PastorOlokonla:


You will have to create new good habits to combat old ones. Go out more, make new friends. Read a lot of books.
Remove yourself from environments that enables bad habits. Its all a mind game my brother and nothing special about sex, if you let it control you, it will destroy you and your wife.

Also, there are good therapists in Canada that can work with you.

Yh I guess they are good therapist, already in talks with scheduling a session with one

Bolt458:
bro, I try dat shit wen I first land. When I realized how much I was losing, I give myself brain

Oh really, how did you approach it bro

Though so far haven’t told any of my siblings about this my terrible and shameful act

In the last born , they are all married and here in Canada and United States .

But I feel terrible telling them as I would break their hearts and all . Especially my mum, it would shatter her.

Just few friends that know, hence why I feel comfortable on this faceless forum and feel like pouring my heart out here.

So far I almost did it again recently but I quickly overcame it, wasn’t easy that day as I had to masturbate like 5 times for the konji to totally die off

PastorOlokonla:
It wouldn't stop after marriage.

Sorry to break it to you.

Meaning I have to figure it all out before getting married otherwise I would be cheating even in marriage badly

Lord help me

Ilekokonit:


I think what could break the temptation is non availability of funds.

You could try opening an online savings account that only allows you to withdraw twice a year and you just make 2 withdrawals of $1 each on Jan 1 and 2 and then you cant withdraw until the next year when you then repeat the cycle. Also avoid credit cards which may allow you to withdraw cash at the machine. In fact, avoid loans and credit cards and from your salary only leave in your account what you need for the basics and transfer the rest into this 1 year account.

This will slow you down at least by your not having access to cash easily and you should also tell your mum and siblings not to lend you any money i you ask the. Tell them you are saving for a mortgage.

Actually if you have that kind of money, what about getting a mortgage even if it is a little one so that the bulk of your money will go to paying off your monthly mortgage and the good thing is that that house you buy will pay off in 25 years time and will be a good source of additional pension. All rent is waste by the way.

Delete your only fans and Instagram accounts so that you don't get tempted by those women and if it means changing your phone number / sim card to avoid those women that already have your number, then so be it. The end justifies the means.

Good luck.

This is really smart and a good way to go. Hopefully it helps , and hopefully I can also work on the after effect which is reducing my masturbation too

Gerrard59:


You are a rich man o. You need strong therapy and spiritual prayers as backup. Very strong one. I recommend Mountain of Fire Ministries. Go to the headquarters o. But sorry to inform you, you won't get regular sex from your wife, especially after childbirth and above two children.



Which means you don't have a girlfriend in Canada. The question is: why? Since being in a committed relationship will reduce your "going outside" to satisfy yourself.

I’m working on it. I’m 26. Would be 27 this year. Really working on getting a girlfriend .

Rickmann:


Pls try to seek counseling.

I’ve started talking to close relatives and friends about it.

And also trying to use the money to buy things for myself when the konji hits

But another issue is my masturbation has increased greatly. I can masturbate like 6 times in a day .

That’s another issue too

Anashe:


It's good you're willing to stop, and it's an important first step. But you should go to therapy before subjecting another person's child to this habit. Without seeking proper help, I'm afraid you won't stop after marriage because your wife will not always be able to (pregnancy, childbirth, life, etc.)

Wow from the comments now I’m scared, cause that was really my main aim of getting married to help solve this issue

imagrg:
Don't blame him oh...toto scarce for Canada oh.

It is technically

Psady:
End it before it kills you.
Since u got that desperation of coming out and stating your bad ordeal about it then truly u serious about stopping it. I was once in your kind of situation but I took that bold step of ending it by getting married , but u need a good and understanding woman,I tell you it's basic step to end such addiction.
Just work on yourself by determining not to live such demeaning life anymore.

Oh nice, I think I would accelerate my plans of getting married too. I just feel it would help solve the problem to a large extent

Bfly:
Is losing money to it the problem or what?

Loosing money is one but the guilt that comes from the act is another one too

Rickmann:


What?
Omo, that's close to 15million naira.

Yh it’s an expensive thing to engage in especially in this part of the world . Imagine what I could have done with the funds . Maybe even gotten a land back home or helped someone in serious need

fyzaila:
When you don't kill/stop fornication it will definitely kill you.

I sincerely believe this . Need guidance

Karlifate:


You want to get married solely for having regular sex


Get ready for the rude shock of your life.

Was told this could happen , but also told it could be a head start to healing since you would be getting it on a regular basis , and all the money you currently spending would be saved towards something more productive

Also was advised to keep all my money into my senior sisters account , because having access to cash makes me tempted to book an escort


It’s so expensive, in Ontario (Toronto ) it’s 200 for half hour and 400 for an hour of sex . I’m so disappointed and ashamed of myself

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram Bross u no get problem Na!!!


