₦airaland Forum

"IN GOD WE TRUST"America believed in the power of God hence they often associate with things of God.

In most of their important monument,you see it there.

God first, that is what Donald Trump body language is saying,he can't do it alone in the Gods own country.

Many are waiting to full him down

We are happy that Nigeria,the most religious country in the world is part of this epoch ceremony,through her son Nathaniel, happy ministration!

jeromestarks:
When you marry a virgin woman, doors open for you just as you're the first to enter her hole.
But when you marry a non virgin woman who has been fvcked and mounted by many men, doors close for you because the first man who fvcked her has collected all the blessings for his progress and she is left with only bad luck.
Marriage is more spiritual than you think.


Fvck any girl you want but when it comes to marriage, find a young virgin woman (18-23) and marry. Only her can guarantee you a happy lasting home which you can return to after work.

Finally, do not pay bride price, sponsor wedding ceremony and take care of inlaws just to have a woman who was fvcked in her best state (virgin) by any man with just two eggs and indomie. Only a fool would do that, are you the fool?

This is a white lie

rexbuton:
I’ll do so shortly.

Okay

Xwizard:
Looool how much is fuel now, 70 naira per liter ?

be patient, Rome was not built in a day

rexbuton:
The second category represent attacks from familiar spirits, the occult, power of divination, family idols, etc.
Victims tend to take them lightly because they appear normal. Dreams of walking barefoot represent shame and disgrace programmed into the victims life, dreams of being back in old places the victim has left /outgrown represents delay, stagnation and retrogression. Dreams of having sěx in which on waking up the victim is actually wet, represents virtue theft by marine powers. This is one of the most common nightmares, often happening the night before an exam, interview, major project, and happens repeatedly to the point that the victim knows and expects the pattern. As soon as it occurs, whatever activity that was to be done would end in failure by default. Due to its prevalence, I’ll elaborate further. Its main causes are 1) An active ancestral marine covenant where descendants of a family have been covenanted to a marine idol or entity, thus you find the pattern amongst family members but they rarely speak up out of shame. If you are a man experiencing this, and it has been there since your teens, ask your father, he knows about it. 2) Direct exposure to marine elements via sěx with possessed people. 3). Pornography.
The manifestation is usually poverty, frustration, failure at the edge of breakthrough, marital instability, incest , domestic violence.

you didn't quote Bible verses which one can use to fast and pray to break and neutralize these attacks

No one is above criticism

eniyanlesu:
Am having very serious pain in my upper waist, is making it difficult to work, pls any medicine

is it at your back

FrankB1:
In Matthew 9:27-30 it reads, 27 As Jesus went on from there, two blind men followed Him, crying out, “Have mercy on us, Son of David!” 28When He entered the house, the blind men came up to Him, and Jesus said to them, “Do you believe that I am able to do this?” They said to Him, “Yes, Lord.” 29Then He touched their eyes, saying, “It shall be done to you according to your faith.” 30And their eyes were opened. And Jesus sternly warned them: “See that no one knows about this!” Notice, the first thing Jesus asked them, "Do you believe that I am able to do this?" And according to their response Jesus answered them, "It shall be done to you according to your faith." Why did Jesus ask that and respond that way, it was in connection with something God said all the way back in Genesis 1:28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. Notice, the first thing He said, "Be fruitful" that word fruitful means to bring forth. To bring forth means something comes out of you. Notice, Jesus taught in Mark 4 that the heart of a man is like soil/ground and words are seeds. Notice, what a seed is, it is the substance of something, in other words, according to the seed/substance that's in the ground will determine what comes out. Everyone understands that in the natural, but it also applies to the spiritual. Because, notice what faith is- the substance of things hoped for. So, the faith/substance of what's planted in the ground of your heart will determine what can/will come out. Notice, what Jesus said, "It shall be done to you according to your faith." Notice, the substance of the thing hoped for in the ground of his heart determined what had a right to come out. For what Jesus said in plain language- according to what's inside so be it outside.

