this country, head to head, neck to neck
We use instagram to sell shoes, bags, clothes, hair etc
We are taking over your jobs in the offices, robots and automated systems are taking over what is left of them
You are losing your economic relevance everyday and instead of you to look for ways to upgrade, you are here
Your fellow men are now even dragging men with females, spreading those ass cheeks wide for some coins
Get realistic please, is it not the same men that follow the girls on snap, insta and twitter?
Keep whining here, while we keep replacing you every where.

Oh, and its "fraudsters" , not whatever jtfftshsvvvght you typed up there.

SaintsSamurai:
I was thinking you would estaminate [/b]our facts with [b]prove, to
Execute the facts.

But all you have said over and over again, are what you all (Nigeria feminists) have been saying for years now out of the need to defend your kinds.

There was never a time when whites were hoping to look for big booty because they thought black women got some.

And if you must know, we spoke about Latinas.
There is a different between a white woman and Latinas.

Latinas are the real women with naturally big booties and round figure hour Glass shapes, all over the world.

How many of your NIGERIA [/b]actresses, Ini Edo, Tonto dikeh and 80% of Rich Nigeria women have all gone under the knife, just to have an hour Glass shapes like Latinas.

You must know that Nigeria women are the women with the[b] most low inferiority complex, in the whole wide world.

We NIGERIA men are the reason why the Whites still respects NIGERIA today.

Nigeria men are the reason why Nigeria is known worldwide.

We put NIGERIA in world news.

From Chinua Achebe, to[b] woke[/b] soyinka, to Fela, To Good luck Jonathan, to Dangote, to Adenuga, to Wizkid, to Davido, to Burna boy, to Ndidi, to Mikel obi, to Jay jay okocha, to Kanu. Etc.

Nigeria men, you lots will still be slaves to the Whites.

Without Nigeria men are the reason why you can put on make ups.

Put on pants and bra and shoes.

We are why you have the phone you are using because we made the business and international deals available.

Tell me the use of Nigeria women in our economy and country as a whole, under than to go into Surgery to look like Kim Kardashian or gossip from morning till evening or to buy fake hair and nails and make ups and bleaching creams just to look at the same Light skinned women.

1. Proof
2.Estaminate? WTF is that?
3.Kind
4.Nigerian. Gosh!
5.Lowest

You are so incoherent man..

Nigerian men put Nigeria in the spotlight for the right reasons? Lol. I am hollering.
Maybe its Nigerian women that are known for the popular Advance Fee Fraud aka the Nigerian scam
Or maybe we are the ones that wont let our Malaysian hosts breathe due to incessant clashes
I really hate to start underlining how bad some men have made us look internationally, as I truly am saddened by it so I dont even want to start countering you with facts.
You put Nigeria in the world news for ALL the wrong reasons please.

1StopRudeness:


some men are just really old fashioned.....it might not really be about love not loving her and it might also be..

.i just feel it's not something to call off a relationship leading to marriage....ive seen relationships some men don't even want to do anything but still want to be with u for real....and 10yrs into cohabiting after kids they regularize.....im not saying it's the best don't get me wrong, however it's civilization that brought all these court thing and some ladies just want it as a show off. while some men just don't like the stress and consider it unnecessary marrying 3 different ways before he can start officially straffing....
I've heard a lady who even said it must be that ikoyi registry, as in, she must snap infront of that green sign-board....

Everyone should have a vision for their lives
If the woman wants a court wedding and the man does not want then it's best to go their separate ways.
What is there to show off in a court marriage?
Am I missing something here?
A lot of women are getting wiser because they saw what their mothers passed through and would be foolish to go through the same.
Court marriages are the cheapest and easiest way to get married so I don't see the stress there
The OP just wants to be free to do whatever he likes, without being held liable.
Let them go their separate ways and marry whoever agrees with them so that nobody feels cheated

Yes oooo
So what else is new
Just a bunch of men that would reject their mothers food but would lick their plate if the same food is served in their neighbours kitchen
Full lips and curvy round bottoms naturally possed by the black women were seen as crude and unattractive years ago because the whites hated it.
They started surgically enhancing themselves to look like blacks and cashing out on it (the kardashians et Al). Now every man wants a thick woman with fat lips both up and down.
Black women are the least attractive but currently hold miss world, miss universe, miss America titles.
See that one up there justifing plastic surgery on an Arab lady, but would label a Nigerian female insecure for getting her body done.
Ask them to bring out pictures for comparison and boom, they whip out shakira's pictures
Next thing they would compare Kim kardashian with the average Nigerian woman with 4 children.
Always comparing apples to oranges.
If compare them to the fellow men abroad now, they would start crawling back into their enclaves
The phones they are using to type jargon, no be small Chinese/japanese children half their age assemble am?
Technically backward, zero innovation, ordinary tyre sef, una no fit produce and y'all are here having fantasies about porn stars? LMAO.

