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Rotjijatau:
I Want The Public To Take This Piece Into Cognizance Regarding The IG Of Police's Speech Blunder

1. The speech in question was doctored

2. Even if it was not doctored, nobody is above mistake

3. If you have been following The IG's trail or watched him speak before, you'll know that he's intelligent & grammatically fluent.

4. People were complaining why he was promoted from a commissioner of police straight to an IG of police instead of following protocol. Well, that is GRACE at work...... Grace disqualifies the qualified in order to qualify the unqualified. God doesn't follow protocol when he wants to promote you.

5. If we channel the intellectual flexibility (making T-Shirts of Transmission & videos just to mock him) into more productive things, we would have been richer than we are.

6. The difference between Nigerians & Americans is, while they channel their brain to more productive things, we are busy using ours to trend someone's mistake.

God doesn't support Nepotisim. Please leave God out of this. Do you know 21 AIG officers were prematurely retired just because of this guy? The valuable experience these guys had acquired over the course of their careers were prematuly disposed of. Not to talk of the money and resources that had been spent on trainning them. You called that grace? SMH

Highbrow:
But she did not say the money is the reason here. She only said low self esteem is ANOTHER reason!

Remember I also said that too and some Activist here was busy throwing tantrums.
I said it before, all your reasons are perfectly valid. Maybe with the exception of loneliness cuz girls are hardly ever lonely. And like I said, there are ALWAYS exceptions

ajebuter:
Add low self esteem to the list..

Help me tell them o. Why would any self-respecting lady just decide to become somebody's back up babe if it's not for the money.
They seem to think girls just enjoy doing such things

lefulefu:
wait is he a feminist??

Maybe it's a female

lefulefu:
i don't think this Adam guy and the highbow dude are based in Nigeria. Maybe they referring to their experiences overseas. Even high level chics like Roman goddess or daniella will never accept to be a side chic for a man not ready to spend on them. Na madness? And on the issue of some ladies sounding off about broke guys on nl quite paints the situation in the country. Look at our music as well. Is it money and materialism dem dey promote. Na d way our society be. I no argue that there aren't ladies in genuine relationship but then a lady accepting to be a sidechic for some dude then money has to be a motivating factor no matter how we sweet talk the issue.

Most guys will not even want to admit to you a girl is dating them because of their money.
They want to believe its their big D or A+ game that's getting them the girls, even thou deep down they know the truth.

LordAdam:
Swear words? Where did I use swear words? Is "judgmental" a swear word? Is "19th century thought" a swear term?



-Lord

How can you even lie when what you wrote is just right here. Dude I'm done with you cuz its obvious you're a troll and your just looking for who to pick issues with even when I've corrected myself.
Either your a troll or you simply have comprehension issues, or maybe both.
Cuz you keep repeating the same thing over & over like a broken record.
I'll let you have the last word. Goodbye

LordAdam:
Dude, what you believe doesn't f*cking matter! You don't live in the heads of the 80+ million females in Nigeria.


-Lord

lefulefu:
sure i know ..i just brought dat up. Anyway Its only in telemondo movies that a single lady would agree to be a sidechic for a man cos of his sweet nature or cos he's romantic.telemondo storylines are always sentimental and ridiculous.

Those days, girls will be forming "it's not all about the money" "money isn't everything"
Nowadays, they will even tell you to your face "I didn't come to this world to come and suffer" "If you no get money hide your face"
Is it not this same NL where all of them are shouting "broke guys, broke niggas" up and down. Even the ones that don't have up to 10k in their accounts.
Nothing in this world applies to 100%, there will always be exceptions to the rule. But when we say "Naija girls", we are talking about the "majority" not "ALL"

LordAdam:
I've not even shared my belief. I've kept it to myself. All I'm pointing out is common sense. Side chick is an all-encompassing term, and financial security is far from the only credible reason why women become side chicks. You're the one making wild aspersions l[b]ike you're an authority on the matter [/b]or have met and interviewed every Nigerian woman out there.

Calling you out for making a judgmental statement doesn't mean I'm pained. It's just that, calling you out. Your attempt to float this back at me is poor.

What were you expecting? You'd say women who agree to be side chicks for anything other than money have "zero self-worth" and everyone would swallow it like its syrup? Don't go about typing controversial stuff if you don't want to be pilloried for it.

No one is talking about women rights here. This is your second attempt to change the conversation, I wonder what your motive is.

If no one called you guys out, you wouldn't be taking back statements.