Now, this is the same Jesus that said in Mark 4:22 For there is nothing hid(that's inside, heart) which shall not be manifested(that's outside, life). That word manifested means visible/seen. So, all Jesus did was call for what was in them to be manifested. That's powerful because that means God is not determining, what you choose to put in you is determining. God doesn't determine what comes out of the earth, you do. So likewise, God doesn't determine what comes out of your heart, you do. According to the substance/faith you have inside will determine what is able to be manifested outside. You determine that not God, you determine what goes in the ground of your heart not God. That's why in Proverbs 4:23 God says to guard/keep your heart with all diligence for out of it are the issues of life. The word issue means boundary/border. The boundary or border of what can come out of you is what's in you. So, the limits in life don't come from the outside they come from the inside. In other words how can something come out if it hasn't been put in. So, you can't put everything off on God, well if God wants to do it then He'll just do it. Let's see what Jesus continued to say, in Mark 4:26-28 And he said, So is the kingdom of God, as if a man should cast seed into the ground; 27And should sleep, and rise night and day, and the seed should spring and grow up, he knoweth not how. 28For the earth bringeth forth fruit of herself; first the blade, then the ear, after that the full corn in the ear. Who put the seed in the ground, man. Who determined what was put in the ground, man, so who determines what comes out, man. According to your faith, you determine the substance/faith in your heart not God. Notice, what Jesus said to the centurion that said to Jesus, "Speak the word only and my servant shall be Healed", And Jesus said unto the centurion, Go thy way; and as thou hast believed, so be it done unto thee. And his servant was healed in the selfsame hour.

That's just like what he said to the two blind men, as on the inside so be it done outside. A sign of what you believe is what you speak, 2 Corinthians 4:13 We having the same spirit of faith, according as it is written, I believed, and therefore have I spoken; we also believe, and therefore speak. That's when what is inside manifests outside, Luke 6:45 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh. Notice again, what is in you is what you will speak. Notice, what Jesus said to the woman with the issue of blood that said, "If I may touch but his clothes, I shall be whole", Daughter, thy faith hath made thee whole; go in peace, and be whole of thy plague. When she believed and spoke what was inside it manifested outside. The substance she put inside was what she got manifested outside. Notice, Jesus gave the credit to her faith because Jesus did not determine what happened, she did. Like in Mark 6:5,6 And he could there do no mighty work, save that he laid his hands upon a few sick folk, and healed them. And he marvelled because of their unbelief. And he went round about the villages, teaching. Notice, they didn't have it inside so they didn't have it outside. The same thing with the disciples when they didn't cast out that devil in Matthew 17 notice what Jesus told them, And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you. They didn't have the substance/faith inside so they didn't have it outside when they spoke. Because you can only bring forth what is in you. So, according to your faith is simply you having outside what is inside, it can't come out if it's not in.



It is not God's will that any should perish. And I wouldn't want to end this article without giving someone the opportunity to receive Jesus as their Lord and Savior. It's very easy just pray: Dear God- I know I have sinned and I now turn from them and I invite Jesus to come into my heart (Revelation 3:20). He died for my sins and you have raised him from the dead and I now confess Jesus is my Lord and Savior (Romans 10:9,10). I thank you for saving me, Amen

But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name (John 1:12). 1 Timothy 2:4 Who will have all men to be saved, and to come unto the knowledge of the truth. Romans 5:8-10 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. [9] Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him. [10] For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life. 2 Peter 3:9 King James Version 9 The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.

Good and impactful teaching.Faith in whatever one does in life is very important.
Thank you.

The Father of the girl overreacted,it is not by force,just give her your fatherly advice and leave her alone to face the consequences of her action

Nnamdipapa:
Is It True That Short People Are Always Stubborn?

There’s this saying in Nigeria that "na small pepper dey hot pass." It reflects a widespread belief that short people are inherently stubborn or feisty. But is there any truth to this claim, or is it just one of those playful stereotypes Nigerians love to throw around and slap on people?

