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LuvSwollenPussy:
Well, you are not the only one facing such...its not new. Most single mothers usually have such psycho-emotional issues that breaks their son's ego and she must have had that bitterness for a long time. Its probably why ur dad left but u were a kid then so u might not understand. Yours is even good, I know a guy with a vengeful temper today cus he grew up under a bitter mother who was very rigid and difficult..never listens to his idea.

Lemme be frank with you, there's still a fight coming up btwn u and ur mom before u can break free. But apply wisdom, u can reach out to family elders that ur mum listens to, to attend to d matter. Your mom loves you deeply that's why. But the feeling is gone too far over the years of suffering bringing you up alone. You're d first son and she's emotionally obsessed of you than ur bro. She's finding it hard to let go of her sufferings...women never really suffer for someone free-of-charge before though..something must to for something..lol

So prepare for a tough way to break free, then draw ur line when u become a man on ur own. I still see both of you loving each other in future though.

The reason why ppl like us couldn't vote for ceeC, ppl are enjoying her drama, but some of us have been thru the emotional and psychological torture of living with such a bitter woman.

Mmmh.. Very much understand. Thank you!

sirusX:
Maybe a woman was the cause of the split between your mum and dad...so I guess she's just a little bit over protective

Being a single mum is not an easy thing and raising a home by yourself is not an easy feat. I feel she doesn't want all that she has laboured for in you be taken away from her by a stranger who just came when things got better (maybe that was the case of your dad)

It's best to sit with mum, have a friendly discussion and get her to open up. I'm sure you will come to know and understand her more.

I believe what she needs is a little reassurance that she always remain number 1 cz she has always been there for you and contributed to making you the man you are today. You are the 1st son and the man of the house...I guess that's why she placed that priority on you

Mmmh.. Their marriage didn't really crash because of a woman. At least my mum didn't mention that. It was more because my dad was more of a wayward (lazy) man.

Yeah... I have thought of having a quite different talk with her about how much I have her interest in mind.

But the thing is... We've had similar talks in the past.. But the yield nothing. We practically go back to where we left off

Validcode:
Try and get accommodation away her as soon as you can so the two of you will not be quarrelling so much.

Yeah.. Will soon you can moving out!

For the sake of a better understanding of myself story, Let me Start with a brief biography.

I am a young man of about 26 years old and a graduate, presently employed with a monthly salary of a little over 40k per month. Recently I got an offer of a job that pays over 130k per month plus mouth watering allowances. Meaning I will soon be changing levels.

Both my family house and current place of work are situated in the same state but different LGAs. I have an accommodation at my location of work but prefer to go to work from my family house due to some challenges such as unstable electricity (I'm a computer programmer) and the bad weather at the location of my place of work.

In my childhood, My parents' marriage crashed! I have four siblings of which I am the second child and the first of two sons...and my mum (who single handedly raised us all through primary school up til University)....as for my dad.. Well, he left us and remarried!

Over the years, due to how my mum has frowned and posed a very unwelcoming attitude towards any female she sees around me, I haven't been able to maintain a stable relationship. I mostly did whatever business I had with the opposite sex outside the house and completely out of her knowledge.
I don't really know at what age a young man should have a girlfriend, but I believe at 25, he's old enough!
So I thought she was protective probably because I was not of age or probably didn't like it when I was with different females....or some understandable reason.

However, because of how much I appreciate her motherly love for us and for not abandoning us after our dad left, I took it upon myself, in my heart, to 'when I become of age', get/marry a woman who would be one after my mum's heart. (now before you go on about how wrong this is, I know right! The woman must have passed through me first!...And yes it is possible to get a woman I love who also at the same time, is someone my mum approves of)

Presently, at 25, I am trying to build a stable relationship. A relationship that is different from the previous ones. A relationship I can parade anywhere (I believe it's not wrong if parents/guardians know who their wards are dating).
Now to do that, I must date, and to date means I must be seen around females and they too, around me.

To my utmost dismay, my mum still maintains a very unwelcoming and hostile attitude towards them. Like, we've had several talks (both peaceful and quarrels) about this.

Also, The thing I can't seem to understand is why My younger brother who is more of a philandeer but she doesn't really look his way....she doesn't really care about his own matter.
But as for me, It is more like...her body bites her when she sees females around me.
I have talked to her... I have quarreled with her and nothing changes.

Recently, I met a well groomed and very beautiful girl, the type I know my mum would approve of, and we've started something. I have started bringing her home.

Just the other day, we had a big quarrel (my mum and I). My girl had come to see me at home and we decided to hang out @ some place. I stayed out for about three hours before returning home.

On reaching home, my mum enters my room and begins to tell me how another person will not reap where they didn't sow... She also added that, on getting something doing (i.e a stable source of income) we'd take care of her first, for three years! before thinking of getting a woman (wife).
she said she'd curse any of us who failed to do this. She said a whole lot of unpleasant things which did not go down well with me. Also, She has always repeatedly told me about how she won't visit my house when I get married (for what reason... I don't know). To add, She's the type of person that can keep malice with just anyone.. Infact, she's not in talking terms with her sister for some rather irrelevant issue.

Now I am sad, confused, perplexed,... I am depressed.
I keep having this feeling that I am in big trouble when I get married. Like...Trouble from my mum. Trouble that can shatter a family.

I am confused....afraid!

Chissysleek:
Please guys this graduate trainee position is it a contract job?

N O

moemindz:
I was notified that I was successful in the aptitude test for the FIRST BANK GT PROGRAMME


I also received mails notifying me that I would be invited for assessment centre, and I should exercise patience.


But till now, i have not been invited for assessment centre...


I called the contact number provided in the mail SEVERALLY... i also sent SEVERAL emails quoting the initial notification of success in the test, and other mails I received from them. But I got no reply and no tangible information was given me.

