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Contrary to what many women may claim, size DOES matter!

Who can say for sure why some women say it doesn’t. Perhaps they don’t want to upset men by being honest about it. Or perhaps they lie to themselves because their partner doesn’t satisfy them and are in denial.

Who knows for sure, but the truth is, size is important.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that bigger is better, for there is such a thing as too big just as there is such a thing as too small.


Visual or Anticipation Reasons

Think about how most of us men prefer larger breasted women. Smaller breasts or flat chests generally are less appealing, while DDs get our instant attention, right?

But then if you think of massively oversized breasts on a woman, we usually respond with mixed feelings. It’s kind of gross, but interesting. It’s more of a ‘freakshow’ and we look only because it’s amusing, not because it turns us on, necessarily.

All that said, women’s views on joysticks can be quite similar.


First, larger joysticks, like larger breasts, are more appealing and satisfying to the eye. Somehow, it’s as if women will have a greater anticipation for a larger penis, just as we anticipate better sex if a woman has larger breasts.

But where men viewing fuller breasts as more appealing, they don’t really add more pleasure to intercourse itself.

A larger, fuller penis, however, does.


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Contrary to what many women may claim, size DOES matter!

Who can say for sure why some women say it doesn’t. Perhaps they don’t want to upset men by being honest about it. Or perhaps they lie to themselves because their partner doesn’t satisfy them and are in denial.

Who knows for sure, but the truth is, size is important.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that bigger is better, for there is such a thing as too big just as there is such a thing as too small.


Visual or Anticipation Reasons

Think about how most of us men prefer larger breasted women. Smaller breasts or flat chests generally are less appealing, while DDs get our instant attention, right?

But then if you think of massively oversized breasts on a woman, we usually respond with mixed feelings. It’s kind of gross, but interesting. It’s more of a ‘freakshow’ and we look only because it’s amusing, not because it turns us on, necessarily.

All that said, women’s views on joysticks can be quite similar.


First, larger joysticks, like larger breasts, are more appealing and satisfying to the eye. Somehow, it’s as if women will have a greater anticipation for a larger penis, just as we anticipate better sex if a woman has larger breasts.

But where men viewing fuller breasts as more appealing, they don’t really add more pleasure to intercourse itself.

A larger, fuller penis, however, does.


How do you then get this empowering of your p.enis?


Well, I have compiled a FREE detailing all you need to know to empower your p.enis starting right Now.

All you need to do is to download it here.https://mailchi.mp/a2229764a8fd/pl-enlargement


It's only for a limited TIME. Act fast. Change your story!

Many women say they are doing their best, but just can't seem to build relationships. Others say they had no idea when the relationship was getting worse. But really, we all know what to do to mend a relationship forever!
But we hesitate, assume the effort is not worth it, or are too selfish to bow. So if you really want your relationship to work, take some advice. Trust your instincts.
Love is not complicated or painful. In fact, it's easy as long as you keep these 10 must-have relationship tips and advice in mind.
# 1 Play with him: Joy is the one thing that maintains a happy relationship more than anything. Just because your childhood is behind you doesn't mean you always have to be mature!
# 2 Men are easily influenced in their lives by other men around them. If his friends and the other guys in the room think you're a dream trap, he'll fall more and more in love with you and keep him from straying from you.
# 3 Not all men understand the art of chivalry, romantic gestures, and romance. Instead of abandoning him, show him the way by example and he will learn to treat you with respect.
# 4 Listen to their point of view before arguing or cutting them off. This is the easiest way to stop things from working. And don't be patronizing either!
# 5 You can't change someone who doesn't want to be changed. Help your husband understand you better and help him learn by example. But if he doesn't want to change for you, he might not respect you or care enough about you, and you need someone who can love you for who you are.

# 6 Don't keep reminding him of his past mistakes. Men are very sensitive to the mistakes of the past. He will shut down like a clam if you use his past mistakes to make him accept defeat or listen to you.
# 7 Don't blame yourself. You are never entirely to blame when the relationship begins to suffer. So don't blame yourself if you have a bad relationship. Take responsibility, but don't blame yourself unless it's really your fault.
# 8 Men can't read minds. As convinced as he is that men must have the innate ability to read a woman's mind, they really can't. So say what you think and he will listen to your thoughts.
# 9 No man likes a drama queen, especially when he's looking for ways to complicate the relationship.
# 10 The silent deal. Ignoring your friend when he is in pain seems like the best way to teach him a lesson. But the truth is, the silent treatment will prevent it from harming you, it will only make him to be better at lying.