In Nigeria's cultural context, we thrive on humor and banter. Many of our stereotypes come from lived experiences, observations, and outright exaggerations. The idea that short people are stubborn could stem from the way they’ve been perceived to compensate for their lack of height in a society where "tall" is often equated with leadership or authority.

Short people in Nigeria often develop big personalities to avoid being overshadowed—literally and figuratively. They’re the ones you’ll find arguing loudly in bus parks, defending their positions fiercely at family meetings, or taking leadership roles in unexpected places.

Stubbornness in this context could mean determination, resilience, or simply not taking nonsense from anyone. Many short Nigerians have grown up being teased or underestimated because of their height. This can lead to a natural tendency to assert themselves, proving that "size no be problem."
Consider successful Nigerians who’ve been described as stubborn (in a good way) due to their drive. Isn’t this "stubbornness" simply a trait of people who refuse to let societal biases define them?

Looking at science, researchers suggest that people with perceived disadvantages, such as height, often overcompensate by being more assertive or dominant. However, these are generalizations. Personality is shaped more by upbringing, environment, and experiences than by height.
On the flip side, we know some tall people can be stubborn also. Nigerians will always say, “Everybody get their own wahala.” Stubbornness is not exclusive to short people; it’s a human trait. Some of the most rigid people you’ll meet are tall, quiet, and unyielding.

While it’s fun to joke about these stereotypes, let’s remember that they don’t define anyone. Not all short people are stubborn, just like not all tall people are gentle. Nigerians, regardless of height, are known for their resilience, wit, and ability to thrive in adversity.

So, what is your experience with short people especially the "Maltina bottle" guys?

Human body parts define someone character,shape of eyes,ear, mouth,nose,head,legs,foot and height

Shot people are overzealous

Enugu state to the world, good developmental strides

They are beginning to see light at the end of the tunnel, those docile refinery workers will now be active on their duty post.

This is what PDP couldn't do in 16 years, Old broom knows all the corners,Tinubu knows how to fix this country

Uptownerd:
This is like knowing the root cause of a problem but dancing around it. It's like chasing rat when your house is on fire.

The way of God is different that of man,Mans reasoning is limited

Oky

Pride goes before a fall,the downfall of Wike just began.

COMPAQ:
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Dangle has said several times that he is meeting 100% of Nigerian consumption. NNPC which was our sole importer before it's no longer importing. If any marketer is importing, it's because he chooses to, not because Dangote doesn't have enough.

Dangote agreement with NNPCL is 60 million litres per week and that translate to 8.5 million litres per day.Nigeria daily consumption is 40 million litres per day

The Minister of Federal Capital Territory, (FCT) and former Governor of Rivers State, Nyesom Wike, has boasted that ‘nobody can be anything’ without him.

Wike also declared that something will soon happen in Rivers State that will shock many, adding that he does not fight with anyone but emphasised his concern for ‘ingrates’.

Wike spoke in Port Harcourt on Friday night at the luncheon he organised for stakeholders.

The Minister said, “there is something that will happen in this state that everybody will know. The ongoing movement is not a party movement, is the movement that you will see, forget about their claims.”

Wike naratted how he assisted Celestine Omehia and reconciled him with former Dr. Peter Odili but he expressed disamay how the duo are now working against him.

Wike said, “if you follow my political history, it has never been easy; I have been charged for murder, for armed robbery just because of politics. There is nothing I have no passed through in my life. But I know at the end of the day we will overcome.

“Is it not the same person who said, we thank you for making a man who want to create Rivers State as a medical hub in Nigerian not to have converted Rivers State as a personal estate? Based on the documentary you have watched; is there anywhere they said about my family? So where did I want to convert Rivers State to my personal estate.

“When my father is doing something wrong, should I not say papa this is not what you said yesterday, is that to make him cry. I ran election for Local government in 1999, and since then till now I have never lost election. Nobody whom I supported have ever lost election.”

The Minister said, he has no regret of supporting President Bola Tinubu to win election, saying those making noise, told Atiku Abubakar that they will support him to fight Tinubu.

