I ave a friend who i ave been friends with since my secondary school days, he came to my house on 28th december to seek for an advise, its been tough on me to exactly tell him what to do.His story goes like this, in 2012 he meet a girl he loved so much did all to get her but to no avail,he then started avoiding her,he went to his best friend house nd saw his cousin like her nd told his friend about his emotions, his friend made neccessary introduction nd they started dating after some months, according to him the first girl he wanted started asking him for a chance,and that she was sorry for waiting so long to tell him a yes or no, that she was only trying to know if he loves her, he later acceptes her too and started dating them both, but due to his best friend was aware of all this, the second girl find out, his best friend said he was not the one who told her but to him he said the second girl who is a cousin to his best friend knows the name of the first girl nd most of her details which only his best friend could ave told her,so the second girl called it a quit with some hurtful messages like he does not deserve to be loved,that he is this and that, which he said he never expected as he has always tried balancing the both relationhip,that is if he buy phone for the first he will buy for the second, to him the second is more matured nd reasonable than the first, but the first is most faithful nd patient, his still wants the second back with out apologies cos if he apologise she will ask him to quit the first but he dont want to, is there any way he can make her come back to him, they both showed him love but the second showed she cant do much without him,he also told me this is the second issues they ave been had and his is the one who always tender apologies to her,if its you what will u tell him to do cos according to him he still loves the second and before they broke up he was suspecting her of being unfaithful to him, its been 7 month she has not called nor text, and he dated her since 2012 till 2014, guys pls what will u advise him to do, or what will you do if its you, ladies what will u do if ure the second and can u ever come back to him, if yes what will make you to.

egopersonified:
Cephas14,cephas14, cephas14, how many times did I call you? Come and read the story your gf would be telling her friends when you leave her.

am touched I hope it happens faster than immediately ,dou I wish her the best...

cr7lomo:

I don't agree with u, op pls don't ever make dis mistk . I experienced the same tin last yr after 5 yrs wit her . Infact d same story as urs , no difference . If u mk that mistk of accepting her for hu she is now, I pity u. She will just b using u cos she will tk advantage of ur love . Girls can b very evil , very very evil, b careful. I went thru d same tin u goin thru, crazy girls don't like good guys , look for a decent girl and mv on , don't Eva accept her bk because she will bcom worse , I made d mistk and I regretted . Delete every bout her and pls don't mk d mistk of Eva replyiN her txt messages or pickin her calls if u don't wanna die b4 ur time . Tk it as an act of God because God wants sometin beta for u . In my case I almost died of heartbreak but today I hv d best girl Eva and I keep wondering hw I put up wit my ex for so long . Mv on my brother

just thinking of how to open this up to my mum, dad and especially my elder sis nd bro's who i fought so had to make sure this love abids, they so much hate the girl but i kept fighting cos i loved her, how my friends will eventually act cos they told me earlier to give up

Juicysam: Nice guys come last..op never take a woman too serious

andromida:
For me,from this write up i feel this guy has made the gal the center of his universe,expects worship from her and she is reacting to feeling caged did you see the emphasis on i did this and that for her and her brother,i like respect bla bla bla. It gets tiring for a young woman who wants to feel free and happy not like she "owes" him for ALL he has done. Feels like he is giving to get respect and control or whatever not giving from love.

its not cos of what i have done or did or may still do that is making me angry and thoughtful its cos this same girl has been a center of my pride, my mom keeps asking me of her so those every one, mind u i ave been faithful to her to the point of making some friends leave mostly my female friends, if she u so think she has done nothing to me why then am i feeling lyk am maltreated or are u indirectly saying am a fool, supposing am your bro will u also think that way sis?, its not about accepting her cos i just have to allow her have her fun, all i do this days is trying to shut my mind and thoughts on her, may be a day u love sum 1 so much to sacrifice more than u thought u can and get being neglected u will understand

you all just told me the truth i ave been trying to hide as to keep fighting. Appreciated, if there is a way i can make her return to the girl she was before the uni stuff i will love to knw also, your opinions are welcomed cos i wish to keep her tnx..

Exponental: I got tired of reading ur post. I will advice u let her be for good. Focus on ur education n finish with good grades, improve on ur english cos it is bad; save ur money, buy shares; use ur time for productivity n ensure ur future is not dented by ur present emotions.

tnx for the response, i earlier wrote something as to the post, i also expect u to understand as a follow guy emotions most times make us seem less, i was only interested to pass a message am not all that bad bro.

