₦airaland Forum

Truecelebmedia:
WHAT ARE THE REAL PURPOSES OF SEX?


What’s the point of sex anyway?
Historically in the Church and in our society currently, we often
misunderstand the real purpose of sex. There are three basic
reasons for God’s gift of sex in marriage.
Reproduction. Genesis 1:27-28 says: “So God created mankind in his
own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he
created them. God blessed them and said to them, ‘Be fruitful and
increase in number.’” At that moment, He had created vegetation,
animals, and humans — all with their own ways of reproducing.
His design for us was a sexual relationship between husband and
wife that had the potential to create new life.
When you really think about this process, it’s pretty incredible.
Male and female come together, join their complementary bodies,
and an egg the size of a grain of sand and a sperm 1/30th that
size merge. From there, cells differentiate, a baby grows in the
womb, and a full human being emerges months later. Let me tell
you, when you look (up) at your man-sized teenage son, it’s
particularly astonishing that this whole process started with a
fertilized egg the size of the period at the end of this sentence. And
all that . . . began with the sexual act.
The first direct mention we have of sex in the Bible shows this
purpose of reproduction. And Eve understood how incredible this
was: “Adam made love to his wife Eve, and she became pregnant and
gave birth to Cain. She said, “With the help of the Lord I have brought
forth a man” (Genesis 3:1). I can imagine her tone as she said, “I
have brought forth a man,” like Holy canoli, how did that happen?!
And over and over, we see similar phrases:
“Cain made love to his wife, and she became pregnant and gave birth
to Enoch” (Genesis 4:17).
“Adam made love to his wife again, and she gave birth to a son and
named him Seth” (Genesis 4:25).
“There Judah met the daughter of a Canaanite man named Shua. He
married her and made love to her; she became pregnant and gave
birth to a son, who was named Er” (Genesis 38:2-3).
“So Boaz took Ruth and she became his wife. When he made love to
her, the Lord enabled her to conceive, and she gave birth to a
son” (Ruth 4:13).
“Elkanah made love to his wife Hannah, and the Lord remembered
her. So in the course of time Hannah became pregnant and gave
birth to a son” (1 Samuel 1:19-20).
“Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and
made love to her. She gave birth to a son, and they named him
Solomon” (2 Samuel 12:24).
Throughout history, the Church has had this reason down pat. Just
like we understand that we need to eat to keep our bodies going,
we understand we need to conceive children to keep our families
and our communities going. This was the official teaching of the
Church for many years — that sex was for procreation.
“The early Church Fathers of the Patristic Age did indeed teach
that the marital act was solely for procreation and that spouses
should intend children when they engaged in intercourse” (Catholic
Online, Sex: Only for Procreation? ). St. Augustine famously
believed sexual passions to be a consequence of The Fall and
thought that, if sin had been avoided, humans would reproduce “by
a calm act of the will” (Christianity Today, What Would Augustine
Say – On Sex: God’s Blessing or Humanity’s Curse?
).
Procreation has been an easy reason for Christians to embrace
throughout the centuries. The Bible’s message is that children are
a blessing (see Psalm 127:3-5 ; Proverbs 17:6 ; Mark 10:13-16 ).
Given the first commands to man to “be fruitful” and the many
times God blessed His people with children, it’s not surprising that
reproduction has been championed for centuries as a main
purpose of sex.
Pleasure. I started to write, “this reason is more recent.” But I
don’t think that’s true. It’s both ancient and recent. That is, in Bible
times sexual pleasure in marriage appears to have God’s high
blessing (see Song of Songs 5:1 ). In Jewish tradition, pleasure was
seen as a woman’s right in the marriage bed. She was not to be
deprived of it by her husband (see Exodus 21:10 ; Deuteronomy
24:5 ).
Through a culmination of influences (Gnosticism, an attempt to
avoid the sexual immorality prominent in secular cultures, the rise
of monastic societies in the Church, etc.), the Christian Church
came to view sexual pleasure as opposed to spiritual purity.
Indeed, the Song of Songs became viewed strictly as an allegory of
Christ and His Church, with this view perhaps best espoused by
Origen in the 3rd century. He believed that Song of Songs was the
“meat” of scripture and could only be fully understood and
appreciated by the spiritually mature. He worried about those who,