“How can people who came out and said Governor Siminalayi Fubara cannot be governor, he cannot talk before the public, today are now the one saying we are with you. 2007 when you fought Chibuike Amaechi, we chased you out,” Wike said.

“In 2023, you said Atiku is coming, I said where? They collected the money and kicked the man away, that the governor was killing everybody, look at me.

“Whatever you cannot do, say you cannot do it. I am sure if Magnus Abe had made mistake to join them, they would have used him as their spokesperson. Time will come. Everybody be yourself, we are all working together.

“One day it will happen, when the time comes, we will know who is who. We will produce the second phase of the documentary, if they react in the next 24 hours, I will give them another one.”


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COMPAQ:
Which importation of fuel? Who is importing fuel? Who says local refining is not meeting capacity?

How are the local refineries meeting daily consumption without importation

almayda:
I may not understand all these long epistle but I know simply that they more the merrier,meaning,if there are more refineries,there will be competition,with that,prices will come down,to what extent?I don't know,it's just simple economics.

The problem lies in the importation of fuel, because the local production can't meet the daily needs of the country.

If all the refineries including the modular refineries are working at full installed capacity they will be able to me the daily consumption of 40 million litres daily consumption of the country

If this is achieved, fuel importation will stop,this will save us lot of foreign exchange and reduce demand for foreign exchange and fuel price will ultimately drop.

Enice:
Scam alert! I bet he can't do this without the cameras. He was governor for eight years. He was chasing Hausa from Onitsha, destroying their means of livelihood now he wants to scam people. Scammer

post evidence with facts and figures

Skooltynz:
Imagine an elite billionaire humbling himself to the level of the lowest in the society, this man has proven beyond doubt that he loves his country and willing to serve the common man, may God grant his heart desire true power comes from above God bless the true patriots of Nigeria

Peter Obi's sin is that he is from the south east,he has all the good leadership qualities to be the president of Nigeria.

But because of tribal sentiment against the region he came from by the 'wa','zo', they will never let him or anybody from that region be.

God in his infinite wisdom knows how he's going to do it

free2ryhme:
what an evil world

The heart of man is desperately wicked,who can know it.

Curious345:
See health centre like pig pen... APC destroyed Nigeria

It is a privately owned health facility.Government own is worst

The rate of crime in Nigeria now is alarming, despite equipping the police and other security agencies to fight it,as no state or community is spared.

This i think was triggered by the excruciating hardship in the country now.

One of the way the government can reduce the upsurge of crime is to create jobs and bring down the prices of essential commodities including food.

If all the nations refineries are working at full capacity with Dangote refinery,I think the price of fuel will come down.

This will help reduce the prices of goods and services which will ultimately reduce crime rate in the society.

Mckraz01:
Una dey try oh dey chop dis kind food

Oyibo, which kind of food do you eat

xpressionx:
It's fake news,Yorubas have respect for their elders

Lie, they don't, they only prostrate for elders in public,

You made him governor so that you can continue to milk the state as godfather but God disappointed you

Obasanjo is part of Nigeria problems,he was economical with the truth

As Nigeria’s economic situation worsens, struggling husbands are increasingly turning to sports betting and other forms of gambling for hope. As they pour more money into betting, their priorities shift, leading to neglect of their families and responsibilities. BABATUNDE TITILOLA writes on how this habit leaves wives and children grappling with the emotional and financial fallout of a gambling addiction that threatens to tear their families apart

At the heart of the lively buzz of Ojo Garage in Ibadan, Oyo State, Toyin sits in front of her makeshift kiosk. Her presence is both inviting to potential alcohol consumers and captivating due to her youthful stature.

The sun hung high in the sky that afternoon, its scorching rays making the air shimmer with heat. Drops of sweat trickled down Toyin’s brow as she shifted on the worn wooden bench inside her modest shop.

Despite the constant hum of nearby vehicles and the cacophony of loud human conversations, Toyin maintained a calm demeanour, seemingly unaffected by the day’s chaos.

