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Toks2008:
oh i see..you be southy

Well you are right tho..this is nairaland meaning a Nigerian online forum and most things you read here especially concerning relationships are definitely from the Nigerian point of view.

Toks2008:
Morning sis.


By the way if that is you on your profile page,please thank your parents for making a good product.

Toks2008:
Having a child out of wedlock is not ideal in anyway and ladies should do their best to avoid this not by the sinful and barbaric act of abortion but by been careful to open up to a man who will love then enough not to abandon them and the child should pregnancy occurs.

Nevertheless,it is no longer a big deal that we have baby mamas who are never married and we have a growing number of this set of ladies due to many factors too numerous to elucidate upon.

The sad twist is that it is generally believed that such ladies usually find it difficultt to find a man that will eventually marry them due to the stigma of being a single mum out of wedlock.

In my opinion,being a single mother is no deterrent but most times,it is the approach of these ladies who find themselves in this situation that really makes it hard for them to get a man as fast as they would love to.

Here are very important list of advise that will be beneficial for you.

1.Be confident; Many men are very skeptical about fertility status of many ladies these days so as a single mum you should be proud of yourself that you are fertile and capable of procreating so carry yourself with dignity and be proud of yourself.

2.Look sexy: Get rid of that after child-birth pregnancy(protruding tummy) many Nigerian young mothers are known for. I CAN'T STRESS THIS ENOUGH.I guess this link will come in handy for you and other mothers because guys love flat tummies even after you have given birth toi children.http://www.findhomeremedy.com/12-wonderful-home-remedies-for-getting-flat-tummy-after-delivery/

3.Be selective: This might sound strange but if you have your way,look away from single never married guys. Yes this does not apply in all cases but i will be frank with you on this. You will be more appreciated by male divorcees,widower as well as the married men while single never married guys may just want to cool off with you. While you may ignore the married men,widowers,divorcees,or a never married single dad will make a better pair.

4.Don't discuss your child excessively: I have heard many single mothers say stuffs like..a man who will want me must want my child..

Well no man will ask you to forget your child but most guys are not interested in hearing you sing about the child,remember its not his child so in as much as a mother's love towards her child is strong,please try to avoid making it a subject matter even if the man also has his own children. Discussing your child excessively will take the shine off the affair.

5.Be in touch but don't take up the responsibility: This is one big mistake single mothers do. Except the man absconds or his family bluntly refuses to accept the child,DON'T EVER TAKE UP THE RESPONSIBILITY OF TAKING CARE OF THE CHILD.

In most cases,the baby daddy and his family are interested in the baby but not interested in the mother so many times these ladies usually hold on to the child because to them "if you don't want me,you can't have my child"

No matter the stress you go through in bringing the child up,you can never erase the paternity of the child and a day will likely come when the child will look for the dad or visavis and when the day comes,just one prostration and im sorry from the dad will melt the pains of neglect of many years so why insist on taking care of a child of a man who may come back to claim his biological child.

Please give the child to the father's family but be in touch,after-all nobody in this world can contest the maternity of the child.Abeg free yourself because its a turn off for guys when they want to woo a cutie and discover that the baby you are with is actually yours...its better to know latter.

Or better still give the child to a family member of yours and be free to rediscover yourself.

6. Be financially independent: Please understand that many men these days are struggling and it will be very unrealistic for you to expect another man to automatically take up another man's responsibility.

Yes some men will not mind to take care of you and your child or children but try to be financially independent in the little way you can so that while you expect some form of financial succor from any man that comes into your life,you will not stress him too much by wanting him to provide for a child who is not his.

7.Don't be a dumping ground: Many ladies have been enmeshed with self pity and condemnation that they just rush into any affair with guys who they will ordinarily never date all because they see themselves as after one as they call it.

There is a saying for single mothers in my dialect "omo bibi ki n se arun" meaning having a child out of wedlock is not a disease.

8. Be bold,and never allow any man love you out of pity or take advantage of you.

Hope this helps.

Toks2008:
I sincerely wish many unmarried single mums can see this great thread.

Its not an envouragement to have children out of wedlock but for them to understand that they are not second class.

Toks2008:
ok Ada please be sincere and tell me if these set of ladies should remain celibate forever, continue hoping for an unmarried man to come their way or accept marriage proposal from a married man..

1. A feemale ddivorcee with children.

2. A widow in her 40s or even late 20s with children.

3.A single lady in her lates 30s or 40s


Many ladies who are quick to condemn polygamy should pray never to find theirselves in a sittuation that will make them pray to have a married man look her way.

This life is too complex to understand.

Toks2008:
No one is asking them to date married men but if a married man decides to marry them i wont advice them against it.

Married men are the answer to the prayers of the widows,female divorcees,unmarried chronic overaged ladies as well as never married single mothers.