If them begin count the NUMBER of ASHAWO way I don NACK for inside las month way we just comort, E go reach to form full COMMUNITY!!!


U no get problem at all.


If that side too cost, enter NAIJA.. cheap cheap ASHAWO house full here..


Tins don cost for SMALL market and MAIN market so ASHAWO don reduce price for here..


ASHAWO need money now and customers..


Yesterday na 1k I use NACK better ASHAWO


I still use another 1k NACK another ASHAWO for another hotel.


The last ASHAWO wey I carry, na very fat girl..


She nearly break my PREEK with her fat laps..


My PREEK no even gree go inside her TOTTO finish because her belle too BIG!!


But still on still, here cheap..


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

Wow . You doing it all . I personally want to quit the life, it’s expensive, makes you feel less of a person , I see people in committed relationship , living a good life , and I’m here , just feel very terrible as a person and it’s affecting me physiologically

advanceDNA:


Is it just me that feels lack of sex isn't a big problem....if the urge comes ..baba channel the energy else where naa...

That said...is it lack of a regular sex partner/wife that's making u go for escorts or an undisciplined sexual life style which also include carrying different women when u desire sex?

I'm not here to judge u.... just that u should audit urself well ooo...and bear in mind that a mere ring on ur finger and a marriage certificate wont fix or reset u poor sexual choices......ur wife will deny u sex... married men here lament alot....

.... and bad habits and desire don't just go away....u might want to fix them first...

To be sincere , it’s a combination of both. Before travelling to Canada, I used hookup girls occasionally in Nigeria, but was very rare because I had a girlfriend so I never had a sex problem in Nigeria . Was good, when I got here then it kind of became a problem and I made the mistake of trying an escort here , thinking it would be a one off thing, but now I’m so deep into the act and want to be delivered from it badly . It’s draining me.

Why I said it’s a combination of both is, when I was in Nigeria and had a girlfriend though I used hookup girls like maybe once or twice but I was to a large extent faithful to her. But here started like a joke and now I’m in this mess

Hi guys,

Been awhile,

So I posted awhile back about being tempted to be paying pretty escorts here in Canada for sex, sadly something I thought was a one time thing, has now turn to become a habit , and I’ve really tried seeking for help to stop it. I’ve spent over $10,000 so far on escorts since 2023- date now.

It’s draining me physiologically, and I’ve confided in close friends and was advised to get married so I can have access to regular sex .

Just drowning now , I really need help . Feel so lost

ednut1:
so you enter Canada still dey carry escort. 1500 na like some people bi weekly wage o 🤣

True true. United States is the worst , one lady told me $8,000 USD overnight. She’s a top escort with millions of followers on instagram. But honestly that lady is a 10/10 . She’s a Latino but damn pretty . But $8,000 USD lol . She’s stretching it. But I think men would be paying . Crazy world Mehn

Miami girls, Las Vegas, California those women I fear them ooo.

akube34:
take it from me, dem go Dey bang am

Honestly it’s painful to say but , if she genuinely like me and all I might forgive cause she’s 21 and in her second year the chances of this happening is really high and i would be naive to think she would be holy and all. Even me sef I’m not holy , most people that pass through university no how it goes. But I’m hoping she’s matured mentally and understand how things work.

Geovanni412:


Try and talk with the girl first

See if you guys share same interest

Then you can come to Nigeria and see her

Things will naturally develop but don't make it seem like you want to marry her off the bat.

If you like her after all these things, then you fit start dey reason marriage

But try understand first how to protect all your assets present and future from 'divorce rape'

Set up companies and NGOs, try and own as little as you can in your name

Most of your assets should be in the company and the NGO.

In Nigeria, you don't pay inheritance tax on company assets so setting this up this way will help you take care of your kids without losing the bag in case she decides to divorce you or you are incapacitated temporarily.

Completely agree .

I was thinking if it gets to marriage would do it at ikoyi or thereabout . The court there or so. I know friends that do that. So if anything happens wouldn’t be tried under Canadian court or law. Cause our marriage won’t be recognized by the Canadian law court . So we would be tried under Nigerian law. Which favours everyone lol. No 50% of asset and crazy child support and all.

But hopefully no divorce or anything happens .

But I’m thinking too far. Like you said, would get to know her first and use my cousin to keep checking on her and probably see her senior sister, he told me she’s in port harcourt that’s the senior sister now.