In her 30s and the mother of two children, Toyin spends the majority of her day at the garage.

“There’s not much to do at home except prepare my kids for bed,” she explained.

Her business is thriving, as alcohol is a favourite among the drivers, conductors, ticket collectors, and even passengers at the garage. Toyin has invested herself wholeheartedly in the venture, and it’s only a matter of time before she becomes a household name in sachet alcohol sales in the area.

But beneath her thriving business lies an open wound that brings nothing but pain and constant worry.

“My husband is a cab driver,” she began, her voice laced with the weight of her words.

Toyin’s husband was not accustomed to having little money in his pockets. So, when the pandemic hit, he was struck by the harsh reality that he might go broke.

“But he became addicted to gambling. It started in 2020, during the pandemic. With the lockdown in place, he wasn’t working as he used to. The little money he had was spent on playing sure odds and virtual games. He would borrow from anyone just to fund his bets.”

Despite working on a small farm in a village along the Oyo-Ibadan Expressway during the pandemic, Toyin’s husband sought more, and betting seemed like a quick fix to his problems.

He was wrong. His addiction has caused irreversible damage that is now eroding the very foundation of his family.

“He stopped doing anything in the house. He rarely buys anything for the children, only when he’s feeling really good about himself. I do not recognise the man he’s become,” she lamented.


Sports betting, gambling versus marital stability

Gambling has long been a source of excitement and entertainment for many. However, in recent years, it has morphed into an addiction wreaking havoc on families across Nigeria. As the allure of quick riches entices more people, a troubling trend has emerged among Nigerian men.

An increasing number of men are finding their gambling habits not just a personal vice, but the spark for marital breakdowns. The thrill of placing bets and the hope of winning can quickly spiral into a destructive cycle, leaving behind a trail of financial ruin and emotional turmoil.

For many wives, the impact of their husbands’ gambling addiction is felt deeply in the home. What may begin as a seemingly harmless pastime increasingly escalates into a compulsion that threatens the very foundation of family life.

This is the reality for Isiaka, but she is not alone. Many women continue to endure the relentless torture of being married to addicted husbands. These women share a common experience, one marked by the pain and devastation of carrying the burdens of absent husbands and deadbeat fathers. They are left to juggle the responsibilities of maintaining the household while desperately trying to save a marriage torn apart by addiction.

The dopamine in betting

During the National Gaming Conference in Lagos State in October 2023, the Executive Secretary of the National Lottery Trust Fund, Bello Maigari, revealed that more than 65 million Nigerians actively spend millions, averaging $15 daily, on betting.

Similar to drugs, sports betting provides the euphoric feeling of potential large cashouts. Both activities involve chasing a high, and bettors return to wagering despite losses, driven by the hope of recovery and the thrill of winning.

This cycle is reinforced by the dopamine release triggered by the potential for sure odds, leading to the neglect of consequences and destructive decisions that significantly impact families.

As a sports betting agent, Oluwatobiloba Abiodun shared with this reporter that many bettors cling to the belief they can recover their initial losses, often leading to more devastating financial decisions.

“This relentless pursuit can destabilise families, cause emotional strain, and bring financial ruin, ultimately affecting the well-being of an addicted husband far beyond the impact of drugs,” Abiodun explained.

“There are a few bettors who don’t feel their losses, but many do,” Abiodun stressed. “Those who may not feel the loss are typically those who have won before. They try to put on a strong face and cling to the hope that they will return to winning ways. That’s how gambling works—there is always a flicker of hope that you can win, even after several losses.”

He continued, “For those with families, sports betting is a risky endeavour because it can throw everything off balance if the husbands become addicted to it.”

Abiodun further explained that when an individual loses money in betting, there is a natural urge to try again to recover the loss. However, over time, as the losses accumulate, the person may seek out additional money to continue betting, fuelled by the hope of recouping at least some of what was initially lost.

