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FarahAideed:
You have a genius brewing in your house..do u stay in lagos

Thanks

Owerri

dfrost:
Okay.

I'll also assume either of you or both of you (i.e. his parents) have a post graduate degree. Right?

True

Cyberknight:
Does he limit himself to eating just a few types of food (usually carbohydrates like rice, indomie,etc.) or is his diet well-rounded (eats everything from fruits, to garri, beans, yam, etc, without being forced)?

Secondly, I don't want to cast aspersions on the doctors in FMC Owerri or to , but non-physical developmental issues apart from autism are still far from being commonly diagnosed in Nigeria and its a broad spectrum of issues with autism at the very end. In other words, autism is easily diagnosed, so if they say he doesn't have it he probably doesn't, but other developmental issues are not. You might need to see another specialist
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He takes all of them in good measure. Point noted on the developmental issues. Will keep tabs with u

Cyberknight:
Does he limit himself to eating just a few types of food (usually carbohydrates like rice, indomie,etc.) or is his diet well-rounded (eats everything from fruits, to garri, beans, yam, etc, without being forced)?

Secondly, I don't want to cast aspersions on the doctors in FMC Owerri or to , but non-physical developmental issues apart from autism are still far from being commonly diagnosed in Nigeria and its a broad spectrum of issues with autism at the very end. In other words, autism is easily diagnosed, so if they say he doesn't have it he probably doesn't, but other developmental issues are not. You might need to see another specialist
.

He takes all of them in good measure.

dfrost:
Good. That settles it. I will assume you have checked top hospitals to rule out out completely. Kudos to your dedication to your ward.

Don't be worried too much else the young man starts looking out for instead of the other way around.

Whatever routine, medical procedures, therapy, et al you employ, remember patience is the key.

One of the factors that causes late development of children are if the parents are analytical persons.

Are you?

We both are

Cyberknight:
Sadly, sir, you're currently faced with a problem I was faced with some years ago with my first son. He was a late talker as well and we got worried when he was heading for 3, so did all the evaluations of hearing and other tests, got several reassurances that there was no autism or other developmental issues there, and eventually opted for a speech therapist here in Lagos whose services were quite beneficial. He was talking reasonably well within 3 months of our engaging her, and we used her services for about a year in total after which he turned into a quite talkative child disturbing me day and night. The only trace of his former issue one might notice is that he stumbles over the pronunciations of a few words, but that could happen to any 7 year old with a slight stammer, for example.

Straight talk - nobody really knows what's going on in the brain - neurologists havent figured it all out and I'm sure you must have gotten all the advice about leaving him and he'll grow out of it and all that. And of course, even when you start therapy, you never know whether the child is making progress because of the therapy or if they'd have made progress anyway.

My opinion - 4 years is late and you need to try speech therapy now. I doubt you will get someone good in Owerri (I'm from there and I visit regularly) and I had a friend who had this issue 3 years ago and searched up and down. Here's what he did - he ended up sending the boy and his wife to his brother in Lagos, where these services are much more widely available.

If this is an option for you, I'd advise that you consider it. If not, consider going on alternate weekends to Port Harcourt. They also have services available there.

Lastly, there are some similarities between children with the so-called apraxia of speech and autism, especially diet-related, which is why there are sometimes misdiagnoses. In many cases children in both categories limit themselves to specific types of food and do not eat broad-based diets. If your son falls into that category, sometimes changing their diets helps. It helped a lot in my case.

Sorry, I forgot - if you're not having another child soon, perhaps you could arrange for him to get to spend a lot of one on one time with another child his age or younger at home, that also helps immensely. Out of school, I mean. My son also made progress when his junior brother started talking as well.

Let me know if you need to talk more.

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Your comment has alot of weight. Can u recommend a therapist in PH? I can make the sacrifice. Also though he finds it very difficult to eat, he eats well if distracted or in a good mood. How can i evaluate the diet part?

zaynie:
If you're getting him a tab or laptop try to reguaktr how often he watches them. Kids like that need all the social interactions with people around them and a device will limit it


Good luck with your child.

Thank you. Really. Point noted too

Twaci:
At the age of 5 I still couldn't construct a simple sentence. Pronouncing my name was even a bigger problem. My parents had concluded that I was deaf and dumb and had given up on me totally.