“not knowing how to hear love’s language in purity and with chaste
ears, will twist the whole manner of his hearing of it away from the
inner spiritual man and on to the outward and carnal; and he will be
turned away from the spirit to flesh, and will foster carnal desires
in himself, and it will seem to be the Divine Scriptures that are thus
urging and egging him on to fleshly lust!” ( Origen, The Song of
Songs Commentary and Homilies ).
But I wouldn’t put much stock in that, since Origenthought the
body was so evil that he also slept on the floor, owned no shoes,
and reportedly castrated himself based on his interpretation of one
line in Matthew 19:12: “There be eunuchs, which have made
themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake.” Not to be too
graphic, but a guy who’d cut off his own nuts probably isn’t too
bothered by not having sex for pleasure.
This perspective — but not self-mutilation — was the official stance
of the Church for many years: that we Christians should be careful
not to enjoy sex too much. Otherwise, it smacks of loving the flesh
overly much and not being sufficiently spiritual. Of course, this
view fascinates me given the physical acts that many such
proponents took to display their spirituality. For instance, charity —
a definite Christian virtue — involves the physical act of actually
helping people with bodily needs, like food, water, clothing, shelter.
Are we not to take pleasure in helping people around us? Must it
merely be duty and nothing else?
Anyway, the Church has thankfully moved away from that in
recent years, with an acknowledgment that we allowed outside
philosophies to taint what the Bible really says. Just look at verses
like these:
“A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be intoxicated with her love” (Proverbs 5:19).
“I have come to my garden-my sister, my bride. I gather my myrrh with
my spices. I eat my honeycomb with my honey. I drink my wine with
my milk. Eat, friends! Drink, be intoxicated with love!” (Song of Songs
5:1).
“How beautiful you are and how pleasing, my love, with your delights!
Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of
fruit. I said, ‘I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit.’ May
your breasts be like clusters of grapes on the vine, the fragrance of
your breath like apples, and your mouth like the best wine” (Song of
Songs 7:6-9).
If you need more convincing — note our biology, ladies. That
handy-dandy clitoris has no role to play in reproduction, solely
pleasure. God wanted us to enjoy the sexual act and the intimacy
that we feel when we’re physically one-flesh with our beloved
covenant mate.
Intimacy. Speaking of intimacy, I tend to think this is the crowning
jewel. Because, to be honest, you could reproduce and feel
pleasure during sex without marriage. We see it in society all the
time. But there’s something special about sex that makes it an act
God intended to gift husbands and wives. Yes, of course he wants
daddies and mommies to raise kids, but not every sexual act
creates a baby. What’s the purpose of those other times?
Ephesians 5:31-32 says: “‘For this reason a man will leave his father
and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one
flesh.’ This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and
the church.” Well, what’s that’s about? How is becoming united/
one-flesh in marriage like our relationship with Christ? I think it’s
about the deep, loving intimacy between lover and beloved.
This is not the only time marriage is compared to God’s
relationship with His people. For instance:
“For your Maker is your husband– the LORD Almighty is his name —
the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the
earth” (Isaiah 54:5).
“I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and
justice, in love and compassion” (Hosea 2:19).
God prizes intimacy. Between us and Him. Among His people. And
certainly between husband and wife. In fact, He infused the sexual
act with ways to make it feel especially intimate, like the
vulnerability of unclothedness and body chemicals like Oxytocin and
Dopamine to make us connected to our lover.
And these affects are not seen in short-term bursts of sexual
activity. Rather, the intimate feelings come when we are linked to a
partner again and again, in longer-term relationships. As in
marriage .
Sex is something to be uniquely shared with your spouse, and thus
it creates a deep intimacy when you partake together regularly and
lovingly. God intended sex for reproduction and pleasure, but also
to nurture intimacy between husband and wife.
Those are the three primary purposes for sex I see in the Bible.
What benefits have you seen from having sex in your marriage?
By: @damexmrcoded

