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Karlifate:
You want to get married solely for having regular sex


Get ready for the rude shock of your life.

Was told this could happen , but also told it could be a head start to healing since you would be getting it on a regular basis , and all the money you currently spending would be saved towards something more productive

Also was advised to keep all my money into my senior sisters account , because having access to cash makes me tempted to book an escort


It’s so expensive, in Ontario (Toronto ) it’s 200 for half hour and 400 for an hour of sex . I’m so disappointed and ashamed of myself

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram Bross u no get problem Na!!!


If them begin count the NUMBER of ASHAWO way I don NACK for inside las month way we just comort, E go reach to form full COMMUNITY!!!


U no get problem at all.


If that side too cost, enter NAIJA.. cheap cheap ASHAWO house full here..


Tins don cost for SMALL market and MAIN market so ASHAWO don reduce price for here..


ASHAWO need money now and customers..


Yesterday na 1k I use NACK better ASHAWO


I still use another 1k NACK another ASHAWO for another hotel.


The last ASHAWO wey I carry, na very fat girl..


She nearly break my PREEK with her fat laps..


My PREEK no even gree go inside her TOTTO finish because her belle too BIG!!


But still on still, here cheap..


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

Wow . You doing it all . I personally want to quit the life, it’s expensive, makes you feel less of a person , I see people in committed relationship , living a good life , and I’m here , just feel very terrible as a person and it’s affecting me physiologically

advanceDNA:
Is it just me that feels lack of sex isn't a big problem....if the urge comes ..baba channel the energy else where naa...

That said...is it lack of a regular sex partner/wife that's making u go for escorts or an undisciplined sexual life style which also include carrying different women when u desire sex?

I'm not here to judge u.... just that u should audit urself well ooo...and bear in mind that a mere ring on ur finger and a marriage certificate wont fix or reset u poor sexual choices......ur wife will deny u sex... married men here lament alot....

.... and bad habits and desire don't just go away....u might want to fix them first...

To be sincere , it’s a combination of both. Before travelling to Canada, I used hookup girls occasionally in Nigeria, but was very rare because I had a girlfriend so I never had a sex problem in Nigeria . Was good, when I got here then it kind of became a problem and I made the mistake of trying an escort here , thinking it would be a one off thing, but now I’m so deep into the act and want to be delivered from it badly . It’s draining me.

Why I said it’s a combination of both is, when I was in Nigeria and had a girlfriend though I used hookup girls like maybe once or twice but I was to a large extent faithful to her. But here started like a joke and now I’m in this mess

Hi guys,

Been awhile,

So I posted awhile back about being tempted to be paying pretty escorts here in Canada for sex, sadly something I thought was a one time thing, has now turn to become a habit , and I’ve really tried seeking for help to stop it. I’ve spent over $10,000 so far on escorts since 2023- date now.

It’s draining me physiologically, and I’ve confided in close friends and was advised to get married so I can have access to regular sex .

Just drowning now , I really need help . Feel so lost

ednut1:
so you enter Canada still dey carry escort. 1500 na like some people bi weekly wage o 🤣

True true. United States is the worst , one lady told me $8,000 USD overnight. She’s a top escort with millions of followers on instagram. But honestly that lady is a 10/10 . She’s a Latino but damn pretty . But $8,000 USD lol . She’s stretching it. But I think men would be paying . Crazy world Mehn

Miami girls, Las Vegas, California those women I fear them ooo.

akube34:
take it from me, dem go Dey bang am

Honestly it’s painful to say but , if she genuinely like me and all I might forgive cause she’s 21 and in her second year the chances of this happening is really high and i would be naive to think she would be holy and all. Even me sef I’m not holy , most people that pass through university no how it goes. But I’m hoping she’s matured mentally and understand how things work.

Geovanni412:
Try and talk with the girl first

See if you guys share same interest

Then you can come to Nigeria and see her

Things will naturally develop but don't make it seem like you want to marry her off the bat.

If you like her after all these things, then you fit start dey reason marriage

But try understand first how to protect all your assets present and future from 'divorce rape'

Set up companies and NGOs, try and own as little as you can in your name

Most of your assets should be in the company and the NGO.

In Nigeria, you don't pay inheritance tax on company assets so setting this up this way will help you take care of your kids without losing the bag in case she decides to divorce you or you are incapacitated temporarily.

Completely agree .

I was thinking if it gets to marriage would do it at ikoyi or thereabout . The court there or so. I know friends that do that. So if anything happens wouldn’t be tried under Canadian court or law. Cause our marriage won’t be recognized by the Canadian law court . So we would be tried under Nigerian law. Which favours everyone lol. No 50% of asset and crazy child support and all.

But hopefully no divorce or anything happens .

But I’m thinking too far. Like you said, would get to know her first and use my cousin to keep checking on her and probably see her senior sister, he told me she’s in port harcourt that’s the senior sister now.

