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Prognose:
Well but aren't you the one that allowed third party to enter by discussing your personal business with him?

I just learnt my big lesson bro. Trusting no one.I really thought he was a close friend. Infact, I remember when he had issues with his gf, where she put me in the middle, I made sure I wasn't caught in the web. I let the girl know from the onset that I won't be comfortable keeping any secrets from him, or partnering with her. I even showed him all the chats after their breakup, and it was all in good faith. In reverse, bro goes doing the opposite

AgentGoat:
Ignore both. Don't put too much effort in the relationship again. If your girlfriend call you answer. If she no call you don't ask why. Your chats and calls should be limited now. Look for another girlfriend.

True bro. I got to find more chats pf her with the guy talking about me. She doesn't know i ve seen it, but at this point I truly do not care again

Prognose:
Wait o

And you haven't confronted Samuel about it once? You haven't warned Samuel to stay off

Why r u angry with your girlfriend when your 'best friend' is stabbing you in the back? Abi you dey fear d Samuel?

I am angry with her because at the end of the day, she is the one who allows the rappour to continue. Afterall do girls give face to every tom dick and harry that comes their way. Third parties break things only when someone from the inside allows it to enter

Eden007:
@Browncarton.. why are you tactically ignoring the advice of leaving the girl and samuel Be wise bro. That is the best thing here. Samuel is not your friend and you dont need such people in your life. Cheers.

i am not ignoring it bro. Since I found them chatting, I stopped talking to him. I no longer consider him as my close friend. Its just the girl's issue. What i ve learnt is that girls have a way to emotionallly get around things. I can always spot it from a distance. I ve tried talking to her, but she says its casual conversation and she will stop, only to keep on. Well, I told her that if it continues I ll just move on

carzola:
Get a life
Get money
And most of all get sense

Samuel will soon if he hasn't started fuvcckking
On your hoeeee

Money is not my problem bro, but I get your point. Trying to put more focus on my hustle. Thats the only way I know

eph12:
You're bothered he's going to take her away from you?

Not exactly. I find the attitude of him being that of a snake and I m not comfortable with it. I normally never fight for any girl, so tomorrow, if some random guy takes her away... fine.... but having to see someone I confide in talking too close to my girl is something I really hate

eph12:
You should trust your girl and forget Samuel as a threat. If you can't trust your girl, what are you in the relationship for? How long do you think you can continue to fight her for being friendly with Samuel? Even if this Samuel goes, another Samuel will take his place. Trust your girl to not do what you wouldn't do and if you can't trust her, break up

No bro. Its not about not trusting her, which I do to a reasonable extent. Infact, she does have many friends who she talks to and I have no complaints about that. I am only particular about the guy being my close guy who I have shared personal things about my relationship and my feelings about the girl to.

Pls don't just read and go. Your advice is needed here

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Update...
I confronted the guy and told him to back off and stay away. He tried to lie, but simply let him know I know everything nd he fcked up. He called my babe nd spoke with her after which she told me she was apologising on my behalf nd he blocked/unfollowed her. I was mad nd told her she should never try that again. She caused it and should never interfer. She spoke to couple of her friends who made her realize how shes been behaving(cos there is a lot more to the story than I could put there) and she tried to apologise. However, in my head now, I ve already resolved that I will never bother myself if such happens again. I will simply move on quietly with no explanations.

Well, long story short. I ve been dating my girlfriend from a couple of years now. We met and clicked as we re from same place and other mutual characteristics. When we met, we didn't start dating immediately, and I had this close friend (call him Samuel) whom we do talk very often and I used to tell him about my personal life and situation with her.

Well, at some point, after nysc my GF starts living with her cousin who is a friend to Samuel. Time went past and we were all cool. I started dating this girl, things escalated and we got real close like a couple. Samuel being my guy, I would tell him about some things and all. Anyway fast-forward to some months back, they both start talking off social media and into private chats. My gf tells me they talk and at some point, I requested to see the chat. where I saw Samuel starting out flirty, but then, my gf takaking it into friend mode(you dig) and they continueing on that level.
However, the level of communication continues to become too much or rather too often. I didnt say anything about it tho, but I was disappointed because throughout when Samuel started talking to my gf, he stoped calling me, unless it was very very important and when we saw, he didnt show courtesy of telling me.

Well... Fast-forward to a day me nd my gf had a big quarell. She was with me on that day, when I requested for us to talk, she said she was busy, until I saw her chatting and smiling with Samuel on her phone. I got mad at it, then we had a talk (about our original fight) which denigrated into a bigger argument, where I said things which led her to start crying. Guess what guys, she then called Samuel right in my presense to tell him of what I did.

I got so mad at what she did, really mad, but we settled it eventually. I told her to reduce contacts with the guy to a very basic level cos I don't believe my close friend and my gf can also be close friends. Otherwise and infact, the guy ceases to be my friend. I told her him being inside things makes him too powerful and it should stop. Its been months since that and I found she is still talking to him. She says its casual friendly convo and there is sometimes good nice jokes about or talk about me, but I trust her to an extent (believe me she is quite loyal) But sometimes we guys know how this happens and this my guy hasn't also spoken to me about this and we ve both pretended to ignore this conversation everytime something important comes up. Its caused another quarell again. Infact in the quarell, she said things like "what Samuel said of me is true, that I like to overanalyze little things" This got me really mad. We ve settled it, but deep down I am still angry at what happened. So what are your thoughts on this guys?

