₦airaland Forum

Bahamas95:
Doing business with a pastor or someone very close to you, I won't even advice my enemy to make that mistake.



Nothing on earth would make me do business with any pastor, I don't care who the person is.......All of them are hypocrites.

😂😂😂

imoh4king:
I married using compatibility rather than seeking God's way.

no reason am,even pastor marriage dey crash.

drimzsmoke:
Baba no regret, dey there dey deceive yourself!!!

no mind am....even dangote get him own regrets.the more you experience life,the more regrets you should have.

obinna58:
I don’t know know what I could call regret, I regret nothing cos I’ve always tried my hardest doing things right

What could I possibly regret??

Oh I remember

I regret being born in Nigeria

you shouldn't regret that....no be you born yourself for Nigeria.

ChybuzzDD:
Na you go study ye ye course nah

no be by yeye course. pray Nigeria doesn't happen to you.

Gerrard59:
Interesting. Thank you for your comment. I never realised the country's economy to be so bad. The pictures and videos on Instagram told me otherwise.

Lol, believe social media at your peril.people are going through hell that many can't even complain about.

It's high time we started making these women sponsor marriage.Na them need marriage pass men.if she is not working,she has no business getting married. If she is not working,she has no business being in a relationship.no dey stress yourself because of anybody. If this tinubu govt no teach Nigerian men sense,I wonder wetin go teach them again.

Anguldi:
Dem no dey tell person, I lost a sweet babe due to her desperation. I can't bend for nada🤷. Not ready for hard labour oOoOO

lol,you are a wise man ...let me tap from this your wisdom sir.

yomi007k:
It is not about the choice of wife.

Sometimes a man is not financially fit for an endeavour. I have told 2 close guys to make money well first before adding a woman, they didn't listen and today their suffering knows bounds.

lol....I no dey pitty those kind people.Na to just remind them say you warn them

popo1494:
I’ve overheard two neighbors talking about me ….. “TO SAY HIM DON MARRY HIM NO FIT GIVE DAT KIND AMOUNT LAILAI”

They’re talking about someone in a dare need that I helped financially within our environment

Even though I did the help privately but probably it’s the person that showed appreciation publicly which lead to their comment

These are the guys that randomly jokes with me like “ guy you’re ok to get a wife o coz no time” as if dem wan help me program my livelihood.

From that comment regarding who I helped I can see their advice on me getting married is for them to see me being same as their financial status struggling for survival with different dramas from their wives which sometimes it happens like a disgrace in d public all in d name of NO OR LESS PROVISION FOR THEIR FAMILY

my advice to you is stop helping them...na from that your help you go take get problem.

Saviola86:
My situation right now

I am 32yrs old and I am faced with a strong pressure to go and marry.

The worse culprits are my secondary school classmates. I am always a topic of discussion, every now and then in our WhatsApp group, on Facebook, in social gatherings these classmates of mine throw all sorts of shades to me.

They think I am a sorry loser. They even think that I am single without a girlfriend.

I don't even get offended, I laugh it off and even joke with them about my being single. Sometimes I crack jokes about their marriages and how marriage is eating them up

The thing is that, I come from a family where nobody mounts any sorts of pressure on anybody. My mom doesn't even have that time, I have never heard my mom tell me to marry neither has any of my siblings.

My mom's own is that you live a decent life.

My classmates making jests of me, what they do not know is that I have a fiancée whom I have been with for 7yrs.

I do not rush marriage because I waited her to be done with school, a lady my parents are aware of, my siblings so love and while I also love her.... See ehhh when you see a good woman, wait for her, build her and wife her and that's what we've done for the past 7yrs but kept on low key and privacy.

While she schooled, I took time to build my finances and make meaningful investments. I am comfortable and doing well for myself.

October is my wedding and yet my classmates do not know that I am in a relationship, while they throw their mockery, I look at them and sigh.

