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God bless you for this thoughtful idea ..

Mwhite:
He doesn't want a divorce. He left in the name of searching for greener pastures and hasn't achieved anything because he lacks commitment, will or discipline. I am not leaving because I think I can find someone else, it's not a priority. I am just so tired of the whole situation.

But if he becomes a billionaire tomorrow, you will be willing to forgive his sins and make your marriage work, right? You women tend to haunt men when they face difficulties providing for the family and achieving their goals in life. Only you know what you are going through, but if that man ever makes it out of the trenches, he should finalize that divorce and seek custody of his child. Lest I forget, he should find a younger and more deserving partner.

Humans are like magnets , we are attracts what benefits each other and no one wants the opposite side that doesn’t magnet ..

Plenty things to talk about..woman matter no de ever end .

Was thinking of creating same topic today ,even our mothers are discouraging men from getting married to naija women and if you must then you gats shine eyes wella cus they will reject any irresponsible woman with no manners nor respect..currently dealing with one though she has my child but still on still I’m not an advocate for baby mama , so will try to fix things ..las las na lack of funds de cause this issues ..

This country sha ..quite sad

Out here chasing 2k and 3k with current fuel prices ..10k sef na to send you go Ibadan lol

Is it okay to allow a rider pick another passenger on the way to her location..cause this one right here just walked me into traffic cus she wants to pick a guy on her way instead of following the right path that beat traffic ..I’m forced I bill her for extra payment..inDrive passenger

Mussolini77:
Thanks so much for your input sir….
Firstly I had to sell off my 90% completed house and a land to finance her Canada traveling on a study route which I was to follow as a dependent, everything went smoothly and only left to pay for the ticket and accommodation when we discovered she was 2months preg and she said she couldn’t handle the stress with her schooling and after she put to bed she said she couldn’t go for now because she is not strong enough….that wasted those resources
Secondly came the idea that we relocate to the city and I had to sell off what is left of my land and some home properties especially everything in my spare apartments since we would be downsizing and there won’t be space to keep them…she chose the location we currently in and I got a job here and went away till the theft incident happened
Then came this again and her job is not bringing in much income, might not even make a dime in a month or two since she is working from home
Sincerely I’m frustrated

mehn , you keep making unnecessary sacrifices.. you lead your family the way u want it to go and not follow a woman tune cause when they lead wrong they won’t own up to their mistakes.

Sacrifices of a man is not being talked about enough and you will still be the same person to replace the properties and worst still the greedy comparisons forgetting what you had to sacrifice for the family..all women care about is they gratification to old themselves on the expense of a man while ignoring the efforts we make .. no woman will force my hand in thus life best we all go our separate ways ..

TheModerator:
Indrive will take about N1500 from the 8k you were to pay. His take home would have been about 6k. FFS 6k for driving 26km from VI to a traffic riddled Addo road? This hustle is the biggest modern day slavery in Nigeria at the moment . Even if you are on CNG, does 6k take home amount to labour and time? If the car was yours, would you pay someone 8k to drive you from VI to Addo in your own car and fuel?

There's no explaining why he bolted with your money. The fair deal for this trip is 15 - 20k in the prevailing economic situation. Maybe you should negotiate with him to return 60k to you. He may listen to that offer. Otherwise, just take it as karma.

like modern slavery with no means to protest ..

Omo the way people de accept trip so fast ,feels like all drivers just woke up from their slumber and got back on the road ..

yemmit90:
You don't need to denied this, you should've used my comment as motivation. I am not trying to make jest of you as I can't call myself a rich person too. You are not alone in this situation, just that some couples know how to handle it better. Someone with accomodations problem or who is still seeking for a good financial foundation is not financially ok, and that might have contributed to the issue you are facing in your marriage.

nothing feels motivating about poverty and poverty in my own sense is a strong word which I strongly rejects ,I’m not one to brag with things I own but I’m way above that.

Kobojunkie:
If you were to share custody of the child, you would free up time for the woman to build herself up financially, too. That would work to your benefit and that of your child. Even if you two were to get back together again, having a double-income family framework works much better than a single-income framework in the current economy and that to come.

sure you are right , hopefully she engages herself as well ..

yemmit90:
Sorry for what you are passing through, i could deduced from your narratives that your marriage would've be a good one but poverty strike, which made some little normal marriage issues became unresolved occurrences between you and your wife.