I still wonder what happened FIRST BANK

Did you check your spam folders?

saqo:
Lagos

Alright. Thanks

saqo:
Praise God.. Training School straight

Please... Where did you do your documentation?
And
... On your mail, please What's the location(venue) for the TS?

Guys that have received mail for TS... What's the location? Lagos or...?

Oboy! Oga... And you say accident free?? Haba have the fear of God in you life

Op no know say boys don upgrade.... He probably doesn't even know anything about what he's selling

akeye81:
e tire me o. Sat for test in Kano and AC in Lagos.

Oboy.. Are you related to Mungo Park?

Kano - > Lagos.... Maybe - >Abuja next

Coldfeets:
You have a point there.

As for me, the main reason why I am yet to marry is because I haven't seen or found a girl so interesting enough.

Most girls I know are so intellectually below me. My above average IQ is the problem here...

Some friends advised me to just accept the girl and then begin to train her.

And I'm like... na me be her mama and papa wey suppose train her since tay tay...?

Maybe na baby mama me I go do finally finally because as for me, living in a house with someone who cannot challenge you intellectually all in the name of marriage is the shortest cut to suicide.

Brotherly, I use to share this opinion too.
Wait until you find one who can challenge you intellectually and there begins to be quarrels of superiority here and there, everyday!
Trust me! Apply wisdom! There's more to life than that.

oyeyipow:
I'm in a dilemma, I want to change my state of residence. Is this the point where I should start making the change ? Guys in Training school please is it the address I provide now that would be used for posting?

I think the address is being requested in order to place you at a location close to your place of residence.

Posting should be another different topic for another day.

I strongly doubt that the two are related.

@Op.. Yoi could just simply explain why it's like that you know. No need to put up defenses

chloedogie:
https://www.nairaland.com/4409756/male-neapolitan-mastiff-needed-urgently

On this note I have nothing else to say again. The reasonable ones have come in person to inspect the vehicle with their mechanics and the car should be gone before tmrw. God bless.

Quick questions: For how long have you used the car? And when when did you first put it up for sale?

Oga! Es300 stopped at 2003... From 2004 to 2006, it is es330

Accident free....and the right head light looks newer than the left.??

Exactly! OP... I have also experienced same!

Wait.. If I understand you well.... You mean the buyer would spend N3.8 Million in total

Gbam!

Pencil light... 2005
N2M

Oga slow down!!

Why Is the steering bland?... Where are the button controls that are supposed to be on it?

frosbel2:
And a troublesome woman should endure a lifetime of beating?

Primitive person!

It's either you have large lips or you're a troublesome woman

frosbel2:
And a troublesome woman should endure a lifetime of beating?

Primitive person!

Non

Authoreety:
Her lips nd in short her appearance obviously shows she is a troublesome woman!


Only 4 those that have deep insight!

Exactly! That was the first thing that came into my mind

eagledan:
does it mean that the AC is in two batches a day. Cos my time is 1.30 pm on 16th

Yeah... I'm currently at the AC venue... Scheduled time: 7:30am

SmartyPants:
*sigh*

I don't like having to do this all the time but i think this lady is lying about a lot of things.

She tells the story like, she got there and parked, walked in, got her food, the man got ready to leave, the security came in and called her, the man came and asked who was blocking him, the man rushed her and grabbed her keys, all in 10 minutes.

1. The security came in first to ask her to come and move the car.

a. This means the man did not start by being angry, he followed the right procedure by allowing the security locate the offender. SO at which point does he go from being perhaps slightly irritated to outrightly outraged? What intervening incidents have occured?

b. She asked the security to move the car themselves. This indicates that she was unwilling to get up to move the car, because as she said she had "barely sat down" to her meal. If the man was patient enough to allow the security go in to call her without following them at first, it stands to reason that the security must have taken some time trying to convince her to move the car which prompted the fellow to follow up and go inside himself.

2. He got inside and asked who was blocking him and then before she could look up he rushed and took her key.

How did he locate her as being the one who was blocking him? Particularly since by the time he allegedly grabbed her keys she still had not yet had the time to look up?

This means at this point she refused to acknowledge that she was the one blocking him and this is probably where and why the man lost it. He grabbed her keys ostensibly to move the car himself obviously because she was refusing to get up.

3. She says he came back inside and poured her food on her. This sounds like something that happened by accident. Like he returned her key in a rough way and maybe spilled some of her rice or something on her. Typically if you want to make a scene you pour liquid on people not food.

4. She assaulted an angry, physically imposing man 4 times and he did not retaliate. That she had the space and time to slap him thrice means he also had the space and time to slap her back but he didn't. Who appears to be more self-controlled here?

If i'm angry enough to pour food on you it means inside me i am daring you to get angry and do something so i can actually give you the beating i want.

The story, like most one-sided accounts, does not add up.

Brotherly! I hope you read law?... If you didn't, come I wee dash you my LLB free of charge

Fantastic analysis!

omolaratoyin:
US Embassy English language test is very simple if you know your use of English very well. I wrote mine last Nov for the position of Computer Management Assitant and I have been shortlisted for another test/interview (please what should I expect for this?)
Please pray for me my fellow nairalanders

You got another email from them?
When please?
Can you paste the message sent to you?
Thanks

tico1212:
Is it advisable to write your hons, professionals acquired next to ones name on CV?
E.g. Adebambo Sogo (B.sc, Ican, PGD, NIM)

Those are not part of your name.

That's the aim of your cv... To show details of your qualifications

Op, A standard resume is not suppose to exceed 3 pages.
Now, many employers prefer to see the job descriptions of the several positions you've held. Including key achievements would surely make your cv exceed 3 pages.
What do you advise?