onila:
I just see it in me

I have the drive, the spirit, the courage, the energy

what do you think

kiddoiLL:
all of them were raped, u wont see one who did happily

ME: your first sex baby, how'd you lost ur virginity

SHE: I was forced by my uncle when i went to deliver a message..i dont want to talk bout it

ME: y didnt u tell ur mum, dis was unfair to u.

SHE: No i didnt tell anyone cus i dnt want to b d reason d family will divide n have issues

ME:

SANDOSKI:
[b] My FIRST THREAD...............


Let me tell you guys a little about myself before I continue...


*Student*NIGERIA ARMY INSTITUTE TECHNOLOGY OF ENVIRONMENTAL STUDIES..

*Ambition*I want to become an OFFICER in the NIGERIA ARMY.

Using dat pix on my dp is to show how important she is to me. Nairaland is a place were I come to ve fun but I might be annoying at times. So many people dislike me here on Romance section*sad* because of my MEMES. I'm sorry for that.
I have never insulted anyone here, not because I don't feel like insulting, is just that insults is not part of me.

I believe someday we will get to see each other and you will meet the SANDOSKI dat is causing all this trouble.You really like me when you get to know me Offline....
I have a nice heart, dats the reason why my friends will always stand for me.

°°°SMELLYMOUTH~ you are truly a friend indeed. I give you the award of the most MATURED nairialander. I promise the day I'll become an ARMY OFFICER you will receive my First SALUTE.......I'm sorry for all this.

* NaughtYNaughty and HATEu2~ my Besties for life. You mean a lot to me..Thank you so much..

*Ireneony, Muva,Stfareyougod,Philybuck, Iykekelvins,Dannyben5,Midastouche01,
TSOM,Suzan404~ Thank you


*To all those who stood behind me~ THANKS
*To all those I have offended~I'm SORRY
*To the English Professors~ Please don't mind my writings.Pardon my mistakes.

°°°°°°°°°° I'M SORRY ALL°°°°°°°°°°°

°°°°°°°°°°Luv ya all°°°°°°°°

P.S~I used to be people's pleaser,until I realize that Pleasing People still don't please them..
Not everyone will accept this apology... Thanks
[/b]

skarlett:
10. These ones that kuku went all the way underwater to take their own pictures.

https://zikoko.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/Underwater-Pool-Pre-Wedding-Photo-Shoot-Engagement-Session-Nigerian-American-Igbo-Couple-Ugochi-Nnamdi-BellaNaija-Zorz-Studios-02-600x443.jpg

As per dry land is not fine enough for them.

mizzbouqui:
Eeyah sowie

canDy4eva:
r u dat poor??

MidasTouche01:
Good morning Master Thinkers....


Please, I need your opinion on this particular job (colour precisely)


This is a 6-Bedrook Duplex I'm working on, and I chose this colour theme, but a friend of mine said the colour is 'not okay'


So I'd like to hear what you think about the colour...


Designed, Modelled and Rendered by MidasTouche01

Modelled with Sketchup

Rendered with Vray....

Cc: sandoski
KingRex1
AirSultan
Certifiedbillio

mizzbouqui:
No nope

mizzbouqui:
As for me I will have to pay, I wouldn't have taken what I knew I couldn't afford, I learnt my lessons years back. It's only for a first date o

mhisbliss:
how can a heinous crime be a mistake

MidasTouche01:
U could have advised him on the advantages of having green areas in an environment...


But I can relate, clients can be stubborn sometimes.....

And as the old adage says customers are always right

AirSultan:
Nah..


I have a health condition, I be Hausa pha.. how I no fit cope, lol.

AirSultan:
Wow




I stay at tanke. Believe me, I just left that side now, like just now.

AirSultan:
Whao, boss me..


I miss futmx sha o

SANDOSKI:
No vegetation{green areas}


Nice work

AirSultan:
Finished from an architecture institute here in ilorin tho, did 2yrs internship with an architect. Spent a year at futminna then left due to illness... just working out my transfer papers to unilorin, you?

AirSultan:
Finished from an architecture institute here in ilorin tho, did 2yrs internship with an architect. Spent a year at futminna then left due to illness... just working out my transfer papers to unilorin, you?

FlawlesRebirth02:
.to clear boredom(sometimes)mostly now that m Single and not Searching

bangirl:
pls help me check my own 6534044EF

Greene66:
Speak for yourself.

1. A car:- I have one. I don't need his

2. Money: Yup I have. I don't need his

3. Apartment:- Yes we won't live under d bridge would we?

4. Good job:- Yes he shouldn't be a liability now should he?

5. Strong Dick:- No. It makes me laugh too much so I don't like it. And it gives me bad dreams. Last time I dreamt I was in a wedding and all the guest had dick heads. So no no no

So lady speak for thyself. Not everyone is like thee

FlawlesRebirth02:
.God bless you•••••you will not suffer at all

youngaz:
please help me check mine....65144533GB....i'll appreciate it if u do...thanks

alabilomo:
Could you help me check please: 65571913gh. Thanks.