Contrary to what many women may claim, size DOES matter!

Who can say for sure why some women say it doesn’t. Perhaps they don’t want to upset men by being honest about it. Or perhaps they lie to themselves because their partner doesn’t satisfy them and are in denial.

Who knows for sure, but the truth is, size is important.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that bigger is better, for there is such a thing as too big just as there is such a thing as too small.


Visual or Anticipation Reasons

Think about how most of us men prefer larger breasted women. Smaller breasts or flat chests generally are less appealing, while DDs get our instant attention, right?

But then if you think of massively oversized breasts on a woman, we usually respond with mixed feelings. It’s kind of gross, but interesting. It’s more of a ‘freakshow’ and we look only because it’s amusing, not because it turns us on, necessarily.

All that said, women’s views on joysticks can be quite similar.


First, larger joysticks, like larger breasts, are more appealing and satisfying to the eye. Somehow, it’s as if women will have a greater anticipation for a larger penis, just as we anticipate better sex if a woman has larger breasts.

But where men viewing fuller breasts as more appealing, they don’t really add more pleasure to intercourse itself.

A larger, fuller penis, however, does.


How do you then get this empowering of your p.enis?


Well, I have compiled a FREE detailing all you need to know to empower your p.enis starting right Now.

All you need to do is to download it here.https://mailchi.mp/a2229764a8fd/pl-enlargement


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ultiabaz36:
Good day my people, please your advise is needed. I am in my 30s and I came into this relationship this year January. I like and I love this babe so much but she’s always demanding financially despite being a working class and I am only surviving on 45k job here in lagos. I have target and ambition for my life and everything is placed on this my job. So, I have a proportion of my income to be saved for this my ambition but since I met this girl, I never have anything called savings again while I still go on borrowing to satisfy her needs.

The most painful part of it all is that anytime she asks of anything and I’m not capable of what she asked for, she will first block me on Whatsapp and drop a breakup message. I will be the one to call and persuade her and when she feels like to unblock me she will do that.

But now, she’s asking for salah cloth and I don’t have the amount she’s asking for. I told her I don’t have the money for now while I told her that I don’t know what tomorrow will say and as soon as I said this, she dropped the breakup message as usual and block me on WhatsApp.

Please Advise me on what to do as this is getting on my nerves.

You are.

BTW, I wrote about 13 signs to watch out for if you are in a toxic relationship.

Check my profile for the link. It's here on the Romance section.

Regards

You are welcome.

Hope you find it cool and life-transforming.

No, it's not boss.

It's called negotiating and persuasive buying in marketing.

Keep balling...

iLegendd:
+18. Is This Considered Cheating? [Picture]

This short post is 3-in-1.

Last month, being June, I wanted to do a promo, but was too lazy. A spirit said, "Just do this promo joor and collect the free money." As you all know, I'm proudly jobless for life.

So, I decided to do it. On our pre-sale, we made more than 98+k. Let's just say it's 100k from less than 20 clients.

At the end of the promo, it was more than 200k (including people who didn't buy at promo price for the month of June.

In that June, I went to buy Cyway water and I saw this beautiful black chair, so I stopped and said to the carpenter, "Oga, this chair try, but no tell me big price o. How much e be?"

As I was talking, the young and handsome carpenter was giving me some signs, but I kept saying my mind. When I was done, he finally used sign language to let me know he doesn't hear or talk.

I was weak and felt bad for myself and for him. Knowing he's differently-abled made me to vow to patronize him.

This was how we started using sign language to talk.

He showed me different leathers — original and fake. He is so honest.

I told him to construct a white colored one and he said with original leather, it's 150k. At the end, he agreed to do it for 120k.

When I showed the chair to people, they said I cheated him. Did I cheated him?

Note: I sold books I usually sell for 10k or 7k for 1k as bonanza in the month of June to generate this 120k I gave him.

Those that bought the books cheated me, so don't you think it's wise I cheat him too? Cheat me, I cheat another person.

The carpenter has access to cheap, but original leather sellers and importers. He is from Imo state.

I carried the white chair yesterday and I like it.

Now, here is the business I want to do. I want to give him 150k or at most, 180k to make the chair below and I'll sell it for 300+k. That, my dear, is business. If all goes well, I'll start something big with him.

