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cyberbro:
Can you just talk here? I don't really respond to DMs, sorry bro.

Have a nice day pls .

Okeytech:
I've caught my wife cheating more than 3 times but I forgave her. There was a time I caught her sending nude to someone and I still forgave her. After that I still caught her cheating again but right now I'm finding it to forgive but she's still in my house, it keep ringing in my head everyday.

At this point I honestly wanna send her packing. What do you think guys? I wouldnt say I'm a saint. I've cheated before and she has caught me severally in the past too but that was in the past which i've stopped like 4 years ago.

I feel like .......

cyberbro:
Ok noted.

Its well

Faber:
Balthazar Ebonga kind of marriage

Its well bro.
I believe all those promises were just for fun

cyberbro:
Ok noted.

Its well Bro

Mightyhaiz:
I went early this morning to track a tenant who's been owing his rent for quite some time now and has been annoyingly elusive about it...no calls no reach out to me..not picking or returning calls and messages... As he narrate his ordeal finish I just made some noises and left but for my mind I no go just trouble this man again..let me not compound his already suicidal state... On my way out I gave his son preparing for school 1k.. furthermore in tbe same neighborhood I saw a child with badly deformed legs struggling to school.. I reduced speed and asked where her school was ...she pointed to the opposite direction...so I asked why she was going the opposite way,she said she was hurrying to her mom's shop to take money for breakfast n Keke.. I asked if I can gv her something..so I dont look like a ritualist or sth like that to her.. she hesitated,studied me and then convinced herself that I'm am alright man..she nodded shyly..so I gave her 3k to buy some snacks for the week.... I haven't stopped thinking about her since then..the way she wore her old stockings and hat very smartly and struggling with her circumstances... I'd made up my mind to do sth more for her..she won't be hard to find in that area


These are the kind of things humans should do... Not condemning humans because of their deformities n other circumstances...

Sir I'm presently worse than the two u mentioned right now. God bless u for ur kind heart. Pls save my from dis hardship pls

Faber:
Visit your hometown unannounced, go to your father's grave at exactly 8:00pm or 9:00pm go with a kola nut and hot drink ... Call him, pray to him, cry to him and beg him to help you to keep his legacy and make him proud. He is your ancestor now, tell him you will return to take care of your siblings, but he should guide your way in the City... After this mount bike the next morning and leave the village without looking back...

Go back to PH, get out of school confront the streets real hard and conquer. I am writing this from Cameroun, when I come back to the country in 2 months time ... I will try to contact you and know how everything is going. Even if it means face to face meeting, I may come to PH to see you. I have some friends in Choba. Drop your email for me

I've mailed you already

cyberbro:
Take heart bro, I know how you feel. You just have to be a man and a big bro to your younger ones, it's all part of life.

Make sure you honour your dad by always upholding his positive values in the family. All the best.

I PMed you

femi4:
Happy Sunday

Nawa

Fantazy:
The tradition is the issue, not her wanting to remarry

True

FILEBE:
Honestly, he said what I was thinking. Your mum deserves the right to be happy too. She is human too. It's just so unfortunate that the laws of the land is biased toward women. I mean, is it the same for a widower.


God forbid . Put yourself in your mother's shoes as a man. Won't you go marry too or have a constant relationship with a female.or two?

I understand u Sir. Thank you

pinknipple:
Your mom really means well for you.

How I wish my own mom had taken such a bold step. After my father's passing, all she did was spend her time at church, giving away any help I offered—like bags of rice meant for our family—in the name of charity. She stayed home, doing nothing, and then vanished when it was time for church

I was raised in my uncle's house, a man she wouldn't stand by for, and he ended up selling all of my father's property before I even turned 20.

Would you have preferred that she carried the burden alone, ending up with little to show for it? You need a father figure to fight the battles ahead—connections, family issues, and more. It’s not something you can handle solo. It’s great that your mom is open to remarrying. I wish her all the best; she’s made a wise choice.

A half loaf is better than none, young one.

