₦airaland Forum

Hygist:
op uncle's dnt deserve that bro, do u mean igbo guys dnt have kids out of wedlock? bias

@Hygist, the Igbo tradition is not partial. In Igboland, you are warned to be careful and prayerful too, that your wife out of wedlock does not die in your hand before the bride price is paid. Whatever number of children you have belong to your "wife" and her people if the bride price is not paid and if they so want it. Speak for yourself and not your unknown uncle.

before you talk about a peoples culture, do some research on them.

From your report, your uncle;

1. dated her
2. planned to marry her
3. conflict arose
4. the dating produced a child out of wedlock

In Igbo tradition, a man does not own a child unless he has paid the mother's dowry.

Your uncle played an away match and there is nothing Igbo woman attitude in this. If your uncle wants the baby, the woman will have to agree first to your story of dating. The bride price should be paid. Or is she your uncle's child producing factory.

But wait ooo, the child may return to your uncle in his adult age if he thinks he has something for him.

It is a pity that the catholic church is structured in such a way that people do not condemn the actions of some of our priests. It is no news that young girls are happy when their boyfriend is a reverend father.

People like Lola only complain out of frustration; when the priest failed to come out and marry them. You didn't talk because you enjoyed the priest. You only talk when you survey what society holds about such life. I have seen numerous people like Lola, they enjoy it and complain out of guilt.

Even when you complain, a fanatic catholic will tell you: "Don't judge, he is a priest. Leave him to God. Even when he defiles himself the night before, receive communion from him in the morning, it is God that giveth."

Religion indeed is an opium.

Lola, it is well.

Teaching is a difficult task. A teacher must prepare ahead of the class because most pupils/students already know what you want to teach them. To this group of pupils/students, you are reminding them about what they know.

They are the first to pass remarks such as, "Uncle, why is his spoken English poor?," "She is doing her master's in the university, why is her tenses bad? "Are university degree holders not supposed to be intelligent? "Why did she say that ecosystem is the same as ecology, but the former biology teacher differentiated them? "Our former teacher said that print, radio, television and film are media channels, but you are saying that media channels are the print, radio, television, and film is a channel of communication. Why is that so?"

And you will have to battle trying to save your fellow teacher's face and yourself, either by saying vacantly, that he read Engineering and not English and Literary Studies or he may have used a book different from the other teacher and trying to classify the media channels into product and the film as an experience. This will look hazy but you may have ended up creating two teachers, the wrong one and the other who teaches truth.

Is the above not the reason most young teachers in some Nigerian private secondary schools, and you will be shocked, private universities carry textbook and copy note directly to the board for the students. The brilliant students detest this teaching style.

Mr Meredith is very clear on that.

There is no reference anywhere in the bible that an unfairly treated man should remain in an insultive and violent marriage, it is your life.
According to you, your wife is:

1. Devilish and diabolic
2. Given to anger and provocation
3. Flirty and prostitutive
4. Spendthrift and nagging
5. Unrepentant and polluting
6. Difficult to decipher and violent
7. Seclutionist; she is isolating and do not reveal her mind

Your wife is a ticking time bomb waiting to blast. Find yourself another woman and divorce her properly. Begin life afresh. Lucky you, this is Nigeria, where the child you had by her is a girl, you may even cite the above factors and get custody of your daughter as she is from the above, not a capable mother.

Stop reporting her to people.

She may be sleeping with your pastor with the other woman, why they do not see eye to eye and why she is always covered by him. Be a man and learn.

Do not blame your marital failure on your inability at workplace to look for a woman yourself. The signs are clear; your attitude and personality prove you as trading your male and life for marriage, this is unbiblical. If you die in the marriage unhappy and dejected, you will not make heaven. Staying forever in an abusive and life threatening marriage is no guarantee for salvation.

Good luck to you!

I sympathize with the reporter. A reporter should have an eye for detail and be cautious in his work. But because of the short time often given to reporters to scat for a news item many fail to apply the rule. Professor Sagay is an old Nigerian legal expert whose voice sound is easily sourced. It would mean that Olakunle didn't know the man, had never heard about him or seen him in the television making comments on national issues. This is where news researching comes in. The impostor used his little knowledge of the Nigerian politico-cultural terrain- everybody wants to be heard.

The first lead that would tell Olakunle that he was being scammed was his "Prof Itse Sagay" interviewee giving him information through Whatsapp and text. His personal assistant may do that. No Nigerian professor and academic living here will have time for that. "Prof Sagay" gave him enough signs to doubt his character, but because of his ambitiousness and overzealous quest to impress his political section editor, the reporter sacrificed his art.

I didn't study mass communication or journalism, but there is "follow-up" in journalism. This is why there should be balance to reporting news. When a news item is off the balance, a source makes negative comments about his benefactor, the reporter should balance the news by sourcing the viewpoint of another individual who works in the same establishment with the first interviewee. The absence of this may largely account for why journalists in Nigeria adopt "fabrication" and "forcing of news into ones mouth." Prof Itse Sagay has recanted the news.

It is most regrettable.

Who is her husband?