The mystery of man and woman affair is too deep to understand and polygamy is actually the answer to the prayers of many ladies.

Toks2008:
Habba! This is uncalled for.

smsw:
Kate said: “Once you find a man you think is right for you, do not listen to what other people say. Follow your heart. Money and physical appearance should not be an issue.”

They both have 6 kids together

Pretty Lady Married To The Ugliest Man In Uganda (PHOTOS)

Oluwahelpme:
cherlene is my crush

Lobolintin:
Am Chief Lobolintin by name
A traditionalist
And hybrid.Igbo -Yoruba



Cheating is way out of it, and masturbatioj is demonic in all point of view, better still, endure and wait for him[spouse],...masturbatioj can create atmosphere for cheating, that's what have been hearing from ladies sha...

Cheating is now a hit back to back, from admiring, to hanging out,and kissing to 4cking, and masturbtiom with Aboliki or Chinese Balm. Ti take over.. All naj back to back

Drops mic, and storms out...
Iyalaya masturbation ati cheating....... When I get fresh pussiew for nairaland


Gerout of hia

Crysallis:
The Bible says that fornication (or adultry) is a sin against God and our body. (I Corinthians 6:18)

Masturbation is a desire of the flesh and it is not right in the sight of God. According to 1 Corinthians 10:13, no temptation has overtaken us that is not common to man; God is faithful and will not let us be tempted beyond our ability and that God will always provide a way of escape that we might be able to endure the temptation.

1 Peter 2:11 clearly warns us against the passions of the flesh.

So dear OP, Juxtaposing two wrongs while providing a choice between them does not make indulging in one seem right.

glimpse33:
Oh Thank You, I Really Appreciate

Good morning

Aww, you are welcome

Cherlene

glimpse33:
The Kiss Was A Sign Of Undying Crush

The Bolded Is The Situation I Surprisingly Find Myself ( Crushing On Cherlene)

Its A Nice Thing Tho.

glimpse33:
lol Surprised? Its Funny Tho! I Just Happen To Find Myself Crushing On You Here On NL. Just Like That

Yes, I wondered what the kiss was for!
- At bolded

Cherlene

glimpse33:
Cherlene

AKO1:
Crab meat fried rice

sayyid:
its very hard to see ladies nwadays without wearing makeup. ladies can u do without makeup?

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Happy new year fan and wish u d best. You gonna love dis track. my frenz,sis,bro,uncle, aunty,Egbon, and base will love dis..
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scentmarlc:


HMmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmM


Stop wondering cherlene!

Xway101:
Pretty, pretty, pretty, pretty.

She's such a pretty girl. What a beautiful girl you are!


That's all fine and dandy — who wants to walk around looking like garbage? — but the problem is looks has became too important to girls days.

Estharfabian:
Uh...did I say that?? My bad!
I meant You can't love two people...! like ever!

Very often we believe ourselves to be falling in love only to Quickly realize that it wasn’t love, but rather infatuation.
You can surely be infatuated with multiple people, but You sure as hell can't be in love with different people! mbanu!

This really depends on how you define love. If you define love as caring greatly for a person and having romantic/sexual thoughts for that person, then sure, you can love multiple people. But love isn’t quite so shallow!

I often think that people never actually fall in love, but rather work towards being in love. Love is something that is created and maintained over time. It takes time, energy, work, dedication and focus..jst like anything else worth doing in life. For whatever reason, human beings love the idea of having things given to them...same thing I Told decker the other time.. True love isn't conditional

there simply isn't enough time to love more than one person...
Like I said earlier, it's all bout perspectives.. We sure see things differently..

emusmith:
Lols...Are you sure you are not the "friend"?

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Congratulations !!!

Thank you NairalandMVPs

Cherlene

nathaniel007:
happy new year

Happy new year

Cherlene

dollyjoy:
So here we are,the most anticipated year.

I want to thank the following people for being part of my 2015 and also to wish them a happy new year.


Oyind17:knowing you is one of the best that happened to me in the year 2015,though emotional,you are very caring,humble,kind and amiable.happy new year.


Agarawu23:am still looking for the perfect word to describe you,u are stubborn,firm,bold yet kind,caring and cheerful.thanks for being dear for me when i needed you most.happy new year.


Omotayor123:you are a sister,a friend,very understand.love you dear,happy new year.


Aminat508:words are not enough to describe my heartfelt gratitude to God for making our part cross.you are a sister,a mother,a friend, very empthazing,your benevolent acts and kindness are too numerous to mention.how can i thank you enough?happy new year dear


isacolukay:maybe it guilty conscience but if you are still holding any grudges against me pls let it go.happy new year.


Sickstars:a nice loving amiable girl who can make you laugh even when angry.if you dnt have much airtime on your phone,dnt bother calling her,she will make you so laugh until your credit get exhausted.happy new year sweetie


cutehector:an amazing soft guy,who will apologise even when offended just to let peace reign,i wished to marry your type in future.happy new year.


