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correctguy101:
Lwkmd 🤣🤣

You sef you wuked... Traditional marriage ke? Lols

I just have had my fair share of oversabi guys around me.
Just recently, a friend wey dey always criticize me for spending on my pikin mama dem rented a business space in Lekki, along admiralty way for his side chick. This one get wife for house o. He furnished the place and I'm sure the werey is still the one paying for her house. I look am and swia for am, the mumu dey laff telling me nonsense like: I just don't know why I like this girl.

If you see eye wey I look am? I dey too lazy to dey worry about another person life but the girl knows how to cook more than his wife, any day, I go pick her food over his wife's. That I must confess...

My friend is gone... Love don hold am for throat.... SMH

Omo, finally na online dem be alpha. Offline na beta dem be....that means our gals no go change be that,cos many men dey when dey enable them.

correctguy101:
I tell ya. Na men dey make dem the way they are.

I have one mumu that used my phone back then to call his little sweetie... The mumu agbaya was like: why don't you want to come to my house? Please na, I won't touch you. I love you na, come to my house please, I won't touch you. Okay, I will send jamb money to you......


I always put my phone on auto-record and when I discovered this voice note the mumu left on my phone. We his boys wan finish am because he's one of the wereys that'll act like they're true alpha males and them no even know the meaning of being an alpha...

just imagine. I had one like that always advising me no to spend on woman. Omo come see when this guy do birthday party for him gal friend. I shock,I come use style tell am say this party don reach traditional marriage party;only thing missing na elders from both family. I dey try tell am say e for just convert am to traditional marriage ceremony.

correctguy101:
Most men are only mostly wise online.

Offline, most of them are exactly who they claim and brag to detest. Many of them will be quick to tag some guy online as simp but once dem see okolo, dem go turn mumu.

You are right....na wetin dey give all these gals mind dey make careless statements.

delugadou:
You tried, but Jonathan and APC is the bottom line here. If they didn't sell this country to satan, at least majority of the single ladies would have tasted marriage. They might get divorced due to character flaws, but at least they will taste the experience.

Millions of young men are finding it hard to even feed since buhari, let alone marry someone who will definitely expect financial responsibilities from him.

Your post is not correct until you remove Jonathan from there.

EmperorIsaac:
Not the worst, but 100% operating below expectations!

Which administration in the past is worse than this?

1Sharon:
Interesting.


Despite what your colleagues are advising here, why do you want to do this?

E shock you abi. Who e never happen to go think say na him lucky pass.

bluebay:
Your own is Good .
My wife of 2 kids from 6 years of marriage . I observed she’s been moody for a week now and I found out she’s owing Soemone about 43k. On Fridays here , I was having about 80k left on me, I told boldness to send her the 43k to pay off her debt . Out pumping machine got spoilt , I paid 20k then gave my wife another 10k to prepare stew . Lo and behold , she came back home that night with an old android phone despite her haveing an iPhone sxmax with her . She said someone wants to sell it for 40k. I told her to return it but she refused .
Now, money I was suppose to receive on Saturday didn’t come but was assured this week and my wife has been giving me attitude and calling me
All sort of name because I couldn’t give her money she requested for . Today is Monday, she I have receive many strong comments. This is same woman I gave money on Friday and incured expenses for. Am really hurt brothers .

Bros,men got learn somethings for this life.This is where you bleeped up.No dey rush to solve women problem.e no dey end well.as you see am dey moody,you for avoid her. It's not your duty to make her happy.when you found out she was owing someone,you shouldn't have paid that money.let her pay her debt by herself. You have to understand that when you do more for this gender,they regard it less.

ovie8200:
As you some mem not dey learn, you lean by force! Only do things to a woman who is you wife.

bros even wife is not exempted from female hypergamy.always deal with this people with caution.

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

money when I go take sponsor woman for school or open business for her,I go gather the money set fire on am. E pay me make I burn that money than to use am elevate woman.You are enhancing her hypergamy by elevating her. It's female nature. It's ingrained in their DNA.

FreeIgboho:
Voila!
Great movie

if we are to agree on this then we are left with a bitter reality.This must be a prison.

FreeIgboho:
We totally have to assume it is NOT fixed to function but if you think deeply about it, it has to be. I'm sure Judas spent a sleepless night, tossing and turning, deciding whether to betray Jesus. Meanwhile it was decided long before he was born that he'd betray Jesus. He couldn't deviate from it

lol.... reminds me of the Oracle in the matrix movie. She said "You didn't come here to make a choice,you are here to understand why you made it"

FreeIgboho:
How do you know you have free will? That man, how come a fortune teller can tell whether he'd "choose" to sit or stand. Free will will make prophecies impossible because a different choice by just one individual will set off a chain of events that will produce completely different outcome

How do I think I have free will?I can decide to play a role different role to what I was playing before.I can decide to opt out of the game entirely.