But the parents are in Edo , Benin

Just hope everything works out well

And I’m not deceiving or wasting my time and all.

ednut1:
Yahoo boys, politicians and ritualists. Normal guys cant afford them lol

Bossman not really ooo. You in Canada and you know escorts here charge like $350 - $500 for an hour here.

In Nigeria it’s all night here it’s just an hour .

All night is like $1,500 or more .

The market now is very expensive

Though I’m trying to break free but when I was in Nigeria I used them like 3 times and paid 40k each time but it was worth it though . But not a good life to live I accept .

So I posted some time of falling into deep temptation of using escort service in Toronto and paying $500 for an hour of sex. Thought it would be a one off something but I’ve spent thousand of dollars in that habit and recently wanted to go to Miami or Las Vegas to see a really pretty girl for $1,500 an hour. God save me

So recently my Cousin in Nigeria posted a really pretty girl on his status , the girl is 21 and in second year of school and right now I’m really thinking of settling down in 2-3 year time . I’m 26 years old

I’m just curious from those experienced here can long distance relationship work or I’m just deceiving myself.

I honestly really like the girl though haven’t really spoken much with her only few things like she’s from Edo state and schools in port harcourt (Uni port) and she’s in second year and her age being 21 . Basic stuffs but she’s really pretty and she attends same church with my cousin in port harcourt. But my cousin said she’s a really good and decent girl.

I’m thinking of giving this a shot and probably delivering myself from spending lots of money here on girls . I don’t really like western women for marriage , the divorce rate and all scared me a lot , want someone who values the fundamental principles of marriage.

Would appreciate advice

Just curious is a MacBook Pro 2018 15inch good for gaming ?

Core i7 8th generation.

rickleye:
Dude, reach out to me there are other less expensive alternatives. I don’t want to list them out here . I live in an eastern province close to you.
What I need to decipher is if it’s sex you desire or companionship.
I hope it’s the former .

oh really? thats interesting. i'm in Ontario though

Spiritualsdeeps:
Urge is Natural however after satisfying yourself ..When the urge comes again you throw away another 1k Dollars .

On and on and on .

Don't See any lady to marry overthere ,Or You do not have Papers Yet .
Some Naija Babes ..How about your Girlfriend before you travel ..U need a Lady to Marry ,Every other things Follows.

well initially it was from a curiosity point of view, cause shes the first latino i have ever been with.

PJtech:
1000 naira bro... Average hookup babe for my area nah 5k max

but you see that 5k e be like $5k for my eye... nah to just fap when the urge come

Really N5,000 that’s really really cheap.

Hookup in Nigeria when I was into that shit was like 40k per night I pay or 50k . Cheapest I ever paid was 30k.

Seeing 5k , I’m 100 percent sure there aren’t clean girls or pretty girls more like street girls I guess.

Well I’m walking away from that life though. I spent a fortune back then. Just crazy Mehn. I’ve really rocked life ooo, at just 25 Mehn.

I just hope I don’t cheat in marriage though. God help me

PJtech:
well, i feel nah because you get the money nah why you reason am.. people like us wey no fit give 1k no go ever reason that kind parole

You mean N1,000 or $1,000?

PJtech:
chaii 500 f***g doll$...nah person 2 yrs savings be you just use cure conji so

Life no balance i swear

Even makes me more upset with my soul too.

Life isn’t fair . And some of those guys don’t have my problem at all. There are faithful and can zip up. It’s just not balanced.

Konjiboii:
Hop on bumble and search for a decent girl within your area and date. It's cheaper plus you can enjoy the companionship aside sex, I specifically said bumble because compared to the numbers of apps out there they are somewhat decent. Hoes still dey but atleast dem fresh.

Bumble is in Canada ? Like their operations ? Haven’t even heard of them before. Well lots out there.

Hopefully I get a wife to settle down with soon. Would be so so happy

Konjiboii:
Bro I sincerely feel for you because I totally can relate having a high sex drive luckily for me I'm in a land where I can satisfy my cravings somewhat cheaper.. you have to satisfy your urge one way bro, masturbation can only take you so far.

Well I understand you and agree . But right now I want to stop completely. When I was in Nigeria I did lots of stuffs no exaggerating but I’m pretty sure I have over 50 body count or more while in Nigeria probably up to 70 I guess. Was bad. But here I am thinking I’m starting afresh and I tried to resist but a Latino has already made it one body count already in Canada.

PJtech:
THank God you didn't waste that huge amount on p**ssy... You'll surely get over it if you visit places like this whenever you're bored or alone

I actually did sadly. Fell for the temptation

I love nature , which is one of my leisure activity. Maybe I need to engage in activities like this more often too.

I visited here in Hamilton.

tunize:
If na btc na like 600k u wan use blow for two hours you must be a celeb. U have three options in your radar
One get urself a babe.
Option two get married.
Option three visit 9ja ur urge go quench because you will spend less or Zero naira getting bleeped since na yankee u from forget it.

Lol I’m actually not a celeb. Just have a crazy addiction that makes me forget my brain at home and my konji takes over the thinking.

Rokiat:
WTF moments like this make me appreciate that I am a woman sir you are not ok ooh wasting that sort of money for just 2 hours on top pussy matter wow.