The moral of the story is: being deaf and dumb didn't stop him from having a skill that'll fetch him money.

In this short article, below are three lessons

1. I generated money with my phone while in my house
2. I used 120k from the money to buy a set of chair
3. I want to start a business with the carpenter that produced the chair

If this isn't wisdom, I doubt what is. So, don't wait for work or school — get a skill and have wisdom and you'll never be broke.

Ilamina:
No more posting on nairaland and making weird topics



Sorry for all the annoyance, childishness and trouble

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Afonjashapmouth:
Whatever Ye dispense so shall you receive so before you tag your partners with all these traits, make sure you are not doing same

Yes, buddy. You're on point! It takes two to tangle.

Elchechereche2:
Thank you loads.I will attempt number .3

Welcome buddy!

What do you think guys?


Are you in a toxic relationship?


Aside from the 13 signs above, what other signs do we see in one.

Let's share our thoughts and experiences so that others can learn.

Everything works in a healthy relationship. Of course, there are obstacles in the way, but usually, they make decisions together, openly discuss any issues, and genuinely enjoy each other's company.
Toxic relationships are another story. And if you are in one, red flags can be harder to spot.
If you constantly feel exhausted or unhappy after spending time with your partner, it could be a sign that things need to change.

Here are some characteristics of toxicity in a relationship.
What does it look like?

Depending on the nature of the relationship, signs of toxicity can be subtle or very obvious.
If you are in a toxic relationship, you may notice some of these symptoms in yourself, your partner, or the relationship itself.
1. Lack of support
The time you spend together is no longer positive or conducive to your goals.
Healthy relationships are built on a shared desire for the other to be successful in all walks of life. But when it gets toxic, every achievement becomes a competition.
In other words, you don't feel like they're behind you.
2. Toxic communication
Instead of treating each other nicely, most of their conversations are filled with sarcasm, criticism, or outright hostility. You may even start to avoid talking to each other.
3. Jealousy
While it's okay to be jealous from time to time, it can become a problem if you can't think or feel your success positively.
4. Over-ruling behavior
Constantly asking yourself where you are at or getting too angry if you don't respond to text messages right away are signs of controlling behavior that can contribute to relationship toxicity.
In some cases, these attempts to control it can be a sign of abuse.
5. Bitterness
Hold on to resentments and let them grow in intimacy.
Over time, frustration or resentment can build up and create an even bigger little void.
6. Dishonesty
You are constantly making up lies about where you are or who you are with to avoid spending time with your partner.
7. Model of disrespect
Chronic delays, the occasional "forgetting" of events, and other behaviors that show disrespect for your time are warning signs.
8. Negative financial behavior
Your partner can make financial decisions without consulting or even considering you, including buying big-ticket items or withdrawing large sums of money. It can always be in the form of always asking for money.
9. Constant stress
A normal level of stress permeates any relationship, but being constantly nervous is an indicator that something is wrong.
This prolonged stress can negatively affect your physical and emotional health.
10. Your needs ignore his / hers
Accepting what your partner wants to do, even if it is against your wishes or your comfort, is a sure sign of toxicity.
For example, you can take vacations that you have or have not planned on dates that do not suit you.
11. Lost relationships
You no longer spend time with friends and family, whether it's to avoid conflict with your partner or to explain what's going on in your relationship.
Alternatively, you may find yourself spending your free time with your partner.
12. Lack of personal attention
In a toxic relationship, you might put aside your usual self-care habits.
Perhaps you have withdrawn from hobbies you once loved, neglected your health, and sacrificed your free time.
13. Hope for change
You can stay in the relationship because you see the potential of the other person or think that if you change yourself and your actions, he/she will change too.

PillarToPost:
This photo has been trending on Facebook and I decided to bring it here to have the views of Nairaland ladies.

Ladies, is it a Yah or Nah?

Let's hear you.

Seun, lalasticlala, Mynd44

Nothing New.

Don't despise the days of small beginnings. If one truly loves him and he has a personal drive and vision for a better tomorrow with real pursuit and tenacity for the brighter future, why not?

I wil gladly accept his proposal.

Elchechereche2:
Should I dump her sorry ass.please I need advice.This is a girl am currently sponsoring her tertiary education yet I found this morning she's very active on that Whatsapp line, but would take a lifetime to reply my messages all in the name of being busy with school works.

