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FamilyRe: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by bulbutcher(m): 8:49am On Dec 16, 2019
[quote author=MedicH post=84656729]OK case closed. I mentioned u in another thread can u check that pls[Unnegotiated Desire

And so now we come full circle to the men I was counseling back in the day. Because all they’d ever known was transactional sex their deductive male brains attempted to solve their “sex problem” in the most logistical and pragmatic way – negotiate with her. If all sex ever is for a guy is a transaction – a quid pro quo – then it follows he’ll try to find the best way to ‘pay’ for his wife’s sexual access. Hunter Drew and I were recently discussing a man who Dean Abbot has been counseling and one thing we’ve all seen a lot of from young and old Blue Pill Beta men is this logical tendency for them to want to ‘sacrifice their way to happiness with their wives’. It’s as if the more they sacrifice the more they pay for that intimacy they seek, but what they never get is that this only buries their sex lives that much more.

One amazing turn around a lot of married and single Red Pill guys experience when they unplug is the attention they receive from women when they switch from a transactional disposition to a validational disposition with regard to sex. When a man unplugs and cuts himself away from his Blue Pill conditioning one change he makes is a shift from viewing sex as transactional to validational. In the beginning, when men are first learning Game and becoming more Red Pill aware about the nature of women they really don’t recognize this shift in attitude towards sex. When I say men need to make themselves the “prize” with regards to sex and their attention what happens is they go from the “how can I pay for sex to qualify for it with a woman” to “women will recognize that I represent and opportunity for validational sex”.

The Blue Pill conditions men to base their understanding of sex on a transactional paradigm. It’s all scarcity, and luck or providence that a woman might want to Bleep them. This is why women get aggravated by the presumption that men might feel they are ‘owed sex‘ in exchange for what they do for them. And why wouldn’t men feel that way? They’ve been conditioned for half a life to believe that they should follow the old social contract and become a man with a lot to offer a woman, a wife. This is the transactional paradigm; I build my life to better accommodate a woman and she reciprocates with sex. Women know this too, so all pretenses of indignation about are complete bullshit. What upsets women is that a Beta man would feel entitled to her sexuality for having accommodated her. Alpha men are entitled to it, accommodations be damned, because he’s the man they want to have sex with.]
FamilyRe: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by bulbutcher(m): 8:47am On Dec 16, 2019
[quote author=merahki post=84526904]I really really like this post
Unnegotiated Desire

And so now we come full circle to the men I was counseling back in the day. Because all they’d ever known was transactional sex their deductive male brains attempted to solve their “sex problem” in the most logistical and pragmatic way – negotiate with her. If all sex ever is for a guy is a transaction – a quid pro quo – then it follows he’ll try to find the best way to ‘pay’ for his wife’s sexual access. Hunter Drew and I were recently discussing a man who Dean Abbot has been counseling and one thing we’ve all seen a lot of from young and old Blue Pill Beta men is this logical tendency for them to want to ‘sacrifice their way to happiness with their wives’. It’s as if the more they sacrifice the more they pay for that intimacy they seek, but what they never get is that this only buries their sex lives that much more.

One amazing turn around a lot of married and single Red Pill guys experience when they unplug is the attention they receive from women when they switch from a transactional disposition to a validational disposition with regard to sex. When a man unplugs and cuts himself away from his Blue Pill conditioning one change he makes is a shift from viewing sex as transactional to validational. In the beginning, when men are first learning Game and becoming more Red Pill aware about the nature of women they really don’t recognize this shift in attitude towards sex. When I say men need to make themselves the “prize” with regards to sex and their attention what happens is they go from the “how can I pay for sex to qualify for it with a woman” to “women will recognize that I represent and opportunity for validational sex”.