Greekgoddess:for the friendship we share,just wanna say happy new year.


Lanicky:i dont know why but something about your moniker makes me smile.happy new year,

monalisa189:am still very much around though the happenings around me wouldnt permit me to be as before.happy new year,


shizzy7:you are not a good friend happy new year,


mrsphyno:for the friendship,happy new year,


montezz:this lady is very good@blowing both hot and cold,abeg try dey blow room temperature biko:Daside that,abike is the kinda girl you will want to be with when angry,i thought i was a jolly fellow until i met her,


numberz:i know you dnt expect this mention but for what we once shared,i just wanna say happy new year and also thanks for your impact in my life.


Profojah:dnt be dissappointed dear,am sorry and i mean it.happy new year,


qatarplayboy:am forced to assume you work with mtn.lol.happy new year.


Misspicy:did i offend you?if yes,let go.happy new year,


peeparty:if you are mad@me pls let go.happy new year,


cherlene:i wish am that little child amanda,lol,you are my emmaratus,whatever that means

estharfabian:i really dnt know you but i just like mentioning you.lol happy new year.

Kinglekan:one funny dude.happy new year,

adeh29:if you are still bearing any grudges,kindly let go,happy new year,


softappless:happy new year,


laveda:i admire you courage girl,you rock.


Toseyn2much:i bite my tongue while trying to pronounce your name,lol,thanks for the educative and entertaining threads and also for the frienship.happy new year.

Pussysandie:pls calm down biko,life na jeje.happy new year,


wristbangle:for your understanding,just want to say happy new year,

midehi2:you didnt teach me french again?lol happy new year,

bigkoboko:i really dnt know who you are or what your aim is but it kinda weird that you hardly come online but whenever am being dissed or have a little misunderstanding you will suffice from nowhere to join my opponent.if i offend you kindly let go.happy new year,


And


neyoor

yourmain


twaci

darvin

enigmatice

asesco
rawpadgin

cum4what

canme4u



falconey

dharay99

mhizkel
and a host of others too numerous to mention,happy new year,wishing you all the best.

Happy new year Joy. Mwaah

Awwh.
- Emmaratus??


Cherlene

scentmarlc:
Waooooow see what I missed !



I guess I need to make more impact on this forum, hence be in the list come 31st December of. 2016.



However it gladdens my heart to see people I hold in high esteem as part of the MVPs. To me, its a little motivation for everyone to keep doing what you know how to do best.




Congratulations to my padiis:


Aminat508
Tosyne2much
Agarawu23
Cherlene
Omotayor123
Prettythicksme
Flow1759
Introvert
Twaci
Ask4bigneyo
Dygeasy




And to the people I admire from Afar:



Emusmith
Jarus
Tonyebarcanista
Mizmycoli





You did great in 2015. Your impact was felt, no matter how little.




Though I think there are still hundreds of Nairalanders out there that distinguished themselves in different sections such as:



Spywareczar (Arts&Graphics)
Wristbangle (formerly wristwatch). Romance
Luxanne
Lanicky
Ronald4lif (via is comments)
Yokiti
Mrcork (though he is crazy )
LadyF ( where she dey sef!)
Gurgle
Missclasy
Kingtom ( for his comments)
Tomfrench (reigning Mr Nairaland)
Fynestboi (NISD Founder)




And a host of others.




But like the Op said, 1.4million members is such a hugh number to vet, there is only so much they can do. So in all fairness to humanity and in the spirit of sportmanship.......................I and all members of KALAKUTA REPUBLIC, MATURED MINDS and EGBE AWON WEYREY 100% Endorse the ratings.



CC:
Adeh39
Erukumakanaki
Orijin101
Stephenqueen
Lekinz
Montezz
Dollyjoy
HerexG
Tohpahz
Esosuo
Pheals
Hate2U
Kinglekan
Truckpusher
Adeaks
Vhema
Trypa
Selebobo
Nairalandstinks
Adaure4ever
Cyprus000
Dharay99






Come see wetin I see bikooooooo


Compliments of the season guyz.............

Thank you dear.

Cherlene

Omotayor123:
Happy new year..
Agarawu23
Aminat508
Cherlene
Isolukay
Loomer
Ask4bigneyo
Oyin17
Canme4u
Montezz
Wish you guys all the best

kilokeys:
Lol.. My personal Chapman..

I soaked pineapples in Fanta for hours, froze it..
Then let it thaw.

Poured the juice in the glass, added grenadine.. Finish

kilokeys:
Brunch..

Yippie.. Now i can fight two lions and three mad men

PussySandie:
Estharfabian misspicy nubian113 yourmain sickstars mhizkel, cherlene. Oya rate this one