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Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

Konji na bastard

Honestly ooo. I don’t wish this extreme type on anyone oo. Even my enemies too. It makes you do things that ordinarily you won’t do

Jozilinn:
Wow thank you so much,this is actually the first time I am receiving anything from nairaland,I really appreciate so much God bless you and give you the the strength and determination to keep pushing higher.👏👏👏

You welcome.

I honestly pray so.

OKOATA:
Bro register on Tinder, POF or any local site around you. Put there you are looking for friends with benefits. Try Ashley Madison and all those porn site you will surely find a girl. You won't spend up to $100 before you get laid.

Just checked it out (Ashley Madison). would cost me $59 a month and lots of ladies there. Hopefully I can get a girlfriend there.

Thanks.

EastAlchemist:
This one na woman
Some na gamble
Some na drugs
Young people which way

It’s just so complicated and not easy.

We really need God’s help big time.

I’m looking at also shutting down my onlyfans account and blocking one of the escorts I’m currently chatting on instagram. I was initially meant to book a session with her , really this close to making a commitment fee of like $100 to secure a session but to avoid the temptation looking at cutting ties , so my konji doesn’t take over my reasoning again.

Fanikoko:
Broski get a wife and do wateva you wanna wif her weneva u wanna. u not too young to get one
And fur addiction you heal with time and not over night, if you fall today rise tomarow before you knw it it gone b past

Have thought about getting a wife but the dating scene here in Canada isn’t so straightforward but I’ve really thought about it or possibly coming to Nigeria to pick a girl. But I just feel it’s like 3-4 years time when I’m possibly 29-31 years that I would be mentally ready for marriage. If I enter marriage with this problem and mentality I would mess it up big time.

But like others have said , building a strong mental capacity would go a long way in helping. And I’m looking forward to doing that.

Just incase anyone thinks I’m not being serious about this.

I really am and honestly want to stop this addiction sincerely.

I feel I’ve gotten lots of advice from here and feel it’s a small token to say thank you guys.

After all I’ve been spending way more on onlyfans and was about spending way way more for an escort .

Jozilinn:
really? I wouldn't mind the 1k really if it wouldn't inconvenience you. 1221869780 access bank.
More blessings to you.

Sent the money. Sent more than the 1k though.

Appreciate it and the advice. Though not easy to overcome sadly

Nairalander248:
No wonder my guy was advising I marry before I relocate to Ca

Well technically he’s right . It’s so cold here and lonely.

At least if I was maybe married I feel I might not have this problem cause it would be easily cured.

Pennywise2:
use quiet time to your advantage. I can spend. 4 hours just lying down praying and confessing my sin. Told God am not returning down that road of sin the world celebrate.

Would try this, thanks so much . Really appreciate this

Jozilinn:
This life no balance at all oh, you are right people are still here begging God for 1k no way,if you can do giveaway we don't mind,I pray God help you.

I’m really praying also he helps me.

If you really need the N1,000 that’s fine haven’t done a giveaway on Nairaland before though but can easily send that to you.

Don’t know how that works , like dropping your account number is it safe on a forum like this. If it is feel free. Would send you the N1,000. Or maybe more

northbird:
Get a pair of light sneakers, shorts, airpods (for music) ,start 🏃‍♂️ running everyday. Should cost you less than 50CAD .your urges will vanish.

Well I have all those accessories but I’m not a big fan of the extreme cold though , cause I would have to do probably early in the morning or late evening I guess. But would consider it.

IceeSeth:
The urge you feel is an invitation to do something you will later regret or perhaps start an ugly cycle that will be too hard to control or stop. I'll suggest you create a different account, drop that money into that account anytime the urge comes to it'll make you feel as if you've used it.
But in the long run, killing addiction is a process and you need to be ready to starve yourself of those things that fan this desire.
Start by seeking the face of God, you can do no wrong in that.

Have thought of sending most of the money in my account to my senior sister account until I can subdue this devilish urge. Sending it to a different account say my CIBC account might still put me in the reach to accessing it.

I know how terrible the cycle can be and I’m grateful to God for presenting me a second chance to start life afresh and be different but here I am battling what I thought have escaped from in Nigeria.

In Nigeria it was easy, I was drowning in immorality and having s*x with different girls. I had girlfriends I had no feeling for but because I had access to s*x I had to constantly lie to their faces that I love them so the s*x could continue.

I don’t want to go down that road again I’ve seen the end is destruction cause I barely saved any money. Literally all the money I was earning then was being spent on women and curing my lustful fantasies. It was so bad that a couple of times the hookup girls I used would chat me up to come see them. I felt like a regular customer. Remembering it now makes me hate myself the more and feel ashamed of myself.