-Lord

NL is a public forum, if you choose not to air your opinions, it's your problem. Where in any of my posts did I imply I'm an authority on this matter?
We all know the word side-chick is an all encompassing term, and the OP's write-up was interpreted using the wrong context. I wonder what's your point really?
Using swear words clearly means your are pained.
I already cleared that up. I agree I used the wrong word "side-chick" and I explained exactly what I meant. If you choose to keep on harping on a statement I've already corrected, good for you.
Lool, I dint't take back my statement because you called me out, I did so cuz I the OP explained that he was referring to a broader term not what I thought
How exactly did I attempt to change the conversation? If anything, it's you who decided to turn what was previously a civil discussion into a cat fight which I would definitely not be dragged into.

lefulefu:
a lady already married or in a serious relationship dating another guy in a serious relationship or who is married..dat one na friends with benefit na. Yea d topic is a lady misleading.

That's exactly what I said earlier on. Yes they are still side-chicks or side-guy but we generally refer to them as FWBs cuz they have their own r/ship.
Nomenclature is important most times. When a Nigerian uses the word "Fuel", Kerosene, Diseal, Gas are all Fuels, but we know he's most likely referring to Petrol, not any of those.

laliga01:
Now you have returned back to his point... It's all about the financial reward.
Am surprised you guys are arguing about this. It's a non factor in Nigeria, it might different in other regions/countries.

Funny thing is we aren't even bashing these ladies, we understand how things and we're just stating the obvious are but you would be surprised how some Nairaland activists would go at any length to defend these ladies. Maybe because they had the fortune of meeting the few 5-10% of Naija girls who aren't really concerned about money. I'm looking forward to the day NL girls would defend our Naija guys the way some guys are doing here

lefulefu:
gbam! Its like a 22 yr old guy who has a girlfriend dating a 48 yr old lady married to a rich man. Now could u refer to the 48 yr old lady as his sidechic? Of course u can't. Such a relationship would have a whole different definition.

Very true. Yes technically she's still a side-chick, but that not what we generally refer to as side-chicks. It's like someone referring to humans as animals. Yes we are all animals, but we generally don't refer to ourselves as animals.
Both the topic and the write-up is a bit misleading to be honest. If you're referring to married women or girls in a r/ship dating another guy outside, we can't really say they are "agreeing to become sidechicks" because that obviously what they'll be in any case. The phrase "agreeing to become a sidechick" implies a single girl who decides to date a man that's already taken.

LordAdam:
Dude, what you believe doesn't f*cking matter! You don't live in the heads of the 80+ million females in Nigeria.

So if you're thinking she's settling for less by not screwing for cash, that may not be her thought. And you have no reason under the sun to think your thought is more valid than hers; after all you are not the one entering the relationship on her behalf. You can still hold your 19th century thought, after all there are guys half way across the world who think ladies shouldn't drive because it arouses them.

There are also gfs and wives who are main chicks who get treated worse than side chicks. Do they also have zero self-worth? And by the way, not all guys treat their side chicks like sh*t. And there are side chicks out there who are treated better than most so-called main chicks.

You guys just jumped into a discussion without specifying the terms of your engagement and are now eating your words out of sheer embarrassment.

-Lord

What you believe doesn't matter either. And nowhere in my post did I say my opinion is more valid than others. To be honest I don't know why you are so pained. See as you carry woman matter for head like gala . Goodnight Mr Woman Rights Activist

weyreypey:
why are you cheating on your partner?

No I'm not cheating on anybody. What has that got to do with this topic if I may ask?

LordAdam:
Your last statement says it all.

How anyone can reduce all women from individuals having different desires to a singularity with one idealistic frame of mind is beyond me.

And later they complain that our women only care about money. When you firmly believe anyone who is a side chick for anything but money has "zero self-worth"? Why should she risk the stigma to be with you for any other reason but money? If she had other reasons, she'd dismiss or hastily bury them.

-Lord

Lool. Is this the excuse you want to use to justify why some girls are so materialistic , Come on you can do better. A girl who likes money likes money, it's that simple. Just this week, I was arguing with some people, that not all Nigerian girls are after money even thou it's really hard to make a case for them. Of course we know not all women are the same, nothing in this world applies to 100%. Even thou most girls would tell you "all men are the same"
Like I said before, I was talking about a specific context based on the example the OP gave. And I'm very sure the girl was single

lefulefu:
well he didn't put married ladies or ladies with serious boyfriends accepting to be sidchics. For those ones there could be a number of reason. But for a young lady who is single accepting to be a sidechic for one married man who is probably advanced in years we all know d reason. The sidechic issue has no definite definition anyway.but when we hear the word, 'sidechic' the first image dat comes to our mind is a married man probably dating a single young lady.