The Blue Pill conditions men to base their understanding of sex on a transactional paradigm. It’s all scarcity, and luck or providence that a woman might want to Bleep them. This is why women get aggravated by the presumption that men might feel they are ‘owed sex‘ in exchange for what they do for them. And why wouldn’t men feel that way? They’ve been conditioned for half a life to believe that they should follow the old social contract and become a man with a lot to offer a woman, a wife. This is the transactional paradigm; I build my life to better accommodate a woman and she reciprocates with sex. Women know this too, so all pretenses of indignation about are complete bullshit. What upsets women is that a Beta man would feel entitled to her sexuality for having accommodated her. Alpha men are entitled to it, accommodations be damned, because he’s the man they want to have sex with.]
RomanceRe: Is this Pride Or Self Respect? This Has Cost Many Guys Their Relationship by bulbutcher(m): 4:26pm On Dec 14, 2019
Manadan0000:
well that's how you see it but please how do you cope with forcing yourself or trying to convince people who don't value you in their lives??
Pls read
https://therationalmale.com/2018/03/07/transactional-vs-validational-sex/
RomanceRe: Is this Pride Or Self Respect? This Has Cost Many Guys Their Relationship by bulbutcher(m): 4:25pm On Dec 14, 2019
MrCork:
..forget that small boy mennn..am from London.
I beg let's talk about sexx. Do you were thong & please can i get 2 round plus extra kiss & b j?. Be nice!
cheesy
Pls read
https://therationalmale.com/2018/03/07/transactional-vs-validational-sex/
RomanceRe: Is this Pride Or Self Respect? This Has Cost Many Guys Their Relationship by bulbutcher(m): 4:20pm On Dec 14, 2019
RomanceRe: Is this Pride Or Self Respect? This Has Cost Many Guys Their Relationship by bulbutcher(m): 4:19pm On Dec 14, 2019
RomanceRe: See Pre-wedding And Wedding Shots Of Two Nairalanders... by bulbutcher(m): 4:09pm On Dec 14, 2019
RomanceRe: Is this Pride Or Self Respect? This Has Cost Many Guys Their Relationship by bulbutcher(m):
Chukapage:
well my major acheivement ,goals,and ambition ain't women bro! So unlike you, I don't seek validation from women or from pu*I*y so don't bother if I am able to "communicate with the opposite sex" or not, OR wether I get to pee my pants talking to them cheesy it doesn't matter now,my validation and self esteem and worth does not come from the women or wether or not I can communicate with them It comes from my value and worth as an individual.Use that line on yourself maybe your validation comes from p**sy ,you might even be one of those guys who wants to get rich because of P***Y because to even think or trying to attach my VALIDATION to p***y shows I can't even relate with your kind offline or online ,your Moniker says much about your level of Maturity kiddo! So Mr.lilwetdick bye I do throw insults here though but not with your type it's against my principles I like picking on my size.[the second a girl instinctinctively notices you seeking her validation you at fckd girls attraction for men is 90%mental and 10% physical
She s33ksur mental and emotional strength
For 90% of men this statement dsnt compute
10% of men that have their way with girls do it instinctively.
Go to the rationalmale.com /validation sex for further explanation.[quote author=Chukapage post=84693776]you just couldn't wrap your head round a guy not giving a f**k . grin ?.All guys pass true that young foolish phase of doing shit for pussy but it's only some guys that grow pass that phase few though and the funny thing is most of the time these types of guys end up doing good in life because the focus all their energy in adding value to themselves and when you know your worth and the value you bring trust me YOU WON'T ALLOW ANYBODY TREAT YOU LIKE SHIT!
[quote author=Chukapage post=84693776]you just couldn't wrap your head round a guy not giving a f**k . grin ?.All guys pass true that young foolish phase of doing shit for pussy but it's only some guys that grow pass that phase few though and the funny thing is most of the time these types of guys end up doing good in life because the focus all their energy in adding value to themselves and when you know your worth and the value you bring trust me YOU WON'T ALLOW ANYBODY TREAT YOU LIKE SHIT![/quogirls attrction dst wrk like that the second they instinctivly notice you seeking her validation urfucked
Am nt of ur generation BT I learnt the hard way
A girl s33ks mental and emotional strength as her bases of attraction]
For 90% of men this statement dsnt compute
The men that get their way with girls do it instinctively.
U HV to unnderstand
women https://therationalmale.com/2018/03/07/transactional-vs-validational-sex/
Car TalkRe: Advice Needed As Regards Engine Oil Change by bulbutcher(m): 12:59pm On Dec 14, 2019
pls anbody with info abt ams oil
50k km is it true
Car TalkRe: Advice Needed As Regards Engine Oil Change by bulbutcher(m): 12:56pm On Dec 14, 2019
i need info abt amsoil ismit true it can go 50k km shocked
RomanceRe: I Was A Lesbian But Now I'm Straight. Will I Find A Man? by bulbutcher(m): 12:50pm On Dec 14, 2019
congruency testing naso oyinbo dey callam
she is lkn for ppl with mental/emotional strength
in simple english
she dey measure ppls liver
testing the waters, to see the sort of responses she is going to get
Car TalkRe: Signs Of A Bad Catalytic Converter by bulbutcher(m): 12:29pm On Dec 14, 2019
where cani get a new catalytic converter fr my honda accord 2008
and how much
RomanceRe: Liver Tests by bulbutcher(op): 1:28pm On Jun 05, 2019
Raven wives deliberately test their husbands the test neverends
RomanceLiver Tests by bulbutcher(op): 1:26pm On Jun 05, 2019
Guy do you know that girls deliberately test your liver?
And how do you pass it?
RomanceRe: "If A Man Can Have 4 Wives, A Woman Can Also Have 4 Husbands" - Nigerian Lady by bulbutcher(m): 3:57pm On May 20, 2019
I prefer my sister as a fourth wife than a firstbaby mamma
RomanceRe: Women Are In For A Big Trouble (photo) by bulbutcher(m): 10:38pm On May 11, 2019
Lol!