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True bro

lenghtinny:
The girl wasn't really interested in him....
He's suddenly became a means to an end after he traveled ( A red flag that's too glaring to ignore).
The only reason why she told him is because he knew this guy. Do you think she will come out clean if the op didn't know the guy in question.
The best thing to do is to abandon anything long distance with a Nigerian girl and focus on girls in his vicinity.


Someone said dating a girl in Nigeria while you are living abroad is like parking a vehicle at owners risk.

Blunt truth bro

phazotron:
Bros u fall my hand. are you trying to tell me there are no beautiful girls in Australia to flex and build a future together with? so u want to have a long distance relationship with these unreliable prostitutes here? even when ure in the country they still not reliable. Bros save yourself heart attack and go for fine oyinbo girl wey go love u legit abeg.

lol. Bro.. Johny don go market go wise up.. Its been a while, and truly, I can't do the LDR thing again

Been a while here.
To update, things got more awkward each passing day, with more mood swings,guilty conscience and unnecessary suspicions.
Had to break up when I couldn't take it again. Been 5 months since then. Thank you all

corkshell9090:
pls landers,I want to know if someone with a second class lower division is eligible to apply for master degree program?t
hank you

Bro. You mailed me?
I cant access the mail
Whats good

debonairprinx:
Interesting experiences we got here uh.
Well mine was a lil bit intentional. Don't climax easily with condoms, makes me clock an hour sometimes though. So I resorted to having it raw, it was with my ex then.
happened to climax inside her vaginal cavity once, though assured me she was gonna take care of it, but I kept calling 2months after while she was in school if She as seen her period.
Just hope she aint gonna give me the shocker of my life in future though.

How did it end bro?

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nnamdiokere45:
so girls can be so stupid, y wld u coba urself all in d name of being honest and still expect a guy to trust u....my guy even ds long distance tin na problem. d moment my relationship bcums long distance, my love becomes long distant. guy move on

Lol.. Bruh, she got two choices, let me later find out, or tell me in the early stages. Wont be cool if I found out myself. And yeah, true, LDR could be tiresome, though she plans on coming over

pcguru1:
Most women love comfort , so you are definitely going to be getting lot more message from girls painting their boyfriends in a bad light. As for if they love a guy I don't know, can't tell or know when one is in love, but for some women you are as good as the last Bleep up, even if you give the world to most girls and make a small mistake, its the small mistake that will broadcasted to others. Be cool plus I hear Australia has mad large spiders ? Is it true

Yeah.. I m cool bruh... Never heard of or seen any spiders, talkless of the large onea. Maybe they re not in the region where I stay.

pcguru1:
Lol dude is in Australia she's in Nigeria what's the point, he can do better.

Lol.. Its not always like that, but as it seems, I m seriously considering exploring here. But guy, naturally, who no like better thing. I sometimes wonder whether a woman can truly love a man, or they actually just love the idea of him, cos trust me, I ve heard so many crazy things from girls since I got here and the way they talk rubbish about their present boyfriends will make you wonder

pcguru1:
What country are you in ? Regardless enjoy life mehn you will meet other awesome and amazing people trust me. All the best.

I m in Australia. Yea bro, I m looking forward to it.

pcguru1:
To be sincere she kinda owes you nothing, you were not in a relationship with her so technically she wasn't cheating so its up to you to decide if you wanna or not, personally I don't judge people on that, because I've slept with a lot of people so I know am not a hypocrite , but it seems you are in another country and I get the sense that you are young, my advice focus on your career , and you guys can be friends, sincerely I doubt dating would work, the thought would always come in mind, am sure its not the having sex that's bothering but who she had it with, just like I wouldn't date someone my friend was involved with, to avoid drama from the friend. So please young man enjoy what the current country has to offer, Job, Career, Relationship and Sex. At some point you will definitely decide what you want in life as for now, dramatic relationships shouldn't be one of your dilemmas you've got a lot of years to play with bro, this life is short don't get hung up on triviliaities, there are many more girls and experiences you still have to go through. All the best bro

Note: Also just a thought it could be that because you've left the country , you might be getting much more attention than ever, there's something RedPillers usually say but can't remember the friend might be the fvckable interest and why you might be the long term goal interest.

Thanks bro... Like you said, its the thought of who it was with that was kinda annoying and the circumstances around it. Well, I got all your points well considered.. Cheers bro

sekxy:
when you developed keen interest towards her,didn't you see another lady all through the time she was snubbing you??just a question to balance the scenario.

No, I didn't, infact I cut contacts with so many people for some periods as I was really focusing on my future plans, which thankfully, worked out.
Pcguru1 whats your take?

Please don't just read and go, please drop your comments

Ditto