But thank God for presenting me a second chance to write my wrongs. But the devil now wants to use this konji to lure me back to my old vomit. I used to use p*rn and masturbation to quench it but it’s even making it worse. It’s not helping.

Pennywise2:
u are too cheap .
U want to sell ur destiny because of emotion.
U want to sell ur star becos of feelings which from what I can see is powered by
Porn.

Read James 4:7 , prov 6:32.

Starting on a wrong part is easy . Returning to the right part is a battle.
And casting out demons is by prayer.

Don't let demons fool u. u are worth more than feelings

You right though , stopping an addiction is really difficult . Would read the scriptures. Really appreciate the advice.

Well to be fair, in Canada haven’t done anything , have been celibate for years (except for one happy-ending massage I got though) haven’t had s*x or done anything in Canada , but while I was in Nigeria I sinned a lot, used to use hookup girls a lot while in Nigeria , but in Canada I’m turning a new leaf and don’t want to go down that road again .

Want to become a better version of myself.

Mjshexy:
Wow...that's amazing, just try the options above, you should be able to come out of it strong 👍

Definitely would give it a shot and also try and be closer to God.

Mjshexy:
Too bad you got addicted at an early age, now you need to fight your way out aggressively and it starts with your mindset. Then engage your time in more productive things, also aren't you schooling or working?

Interestingly I’m both schooling and working and my grades are great. I’m a straight A student and consistently make the dean list . But even when I get back from work and I’m so tired I’m tempted to watch p*orn. It’s crazy what an addiction can do to someone.

Can’t tell my siblings or open up to them because I came from a Christian home. My Dad and mum are pastors. And have religious siblings too.

Mjshexy:
You just need to work on your mindset, get those dirty stuffs off your mind, do away with pornography. Also like someone suggested, you're still young so you can decide to get a girlfriend or work towards marriage and focus more on building your life and saving more. Addictions are easy to start but difficult to stop.

Very very difficult to stop. Would give it more effort . Have been a p*rn addict since 16 years old my first year in the university. Now I’m 25 that’s 9 years of addiction to p*rn. Just bad really really bad

woginid967:
You can break the addiction with psalms and spells.

Also you need to get a girlfriend if you can hold yourself.

In Canada $500 is too much

With 50usd you can get a steady girlfriend and have your release

True though it’s really much. But not easy finding a girlfriend though here. Dating scene is messed up. I also feel I need a therapy session too so I could become better mentally. I feel I’m a terrible person cause I might cheat with this lifestyle and attitude too.

Mjshexy:
Just send me half of the money if you don't know what to use it for. After an hour pleasure what else? The moment you start this way, you will always have that urge to reschedule another meeting and it continues like that and before you know it your millions are down the drain

You 100 percent correct. My brain reasons logically and all. But when the konji comes I just don’t know the problem it’s like my brain goes to sleep and slumber, it just doesn’t function anymore at that point the money and all doesn’t look big so long my konji is cured. Now that’s the addiction I’m hoping God helps me solve.

elipheleh:
Mr. Its better to marry if you can't hold it down. Really we know not all men have same grace in konji matter. Some men go insane while some remain normal.

Look towards getting a gf no matter how ugly she is.

Or alternatively look for fellow Nigerians and promise her marriage and start lashing.

Or you may ask your mum or sister in Nigeria to genuinely look for good girl for you. Good is individual preference. Mine own good girl must be tongue speaking, demon casting, prayer lambasting, righteousness conscious girl.

I’m in my middle 20’s also 25 to be precise . I feel marriage is like 4-5 years away from me too. I also feel if I don’t solve this problem I might cheat or have side chicks. Money really changes people and exposes one’s weaknesses. Back in Nigeria didn’t have access to all these girls but now I partially do.

I’m really and honestly hoping for a divine intervention.

advanceDNA:
U don't sound disgusted..u sound like u here to advertise only fans and the girls u see there.

......u sound like u know ur "problem" which is ur pornographiç appetite but u appear to be enjoying ur "problem"

... Until u reach that curve where u realize ur addiction is robbing u of something that matters....it is not yet a problem to you....oga ade, carry Go....

Won’t lie to myself. I honestly do feel disgusted with myself deep down but sometimes my konji takes over my ability to reason properly. And I also have an extremely high sex drive. I honestly feel doomed with respect to my crazy sexual life and fantasies.

elipheleh:
Mr. Its better to marry if you can't hold it down. Really we know not all men have same grace in konji matter. Some men go insane while some remain normal.

Look towards getting a gf no matter how ugly she is.