“Where I used to work as an agent, I saw men who sold their cars, land, and other properties just to keep betting. But it doesn’t always end as planned. It’s a very difficult scenario,” the agent remarked.

Excessive gambling, dangerous addictive behaviour – WHO

The World Health Organisation stated that gambling in many countries and jurisdictions is considered a form of entertainment, characterised by betting and wagering mechanics and monetisation features. It noted that, like gaming, repetitive gambling behaviour can potentially lead to gambling disorder, which is associated with distress or impairment.

“Many people around the world are engaged in (video) gaming and gambling behaviours, which are recognised as addictive behaviours, but usually do not result in any significant health consequences. However, a small proportion of people engaged in such behaviours may develop disorders due to addictive behaviours associated with functional impairment or distress,” the organisation said.

According to WHO, the use of the internet, computers, smartphones, and other electronic devices has dramatically increased over recent decades. This increase is associated not only with clear and tremendous benefits to users and societies but also with documented cases of excessive use, which often have negative health consequences.

It added that the health concerns associated with gaming behaviour are not limited to gaming disorder but also include other aspects of health, such as insufficient physical activity, unhealthy diet, problems with eyesight or hearing, musculoskeletal problems, sleep deprivation, and associated health conditions such as depression and venous thromboembolism.

Left dry and hanging

In today’s digital landscape, social media platforms have become a hotbed for sports betting and gambling promotions. Accounts dedicated to providing ‘sure odds’ now proliferate across platforms like Instagram, X, and TikTok, targeting a wide audience with enticing promises of easy and guaranteed wins.

These accounts often boast impressive success rates, showcasing screenshots of significant payouts and testimonials from satisfied followers. The allure draws many users in, creating a false sense of security in the idea that winning is not just possible but imminent if they join the growing trend of winners.

Some of these accounts go even further, offering free sure odds to new subscribers, claiming that users can place bets without any upfront cost and only pay a percentage of the winnings afterwards.

This bait-and-switch strategy lures unsuspecting individuals into the game as they eagerly anticipate their next win while overlooking the red flags that signal gambling addiction. The promise of easy profits and complimentary tips creates an illusion of accessibility and control, drawing people deeper into the world of sports betting, often without fully comprehending the risks involved.

As these enticing invitations flood social media, the impact on mental health and family dynamics becomes increasingly concerning. Individuals caught up in the frenzy may neglect their responsibilities, relationships, and financial stability in pursuit of these tantalising promises.

Moreover, findings have shown that these promises do not always materialise, as people lose both money and their peace of mind in the quest to hit big jackpots from betting.

Many bettors, convinced they can turn their luck around, double down on their investments, only to find themselves spiralling deeper into financial turmoil.

The situation is further complicated when bettors discover that the betting sites in which they placed their trust may not always honour their winnings. Reports of delayed payouts, technical glitches, or outright refusal to pay out winnings are not uncommon in the online betting world.

When these issues arise, bettors are left feeling frustrated and betrayed. In their desperation, many return to social media to vent their frustrations, sharing stories of their losses and the unfulfilled promises of the betting sites.

These posts, which should serve as a cautionary tale for others, are often ignored, and more people fall into the same pit.

Many victims find themselves grappling with feelings of shame and regret, often compounded by the financial strain their gambling has placed on their families.

“I forced myself to stop betting because it was not doing me any good. I lost more than I won. My life was not better when I was betting,” a 26-year-old recent graduate, Omotoyosi, told this reporter.

Home front affected

Findings revealed that a husband’s gambling addiction can create major tension in a family, disrupting emotional bonds and the overall stability of the home. For a wife, this addiction often leads to feelings of betrayal and mistrust, especially when financial resources are mismanaged or hidden.

This strain can lead to frequent arguments and growing resentment, and in some cases, it may even result in separation if the addiction is not addressed.

The impact on children is also significant. Fathers are often role models, and when children witness addictive or destructive behaviour, it can shape their views on responsibility and priorities. Some children may follow their father’s example, seeing gambling as normal or a desirable activity. Others might internalise the stress and chaos, which can harm their emotional well-being and affect their performance in school.