Then a family friend came up with an idea. She told them to bring in kids of my age to stay with me and should stop isolating me from the outside world. My parents invited my cousins over and they stayed with us for a while.

One fateful day, while playing, one of my cousins (Happiness) kept poking me and would run off before I could retaliate. She kept at it till I couldn't take it anymore.

"Ha-ha-ha-happy le-le-le-leave me a-a-alone!" I yelled at her.

Problem identified. I was a chronic stammerer, not a deaf and dumb.

@callmemike, your child doesn't need a therapist. Let him mingle with his mates, they'll help him learn quickly.

PS: Mum recounted this story to me. I'm better now.

What a sweet story. It just filled me up. And that is why he is in school

Pathfinder121:
It is probably a symptom of other developmental issues. Considering limited info, services and speciality in Nigerian, you ( and they) may not get the full picture.

From personal experience, it could be as a result of ASD ( Autism Spectrum Disorder).

I will recommend searching on Google for further info.

Tips are :

- Engage the child in activities that stimulate his or her senses.

- Use of picture to describe daily activities and next activities.

- The use of flash cards with pictures to encourage single word formation.

- Role play and taking turns to play games.
The
- Outdoor activities with age mate and favourite persons.

- Breakdown your words to the child when communicating.

- Avoid the use of longer words/sentences when communicating.

- Repeat words to derive action and attention.

If you need further tips or information, let me know.

you have been very helpful

dfrost:
Okay. Researching on it now.

It makes for a good reading

enigma2007:
Usually happens to only child or 1st norms without siblings to interact with, you need another baby boss! You also need to communicate with him more. No baby talks arnd him

true in all counts. He is the firstborn. He now has a sibling and we do not babytalk to him. Thanks. You are good

Sirkelvin:
practice makes perfect...Pm me let me give you a contact in Owerri.

Done

dfrost:
Your observation might be right but you need to draw the op out gradually. Some are afraid to admit it openly. It takes courage.

He is not austic. Docs have ruled it out at ages 2 and 3

lovelyncakes17:
Experiencing same with my son, though he's just 2 and 5mnths, and just started school this January. in my own case, i think making him start school late might have caused it.

he cannot even pronounce alphabets yet, but he follows instructions also.

That is good. It means he hears well and with time, he will talk. Have faith

aspirebig:
As you seek professional medical solution.

Also, pray for him seriously.

True that!

thecardinal:
A friend of mine successfully regained his speech after stroke. He gave glowing reviews of the speech therapist at the Primus International Hospital Karu, Abuja.

waoh. The distance...

Rokafela:
My son is 5 years old and he doesn't speak either. He has been diagnosed as Autistic have a look at this link:

https://www.google.co.uk/urlsa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=8&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0ahUKEwiJjIGXwNjZAhVKW8AKHTUJAhsQFgh4MAc&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.autism.org.uk%2Fabout%2Fwhat-is.aspx&usg=AOvVaw2aK5ijU0vgMohHR4kwOuOQ

and see whether it is helpful. ASD generally effects our ability to socialise and communicate. There isn't enough support in Nigeria so you will have to do everything yourself. Trust me people with ASD are superhuman with the right support your child will be great

The thought crossed our mind. However the docs at FMC and International Hearing Centre ruled it out

DSDLIVEREPORT:
Why can't at least a state have at least one ENT hospital each.
Sad indeed.
Thought since Mr President travelled for his own treatment; Federal hospitals will at least be empowered in that regard

Fmc owerri has one. They looked at him twice before recommending that we visit the International Hearing centre.

Mrkumareze:
Be calm, it's a matter of the right time. You don't necessarily need to spend money getting a speech instructor, kids learn from the environment. Make sure he or she goes to sch then Watch n see the sudden change

Thanks. The school is doing him a deal good. We hope to tag along

dfrost:
Did you ask why he is a late developer?

Yes. It is a normal in some kids. It is called Einsten's syndrome.

omojeesu:
Boost his glutathione levels. Google glutathione with speech problem. May be it will work.

Am checking it out. Gratitude

Lomprico2:
You r very sound in english language.

Thank you

mayowascholar:
Pls contact me.I could be of help. 07066729820

What do u offer please?

