Let me tell the naive people why threads are springing up and down to justify a community stick killed in active duty. It is because the wife is wealthy and self reliant. There is the natural antagonism men have towards wealthy wives.
How dare she have a great career!
How dare she achieve all the things they could never achieve!
She must be having an affair to attain all that, while forgetting thousands of men that are even younger in similar positions.
If it were a poor housewife that lost her husband in such a nasty way, they would be much more sympathetic.
But see them assuming that she was not giving him sex in one breath while saying that all men would cheat, even men that get laid everyday.
Una dey live with them for house to know that they don't have sexx. Shebi he has come to complain to your people that he is starved at home.
Conspiracy theories have risen to say she had a hand in his death. No evidence to support this, people have assumed the worst simply because she has a great career.
Anyway, good riddance to rubbish.
The wife won eventually. Who knows how many times she had pleaded with the man to leave Chidinma alone?
Who knows how many times her husband and his killer had taunted and dared her to do her worst?
Mrs Ataga should just play the hurt widow role very well and and collect all the man's property.
Shebi it is when his family is done with court case that they would have time to drag property with her.
Many married women would start praying for "Chidinmas" to meet their randy husbands
That way they have the public sympathy and can secretly gloat over the shameless death of men who have refused to stay one place.

It's wonderful how not wanting to further one's education has become the SI unit for unambitious.
Yet we would be the first to chant that Mark Zuckerberg and Co were dropouts.
Correct me if I am wrong but your gf didn't say she was going to be a kept woman. She only said she wants a small job with other businesses by the side.
People talk so much about how women change when they travel abroad, but conviniently sidestep the many examples of the men that have travelled and dumped girls who stood beside them or married wives there and had kids in the diaspora while maintaining relationships here.
You speak so much of how you want her to benefit your life, how would you benefit hers if you can't commit to her before travelling.
I do not see how she stops you from achieving your goals, married people and engaged people leave their partners here every day to further their education or look for greener pastures. I am yet to see people that failed to succeed because they were in committed relationships. Is not like you won't start a relationship when you get there sef, so what are you on about?
Having a less demanding job and some businesses would give her time to look after the kids you both would have, and you too. Besides, having all the degrees won't ensure she becomes rich, business doesn't mean she would be broke either. Someone has to take care of the family na. No? All these igbo business tycoons, how many degrees them get? Are you more ambitious than them?
People moan about career wives being to busy but still can't do without them, what do y'all want sef.
My sincere advice is that you break up with her, a clean break. Don't promise that you will keep in touch or anything because you would always feel like you are doing her a favour nd she is below the standards you have set for yourself.
Tell her she doesn't have what you want in a wife, block her every where and stay out of her life, for her own good. It would break her heart totally but she would recover and move on faster.
Meanwhile, you were in a relationship with her for two years and you had no issues with her lack of ambition, now obodo oyibo is calling and suddenly she is no longer ambitious. Women should learn o.

Damedu:
I created this account to disguise and to pour out my mind on some issue.... I married two years ago but due to covid 19 pandemic my work was affected working with a private firm...my wife is a private school teacher she was affected initially because school has been closed...but now she has like six (6) kids she is taking private lesson 3k per kid monthly.... because I can't perform my responsibility again issue started..you know women now and she is fairly bouyant now...I borrow some money from some online application and I couldn't pay back because of no work for now and when she knew about it I became laughing stock when those ones are calling me often and my wife is not ready to help me.... telling me always that she is broke.... actually she cater for 40% of our feeding I source the rest from family and friends
I have been planning to get us another job where I have link..I submitted her CV and mine but the work suit her certificate and the admin in charge told me they might not be allowed to employe husband and wife that one need to step aside for another... if I force my employment there it will be an underemployment for me based on my certificate but it's a perfect employment for her based on her certificate and she will grow in her career in that organisation...but my fear is with the little she earn now from kids coaching she is feeling herself too much because I don't have any source of income for now... should I leave the job for her to be employed or I should take the job because is my sure link....am seriously confused.... don't mind my English am not a grammarian.... pls advice me... thanks

Poverty no go shame us o
See how uncle is dragging 18k with his wife.
For you to admit that she contributes 40 percent that means she does so much more.
When she was gathering students to teach, what were you doing?
Calling people to send you money to feed abi?
She should help you pay a loan from 18k abi?
Women we dey try I swear. You can't even state where she did you wrong!
See ehn, take that job because any job your wife gets through you, she would never hear the end of it.
You would go through the back to make them sack her if you feel she is getting proud because of the job you got her.
She is a hustler, she go make am
Pity she is married to such entitled man who is dragging 18k with her

Ariza:
So many contradictions in one post.
I dig, you advise ladies who desire marriage to hide their sexual prowess but what happens after?

The person you are quoting is an insecure, compulsive liar
He would soon modify his posts

Kingarthur21:

You sound so bitter,who hurt you? Who stopped you from getting satisfaction sexually? Talk to your man(if you have one ) about it na?no one is judging /stopping you. If he doesnt change and sexual satisfaction means alot to you dump him na....as simple as that na

Stop tryna use your slow version of reverse psychology on me
Dumb ass

The 40 seconds gang is out

Wetin be the name of this song again

If you getti woman
Make you fu*k am well well
If you no fu*ck am well well
........