Women aren't in trouble, women are finally free! No more sexual harassment or compulsive intercourse.

In few years time women will have sex only when they want to, there would be reduction or total eradication of sexually transmitted diseases , rape cases will reduce too. No more domestic violence on women.

Women will no longer be seen as sex objects, and freedom to say No to husbands, admirers or boyfriends. Women will be liberated!
the good thin abt all this is no more long conversation b/4sex no wining no dining. Just straight to the point. And they will be200% loyal.
RomanceRe: Women Are In For A Big Trouble (photo) by bulbutcher(m): 11:43pm On May 10, 2019
Kingsley10000:
the truth of the matter is that sex doll of either gender that looks more sexually appealing will breed some degree of jealousy in a relationship.....as a woman,just imagine if your bf or husband buy a doll almost same replica of nicki minaj or rihanna and be bleeping it in your presence
women too will HV their sex dolls
RomanceRe: Women Are In For A Big Trouble (photo) by bulbutcher(m): 11:38pm On May 10, 2019
moshood521:
nobfy form bill gate here....we dea wait 4 our aba tenichians mk dem do our own...
nd fairly use nd london use dea outsyd sef
kai
Car TalkRe: Advice Needed As Regards Engine Oil Change by bulbutcher(m): 12:00pm On May 09, 2019
NobleEngineer:
Hello guys, I have a Car whose engine is very prone to oil shortening. Corrolla 2000. The prescribed oil is 5w30. The original owner I bought the Car from doesn't know the grade of oil his mechanic uses. He said he used to give the mechanic money "take my car go and change the oil n filter"... Now I just bought the car from the owner and its going to be the first service i will do on the car. Which oil should I buy cos what if the mechanic has been putting 20w50 or any other wrong oil....pls advice me.
I was told this particular engine is not tolerant at all with wrong oils. 155k miles

I got the mechanic's contact and spoke with him on phone.. He said he used to put total oil, i asked again which total oil? He said " total oil na" any total quartz 5000 just put am e go work....i put hand for head
try AMSOIL
Car TalkRe: Advice Needed As Regards Engine Oil Change by bulbutcher(m): 11:58am On May 09, 2019
AutoElectNG:
http://lubex.com.tr/en-us/quality-certificates.htm

Mention is made of OEM certifications but none is listed

Is there an API seal on the jug?

Post pictures
try AMSOIL
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Recruitment For INEC Adhoc Staff For 2019 Election Thread by bulbutcher(m): 3:11pm On Jan 15, 2019
Mightyify:
Inec has commenced the registration Of Ad hoc staff for 2019 general Election. The application is open for employees of federal government departments and ministries, ex corpers between 2013 to 2018, and Final year students in departments of Engineering, computer science and ICT.

Kindly log into

https://itms.inecnigeria.org


Sign up and update your information.


You'll be notified of the status of your application soon.

Thanks.
Hw much are thy paying as hoc staff
PoliticsRe: INEC Releases Guidelines For Conduct Of 2019 General Elect by bulbutcher(m): 2:51pm On Jan 15, 2019
Seenaija:
The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) on Monday released the regulations and guidelines for the conduct of the general elections.