FreeIgboho:
How do you know you have free will? That man, how come a fortune teller can tell whether he'd "choose" to sit or stand. Free will will make prophecies impossible because a different choice by just one individual will set off a chain of events that will produce completely different outcome

do you think it's every prophecy that comes to pass?You still have a role to play in making it come to pass. Sometimes prophecy can be delayed because of human action.These things are not entirely fixed. There is little room for flexibility here and there. If it was entirely fixed,the game would even be boring to who ever designed it.

FreeIgboho:
This is so true but VERY hard to do. After a certain type of public humiliation you'd swear never again

very correct,one should just pray not to find oneself in situations he has to rely on others for rescue. Na that time you go see People true color. A problem shared these days is an avenue for mockery.

FreeIgboho:
How do you know you have a choice? Maybe you're made to think you have a choice. Does AI have a choice or must it do what it's programmed to do? Someone looking from outside would say it definitely has a choice just like any human

reason I said we have controlled choices is because humans have self will.see it this way,someone comes to your house and you offered him a seat,instead of sitting he decides to stand. That moment he has to make a choice between sitting or standing.At the same time the choices he has are limited or controlled.

richmond500:
he creates and send.
He is the creator of evil

why give God a gender?is it not possible God is a female?

FreeIgboho:
How do you know he had a choice? Or are we to just take your word for it?

we all have choices.though not entirely free choices cos within that choice is also a form of control.so I will just say we have controlled choices.

FreeIgboho:
You.must be having yourself a good laugh while typing this. Where do your thoughts come from?

lol...from my personal experience,books,movies,other people's experience

helinues:


That's his own problems now. Who cares about his feelings or thoughts.

Of all the planets, stars, galaxies in the universe, please what made Earth to be special to whoever creator?

this is the second posts you made here that I agree with. The universe is infinitely vast that what happens on this earth is infinitesimally relevant to it. It is crazy how humans claim so much relevance in the grand design of the universe.

FreeIgboho:
Do you think Judas was 50% destined to betray Jesus?

see life as a programmed video game where the characters are expected to act a certain role,but also have that inherent choice to act out of script.judas was programmed to betray Jesus,but could also have opted out of that betrayal role which he chose not.

ReacherSaidNoth:
A god who displays human emotions cannot be anything but man made. If there is some creator entity, it cannot be the maniac in the bible who wants to roast people for not buying his bùllshït

This hits hard.A true God will not show human emotion like hatred,jealousy and envy.

ppogba:
You are totally correct
This happens in this era of social media?
This happens in this era of crowd funding abi what do you people call it?

Truth is , though Nigeria is bad, one thing anyone cannot deny is that Nigerians are generous even to a fault on issues like this .

Alaye did not tell his friend the real truth.

The Church is there .
The Mosque is there.
Different religious groups will help.

Take stories like this with a bag of salt.

Before you conclude,make sure you have been in similar situation and got help.even if you managed to get help doesn't mean it will be like that for everyone.remove religious group from there,those ones no even send you.Na their business them dey run.

If them explain Nigeria for you and you understand that means them no explain am well.

FreeIgboho:
Do you consider there might also be destiny involved. What if life were predestined??

I think it's 50% predestined and 50% your responsibility.

NassBoy:
I'm sorry if It annoyed u.
I spoke from the place of pains because that is what I'm passing through at the moment. I've lost every confidence in Humanity. Only the grace of God can help me change that mindset now

you are not lying.... it's a cruel world out there. I would not blame those that decided not to help cos many kind hearted people are easily taken for granted and called foolish.life na jungle.

grandstar:
This is so sad. Medicine is a very expensive course to pursue.

He shouldn't have kept the problem to himself. I am certain if he told his classmates and they informed their parents, one or two parents may decide to sponsor the rest of his education.

The problem here isn't that he could not afford his fees. The problem here is not asking for help from the right people.

You think everyone is lucky to have people that show up for them when they are in trouble.If e easy for you, e no mean say e easy for every other person.

FengChui:
Bro, may you never see a problem that overwhelms you.... You can't think straight. In Yoruba, it is said that "we all pray that we don't fall, but when we fall, we'll be left struggling not to lose our life in the process."

I know someone who spent 17 years in the university. At the end, no certificate to show.

It's a crazy world we live out here. May we not see the ugly side of life when we're still struggling to define our lives.

Leave am e never see something for this life. This life is very deep. One can still do everything right and still not succeed.

joedejoe:
My Dear

Please I am not hear to sympathize with you but to tell you the whole truth if you must make it in employment - employer and employee relationship market.

