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If not that country is totally effed up, why isn't anybody talking about something so obvious?

Are military personnel now exempt from driving with valid car documents?

khiaa:
I'm going to the lake with some friends and we're going to barbeque and have drinks, go swimming and later play cards. I'm skipping the club scene, it's really not my thing anymore unless it's a comedy club.

Sounds like fun
Have a lovely day Hazel eyes

makydebbie:
That is why it's advisable to always keep that place clean. It's better to receive head immediately after bathing. Giving head has health benefits to the giver too.

The receiver?

khiaa:
LMAO I already have one of those. His name is.....

Do tell

khiaa:
Hey!!!! Hands off of my future baby daddy.

khiaa:
Hey!!!! Hands off of my future baby daddy.

She wants a husband, you want a baby daddy. Seems like a win-win situation

iice

cayesworld:
You're Welcome

Hey you!!!

Did you get around to taking that trip??

Your price just shot up by N600k

OkoYibo:
The registration details of the plate on this Infinity shows that the plate belongs to a Toyota Tacoma.

My brother......I was waiting for the OP to explain, but going through his threads, e be like say him no dey answer questions....even relating to price sef

Is this car registered?

Izen:
It's as if you read my mind. I honestly feel I'm his back up plan at this point.

Same thoughts here. I feel he's considering the possibility of you guys being together. . . .but it doesn't strike me like you're his 1st option.

You've stated repeatedly that he knows how you feel. The only reason most guys won't make a move on a girl that is obviously attracted to them is cos they don't feel the same way.

U think your best option is to move on, but who knows.....Whatever decision you make, I wish you the best.

PS
You write really well......such a breath of fresh air.

khiaa:
I'm African American so I know all of this but I was curious to know why Africans get upset when we call ourselves AA and tell us that we aren't Africans then turn around and get upset when we call ourselves Black Americans.

Really?? People get upset over trivial ish like this

African Americans, Black Americans. . . . . .To me, both are the same thing. You're basically saying you're American but with African Origins. . . .even though it might be several generations ago.

Szerelem2290:
Thank you for reading my first post. You've been really helpful and made me think about things. Going to have this week to myself and tell him to hit the road.

Great idea and
You're welcome. . . .anytime.
Lemme know how it goes. . . . if you don't mind

So I just read your 1st post. . . the fine thingy is almost certainly a lie. . . You DO NOT need him in your life. You need to be strong about this.

Szerelem2290:
Truthfully? He's the first guy I've fallen in love with. Which is why I'm stuck because it feels harder to walk away. I've never gotten so attached to someone before.

If someone loves you they aren't meant to lie this much

Questiion: Do you still want to be with him?


First loves are overrated. . . . you'd get over him

Szerelem2290:
The guilt came after today when I last saw him which is why I'm up late tonight thinking about it all. I want to leave but when I tried to leave before he just pursued me until I took him back

I'm sure at some point in your life some guy "chased" you and you said NO. Or do you say YES to every guy that comes after you?

Why cant you say no to him? You're in love right?

I've got news for you. . . .if you do love him, then you've fallen for a lying, cheating, inconsiderate and selfish guy.

I hope for your sake you can let him go. . . .but if you cant, I can play the devil's advocate also. Maybe he truly loves you and you've found real love

Szerelem2290:
For the first nine months I didn't know I was the other woman because he basically said it was over with his wife, he said he was flying back to Nigeria to divorce her.

Now I'm aware that I'm the other woman, I just feel guilt

If you really do feel guilty, then you should stop. You said something about your dad cheating on your mum. . . . this alone should be enough reason not to be the other woman. I'm getting the vibe that you're not really ready to end this. . . I hope I'm wrong

Szerelem2290:
You see it as breaking a home, I saw it from the perspective of if I was the wife I'd want to know all of this and the smack he's been talking about her at work and all the lies he's told.

He claims he's not happy with her, tells people she uses him for money, he doesn't like having sex with her, he's not attracted to her and he was forced to marry her! If someone was saying that about you, would you really not want to know?

You're not friends with the wife. . . it's not your place to tell her. Even if you were friends with her, it's still debatable if you should tell her. . . .plus in this case, you're the other woman. . .

Szerelem2290:
It's the fact he kept pursuing me when I ended contact and I believed his lies again and fell for it all.

Plus I think if I was the wife in this situation I'd want to know, and I already admitted to being an idiot and falling for what he says so there's the temptation to speak to his auntie again and tell her he's been contacting me again so she puts a stop to it because he doesn't seem to listen to me. He just comes up with "well I know you still love me and I can't stay away from you"

I'm sorry dear. . . . but a grown ass man aint gon' listen to his aunt. You and only you can put a stop to this.

This part 2 came as a result of you succumbing to pressure from him to get back in touch.

My advise. . . . .take a look @ the bigger picture. Don't focus on the short term. . . . .ask yourself this: at the end of the day, what do you stand to gain?

Szerelem2290:
On the contrary I thought about going to his wife and telling her all the lies he was telling me. If you read my earlier post about this you will see some of the lies he was telling me. Like his marriage was arranged, he was going to get a divorce, that he didn't love her and he loved me.

If he think it's acceptable to go back and forth to me and her telling all these lies surely something needs to be said?

Talk to his wife? SERIOUSLY??
All you'd end up doing is breaking his home. Would that make you feel better?

You've got no business with her @ all. Just work on yourself and like someone rightly said, single guys dey everywhere. . . . .except married guys are your thing

I don't get the part where you need to know who to talk to about him.

I honestly dont think you need that much advise. You seem to already know what to do and what you want.

He's unavailable. . . . move on. You don't need a sitdown with anybody

I can understand wanting to know someone's Anger Management level. . . but seriously though, deliberately pissing someone off aint the way to go about it. The fact that you do something to piss me off and I dont take the bait doesn't mean I'm cool/level-headed. It could just be a false positive. I might fly off the handle and I might not. That doesn't necessarily mean anything.

@Benita, it's amusing to me that you:re ok with testing your guy but you draw a line @ testing with other ladies. You wanna know how he handles anger. . . . dont you wanna know how he handles being faithful??

In life there are no guaranties. . . . you're bound to piss each other off sometimes, why add to the number unnecessarily?

khiaa:
Thank you sweetheart

You're Welcome

khiaa:
Yes I did but my hair is its natural color now

Cool. . . . . BTW, you've got yourself another box of chocolate. When and If. . . . .

Ice Cream and Chocolates. . . . .hmmmm

@Khiaa. . . did you eventually change your hair color?

khiaa:
Ok, good luck with that and enjoy yourself, I hope you aren't going alone.

Alone or not, she comes across as one who likes adventures.

@Khiaa.....you and your hazel eyes are welcome. You'd definitely have fun

N3m is a little high.

What's the best you can do. Serious buyer

What's with all the "finally" talk? This isn't the 1st time he'd beat Novak na.. .. .

@Op
This your Q no be just one Q. . . na multiple Qs you ask
Q1a. Have you had s e x before
Q1b. Have you ever had unprotected s e x
Q1c. Did it result in a pregnancy
Q1d. What did you do to the pregnancy. . .
Q1e. Did you abort abi
Q1f. Are you a parent

what's your black friday price
#seriousbuyer

I'm guessin' the twins would have to merge. . . . . . How else are they gonna stop Kai. . . . . Sad already @ the prospect of a good Villain's prospective demise

Keenysbojan:
I have sat down and think about this

Oga OP. . . . . . I was like ok, it's more like a Nigerian slang as opposed your to your above highlighted statement which is wrong English.