The 33-page document says Smart Card Readers (SCRs) and Permanent Voter Cards (PVCs) would be used for the forthcoming elections.

details below
https://see-naija.com/inec-releases-guidelines-for-conduct-of-2019-general-elections/
Hw much are.then paying as hoc staff
PoliticsRe: How The South West May Vote Next Year. by bulbutcher(m): 2:47pm On Jan 15, 2019
senatordave1:
Always get yourself updated.according to inec data,kano has 5.5 million voters.at least 5 million must have gotten pvcs.buhari can poll 3 million,Atiku 500-800k.the rest 200k.prp the next strongest party in the north has adopted buhari.i believe your familiar with votes inflation.he will poll similar figures in bauchi,jigawa,katsina,kaduna,borno etc

Only anambra can give atiku a million plus votes.rivers,akwa ibom,delta,IMO etc do not have the capacity to inflate votes for pdp again.

Mind you,all the states in Nigeria that churns out these votes do it through massive rigging and inflation.this is possible if the oppositon is weak or non existent,a consensus arrangement by all parties,federal might and other factors.apc did it without federal might plus the opposition was weak.now,those factors have increased for them.on the other hand,pdp does it with federal might and with a weak opposition but these are no more possible so atiku is gone.
Hw much are they paying D hoc staff
PoliticsRe: 2019: INEC Has Serious Credibility Deficit -obaze by bulbutcher(m): 2:43pm On Jan 15, 2019
Nwaforj44:
As the 2019 general elections draw near, questions have been asked of the ability of the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) to conduct free, fair and credible elections. This is even as the Chairman of Atiku/Obi Campaign Council in Anambra State, Mr. Oseloka H. Obaze, says he is doubtful of INEC's ability to remain a neutral umpire.

Speaking at Onitsha on Saturday, during an interactive radio program on Sapientia 95.3FM, Obaze said recent events have put a serious credibility deficit on INEC. He said the controversies surrounding by-elections and state elections of the last couple of years, especially that of Ekiti and Osun states have placed serious credibility deficits on INEC.

According to him, “INEC has a very recent track record that makes it impossible for my party or any other party, and indeed for Nigerians to say that they have implicit confidence in the ability of INEC to deliver free, fair, transparent and sufficiently credibile elections in 2019.

Obaze said the strength of the government, in any established democracy, derives from public confidence in statutory institutions which INEC is one. He called on the electoral umpire to live above the fray and ensure that the votes of Nigerians truly counts in the coming elections.

Obaze, also the candidate of the PDP in the Anambra 2017 governorship election, faulted President Muhammadu Buhari's refusal to assent the amended electoral act.

Obaze opined that, “Amina Zakari has been flagged for a potential conflict of interest. It will serve collective good if she recuses herself or be made to do so in the National interest.”
When asked about his party’s chances in the coming elections, Obaze said that the incumbent administration's abysmal performance in office has bolstered the chances of the PDP at the polls. He said Nigerians are hungry under this present administration and are rallying behind PDP’s Atiku-Obi ticket which they have come to see as a credible alternative. He however warned INEC to ensure that the coming elections are not rigged.

https://www.thenigerianvoice.com/amp/news/274561/2019-inec-has-serious-credibility-deficit-obaze.html
Hw much are they paying as hoc staff
CelebritiesRe: Joy Nguma Builds A House In Lagos (Photos) by bulbutcher(m): 9:58pm On Dec 31, 2018
See demmm . . . Mean while vasline dey hand

RomanceRe: 7 Types Of Guys You Shouldn’t Be With In 2019 by bulbutcher(m): 6:24pm On Dec 31, 2018
Sm Ppl go wait tire

EducationRe: Nigerian Teenage Scientists Develops Cure For Mouth Odour, Wins Award by bulbutcher(m): 11:59pm On Dec 26, 2018
LagosBoi2:
Please what is wallnut in yoruba?
please what is wall but in Hausa?
PoliticsRe: Billionaire With Private Jet/ Yacht To Pay Luxury Taxes From 2019 - Federal Govt by bulbutcher(m): 11:02pm On Dec 25, 2018
OboOlora:
Churches should be made to pay taxes too!!!!!!
don't go their oooohhh . . . .
PoliticsRe: Billionaire With Private Jet/ Yacht To Pay Luxury Taxes From 2019 - Federal Govt by bulbutcher(m): 10:58pm On Dec 25, 2018
OboOlora:
Churches should be made to pay taxes too!!!!!!
don't go their ooohh . . . . .
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: AUGUST BORN ..............let's Meet Here by bulbutcher(m): 11:04pm On Dec 12, 2018
Jeez2:
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Aug. . . . .? ? ?
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: AUGUST BORN ..............let's Meet Here by bulbutcher(m): 10:59pm On Dec 12, 2018
I am.Aug 17th

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