Or alternatively look for fellow Nigerians and promise her marriage and start lashing.

Or you may ask your mum or sister in Nigeria to genuinely look for good girl for you. Good is individual preference. Mine own good girl must be tongue speaking, demon casting, prayer lambasting, righteousness conscious girl.

Well my family is here in Canada and telling my mum about my addiction would break her heart and she would be extremely disappointed in me.

Except for some cousins , my family is here in Canada.

Good thing is it’s a faceless forum , so I feel like pouring out my heart and seeking genuine help.

I just feel really disgusted with myself.

Before relocating i was scared this might happen but never knew it would be this serious. I convert the money to Naira and I’m like I want to spend over N200,000 for one hour . Meanwhile I have friends in Nigeria that need probably 30k or so but it’s difficult to send them money but for a one hour session I’m willing to spend this much. I really feel bad within myself

Forgot to add too, I’m partially addicted to onlyfans too. Apparently a couple of the escort I’m talking to have an only fans account and I’m subscribed to it and have purchased like most of their contents. Spent over $1,000 on that site recently.

I feel my sexual urge is abnormal. I really need help.

At the sight of those models my heart skips and my head shuts down . Is after awhile I begin to really think critically and then I feel disgusted with myself.

This particular escort is a Russian/Dominican descent and so pretty but I’m really really trying to resist the urge not to schedule an appointment or session. One minute I would say I’m not doing it another minute I feel like doing it. I just keep going back and forth in my head.

I’m also hoping God remembers me and heals me from my onlyfans addiction too.

Hi everyone,

Would appreciate if I’m not crazily judged though. I live in Canada Ontario and I’m single and lonely. The weather isn’t helping also. I’ve been having this strong urge to order an escort . Actually talked to a couple of them on Tryst. There are Latinos and really beautiful. But I honestly don’t want to proceed but my konji is making me look towards it and I feel disgusted with myself for having such strong sexual feelings.

Price is $500 for one hour and I’m looking at booking a 2 hours session.

I just feel bad.

Would appreciate any advice to overcome this crazy urge. Please don’t crazily insult me thanks

Canada isn’t all rosy after all sadly

fman:
This your moniker is funny.
Registered today.
Hope u no find gullible clients for here.
Nairaland no get mugu.
Must you tell us
You travelled to Canada.
So that prospective nairalanders
Who wants to travel abroad will mention you and ask for assistance in visa application.
Then u will introduce them to your fraudulent agent, which is still u
And reap them off their hard earned money!
No kind scam
Wey I no know.
Starting from the storyline.
I Know your matter.
Ewu,

Lol there a like multiple dedicated thread for those intending to travel to literally all major countries Canada’s own is on I think part 22 or so lots of information there. I’m not an immigration officer neither do I help out with immigration, I don’t do that. Thanks

Exactly why I opened a new account cause of stuffs like this. So I don’t have a back and forth argument and all . This account is strictly for the advice I needed which honestly I’m already having an Idea of how to handle my emotions and maybe pause things and all. All thanks to those that contributed

fman:
This your moniker is funny.
Registered today.
Hope u no find gullible clients for here.
Nairaland no get mugu.
Must you tell us
You travelled to Canada.
So that prospective nairalanders
Who wants to travel abroad will mention you and ask for assistance in visa application.
Then u will introduce them to your fraudulent agent, which is still u
And reap them off their hard earned money!
No kind scam
Wey I no know.
Starting from the storyline.
I Know your matter.
Ewu,

Yh I just opened it this night, any thread created on nairaland sadly can’t be deleted really annoying, don’t want to use my other account so opened a new account, I think I should modify the original post and include that, thanks for highlighting that, Lol I don’t need anybody money I’m covered , well covered.

Cutehector:
there wont be any light at the end of the tunnel bro. Please move on with your life

Hmmm. Wonder how people do the long distance stuff , have been reading threads here and all, just pray to see good pretty ladies both inward and outward in Toronto. Have heard lots of scary things already. So no single chance of her in the picture in 2 or 3 yrs from now no matter how I keep the communication going or?

thesicilian:
Let me get this straight: you're in Canada, she's in Nigeria, and you're thinking of telling her you like her? And you don't already know what her answer would be? Guy pls don't dull yourself.

Yes exactly. I don’t know her response or reaction . I’ve always been crushing on her for years while in Nigeria but was always shy to walk up to her to tell her my feelings

fman:
Best advice:
Focus on wetin carry u go Canada.
Leave Nigerian girls.

Can’t ever loose focus at all. My mind is 100 percent in the game and intact. Nothing can make me loose focus.