Exactly, and that was the kind of example he gave in his write-up. Of course we know not all women are the same. Women date guys for different reasons,women cheat on their partners for different reasons. That's not the context we were talking about

LordAdam:
There's nothing emotional about what I said. If you think a lady agreeing to be a side chick is an incontrovertible indicator of their self worth, then you are unreasonably judgmental. There's no two ways about it.

Dude, you didn't say low self-worth. You said zero self-worth. You basically said anyone who agrees to be a side chick for any reason other than financial security has zero self-worth. In what alternate universe is that not judgmental?

And what makes you think money is the only benefit a woman gets from a man? Do you think all women are primarily moved by the same thing? If sex is enough for a guy to be a side nigga, what makes you think it wouldn't be enough for some lady to be a side chic? What makes you think it is ONLY financial security?

I'm genuinely curious about how you see women. How is it that you believe that the only BENEFIT a woman who agrees to be a side chick can extract from a guy is MONEY? What you think you're offering, and what she thinks she is getting are not always the same. But somehow you think you have this all figured out.

I guarantee you, if all your past flings were asked to list the things about you that they found attractive, they'd have different lists. If you asked them to rank them by degree of importance, it'd be even more different.

-Lord

I never said it's only money. You are mistaking me for the other guy. I said most of the time it's for the money but there are always exceptions.
And yes I don't believe in people settling for less. I'm the kind of person that doesn't stick around if I feel you're not invested in me the way I am. Maybe I misunderstood the context of side chick here, But If a girl is playing wife/gf duties for a guy who only treats her like a side-chick, yes she has zero self-worth. That's what I meant. If you choose to call it judgmental fine.
I actually realize some girls who are side chicks, know where they stand in the r/ship, so they don't go playing wifely duties to a guy who doesn't take them seriously.
So I take back my earlier statement seeing that the word 'side-chick' is a very broad term and can easily be misinterpreted.

lefulefu:
so a single lady in Nigeria would waste a better part of her years with a married man and you think the reason could be loneliness or his shining personality.na waoh. Why do u think geneive dated atiku? U think it was love?

He said he wasn't strictly referring to single ladies. That's what I initially thought he was referring to maybe because of his story. I guess that's where the confusion came from. Cuz obviously it makes no sense for a single lady to date a guy that's already taken if it's not about the money

Highbrow:
This thread is about side chicks in general.

Reading your story in your 1st paragraph, I assume the girl in your story was single so I thought you are strictly referring to single girls who agree to become backup chicks to a guy.
Of course if a girl has her own relationship, she can still agree to become side chick to another guy for a variety of reasons not always about the money. Like I said earlier, there are so many reasons why women cheat
I guess I understand you better now.

LordAdam:
Then it's clear you have a very limited understanding of what the term "side chick" covers. Which explains your misguided postulations.

-Lord

I know what a side-chick means.That's why I used the word "really". Yes a girl dating another woman's guy is a side chick even if she has her own bf or husband. But in the context of this thread, we are mainly talking about single girls that agree to date married men or guys in a serious r/ship

LordAdam:
How do you feel sitting up there in your elated moral stool, Judge CeeKay17?

Ladies routinely double date and can as well date someone who is already in a relationship without having "zero self-worth." Guys do it. Why can't ladies?

I find it curious that when ladies decide to do things that are not the norm, we find it necessary to slut-shame or insult them; but when you flip the tables, we make excuses for men. I bet you don't think side niggas have zero self-worth! I bet you think they've got their A game on.

-Lord

Nobody is judging or slut-shaming here. No need getting emotional. Zero-self worth simply means someone who doesn't know what they are worth. It doesn't mean the person is worthless.
That's why I said it's always for the money, otherwise no lady who knows her worth will agree to become your backup babe. This ain't the movies bro.
Do guys do it if there are no benefits involved? Will you agree to become a side nigga to a girl who has a BF, if you're not smashing her as well? I guess not.
So why do you think any lady who knows her worth would do so if there's no benefit attached?
You guys are sounding like girls enjoy being a side babe. Believe me, nobody does. It's just a means to an end. For guys it mostly to cure Konji, for girls, it's mostly for financial benefits

LordAdam:
You do realize ladies in relationships can also be side chicks right?

-Lord

That isn't really we call a side-chick. That's just's a lady cheating on her bf with another guy, who also has his own girlfriend. That's more like "friends with benefits"

Highbrow:
I knew this already. That's why financial security is one of the reasons BUT IT IS NOT THE ONLY REASON, MY BROTHER!