How about getting yourself an actual gf? Go out and meet people naw.

Thank God for you.

I honestly accept I’m not okay at all. Hence why I’m seeking solution and I’m getting lots of great advice that I would be implementing to help me.

But won’t lie though it was technically worth it kind of. Haven’t experienced such before. I mean the s*x now but it’s so addictive cause now all I think about is her and all. Latinos I would run away from them . There are trouble and danger in human form. You come close to them you can get addicted.

Opamercy10:
Hi man, I know how bad you may feel, Please don't opt for a girlfriend now nor a dating app again, I promise you it wouldn't stop your habits. You will still go back to that life in any slip or even in the relationship.

I think what you need is three things;
1. Prayer
2. Focus on something else that takes your time and is profitable.
3. Determination and accountability.

Since you have a family there, Always engage with prayers, It takes a lot but if you're ready to change and be anew.

I can help with the last two (Focus on something else and accountability).

You can reach out to me via WhatsApp 0.9.0.2.6.5.5.8.0.9.4

Number 1 and 3 is true and I’m trying hard to do it . But number 2 hmm. My mind keeps drawing there atimes. I just feel lost

Queendera:
you have too much free time on your hands.

Try finding something productive. Like take a course but in a real classroom not one of those online courses.

Or hit the gym, take part in a community platform.

Just try find things that will take you out of your apartment for the better part of the day.

For the onlyfans, it's better you start thinking twice about it.

Someone once said something, "saying you don't have control over your sexual urge is a useless excuse. If at the point of sleeping with a woman and you discovered she's HIV positive, would you say, you can't control your urges and must go on with it?"

Of course not. Your sexual urge is within your power to control. You just are taking the easier way out.

Start making changes. Keep a diary for a week and keep track of the things you do everyday.

Find where you spend your lonely times and see how you can utilize those times for other gainful activities.

Actually I’m super busy. I’m schooling physical not online, have lots of assignments , tests and projects to do. I’m also working too. Basically juggling school and work . I also save money too. But somehow just somehow when I feel Hot I tend to make out time and resort to this crazy stuff. That’s why it’s an hour session cause that’s the time I can spare for it.

I sometimes can get back from work by 8pm and I’m so so tired and before I sleep I watch porn it’s that bad. Sometimes I even go to bed not finishing the video to show how tired I was but I watch it. Just crazy addiction

Well just to guard myself I’m blocking her on both instagram and deleting my onlyfans account and doing same with any pretty girl like her. Seeing them is too much temptation for me it’s like my brain shuts down and konji does the thinking until after the deed is done then my brain restarts. So cutting them off completely is a way to start.

I really really gave it a lot but shit happens.

Hopefully my healing process starts.

I just feel filthy and wish I can leave this body and enter another body and just live happily without this burden

3rd

2nd picture

Attached are her pictures for those curious

I really feel like filth now. I really really tried to control it and myself but it’s just tough I went through with it at last.

For those curious about the girl attached are her pictures. It was just too too difficult to resist . And she’s my first latino/white girl experience. I’ve been celibate for over a year now but feel like filth ending it this way.

Just tried my best .

For those that encouraged me thank you so much. I won’t give up.

But she’s gone back to Toronto and I’m blocking her and everyone that’s pretty to avoid temptation again.

I think that’s where I would start from.

omotodun1:
@cananda123

Abeg, which app did you use to send money to Naija?

Pesapeer

shantti:
Which app is this that u can send money in dollars and the receiver receives it in naira

I use Pesapeer.

There are lots of them out there I think remitly too and the others. But I use Pesapeer

Ilekokonit:
If he finds and promises a fellow Nigerian woman marriage, lashes her and then finds out they are not really compatible, what next

What if the woman is a psycho and when he dumps her she goes to the police and says he raped her 2 weeks ago. No be jail be that for bros ?

Even oyinbo men dey fear to marry or promise women marriage nowadays.

Western world women na different kettle of fish o. They no get conscience at all and have no problem with setting up and jailing any man who dumps them.

Hell hath no fury like a scorned westernised woman.

Bros should tread carefully before promising any woman marriage just because he wants regular sex.

I would even go further to say that if he is not sure about the future of a relationship with any woman, he should not date her or encourage her by sleeping with her.

You know that some women equate sex with love or marriage or a promise to marry them.

True though . Don’t want stories that touch . I would really feel bad deceiving someone also.

ElasmoBranchii:
You said you are addicted to porn. I feel that's actually where your problem is. If you can try to abstain from sex and PMO for 3 months (best if you can go 6months). It is going to be hard but you can do it. Your brain will reset. I have done it before. Best way to do this is cut off social media and don't have much free time.

Also with that money get a gym membership and start jogging once a week and weight training through out this 3/6 month period. This will help improve your physical appearance.

There is a thread on nairaland for people trying to quit PMO addiction if you want the link I can send to you.

If you can try to do this. Then you will see changes in your addiction.

Would appreciate the link.