RevJamez:
The son doeesn't need anything, it's you the father that needs a therapist, you want to tell me you don't know how to talk to your little child, what of when he becomes a teen and goes through the rebellious phase, You need to see a counselor or attend seminars on how to train children, if you keep running to therapists for every little problem it will create a poor relationship between you an him. Instead, you go to a therapist yourself and learn how to be a better father.

A speech therapist is a trained expert that specializes in speech issues. Sure we read to him, talk to him and all, yet we are open to professional help that can help him.

ipobarecriminals:
Go buy him CD on alphabetical pronunciation. the English. type..Abeg,make sure u follow him watch it.u can also buy him kid lappy.All will be well

yes. I have that. I use it to teach him. Lappy? Am considering it. More cos he does not allow my lappy to rest . And he uses it well too

Sure. Am on it too

Thanks a lot for the optimism. We need it. Moreso he hears commands and carries out instructions. He is a sweet kid. Just his speech is lacking

I will try to be very brief. My son is some months shy of 4 years old. However he has not started talking. When he was almost 2 years we took him to FMC owerri for examination. The result said he was ok. Unsatisfied we went after some months. They referred us to the International Speech and Hearing Centre Enugu.

There the result was that his hearing is limited. They said we should come for a reevaluation when he is past 3 years to see if his hearing has improved or if he needs a hearing aid. But we were advised to enroll him into a school to increase his interactions. The problem with this then was his repeated bouts of illness after each two weeks in school. We tried homeschooling him for a term and half afterwards. This term we have enrolled him into a new, regular school and he has adapted just fine.

Between this period, we have visited other hospitals for evaluation and they said it is ok. That he is just a late developer.

We just went for a reevaluation and they said he does not need a hearing aid and that his hearing is very OK now. They recommended a professional speech therapist to help him pronounce words, since all he does is just babbles. He captures things fast and can act out a full cartoon movie.

So please if any info is available about a speech therapist in Owerri, it will be appreciated. Other advices are also welcome.

Mods, please help me push this to the front page. A child needs your help and i believe in your epatant care. Thank you

NwaAmaikpe:



The truth be told,

Hoodlums are busy perpetrating crime and everyone attributes it to the Fulanis.
How are we sure this quack policeman was killed by a Fulani person?
Every crime committed now is generalized to have been committed by a Fulani person.

This is not fair,
The Fulanis are not an entirely bad people.
We can't generalize them because of a few bad herdsmen who are from Mali.
They are an energetic and devoted people who thrive against the odds.

They give us beef,
They give us milk,
They give us rice,
They've given us several Presidents.

Aside that, they are the only tribe whose women all have standing, pointed brezz.

If only for that, give them some respect.

Guy eh, your eccentricity is legendary! Please i do not want to laugh very hard here. People will be wondering what is really amiss!

luvola:
where is liverpool thread ? By thursday arsenal thread a europa team will make front page.. mod mod we no go gree for here. mukina2

even Mancity, the champions to be, do not make front page. Too bad

waywardpikin:
How can you think you still have a shot at this after what I just read? Bia nwoke, don't annoy me today.

You're not what the girl thought you'd be. Simple.

Chairman I have to be honest with you, your case is critical. The last thing you need right now is a woman. Come on, what are you gonna feed her with? Trip her with? Can you comfortably take her out to the cinema or to the the beach? Do you have an apartment of your own (we can excuse the car for now but you need to get you one of those)? Do you have a steady stream of income? Unless you find a girl that is willing to love you in your present condition, then OYO is your case.

I know as guys we don't like to hear this, but a man is not a man until he has figured out and set up his financial life properly. Especially in Obodo Nigeria.

You need to fix up your life bro. You don't need this emotional higi-haga right now. I know say one day you go make us proud, so focus on what is really important in your life's journey right now. The girl did nothing wrong. Neither did you.

I believe in you!

I am proud of you. Really.

TheSuperNerd:
This is the EFL carabao cup man. There is a second leg after all. Okay, let's say you are right... So if at the emirates it ends 1-1, will they go straight to penalties then? Me, i got really confused the last time Man City git thru in pellegrini's last season after ousting Everton... I really tot the away goals rule was applied.

So your certainty about me just starting to watch the English league is a really childish and silly way of entering a convo man. If you cannot be civil and just state your point. Then plsss stay off my mention

There will always be things that even you don't know now about the beautiful game which will shock you. Lol

You are right bro. The away goal rule counts only AFTER EXTRA TIME. That is the rule in EFL cups