Agreed. What he's trying to say is, the other 4 reasons won't work on their own if there's no financial security involved. No Naija girl will just agree to become your backup girlfriend just because of the "thrill" alone or because of "freedom" or simply because she's "lonely"
These are just the icing on the cake, but the "Money" is the cake bro.
Like seriously, girls usually have at least 3-4 out of their numerous toasters that they genuinely like, so loneliness is not even part of it at all bro.
Alluring personality works alone in some rare cases I agree, but the other 3, no way.

LordAdam:
You can't use definitive words like "only" when discussing most sociological issues.

Ladies do a lot of sieving. And if you think no lady gets lonely to the point of considering some guy they fancy who unfortunately has a girlfriend, then you have a lot of catching up to do. Unlike most guys who'd screw most of the gals they interact with if given the chance, most gals don't have the same predisposition with the opposite sex.

Most men are simple. Ladies are anything but.

-Lord

Yes ladies do a lot of sieving. Yes it's perfectly normal for a girl to fancy a guy who's already taken. But for her to go as far as dating him, knowing fully well that she's the backup plan? Only a lady with zero self-worth would do that except the guy is a rich dude.
Mind you, being "rich" is relative. A man might be considered as rich to a girls and still be a like a pauper to another girl

lefulefu:
op said the madam is the gate man's sidechic oo. Anyway he was just trying to pull down my argument that money is really not a major factor why ladies who do the sidechicing accept to be sidechics to married men in Nigeria.

He's mistaking normal cheating with being a sidechick. They are two very different things. A girl can cheat on her man for different reasons it's not always about the money.
But for a girl to willingly become a sidechick to a guy, it mostly always about the financial rewards, nothing else.

lefulefu:
most is majority. Guy become a deadbroke dude and have a shining personality more shining than the sun and see whether a lady that's into the sidechicing business would look at u. I know the fortune that men who womanize spend on their sidechics. But i know the ego of some of u guys here who keep multiple ladies and especially some of the married guys here who engage in such wont admit to it. Its all about our mannish pride and ego.

Help me tell them oo. As if those girls cannot find single guys with the same "alluring personality" Do they know how many toasters an average girl gets per day. Why would she agree to become a backup babe for any other reason other than money? Being a side chick is not fun for any girl, it's just a means to an end.

lefulefu:
the gateman na boytoy to the madam

Exactly. That's not the same thing as being a side chick

Highbrow:
Now, let's focus on this. The exceptions. And that is my point all along: that money is not the only reason women become side chicks.

To be fair, money is the main reason like 90% of the time

LordAdam:
If you say for most ladies, I'll agree 100%. If you say for all ladies, then I'd have to respectfully disagree.

Ladies will agree to be side chicks for several reasons under the sun. Sometimes, it could be a mix of multiple factors (say a bit of cash, an alluring personality, and being lonely).

Saying money is the only reason all ladies become side chicks is factually incorrect.

-Lord

Being lonely? The only girls who are lonely are the ones who choose to ignore every single guy that comes her way. Even an ugly introverted babe will still get lots of toasters every week, so being lonely is not a valid reason

Highbrow:
The thread is about WOMEN, WOMEN all over the world. It wasn't just about women in Nigeria. Even in Nigeria, financial security is not the only reason women become side chicks.

I knew a poor gateman that gatecrashed a man's wife's p*ssy. Nigeria here! Her incentive was never financial security.

But that isn't the same thing as being a side-chick. That's just cheating. It not like she's dating a man knowing fully well that he has a gf/wife and she is only a backup option. That's who a side-chick is
Like some people have said already, no classy Naija girl would agree to be one except there are financial benefits. Of course there are always exceptions to the rule.

It's obvious someone else is behind that account an is using an innocent girl's pictures. The way some people believe anything they read online, it's incredible. Some of you can't even tell a scam even when it's staring at you right in the face.

JohnVianney:
I guess the sound was doctored without the video abi? The breeze that was blowing continuously, the cloth that was being blown by the breeze in the background and the two men in the shadows shaking their heads were in continuous synergy with the sound and the voice of the igp. So tell me, if the video was doctored how come they were not breaks or loops in what i saw. stvpid lairs, they take Nigerians for foools.

It's possible to edit an audio without the video. Infact its fairly easy to do. How do you think music videos are done, abi you think its during the video shoot they sing the songs?

How exactly did she work hard for it?
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