1. try to chat her up on non-academic busy days and see her rate of response. Initiate chat mostly weekends.

2. If the same scene of taking forever to reply to her chat, try chatting with her on the other line and see her response.

3. Boldly but calmly confront her and try to see her reaction.

Crowwe:
She broke my heart barely 2 weeks after I furnished her rented apartment with over 1.8 million naira. I've counted my losses and moved on and I'll express the anger on the next woman to come my way.

Just move bro. Take heart.


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Contrary to what many women may claim, size DOES matter!

Who can say for sure why some women say it doesn’t. Perhaps they don’t want to upset men by being honest about it. Or perhaps they lie to themselves because their partner doesn’t satisfy them and are in denial.

Who knows for sure, but the truth is, size is important.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that bigger is better, for there is such a thing as too big just as there is such a thing as too small.


Visual or Anticipation Reasons

Think about how most of us men prefer larger breasted women. Smaller breasts or flat chests generally are less appealing, while DDs get our instant attention, right?

But then if you think of massively oversized breasts on a woman, we usually respond with mixed feelings. It’s kind of gross, but interesting. It’s more of a ‘freakshow’ and we look only because it’s amusing, not because it turns us on, necessarily.

All that said, women’s views on joysticks can be quite similar.


First, larger joysticks, like larger breasts, are more appealing and satisfying to the eye. Somehow, it’s as if women will have a greater anticipation for a larger penis, just as we anticipate better sex if a woman has larger breasts.

But where men viewing fuller breasts as more appealing, they don’t really add more pleasure to intercourse itself.

A larger, fuller penis, however, does.


How do you then get this empowering of your p.enis?


Well, I have compiled a FREE detailing all you need to know to empower your p.enis starting right Now.

All you need to do is to download it here.https://mailchi.mp/a2229764a8fd/pl-enlargement


It's only for a limited TIME. Act fast. Change your story!

Whether you're new to the workforce or are looking to make a change, one of the best things you can do for your career is craft a stellar resume. Even if writing isn't your strong suit, you can still put together a solid resume to entice prospective employers. Here's how to do it. Let me show in few minutes:

1. Craft a compelling opening summary
The opening section of your resume sets the tone for the rest of that document -- so it's important to get it right. Your introductory statement should give a brief, snappy overview of who you are and why you're such a valuable asset, so use it to draw in your audience and convince those hiring managers to keep reading. Do not, however, mistake your introduction for an objective. "Seeking a role where I can prosper and grow" doesn't speak to your talents or personality. "Fearless marketer with boundary-pushing tendencies," on the other hand, is a far more captivating way to start.

2. List your responsibilities and achievements from most to least significant
The folks who receive your resume may not always read it in its entirety. In fact, there's a good chance they'll merely skim through it at first, and then go back for a more thorough read once interested. That's why it's critical to put your most valuable skills and accomplishments toward the top of each section, where readers' eyes are most likely to land initially, and stick those mundane, less impressive tasks lower down on the list. Even if you spent most of your time at your last job booking conference rooms and making travel arrangements for other people, if you were given several key projects to run with, highlight those first.

3. Use hard numbers
It's one thing to boast of your sales prowess, but it's another to document the extent to which you've actually delivered results. That's why it pays to use hard numbers to highlight your achievements whenever possible. If you increased sales by 20% at your last job, say so -- with a number.

4. Don't list skills that should be a given
It's 2017, which means that pretty much everyone who works in an office also knows how to use the internet. The same holds true for basic word processing and spreadsheets. Calling out these skills on your resume could be a sign that you're desperate for content -- which might turn prospective employers away. Instead, focus on the skills that make you stand out, and avoid stating what should be the obvious.

5. Show, don't just tell
It's hard to pin down your entire career to a one-page snapshot, but thankfully, you don't have to. If you've developed an online portfolio showcasing your work, include a link to it on your resume so that prospective employers know where to look for further detail. It's one thing to talk about what a wonderful graphic designer you are, but it's much more powerful to let those hiring managers see for themselves.

6. Keep it clean
In the hiring world, there's no greater turnoff than a resume laden with errors. Similarly, if your fonts and italics usage are all over the place on the document, your potential employer is bound to notice that sloppiness. Before you submit your resume, examine it thoroughly for stylistic consistency. This means that if you bold the name of a previous employer in one section, you should do the same in another. And though the following should go without saying, for the love of grammar, run your resume through a spell-checking program to ensure that the words it contains are, well, actual words.