1StopRudeness:


maybe she Don go look ur future...lol

Anyways, some ladies generally feel a court wedding will not allow a guy misbehave like leaving engaging in polygamy or bigamy...

she doesn't really love u, she just want to get married for change of marital status..hence, her rigid stand.....if she loves u, she would have married u.. it's somethin she can still get from u later in the marriage

Or maybe he doesn't really love her?
I mean, is not like the OP is Bill Gates or Dangote na?
I like the babe sha, no time. She knows what she wants and has moved on sharp sharp.
OP you have ulterior motives, that is why you have refused to legally marry her.
You are so focused on not letting her take advantage of you that you don't even know that court marriage is a 2 way thing. Whatever she stands to gain from you, you also stand to gain from her.
Please look for a woman that does not mind forfeiting court marriage and stop whining.

ImaIma1:


If you read her other posts, you would understand why? He apparently set up the husband with the lady and still went to report him. He isn't actually a saint but the demon himself

Lol. Sis shebi na the friend drag two of them enter room.
If oga did not want to do, he would have just ended the introduction at "pleased to meet you"
Abeg leave matter, guilty men blame everyone but themselves.

tenmariner:
U and your hubby need to handle this matter carefully and yet seriously esle this lady WILL ruin your marriage and that's a very big will.. Taking the child is a game by her but if u play that game well, u will laugh last. I will advice u take the child and bury any form of annoyance and see her as yours. I know this is very difficult but u just need to make up your mind on it and u will begin to like him. After that, look for someone in that girl's family. Most of the time, this type of lady are usually bone in the neck to her own family but there will be someone she respect nevertheless. Sit her down in a meeting with some key family and explain in CLEAR TERMS what she wants and what u CAN do. Do not agree to something u ultimately know u cannot fufil. Set rules that separates both boundaries because trust me, she will want to invade you and your husband's privacy on the premise that her son is living with u. After this pray to God to take control and love your husband more.

Exactly!

Madam I am sorry to say this but you sound very naive.
You need to start trusting less and start protecting your yourself more.
Stop this "me and my husband against the world" shit you are doing and get realistic.
This your husband's family may still go behind you and collect the child.
For the woman to boldly change her name to your husband's, something is giving her mind
Instead of you to go and thank the person that told your family with a bag of rice and big fowl, you are angry with him. For what exactly?
Be grateful to God for revealing these things to on time.
Some women have found out about their husbands other
family during his burial.
Turn this situation around and be in charge.
You are one that is wronged. Not you and your husband.
This is the best time to make your demands on how you want this arrangement to turn out.
If you don't control things, your husband will keep having kids with her and by then, there would be nothing you can do about it.
Your husband was not forced to sleep with her. He did so repeatedly without protection.
I wonder why you are still blaming the friend for telling you.
Abeg take control of the matter o. E don happen be say e don happen.
You can bring up the idea of surrogacy to him if you people can afford it.

inioluwajoe:
no he did not. I admit that the story is one-sided . I have my faults too. you are a wise woman and I like you for the way you answered

lol

PstJohn:
Give me a moment.
Five things make a husabnd resent his wife to the extent of shaming her bodily.

1. Arrogant display by his wife. Have you become pompous in recent times? You talked about sharing bills fifty-fifty. A woman who brags about sharing bills is arrogance personified.

2. Power tussle. What decisions are you refusing to let your husband have his way on? Men progressively develop resentment towards women who threaten their decision-making position within the family.

3. Financial fights. Do you constantly fight over money to the extent that you remind him of how you "fed" him when he had nothing? You seem to acknowledge it your write-up that money is part of the issue.

4. Your personal hygiene. Sex dies with the death of body management. What has changed about the way you take care of your body? We can blame him for not "loving" your body anymore. However we must acknowledge his human sensitivity which is very natural. Your hygiene should not die because you have "secured" a man on a permanent basis especially in this age where marital sanctity means little to many.

5. Respect. Do you still respect him? Did your regard for him wane drastically after you both got married? Familiarity should never erase respectfulness. Retain your respect for your husband, and he will retain his love for you.