But the parents are in Edo , Benin

Just hope everything works out well

And I’m not deceiving or wasting my time and all.

ednut1:
Yahoo boys, politicians and ritualists. Normal guys cant afford them lol

Bossman not really ooo. You in Canada and you know escorts here charge like $350 - $500 for an hour here.

In Nigeria it’s all night here it’s just an hour .

All night is like $1,500 or more .

The market now is very expensive

Though I’m trying to break free but when I was in Nigeria I used them like 3 times and paid 40k each time but it was worth it though . But not a good life to live I accept .

So I posted some time of falling into deep temptation of using escort service in Toronto and paying $500 for an hour of sex. Thought it would be a one off something but I’ve spent thousand of dollars in that habit and recently wanted to go to Miami or Las Vegas to see a really pretty girl for $1,500 an hour. God save me

So recently my Cousin in Nigeria posted a really pretty girl on his status , the girl is 21 and in second year of school and right now I’m really thinking of settling down in 2-3 year time . I’m 26 years old

I’m just curious from those experienced here can long distance relationship work or I’m just deceiving myself.

I honestly really like the girl though haven’t really spoken much with her only few things like she’s from Edo state and schools in port harcourt (Uni port) and she’s in second year and her age being 21 . Basic stuffs but she’s really pretty and she attends same church with my cousin in port harcourt. But my cousin said she’s a really good and decent girl.

I’m thinking of giving this a shot and probably delivering myself from spending lots of money here on girls . I don’t really like western women for marriage , the divorce rate and all scared me a lot , want someone who values the fundamental principles of marriage.

Would appreciate advice

Just curious is a MacBook Pro 2018 15inch good for gaming ?

Core i7 8th generation.

rickleye:
Dude, reach out to me there are other less expensive alternatives. I don’t want to list them out here . I live in an eastern province close to you.
What I need to decipher is if it’s sex you desire or companionship.
I hope it’s the former .

oh really? thats interesting. i'm in Ontario though

Spiritualsdeeps:
Urge is Natural however after satisfying yourself ..When the urge comes again you throw away another 1k Dollars .

On and on and on .

Don't See any lady to marry overthere ,Or You do not have Papers Yet .
Some Naija Babes ..How about your Girlfriend before you travel ..U need a Lady to Marry ,Every other things Follows.

well initially it was from a curiosity point of view, cause shes the first latino i have ever been with.

PJtech:


1000 naira bro... Average hookup babe for my area nah 5k max

but you see that 5k e be like $5k for my eye... nah to just fap when the urge come

Really N5,000 that’s really really cheap.

Hookup in Nigeria when I was into that shit was like 40k per night I pay or 50k . Cheapest I ever paid was 30k.

Seeing 5k , I’m 100 percent sure there aren’t clean girls or pretty girls more like street girls I guess.

Well I’m walking away from that life though. I spent a fortune back then. Just crazy Mehn. I’ve really rocked life ooo, at just 25 Mehn.

I just hope I don’t cheat in marriage though. God help me

PJtech:


well, i feel nah because you get the money nah why you reason am.. people like us wey no fit give 1k no go ever reason that kind parole

You mean N1,000 or $1,000?

PJtech:


chaii 500 f***g doll$...nah person 2 yrs savings be you just use cure conji so

Life no balance i swear

Even makes me more upset with my soul too.

Life isn’t fair . And some of those guys don’t have my problem at all. There are faithful and can zip up. It’s just not balanced.

Konjiboii:


Hop on bumble and search for a decent girl within your area and date. It's cheaper plus you can enjoy the companionship aside sex, I specifically said bumble because compared to the numbers of apps out there they are somewhat decent. Hoes still dey but atleast dem fresh.

Bumble is in Canada ? Like their operations ? Haven’t even heard of them before. Well lots out there.

Hopefully I get a wife to settle down with soon. Would be so so happy

Konjiboii:


Bro I sincerely feel for you because I totally can relate having a high sex drive luckily for me I'm in a land where I can satisfy my cravings somewhat cheaper.. you have to satisfy your urge one way bro, masturbation can only take you so far.

Well I understand you and agree . But right now I want to stop completely. When I was in Nigeria I did lots of stuffs no exaggerating but I’m pretty sure I have over 50 body count or more while in Nigeria probably up to 70 I guess. Was bad. But here I am thinking I’m starting afresh and I tried to resist but a Latino has already made it one body count already in Canada.

PJtech:


THank God you didn't waste that huge amount on p**ssy... You'll surely get over it if you visit places like this whenever you're bored or alone

I actually did sadly. Fell for the temptation

I love nature , which is one of my leisure activity. Maybe I need to engage in activities like this more often too.

I visited here in Hamilton.