Beyond these direct relationships, reports have shown that gambling addiction also disrupts family dynamics in practical ways. Financial difficulties caused by gambling debts can lead to a lack of basic needs and long-term insecurity, creating an atmosphere of anxiety for everyone involved.

The emotional distance that addiction creates means the father is often preoccupied with gambling, leaving both the wife and children feeling neglected and unsupported.

A man’s gambling addiction doesn’t just impact him; it sends ripples through the entire family, changing relationships, roles, and the sense of security that a stable home should provide.

Family realities distorted

Findings showed that the influence of gambling extends far beyond financial implications; it changes how families communicate and cope with challenges. When one partner becomes fixated on betting, the household may experience shifts in priorities, as well as increased conflict over finances.

Family life coach Temitope Olaniyi told this reporter that the priority of a husband who is addicted to gambling becomes feeding the addiction, adding that he will pay less attention to whatever is happening in the home and be distracted from performing his fatherly and husbandly duties.

“Struggles with gambling can strain relationships through financial instability, emotional turmoil, social isolation, family tension, mood swings, and irritability. It can also increase the risk of abuse, anxiety, depression, strain in relationships, loss of trust, neglect of responsibility, resentment, tension in the home, physical and financial abuse, and loss of shared interest and activities,” she explained.

The intentional parenting coach said since the wife must cover up for the husband who gambles and, at times, pay back debts or face threats from creditors, she can experience insomnia, headaches, panic attacks, exhaustion, and subclinical levels of depression and anxiety.

“Also, research has shown that children of addicted gamblers are exposed to some family stressors like parental neglect, poor or bad role modelling, financial and emotional deprivations, family conflict, and physical isolation. The child of a gambler is very likely to get hooked on gambling too due to lack of adequate leadership,” Olaniyi added.

Since addiction impacts not just the individuals directly involved, their families and friends are left to often bear the emotional and financial burdens. Loved ones may experience anxiety, stress, and feelings of neglect as the addictive behaviour disrupts relationships and creates an unstable environment, highlighting the widespread consequences of addiction.

Olaniyi said the family of a husband battling sports betting or gambling addiction may need to find ways to cope with the behaviours of the breadwinner. This, she explained, maybe in the form of seeing a therapist or joining support groups.

She also noted that it is essential to establish and maintain boundaries regarding financial contributions, personal space, and emotional engagement with an addictive husband.

“The wife must have a plan for managing personal finances and what she will not be involved in. If possible, she should take more control of the funds. She should also be open to honest discussions about feelings and concerns in a safe and supportive environment.

“Understanding addiction can provide perspective and help the wife respond more effectively to her husband. Engage in activities that promote well-being, such as exercise, therapy, hobbies, or time spent with supportive friends,” she said.

The mental side of addiction

The financial implications of losing in gambling are staggering as savings deplete, debts accrue, and essential needs are neglected. Yet, the psychological toll is often just as severe, breeding feelings of betrayal, anxiety, and hopelessness among partners left to pick up the pieces.

To mental health specialists, gambling is not merely an escape or a bad habit but rather a complex disorder that can affect mental health profoundly, leading to anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts.

Psychologist Michael Jacob pointed out that the thrill of the game can create an illusion of control, but when the stakes rise, it often leads to feelings of shame and isolation. As husbands engage in this detrimental behaviour, their relationships unravel, causing significant distress for both partners.

“Gambling addiction often takes a significant toll on physical health, though it’s not always immediately obvious,” he said.

“For instance, many individuals in this situation struggle with sleep disorders. They might stay up late to monitor bets, follow games, or analyse odds, which disrupts their sleep cycle. Over time, this leads to chronic fatigue and can even weaken their immune system.

“Stress from gambling losses can suppress appetite in some, causing weight loss. On the other hand, some individuals turn to overeating to cope with their anxieties, leading to weight gain. It really depends on the person and how they process stress.”