They think being married alone is an achievement. I know how many of them run to my DM every now and then seeking help of 10k, 6k to buy food for the home. I know how many have called to beg for house rent but these same classmates come to general group to make mockery of singles. I look at them and marvel at their ignorance. Rushing into marriage without a stable finance but thinking you've arrived

you dey try oooo. Dey make mockery of you and you still assist them with money.

Riqueleme:
Like planing and monitoring someone's life up and down whereas they're facing life challenges as well but it's the guy that's not married yet or wife that as not given birth after marriage will be their job 😅😅😅

very annoying set of people.you begin to wonder if they have nothing to do with their lives,that they have too much time monitoring another person.

CaptainFM1:
Very nice writeup.

The thing is people should realize that marriage is an individual decision. People should not check time for others. Nigerians are actually very culpable at this.

What if the person has made a personal decision not to get married? Hmmm?

We need to understand the difference between "personal life" and "general life".

most Nigerians don't have that mental capacity to understand privacy.They usually have herd mentality.most do things because people are doing it,no mind of their own.That also point to how messed up the society is messed up.

femi4:
Wrong

It's about taking responsibility and being responsible in the society.

Why do you think landlords n some country's visa give priority to a family man

what is your definition of being responsible?so a full grown man is not responsible just because he is not married? I bet you have different meaning of being responsible.

Misery likes company.They want you to also suffer what they are suffering. Hardly you see a Nigerian pressure you to come benefit from what he is benefitting from

Don't say that.Are we more than USA?

Gotocourt:
Sadly, Our population is much hence the abuse

You think you have a country? Nigeria is hell of a country.

IyfeNamikaze:
Some got killed out of negligence by the company and everyone is playing secrecy and keeping mute? The family should sue that company for compensation in millions.
Even the police who are supposed to bring this to light and issue arrests are refusing to talk? Someone just lost their life for goodness sake!!! The Nigerian police is just utter rubbish!!

hayden2234:
If we are five members in family i will be spend around 100k per month on feeding. I will prefer secure my family future to spend money on food.

I doubt you are in Nigeria

Starz825:
You are right

However , I never said anyone is perfect...but there are certain things that has to be there before you take anyone seriously...that can somehow guarantee your longevity.. moreso, we all need to lower our expectations on people generally...especially with women....

Anyone can mess you up....your close pal...your parents...your siblings...your friends...your colleagues.....so it's not just your woman in the house....

This is Life

The bolded is a very harsh truth.

Lol,ibadan woman again?I am beginning to believe what they say about ibadan women.at this point it's safe to generalize.

Toymax88:
Do away with her before her family members accuse u of wanting to use her for money ritual.


This is the problem I'm currently facing

She's JOBLESS, common pepper, salt etc are all being provided by me.

She ruined the businesses (3) I set up for her

Now they are threatening me not to ask after the children. I'm not allowed to speak with them. I have gone to their family house in IBADAN 5 times and I was not allowed to c the children.

To make the matter worst, THEY ACCUSED ME OF MONEY RITUAL. I RECORDED the call conversation.

They accused of using love potion. Pls, who use love potion to ATTRACT a low life? Is she a Minister's daughter? Why will I use love potion to ATTRACT POVERTY to myself?

OZIOGU1:
Una dey try ooo, una sabi take rubbish, so person wey no dey pay bills dey threaten person wey dey pay bills? Nawa

As in,men are taking a lot of bullshit these days...babe tell me say she no go ever wash my clothes.na so I change am for am instantly and ended it.

With women,more is less and less is more.what this means is when you do more for them,you would be appreciated less and vice versa.Also,Don't start what you can not finish.

advanceDNA:
Please I would like to know how it's an offence for a man to take care of his woman when he has the money......i mean....I just want to how the things he did for his wife translated to being wrong and the cause of her bad behavior

His wife is ungrateful, unkind and wicked to him not because of his love and care for her..but because his wife is a horrible human being...

.are financially okay guys supposed to starve their woman of money, not open business for their wife like op did.... Cos I'm not sure I get what u are blaming him for..