All said and done, find the devil that has crept into either of or both of you and kick it out now. Your home isn't lost yet. Pray, involve a counsellor that he respects, and pray more. JESUS wants your marriage to flourish! Shalom!

Hahahahaha
I like how you cast all the blame on the woman
Far be it from an egoistical man to be at fault
Of course, it must always be the pregnant woman's fault that she is fat, make she diet or enter gym abi?
She pays 50% of the bills so she has bragging rights!
She is a partner in the marriage so she has equal decision making rights!
You people want the woman to be an equal in paying bills and a subordinate in making decisions. Lmao! Pick a struggle
Blame it on the devil, blame it on the woman, never on an poorly behaved man.

Unseating Buhari in 2019 is a project that all forward thinking Nigerians should unite towards , regardless of ethnicity, religion or party.
There are no permanent friends or enemies in politics.

There is a pay disparity between genders
It might not be apparent as much in the few multinationals but it is very evident in indigenous companies
The HR would offer a woman less even at the point of negotiation
It is assumed that the man has more dependents so will need more money
When you enter a department in an indigenous company, with a man and woman doing the same job, the man is paid more
Often times, if there is need for retrenchment, guess who is sacked first , regardless of qualification.
I mean, some companies don't even employ married women
Pay disparity among genders is very present. Even in the structured companies, it exists in their contract or 3rd party staff.

Elder0001:


If you aren't a half legged coward ,why can't you quote me with your main account?

You were talking about feminism but you still have traits of patriarchy.

You must think me jobless like you to be switching b/w accounts
swerve!

Pipedreams:


Woe to that man that will marry this succubi...death is bliss

O well, that's one less thing for to worry about then , isn't it?
Bloody hypocrites.

Elder0001:


So much bitterness .

My post doesn't reflect my mind or my life views.

Why are you angry ?? You need urgent psychological attention

Oh Please
You go about waving your masculinity like a flag but you cant even take half of what you dish out
STFU

Pipedreams:


You will marry your father last last or just buy a puppy and live alone. Do not make hell of a mans life. Please never marry. If u cant be respectful and submissive as a woman ought to be you have no business in my house. If u like be babagindas daughter i will pursue u. Ur a sad woman

Yen Yen Yen, blabbist
Do my words make your deeq shrivel up in fear?
Do you cower when you read my posts?
Good! Not all women will take the crap y'all vomit here on a daily.

Elder0001:



Why are you inherently stupid ?

I copied 1-3rd line but the topic heading and the rest of the post was created by me.

I search for topics online and when I find little stuffs of substance,i copy some lines and add what I want to form a complete article.

But your stupidity won't let you see things from a bigger view. I pity the man stays with you.

Weakling! own your crime.
You keep proving how unreliable your words are
Neither here nor there, confused soul.
Oh! Did I just say black? I thought I just said white!, No I meant grey.
If you cant even be true to yourself, how then are you a prize for some woman?
So you mean say person go look you finish thank God.
Tueh!

Elder0001:


Listen carefully rude woman ,this is an article copied from a site.

Wtf is wrong with you ? I encourage feminism and women rights a lot on this site but I don't have to create such threads all the time.

Majority of women are gold diggers ,the fact that I support or preach feminism doesn't mean I should asslick women and not say the truth.
If your actions portray you as a parasite you'll be addressed as such.

So you are just a copycat then
You plagiarized someone's content without due acknowledgement and here you are preening like one who just invented electricity. Meanwhile you are nothing more than an intellectual property thief.
See what I am saying? shameless egoistical mofos.

Elder0001:



You're very stupid. Why can't you put across your message in a polite and civilized way ?

Lol, you have done nothing to earn my respect so I don't have to be polite to you.
You lots don't understand civilized language, you go about painting women as parasites and expect me to be civil to you? GTFOH.
People of your ilk don't deserve respect from women.

Elder0001:

There's sense in every nonsense.

Do you believe the bull crap you posted?
Lots of danfo drivers, it their wives that take loans from their akara selling cooperatives or market cooperatives to buy the buses for them
Should we talk of how female petty trader basically have to bring home food from their shops, in addition to making profit and repaying debts that they took to support their families?
If you think men are the only ones paying fees then you must be dafter than you sound.
95% percent of Nigerian men are a nightmare to be married to
Egoistical, poorly trained, lazy, entitled, morally bankrupt lost souls
We see them here on NL every second, see how one opened a thread to glorify himself and his cohorts are trumpeting and bowing in agreement
Luckily, some of us marry the very rare 5%, who understand that marriage is a union of two loving hearts, who unite to conquer, grow and produce children that spread love and peace to the world.
Nigerian women are understanding the scam that marriage is to them, where they work hard and one man claims all their property in the guise of "I own you". That is why they have decided to focus less on marriage and sucking you lots dry. Basically in retaliation for the hell your fathers put our mothers through.