Diseased 2 mins deek paraders thinking they are a prize
Talking about if you want the ring pretend to hate sex
You think your woman is OK with your lousy dick game
Until one badt sharp guy gives her the popular line "your husband is lucky o, if na me get you, I go show you heaven"
Before you know it, person don dey farm for another person farm
Men can lie to themselves all they want about women's sexual satisfaction being irrelevant
But the truth is if God did not want woman to cum, he wouldn't have given us a clit with 8000 nerve endings solely for our pleasure
He wouldn't have given us a gee-spot
The wise ones learn and give their women good loving, making her glow
The foolish ones suppress her with their insecurity and make her look for sexual satisfaction from the wrong places.

Misscongenialit:


Couldnt agree more, its not that they dont know they have become selfish about being satisfied themselves than to satisfy their wives. Rather than give her a good suck on her nipples while handling her clit they are going about looking for BJs. Even when they sex the woman its just dive in and out as if she doesn't deserve to be well handled lole a woman.

Its notnonly gatemen, Bleep boys and sugar boys are making a hell of money, eating the full pot of soup while oga is running up and down licking spoon that everybody has used to scoop

You mean their modest, virginal housewives may be paying sugar sons with ogas money to service her?

That is to say that d Lord-of-the-Manor may not be Lord-of-the-Pussy?
Chai! What a wicked world.

Genset:



Very true. The first time i had sex i was VERY DISAPPONTED and angry too. I had imagined how sex was going to be only to end up disappointed. Then, sex to me was simply overrated. It wasn't long before i broke up with the dude. Nonsense and ingredients . Then, i didnt really know what good sex was about till i met my now boyfriend . Sex with him is simply amazing i must confess. Boy just game and make me change my perception towards sex which is 'Good sex is not OVERRATED actually' . It just has to be good

Shock them sis
Let them know that even a nun knows a horrible man-lay when she meets one
They would always know something is missing, even if you can't put your finger on it

Kingarthur21:

Tell them what will benefit them and you are a misogynist or sexist.

So men now know what will benefit women more than women?
Hahahahaha
That's why y'alls women would rather trib with their fellow women than have sex with ya incompetent deeks

How can they make a woman cum?
When they don't even know where the clitt* is.
They don't know the difference between a vaginal and a cl*toral orgasm
They said on the other thread that making a woman cum is impossible.
That's why they want virgins, who know nothing about sex. Lol
They don't even know that all you need for a woman to squirt are the pads of your middle fingers, rubbing gently on the cl*t hood of a very wet puzzy in a circular motion for 2 mins.
I wish they would learn how to pleasure their wives so that they can stop training their gatemans kids
Lots of wives lose interest in sex after marriage and turn to mast*rbation machines..
Some become actresses in bed
Sheet! These men have a lot to learn.

Gift7428:
Mavis I pray You don't used and wasted by this family oh.

Just see what the aunty is saying.

You still sound like you are so much in love.
Wish you well oh.

Please remember you have a lot of options.
Don't heed to people saying you have no option.

My point exactly
I just knew the family was involved
If they haven't even done intro already
She had better get all she can now
If not they would play her like a Spanish guitar

His family is in on it.
He would go ahead to make a 2nd and 3rd baby with her.
No baby mama is threatening him, he knows what he is doing.
Get used to the fact that the woman is your Co wife.
He would pay for her bride price and tell you 10 years after.
He would say the woman refused to let him see the boy unless he marries her.
He would say she seduced him into the getting her pregnant again.
The earlier you remove love and other mushy emotions and make rational decisions that would help you move forward, the better for you.
Start by dissolving the joint account
By now, you should have even stopped contributing to the house expenses.
Since he wants to be a typical entitled randy naija husband with misplaced ego.
Give it back to him by letting him bear the cost of all your responsibilities.
If he has enough time to get a woman pregnant, he has enough time to make more money

PS: This is the best time to make your demands, and share your assets with him. Now that he is still feeling guilty and pussy footing around the issue. He would be quick to do whatever yob you say to appease you.
Act fast before his family get involved and embolden him, else you are leaving the marriage with nothing.

The dumb trio should shock me naaaa
Give an appropriate punishment for the rapist please.



Pigs would fly first before whatever y'all say would make sense to me

Why is he modifying his posts?
The former wasn't ferocious enough?
Shows his fingers are working faster than his brain.
You can modify posts but you can't upgrade brains unfortunately

The crackhead never disappoints
Prosecute the rapist? Never! He is family.
Suggest on appropriate punishment for him? Naahhhhh He's not a hypocrite.
Won't I rather be a hoe than a rape apologist with verbal diarrhoea?

roseb1:
Now This is the problem I have with most of y'all here in nairaland. You come online and be blabbing as self righteous persons but in reality y'all hypocrite. I can put it to y'all that non of u will arrest ur blood for such a heinious crime. Instead it will be resolved as a family matter.