In 2010 i meet my gf and fell in love with her, it took me almost 2 yrs before she accepted to date me,i have a good heart and within the 2yrs i helped her financially. i tried being good to her and her friend to the extent that i bought her frnd a phone. As programmer i have less time for girls and am not into girl's but i just loved the girl, my best friend after seeing all i was am going through advised me to let go, same with my younger bro who saw me cry for the first time in my life and it was for a girl, so i decided to let her be. later she apologized and things kicked off, she told me she loved me but was afraid i will dump her as i was her first guy which i doubt cos of her behaviors though i noticed her bleed and also she sworn to it.In 2012 i gained my admission into a uni after 4 yrs of waiting for my desired computer course ,i skipped skul just to keep her company and all that,in 2013 i was able to send her jamb ans she gained her admission into a distance uni,after which she started changing as she no longer feels sori when wrong unlike her, she now talks back at me even when unnecessary which keeps resulting to argument infant much has changed about her, then she always say she can't live without me unlike now she says i should go that she will be fine, and am the type that loves respect i can't trade it for anything cos i respect pple alot , I still do all to ensure she does not lack,i ave bought 3 phones in a row for her,she lost the first, spoilt the second, and also i send her fund whem am buoyant, even when am not i borrow, she appreciate cos she spends on me on things i fail to notice lyk pomade, rich soaps and she asked me to start carving my eyebrows and all the fresh boy things but that's not my need for now as i tell her always, cos i am almost training my self in Skul, am in a state uni while she is in federal uni, i even his brother gain admission, my problems is this what am i to do cos i ave chased away most female frnds cos of her, even her frnd who started behaving Funi so i had a little flirt with her to know wia she is coming from, immediately i found out she wanted a date i dismissed her and told my gf of all that happened, and made enemies with some frnds who all left on their own mostly out of jealousy cos am dating her and she is beginning to change so much pls what can i do, I need an advise cos i stand to be mocked from most of my frnds and hers, i also stand to loose the one i ave ever loved in life, my parents especially my mom wants to see me marry her, I can't seek advise from pple around me cos they ave and will only say I told u to quit her failing to give me reasons on how to cos they don't realize i love her more than i can say. Pls what will i do cos even when i call her to correct her on something's it end up on argument cos she drags right with me which makes me wonder if its not same girl that kneel to beg me previously when we started newly as i was not the talking type i mostly kill her with silence and actions but after her pleads to be telling her when wrong i started to, pls advice me cos even with this write u can figure how confused i am, i know i can write better than this but i don't know what else to write pls advice me

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lol, GBAM.

onila: i have everything any girl can ask for= am beautiful, hardworking, disciplined, very rich, from a wealthy home, very cool, fun n intelligent, a virgin , kind, generous, humble n gentle

but i cant cook . .i am kinda insecure abt this. .i really want 2 be perfect

hmm, only u.d virgin one who ask?

ebamma: poko is a name of a person, animal place or thing

abeg ask am

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guy tnx alot man jst dat am jst confused,i dnt want to lose ur advice i find it helpful,i truly love her jst dat i dnt knw if i culd build the patience of showin her dat much cos i dislyk rumors alot dats wat z holdin me bck tnx man 1nce again

there z dis gal arund my neigbouhood,since last year december ive asked her out,but the tin z dat,wen i started callin her althoug i got her num 4rm a frnd cos i really dnt see her and am of a bizzy type,she wanted to knw me after sum tym i asked her 4 her ping pin she 1st wanted me to chat on 2go,i added her up tins went smoth then i asked her out she said she wanted to tink abt it,then i uploaded my main pic,which she culd easily recognise me,after she did she told me dat she cant douple date,i gave reasons y i wanted to date her,she told me dat she dnt want to date a guy close to her dat she wanted to see me in my house or hers,i told her lets meet outside our hood cos i dnt lyk gossip she said no then i told her let date so even if the gossip kums i can beer it she said no but wit tym she understood my type and said ok then after a day or 2 she wuld say she cant do the date tin,then she wuld again agree and do same again lyk 3 tyms,then i was nt happiy wit her,though i never told her but she may knw,she said she was confused and wanted to be my best of frnd,i said no,i jst tryied to contrn myself even as i stil feel 4 her,she kips kumin closer by greetin me anytym she sees me even as i try to pretend dat i dnt see her,always flash my mobile line,startin up 2go chat anytym i jst kum onine and such kip boastin my emotions wat do u tink i shuld do pals