Whether you're new to the workforce or are looking to make a change, one of the best things you can do for your career is craft a stellar resume. Even if writing isn't your strong suit, you can still put together a solid resume to entice prospective employers. Here's how to do it. Let me show in few minutes:

1. Craft a compelling opening summary

The opening section of your resume sets the tone for the rest of that document -- so it's important to get it right. Your introductory statement should give a brief, snappy overview of who you are and why you're such a valuable asset, so use it to draw in your audience and convince those hiring managers to keep reading. Do not, however, mistake your introduction for an objective. "Seeking a role where I can prosper and grow" doesn't speak to your talents or personality. "Fearless marketer with boundary-pushing tendencies," on the other hand, is a far more captivating way to start.

2. List your responsibilities and achievements from most to least significant
The folks who receive your resume may not always read it in its entirety. In fact, there's a good chance they'll merely skim through it at first, and then go back for a more thorough read once interested. That's why it's critical to put your most valuable skills and accomplishments toward the top of each section, where readers' eyes are most likely to land initially, and stick those mundane, less impressive tasks lower down on the list. Even if you spent most of your time at your last job booking conference rooms and making travel arrangements for other people, if you were given several key projects to run with, highlight those first.

3. Use hard numbers
It's one thing to boast of your sales prowess, but it's another to document the extent to which you've actually delivered results. That's why it pays to use hard numbers to highlight your achievements whenever possible. If you increased sales by 20% at your last job, say so -- with a number.

4. Don't list skills that should be a given
It's 2017, which means that pretty much everyone who works in an office also knows how to use the internet. The same holds true for basic word processing and spreadsheets. Calling out these skills on your resume could be a sign that you're desperate for content -- which might turn prospective employers away. Instead, focus on the skills that make you stand out, and avoid stating what should be the obvious.
5. Show, don't just tell

It's hard to pin down your entire career to a one-page snapshot, but thankfully, you don't have to. If you've developed an online portfolio showcasing your work, include a link to it on your resume so that prospective employers know where to look for further detail. It's one thing to talk about what a wonderful graphic designer you are, but it's much more powerful to let those hiring managers see for themselves.

6. Keep it clean
In the hiring world, there's no greater turnoff than a resume laden with errors. Similarly, if your fonts and italics usage are all over the place on the document, your potential employer is bound to notice that sloppiness. Before you submit your resume, examine it thoroughly for stylistic consistency. This means that if you bold the name of a previous employer in one section, you should do the same in another. And though the following should go without saying, for the love of grammar, run your resume through a spell-checking program to ensure that the words it contains are, well, actual words.

Once you graduate from college and land a job, your next immediate concern is how to succeed in your career. Because the world has become so competitive, doing well in your job and moving forward with your career is more important now than ever. Career advancement and recognition are on every professional's list of goals. But what sets the exceptional professionals apart? The answer is simply willingness and a strong desire to perform well. Once you have the willingness and the right mindset, you can begin climbing the the ladder.

Here are the top 10 career success secrets on how to excel at work.

1. Take initiative
Today's career requirements are highly developed and require much more than someone who won't take risks. In today's competitive career landscape, employers are looking for individuals who can bring fresh ideas to the table and take initiative, start new projects, pitch new solutions and create new opportunities for the business.

2. Be your own evaluator
One of the best ways to achieve career success is to keep assessing your performance. Don't wait for your annual appraisal – do it yourself. An ideal way to do this would be to identify quantifiable goals and set a timeline for achieving them. Start with setting short-term goals when you're new to a job. Create a detailed plan to achieve these goals. Break the tasks down into weekly or even daily tasks and fill out a small form at the end of the week to assess where you're headed and whether you need to change your strategy. You can even show your own performance report to your managers at some point to show how you've progressed. This will show that you understand the importance of constant self-evaluation and improvement.

3. Be ready to learn
To excel in your career, you have to be willing to learn. No matter what university you graduated from or what grades you had, professional life will be very different from college. Be prepared to have a million questions pop up every day regarding what you're doing. It might take you days to get a hang of your duties at your new job, so show management that you are coachable, paying attention and always willing to learn new things.