Acidosis:


Ladies of nowadays really need to stop digesting everything they learn from their mothers. It is not a must to have a maid. Most of the time, these women can't even afford the services of the maid, yet prefer to leave the house in order to be classified as working class-working woman. They come back home after 30 days of hustle with less than 100k salary.

Maid stays home, cook, relax, watch Africa Magic and at the end of the month, gets paid between 30-40k with other tips. ...because she works less, sometimes oga can even decide to switch after wifey must have given him a line up of complaints about body ache.

I really don't understand why women are so obsessed with maids.

Anything that gives a Nigerian woman comfort is a thorn to the men's flesh
O! so our mothers actually used maids? I thought they went to the farm with pregnancy and went back to tilling the soil right after birth? Oh! Pardon me, its our grandmothers.
If a woman earns 100k and pays her help 30k, e no concern anybody. Its her money. Afterall the man brings as well abi?
How is it anyone's business hoe she spends her money?
And for the man switching to maids, well, thats not shocking, its what you people have reduced yourselves to.
I don't know why men are obsessed with making their wives suffer

babythug:


The women in the West live in somewhat easier climes......

They have electricity all the time and can bulk shop food items as well as bulk cook for weeks if they do desire.

Availability of electricity all the time mean they have access to labor saving device as may be needed. They can wash and iron when they please . They don't have to bulk iron or wash because "nepa supply is availabile now or the gen is turned on".

Women in the West can work fewer hours and still earn decent income.

Women in the West can plan their schedules and won't be hindered by long hours in traffic. Imagine a mum in Lagos who leaves ikoyi for gbagada at 5 and traffic spans for the next four hours because there is an accident on the bridge. It'll be tougher on her if she had toddlers and no maid for eg

My point is the climes are different and there's no basis for comparison

Why do you bother explaining all these? leave them let them keep comparing apples to oranges
A man abroad comes home and fixes himself a plate, can their nigerian counterparts do that?
They will wait for her to come back from work and start making ofada rice for them, whole they relax with a bottle beer in front of the tv
The chores and split between a man and woman abroad, the wife does laundry while the husband babysits
Here in Nigeria, the wife would back the baby while fetching water or washing.
A Nigerian man feels he should be praised for caring for his baby or washing dishes. After all na man him be.
Being in a woman in Nigeria is hard enough, we are already dealing with enough sh*t in our offices and businesses, so we intend to contract out as much stress as we can.
The help needs the money and accommodation, I need his/her domestic help. Everybody is happy.
Some women are superwomen, handling home, husband and work alone,. I applaud them, their reward is in heaven.

Joyfulgal dont listen to anybody telling you that you dont need a help/nanny.
Pregnancy treats us differently. If their mothers nursed 20 kids without help, while farming at the same time, e no concern you
If you need to have help, and can afford one, please go ahead
I employed my help when I was 6 months pregnant. People were criticizing me and asking me to wait till I have two kids but I no listen to any of them . When they saw how well myself and my help were living, they came to ask for the connection , they wanted help too.
I have one son and I have a help, once I get pregnant again, I go employ the second to pamper me and run all my pregnancy errands
Call me lazy o, I no care. None of them would be around to massage you when your back is aching from bending down.
Abeg get help so that when baby comes, you will have time to bond. Not breastfeeding and pounding yam at the same life.
You make money to have comfort, you wont have money and still be living suffer life because you want people to call you hardworking Hebrew woman."yimu"
Infact make sure you employ a help that can cook very well, or get a cook if you can afford it. Pregnancy is enough stress abeg. You need all the help you can get. As long as no one is giving you money, then you owe no one any explanations.

My problem with a lot of wives is that in the quest to employ househelps that will not sleep with their husbands, they will either employ minor (8 years to 14 years) or a grand ma whom they cant control.
That woman does nothing, she is even too old and entitled. I would advise you let her go and get a younger person that you can control.
I have an 18 year ols help. I leave the house by 7am and return by 6pm and I am not worried cos my son is well fed, the house is well cared for before I return. If she does something I dont like I correct her immediately. For me, any help that cannot take charge, cook, in my absence is useless to me. You no come my house come sleep, na work you come work.
Put gotv in the help's room if the dstv is not dual view. So that she does not need to come sit in the parlour.,