The steps you took are not entirely correct in the first place. Do you know how many civil servants and other corporate employees whose salaries are not paid at month end and yet kept coming to work? If you are an employer and you delay salary for one week, then all your staff will demand reasons for delay and where you also delay in explaining, they will all abscond from work. How will you feel?

Humility and perseverance are compound virtue in life. You are employed to solve problems and one of the problems is to make money with which other problems are solved. How much did you make for the company while your stay lasted? You are only after your salary.

Frankly, you have just made yourself unemployable. Nobody would want to employ a character like you in his organization.

Solution

Humble yourself, go back to the company and apologize to them. Avoid exposing this flaws in the social media, the more you do the more you endanger your chances of employment. Be advised bros

this is one of the reasons why Nigeria will not move forward. So because other companies owe their workers for months before paying means op should put up with such. It's only a damaged person or someone without better options that remains in such working environment. If the company failed to pay as at when due,they should at least explain to op. That explanation alone is enough to keep him hopeful and find means of sorting his transport fare. I pray you don't experience some things before you learn and start making better judgement.

Akinfemmy:
I mentioned that the CEO already told us not to worry that he had budgeted our salary for a year.



I've actually returned the ID. Also, before the day I didn't go, I wrote a mail; note that the CEO of the company is not based in Nigeria and the company is run by his secretary, but I didn't get any response. Additionally, before that day, I physically informed the secretary of the company that I had no money, which was indeed the truth. I need to take transportation to work; it's not walking distance.

Na person when never work before with yeye Nigerian company go blame you. If them no pay you,how you want take dey enter transport go the work even if na you like the work pass. People when dem no owe salary self dey see shege,e come be you.

Ekaka14:
Post: "You made a choice, had a partner, got pregnant, and now the man is gone. That’s tough. But expecting a complete stranger (who had no hand in the situation) to step in as a therapist, motivator, and emotional punching bag? That’s not fair. That’s witch-hunting disguised as vulnerability."

Me: You'd be shocked how many young men will take up this offer

yes,many young men don't know their worth. Real men don't go into relationships with the intention of fixing their partner.it is not a man's duty to make any woman happy. If she is depressed let her go talk to a therapist for fixing not looking for a relationship. How can a woman with so much baggage be looking for relationship?let her fix herself first before venturing into a relationship else that relationship is gonna end up in ruin.

Justdogood:
I get you ma.
But what can I do? I told my wife before we got married that I hate crowded houses and homes and that I don't like people coming to live with us for long. To the extent I fought my siblings to stop coming for long stays instead I provide them with alternative places to stay.

But my wife's people. If you say they shouldn't stay long they will start guilt-tripping my wife that she doesn't want her siblings to stay with her blah blah blah... that she knows there is no food in their house and so on and she doesn't want them to come and at least have something to eat. Next thing she starts feeling bad and begs me uncontrollably to allow them to come.

Another reason she allows them to come is, she does not like house chores (i mean my wife). So he sisters know this and they use it to buy their way to her allowing them to come. They will tell her how they will take care of our baby, sweep the house for her and clean it. This is exactly what my wife wants and then viola she accepts.
There was even a time we had a house help who comes to clean the whole house with her 2 siblings sitting and idling around. I had to send the house-help away cos I can't have two people who stay at home doing nothing, eat like there is no tomorrow, always watching dstv (big brother naija or african magic), and still employ a house-help who am paying to be cleaning even the room they sleep in for them. I said no.
So that is now how the house chores thing started.
I am tired
I am really tired.
They reported me to their father that I am using them as slaves.
I shouldn't have gotten married.
I would have contracted a baby-mama to have children for me. That i would have managed better.
This is tiring.

Some day I feel like running away.

The hell men go through all in the name of marriage.talk to your wife Oga, that you aren’t comfortable with the whole thing. If she no gree,then make she go dey her papa house. I no Dey joke with my peace of mind for anything.

TONYE001:
What on God's earth do you mean by sadistic?

How's it sadistic , please?

This is a display of ingratitude. Someone has been doing you good for years, the day he decides to stop and focus on his people, he becomes sadistic.

Trump doesn't owe any of us anything. Why don't China, Russia, NK, etc provide relief for HIV/AIDS and other widespread diseases? Why must it be America?

And despite all they do, they are hated by many.

Why, why, why?

Instead, you should call the Nigerian government sadistic... because by deliberately ignoring the health needs of its populace, they send multitudes to their early graves. Isn't this what being sadistic means?

that tells you how entitled he is. Instead of him to call on Nigerian government to do the needful,he blames America for their discontinued magnamity. You see why it's not good to help some people.