4. Anticipate needs
To succeed in your new job and achieve career success, you will have to be well aware of what your manager needs. Stay a step ahead of your boss by asking yourself, “If I were my boss, what would I want done next?” By making sure you get things efficiently done in time, and take the initiative to do them yourself, you will be showing a positive, go-getter attitude to higher management.

5. Communicate well
Communication is key to an employee's and an organization's success. If your manager has to ask you for a status report, you're not doing everything you could be doing. The idea is to proactively communicate and let them know when a task is done, and move on to what needs to be done next.

6. Set goals to achieve
Remember you're not being paid for 'working hard' or 'staying busy.' At the end of the day, what matters to your employer is how you're contributing to fulfilling the company's goals and mission, both short term and long term. Therefore, keep in mind that you're being paid to deliver on clearly defined goals that significantly impact the company's performance and overall mission and vision. This goal-oriented mindset will help you achieve career success, no matter where you are on the corporate ladder.

7. Show, don't tell
The value of action is far greater than that of mere words. Use this as a principle in your dealings at the office. Instead of bragging about all the things you can do, and then never actually delivering, you ought to show management what you are capable of.

8. Gain trust
This is one of the most important tips for success you need to ensure success when you start a new job. Think of it this way: the quicker you earn your boss' trust, the sooner they'll have less to worry about and hence more free time to focus their attention on other pressing matters. If your boss finds you trustworthy, they'll delegate tasks to you. Make sure you meet your deadlines and keep your promises. It's critical, especially early on in your relationship with your boss, that you fulfill every commitment you make, no matter how difficult it may seem.

9. Create solutions
Everyone can turn their problems into their manager's problems. Be the solution provider, not the problem creator. Great employees solve problems. If you don't have the authority to give the final verdict on a problem relevant to your work or department, then make sure you offer solutions to your boss and try to help as much as you can, wholeheartedly.

10. Be compassionate
Being a good employee requires compassion and understanding that your manager, and fellow employees are doing their best. Throwing a tantrum is not going to do anyone any good, neither will constantly complaining about how much work you're doing. At the end of the day, everyone is doing their fair share of the work they're getting paid for.

Many of these traits and behaviors that can help you excel in your career are also found in great leaders. By keeping these 10 career success secrets in mind, you can put yourself on the path to true greatness and achieve your ultimate career goals.

Are you keeping these tips for success in mind at work?

I want to help you achieve more in your career in 2020. Feel free to chat me up on 09012231753

It’s that time of year again—time to set those New Year goals. At this point, though, you know the drill: You set a goal (no more carbs!), stick to it for a month (if you’re lucky), and then revert to your old habits.

In fact, US News & World Report found that roughly 80% of resolutions fail by the second week of February, so the odds are against you. This doesn’t mean you’re doomed to fail, but it does mean you need to be realistic. Your sights must be set on targets that are within your reach. Beware biting off more than you can chew.

To help you increase your awesomeness this year, I have compiled 9 achievable resolutions that are suitable for every industry and every experience level.

1. Pay attention
If you’ve been doing the same job for a while, it’s easy to let yourself coast—and let your skills development fall by the wayside. The solution? Treat every workday like a school day. Adopt a growth mindset, aim to learn something each day—it doesn’t even have to relate to your skills set—just keep your brain in learning mode.

2. Look for the next rung
If you want to get promoted this year, don’t just sit back and wait for your boss to tap you on the shoulder. Create your own opportunities by meeting with your manager to get clarity on what you need to do to upgrade your position within the company. But remember to take small, achievable steps. All those small steps add up.

3. Make your boss look good
By helping your boss hit her goals, she’ll be more motivated to help you achieve yours. Find out how your boss is judged and how she gets a bonus, Oftentimes, these are financial targets, so understand how to help your manager hit them.

4. Pick projects with maximum impact
One of the best ways to gain visibility within your company and become known as a leader is by making noticeable contributions to big projects. Therefore, find out what high-profile projects are in the works this year, and ask if there are opportunities for you to play a part in them.

5. Stretch your role
The last thing you want to be is a hamster on a wheel at your job—clocking in and clocking out without pushing yourself. Step outside your comfort zone and take on new responsibilities to gain the experience you need to climb the ranks. Showing that kind of initiative will also make you more valuable to your employer. Come up with your own ideas, and work with your manager to implement them.