Why are you people so bent on pushing your abnormal reality on us?
Some of us won't pat our brothers on the back for raping a child, some of us would throw him out immediately.
After all some parents throw their daughters out of the house for being pregnant out of wedlock.
I can see you are so used to covering crime that anyone that speaks against it is a hypocrite.
It is not by force to agree with you naaa, Haba.

pocohantas:
Very soon your brother will grow, with no reasonable handiwork.

Next thing is to become an alfa male. Without conscience or any common sense. Then he will register on NL, the Nigerian online community that encourages such stupidity. He will start looking for virgins...and indulging rapists at the same time.

Some of them are already here. This is exactly how they started. Like your brother.


Una well done.

You know them well
Alfa Malus with their desensitised diicks looking for children to destroy
The posters brother is already heading in the right direction
I mean, he is a free loader, lazy, entitled and sexually perverse
Perfect candidate

yeyeosoronga:


Nobody moves on from rape.
They never do.
It takes a long time even if rape victims are lucky to get the right support, before they can even try to have a resemblance of normal life and relationships.
If their victims are never punished, they cannot move on.
I have seem too many young women, with their lives ruined, suffering from mental health issues because of trauma like this in their past.
Busola Dakolo came out after so many years despite the celebrity status, motherhood and 'wifehood'. Her husband confirmed she kept having nightmares for so long after they married till she was able to trust him with her experience, Yet many say she is telling lies and that she enjoyed it. Her own family were not able to get justice for her, but she still wanted it even after 17 years. Her husband could have easily said let's forget it, because it may 'tarnish' their image and the accused is also popular but he did the right thing for his wife.
We enjoy covering up evil so much till it becomes a cancer that spreads and finally destroys.
Nigerians have to learn to do the right thing.

I am shocked they did not ask to hear the man's side before concluding.
I am sure if it was the husband that was the rapist, they would find a way to blame the wife.
You know how they roll na

ThothHermes:

Frustration

Yes, I am frustrated by the kind of pain that girl is going through
You are just useless I swear

asapeola:


I really find it interesting ur frequent use of the word hypocrisy. Ur calling pple out for what exactly? What is ur intention for "attacking" people who advocated that the law should be allowed to take its course in the sense of justice for the innocent little kid. All ur jargons are meaningless to me cos ur imagination seems to be quite fertile for u to decide what i wld do if i were the lady. Bros, ur not me so dont speak for me or any one else!!!

I wonder where u studied ur law where it is written that sentiments are allowed in justice. A judge who overlooks a case of abetting crimes deserves to be de-benched n shot!

Ur gloating here cos its a stranger raped n ur not bothered. Like i said, when the tables r turned (not necesarrily rape) but a case where u feel helpless and the law is ur last resort, then the judge will also call u hypocrite n dismiss ur case! Shalom bro

What I find disturbing about that sociopath's posts is that he does not even have any reprimands for the rapist. According to the psychopath you are quoting, the rapist is a national treasure that must be protected at all costs!
Anyone that remotely suggests punishment for him is a hypocrite.

Madam say the truth. If it was your husbands brother that raped little Grace like this, would you be so understanding?
Would you let him keep living with you people in that house?
It is well . Let us also remember that what goes around comes around.

Rape apologists every where
You can tell the kind of parents they are by their posts.
A minor was sodomized and still slapped 3 times and when you call for justice, you a labelled a hypocrite.
May this befall on anyone who trivialises this 11 year old child's pain.
How can a mother even be slapping a child that just said she had been sodomized. Jesus! What kind of sick world do we live in?
Fools.

ThothHermes:
You are really smart. The posters have no attachment to the boy, so it's easy to call for his head. While they see a criminal who should put to the sword, the OP sees a sinner that is not beyond redemption. It is a dilemma really.

The posters shouting traumatized and scarred for life bla bla bla are only saying things they see in Hollywood movies. They have no experience with any child that has been raped. Just emotions. A raped child can recover and live a full life.

You are very stupid for saying this
Your foolishness knows no bounds
An 11 year old child was raped through the vagina and anus repeatedly and you think she can just move on like that?
Hear yourself "a raped child"
When they rape your daughters pat them on the back. OK?
When they sodomize your sons, take the rapists for counseling.
After all, they would get over it.
So a rapist is a sinner who needs redemption? Why are we now complaining that Buhari is rehabilitating Boko Haram
You people's foolishness is just wonderful

freecocoahubby:



Don't mind the boring sexually frustrated git! Truth is Brazenbabe actually spends hours ranting on Nairaland because she unfortunately found herself in a long distance marriage where her husband went abroad thus abandoning her to a life of loneliness and sexual frustration.

I pity those who take her rants seriously - constantly repeating the same redundant lines that all e-feminists regurgitate when their little brains cannot conjur up a reasonable response.

Don't waste your time bro.

So I am married? Hehehehe
I thought I was the typical single frustrated E-feminist.
Una no go kill me for this Nairaland