Bros,human nature is fickle.even with this your method,you fit still fall victim.The moment a man decides to marry,he should hope for the best but also expect the worst case scenario.

Starz825:
Nobody said it's simple...but there are 6 basic anchors...in any relationship before marriage decision...if you don't see it in him/her ....just disembark...its of no need...

1. Genuineness
2. Mutual respect
3. ***
4. ****
5. ****
6. ****

***...in my book...so I can't reveal all.

That a man is rich ...or a lady is endowed and beautiful is not enough reason to proceed with marriage...

You must check these basics 6 before you consider marriage... regardless of their physical attributes or pocket.

Ire oo

VinnyBaba:
Anytime I see Young Guys doing Wedding and getting married in this Tinibu USELESS Economy,
I always marvel and wonder if they know what are getting into.

because even 100K salary CanNOT sustain some Single guys for a Month.

But these young Married guys I see seems to Guys with 50k salary or average income earners.

Na before I dey pitty them.now,I just look at them and say this can not be me

Krismas:
So, to u, NDE is why you joined a suspicious FLOCK?
Alright, are u aware that NDE results, produces different effects on people?
Meaning there are people today, in Buddhism, Taoism, Islam etc. Cos of some NDE they had.
I even know this of an Eckist Bob- Manuel.
The suspect in the end is not NDE, but religious indoctrination lenses,
thru which people like yourself, mis-interpret their NDE

That's why I say belief in itself is a limitation.The moment you believe in a particular thing,it shapes your reality.People that believe strongly in heaven and hell,when they die that reality of heaven and hell is shaped for them.each man is creating his reality even after death with his belief system.

Legendguy:
What you are doing is simply astra projection and nothing more

Astral projection is not the will of God but it's a satanic technique

I just dey laugh you.you know nothing.

Difrent:
Coming back to this sinful life should scare you

You may not remember your past, but the sufferings and wars and poverty and disease will still be waiting for you

💯

Adewale1603:
I can only not fear death if it only takes people away after living a longer life. But death doesn't work that way, anybody can die at anytime regardless of age. Death is certain, we know, but it should take only old people that have already lived a longer life.

Understand that death is trying to teach you impermanence in no particular order or pattern.even someone born today can die. So cherish every moment you spend here,cos tomorrow is not promised.

Adewale1603:
Biggest fear is death. As in to die. I don't know what death feels like, don't know what happens after death, don't know anything again

death is certain,why fear it?

UnknownQueen:
You're alive now, what if you're the reincarnated being of your ancestors, did u remember anything in your past life

What I'm saying in a nutshell is life must continue and even if you come back, u won't remember the former things, so keep enjoying the process.....rich or poor

once you know these things,you can't unknow them.If one is feeling tired of the reincarnation process in this life time,you think the feeling will vanish in the next one?No,it will only magnify it.

Difrent:
"My only fear of death is coming back to this world reincarnated"

That's my only fear

this should be everyone's fear,but only few understands this.

JustcallmeFavou:
I have read most of the replies here, and all I can say is that; most men here are broken, and haven't healed from whatever pain, or trauma a lady they once dated caused them in the past.

Inasmuch as, I would say women shouldn't generalized all men as being scums, I would also say that single men should not generalize all women as being the same.

We meet different people with different personalities and whatsoever else they are silently fighting that they often times don't talk about or heal from.

Hence, its paramount that each gender gets to treat each other based on the present, not based on how another person has once treated them in past relationships.

This way, one doesn't loose or miss out on someone who could have been their soulmate, or a destined partner.

It's true that some men are demons, and that some women will help you see shege and won't care. But if one keeps treating every lady or guy that comes along based on past experiences or hurt, then the rate of divorce in the next 5/10 years will be way higher than now with no love, loyalty, commitment, or true friendship.

women are only loyal to what they benefit.they are incapable of loving genuinely.know this and know peace.