6. Manage up
Building a great relationship with your boss is paramount. After all, the person who signs off on your performance reviews can help or hinder your career trajectory. One approach to managing up: Find out what keeps your boss up at night. Once you’ve identified these issues, make your manager’s life easier by offering to pitch in.

7. Manage across
Whether you get along with your co-workers can improve or impair your job performance, especially on group projects. To cozy up to colleagues, be a team player by giving co-workers credit when it’s due, engaging with your peers outside of work (doing so builds rapport), and providing these folks with emotional support during hard times. If you can work more effectively with others, you’re going to build meaningful relationships that can help you long term.

8. Be a better communicator
Want to be liked? Be a good communicator. That means returning emails and calls promptly, letting co-workers know what you’re up to, and asking people where they’re at on their own projects. Talk to people; give them a heads up when you’ll be unavailable so they’re not left hanging. And when someone helps you out, be sure to thank them.

9. Create a work-life balance
All work and no play can make life a chore—if you’re miserable at work, your career could stall out. The moral? Work hard, but don’t wear yourself out. Carve out time for friends and family. And don’t forget to take your vacation days.

NOTE: Use these tips to showcase your talents without sounding arrogant, corny, or desperate.

Unless you’re actually in sales, the very concept of selling yourself during a job interview can be daunting. You don’t want to sound arrogant or corny, or worse, desperate. But learning how to self-promote in a convincing manner is what the job interview is all about.

The good news is you can learn how to confidently talk about yourself—specifically your skills, knowledge, and career achievements—with a little effort. These tips can help you close the sale on a job offer.

1. Look the part
Many hiring managers will form their first impression of you based on what you’re wearing. Granted, the right interview attire depends on the company you’re auditioning for and the culture of the organization. But you should dress up one notch above what the employees are wearing.

In addition, you need to physically project confidence. Your body language has to reinforce what you’re selling. In other words, your nonverbal cues—mainly your eye contact, hand motions, posture, and tone of voice—are critical when selling yourself to a hiring manager.

2. Tailor your elevator pitch
You should have a 30- to 60-second self-introduction prepared in advance, but this elevator pitch has to be customized to the job you’re interviewing for.

You can’t create a single elevator pitch that will work for every audience. You have to be speaking to the pain points of the company. After all, your goal is to present yourself as the solution to their problems.

Look closely at the job posting to assess the company’s needs and the job responsibilities, and then tweak your pitch accordingly. Do your research and find what matters most to the company—go to their website and social media pages and read their mission statement, recent press releases, and any initiatives they’re undertaking—and then tailor your pitch.

3. Prepare meaningful anecdotes
No matter what industry you’re in, you can expect to be asked behavioral job interview questions. Essentially, these questions require you to come up with examples from your past work experiences—for example, “Tell me about a time when you suffered a setback,” or, “Tell me about a time when you had to deal with a difficult co-worker.” Unfortunately, this is where a lot of job seekers stumble.

Many people can tell a decent story, but almost everyone leaves off the impact the story had on you, the participants, and the business. In other words, don’t forget to talk about the results of your actions.

To craft a compelling anecdote, I will recommend you use real feedback to highlight your contributions: Use actual dialogue of how people raved about your solutions and how it affected the business. Describe any awards or visibility you received. Talk about how your former boss still raves about you on that project to his colleagues and how your project is still in place, years later. Did you get the drill?

4. Ask unique questions
The secret to distinguishing yourself from other job candidates is simple: Ask good questions that offer value. These pointed, yet uncommon questions mark you as an in-depth, curious, persistent researcher.

Make sure at least one of your questions expresses interest in what the company is currently working on and then tactfully weigh in. For example, you might ask, “Will your new product have x, y, or z features and capabilities?” Then, after the interviewer answers, you’d follow up by offering your creative thinking on the subject.

5. Always quantify your achievements
Metrics sell! This is why it’s important to use hard numbers when describing your accomplishments. So, instead of saying, “I led a successful project,” say, “The project I led reduced costs by 35%, shaved four days off from start to finish, and landed us seven huge new clients in the first 10 days.”

Also, avoid using empty clichés, like saying that you’re a “team player” or “hard worker.” Instead, back up your claims with relevant stories that show how you’ve applied your skills in the past.

6. Say the right things
If you’re not especially comfortable talking about yourself, the job interview is going to feel much more awkward than it really needs to be. The key to finding your rhythm? Practice.

That's it for today, friends. I hope to see you land your dream job in 2020.

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