The mental health coach went on to say that the constant financial and emotional pressure associated with gambling often triggers elevated stress levels, which can result in high blood pressure and increased heart rates.

“If left unchecked, it could escalate into serious cardiovascular issues.”

While gambling addiction in men often stems from a mix of thrill-seeking and social influences, many men are drawn to the possibility of multiplying their money.

Jacob said men looking for a quick fix to money problems or hoping to achieve a better life are easily lured by the promise of big wins, even though it rarely pays off.

“The convenience of online platforms and aggressive advertising makes gambling more accessible than ever, turning what might have started as a casual habit into a full-blown addiction. It’s rarely just one cause—it’s the interplay of these factors that creates the problem,” he added.

‘Handling betting addiction possible’

Jacob explained that understanding these psychological impacts is crucial not only for the individuals struggling with gambling but also for their families, who endure the fallout of their loved ones’ choices.

He said an addicted gambler needs to understand that recovery isn’t just about stopping gambling—it’s about addressing the root causes and improving overall well-being.

“One effective strategy is seeking professional help. Therapy, especially cognitive-behavioural therapy, can help them understand the triggers for their gambling and develop healthier coping mechanisms.

“Joining support groups, like Gamblers Anonymous, provides a safe space to share experiences and learn from others.

“It’s also important to set clear boundaries with money. Practical steps like handing over financial management to a trusted spouse or using tools to block gambling transactions can minimise temptation and prevent further financial strain,” he explained.

The coach said replacing gambling triggers with healthy habits like exercise can make a difference in solving the problem. He noted that rebuilding trust with loved ones is critical, as open communication with a spouse and family and a genuine effort to make amends can help heal relationships.

He said, “Supporting a husband’s decision to quit gambling, especially in difficult situations like unemployment, requires a lot of patience, understanding, and constructive actions. The first step is fostering a non-judgmental environment.

“If a wife constantly taunts or frustrates her husband over his inability to provide, it can drive him back to gambling as an escape. Instead, she can express her concerns calmly and focus on encouraging his efforts to quit, no matter how small they may seem.”

Olaniyi further added that supporting discussions about the addiction requires finding a calm, private environment when he is in a good mood to have an open conversation and avoid interruptions. She advised that wives should approach the conversation from a place of love and concern rather than judgment.

“Wives should, however, be prepared for defensiveness but try not to escalate tensions.

“If the situation, however, becomes life-threatening, it is advised that the woman find safety elsewhere first—maybe by separating—before involving professionals.”

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Barely two months after losing his father, Super Eagles and Chippa United goalkeeper, Stanley Nwabali, has lost his mother.

The South Africa-based goalkeeper shared the heartbreaking news via X on Wednesday.

“Rip mom, worst year of my life already,” the goalkeeper posted with tears and heartbreak emoji on New Year’s Day.

“A very very crazy world indeed,” he posted before sharing the news.

The Nigeria Football Federation sent soothing words to the goalkeeper.

“Our heartfelt condolences to Stanley Nwabali on the loss of his mother. Stay strong, Stanley. Sending you strength and support during this difficult time. You are not alone; we are all with you.”

Nwabali’s father’s passing was announced in November, a few hours after the goalkeeper was in goal for the Super Eagles in their 1-1 draw against the Benin Republic during their penultimate 2025 AFCON qualification match.

Although he did not disclose the cause of his mother’s death, it must have come as a rude shock to him, having shared a 2024 recap video in the wee hours of New Year’s Day.

“2024 was a good year, we’re doubling everything in 2025. Thank you Chippa United FC. Thank you Super Eagles. Thanks to all my fans. Let’s do more!” he wrote.

The player has been receiving condolences messages after announcing the sad news.

“So sorry for your loss. May God comfort you and your family,” journalist Latifat Adebayo-Ohio commented.

A fan, Hillary Remy also wrote, “So sorry for your loss. May God strengthen you and all your family members.”

“Accept my heartfelt condolences chief,” wrote Adewale Damilare.



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