Focus on your development for now and seek for reconciliation with your wife and daughter as soon as you can.

not poverty , I’m okay but I just need to make a proper balance of our lives .. a good financial foundation..

I’m currently dealing with post-separation anxiety because I no longer live with my family, and my child is quite far away from me. I still cover her bills and take care of her needs.
The main issues that led to our separation were our fundamental differences, which are still present, along with accommodation problems that I’m trying to resolve. My goal is to bring my child closer so I can visit her easily and be more involved in her life.
The reason I’m venting is that marriage or a long-term union isn’t the flex I thought it would be. Having another person constantly in your face—questioning your choices, your thoughts, and your processes, putting you on the spot and demanding instant answers like you’re some magician, acting like they know you better than you know yourself, doubting you, showing no patience, yet constantly seeking gratification to feel good while you walk on eggshells—is that what they call the sacrifices men are expected to make?
I’m stepping back for a while. I feel deeply for my child. I fought hard to keep her under my care, but her mother fought against it and took her away. Now I have to live with the reality of watching her move from one place to another—places I know nothing about. It’s an unbalanced situation that I hate. I never envisioned raising a child this way, and if I had the chance, I would definitely reconsider my choices—especially who I chose to have a child with.Time will tell 💲🚶🏾‍♂️‍➡️

Raymondfayowole:
Whats your honest advice for someone willing to go into the business with moove..is it still profitable to at least settle daily basic needs.

yes it is , but to save and break out mehn u gats work like machine and it really sucks stressing one’s health for so little ..To drive no easy abeg

I haven’t stepped into work for weeks now but mehn I’m disturbed by prices I’m seeing and I believe danfo drivers make money than ehailing .. imagine chasing 2ks and 3k ,when man wan meet up and you got fuel prices and repairs to contend with .. mehn shit ain’t funny .

This apps keeps reducing prices.. no be life be this fr , stressing for crumbs .

Fuel no be way forward for this hustle fr..is there a way to convert hybrid Camry to cng , cause I can’t put up with this little profit daily ..

What kind of bonus is inDrive giving drivers ?I still get billed to pay even when I have bonus in my account..how does it work ?

Pearl1910:
Does ur hybrid still work? Cos it doesn't seem to show any fuel savings

yes it does ,sometimes during stops or traffic the battery takes over and the engine stops or sometimes it drives without the engine being on but there is must be fuel inside cause if there is no fuel it doesn’t go much distance .it helps saves fuel

Eazilyfe:
The hybrid battery still good? Wetin make u spend 600K on ABS boss? The mechanic no do you bad?

yeah battery still works .. not really the abs is quite costly , the former just pack up when man just start the hustle , had to fix it to get back on the road .. For now man still de manage cus this work never really clear yet but we go de push am small small , better than nothing ..

tipsy242:
20k fuel for 130km... Which car? CNG? Was your AC on all through? It appears the trips were long distance ones judging by your dashboard

yes AC was on all through ..Camry hybrid 2008 .yeah long distance and few short ones ..

Island traffic is something else today .. all my body just de pain me 😫…pushed myself a little harder today , started trip from 11am _7pm on inDrive ..Omo this work no easy ..20k fuel by the way .

Can I pick riders from mm1 or mm2 airport .. I get request from there but I don’t know if I can go there to pick riders ..

abefeabebi:
I usually work Saturday and Sunday,I make e roughly 80k to 90k each day with serious work,but at the end will by like 70k fuel, for the 2days . Already pay for CNG, hoping they call me this week for conversion

kudos to your diligence on this job …barely struggle past 30k in a day .. until this fuel mata goes back to normal I won’t put much effort into this work..

This job feels like one keeps running in circles just to meet profit and you end buying fuel again with same profit to gain another profit .. Omo the take home small ooo .. This fuel price should head back to 700 when I started this job ..😑

Muhammadson2020:
No

Small Pit Bull Attack. Chihuahua dey make noise .
My friend go and open Indrive account and enjoy piece of mind

sure , I’m on Uber and inDrive .. na wetin I de use currently though I just say make try hustle today ..