Sadly, her husband can't be a father or father figure to me. Tradition forbids him assuming such roles

RillJ:
You own it to your siblings to work hard and smart, succeed and help them through.

She has every right to remarry to the person of her choice. Would you be happier if you are called one day that some village women are fighting with your mum for sleeping with their husband(s)? I can imagine how you feel but life must go on. Your siblings will be fine, las las.

Man up and support your mum for her happiness.

🙏🙏🙏

Faber:
She resembles Shettima low key😂😂

You asked that I mail you, I did so since yesterday but I'm yet to get a feedback sir.
Good afternoon

Ok o.
Continue

Kobojunkie:
You said you are currently in charge of providing for your mother and siblings, right? Don't you see that once your mother gets married, it would mean you would have more money for your siblings instead. And your mother may be able to finally chip in every now as then?

Guy, you're really disturbing me. Please kobojunkie, leave me alone. How many times will u comment and quote me on this thread?
Haba na!
Its becoming annoying now pls

Glowqueen3:
Hmmmn,Life happen to your Mum,l think you should allow her to move on,it is not easy for one person to shoulder the responsibility of two people moreover your mother also need to be Happy too,
If She found happiness in the new Man please let her be,desiring love is a basic human need but many people fail to realise it,even if your siblings have to go with her to answer the new Man name let them go,at least they would be taken care of there.
I pray God make a way for you and your siblings but please ask your Mum what She really want and support her,it not easy been a widow.

Try to also consider how her children feel at this point in time

cyberbro:
Take heart bro, I know how you feel. You just have to be a man and a big bro to your younger ones, it's all part of life.

Make sure you honour your dad by always upholding his positive values in the family. All the best.

Thanks

cyberbro:
As I mentioned earlier, being mad isn't the solution. Your mum is probably lonely and she's too young to remain unmarried for the rest of her life...

Your mom has intimate and emotional needs and you won't understand.

Let her try out the new man's house and if God says that's not her position, it will eventually end in a break up, but she's too young to remain lonely...

😭

SmileDance:
Then let them be, don't cut ties with your mother, even though you are hurt, don't show it anymore. Just move on with time they will stop seeing you as a child.

Ok
😭

Phabulous4:
That's what happens to people who are unproductive and liabilities others end up making decisions for them!

Nothing stopped your mum from staying in PH or any other less expensive town after your dad’s demise, rolling up her sleeves, and taking responsibility for her children.

There’s little you can do at this point. Make sure both feet are firmly planted on the riverbank before trying to save others from drowning.
Save yourself first, then come back for your siblings.
Wishing you Godspeed.

Amen Sir. Thank you
😭😭

SisterAnn:
Thank God!

🙏🙏🙏
😭

dauntless15:
Then respect her wishes, pull your siblings closer and take care of yourself, you can be strong on your own, if she doesn't value you people enough to sacrifice let her go create her new family, you'll be fine.

Ok Sir 🙏

CJStarz:
D man dat proposed to her didn't do well knowing fully well she has sons.

😭😭😭

frozen70:
Welcome Bros, this life no balance at times what people do can provoke you

I'm telling u, my sister

oluplus:
Hey Op,

What exactly is the issue here?
That she wants to remarry or the man she's getting married to?

At 45/46, your mum is still young and deserves to be happy.

I advise you to discuss your fear with her first and don't just live in assumption.

No reasonable mother will throw away her children because she's getting married to another man. That's an imagination happening in your head.
Pls discuss with your mum and hear her side of the story.

Sorry about the demise of your dad.

She's already abandoned us.
😭😭

frozen70:
Then she won and you loose

Start thinking of how to sort things out leave her to do what is in her mind

Ok.
Than you Ma 🙏

frozen70:
Like I said, she wants a man that will look after her not the children that will stress her life to start training them after the death of your dad

So leave her let her do what she wants

A time will come you guys too will leave her to face the choice that she is making today

Humm.
I just feel like leaving this world right now 😭

frozen70:
This is a very disturbing situation but you have to take it the way it's coming and accept the reality

First of all, your mum is a very lazy woman, she lacks the zeal to take up responsibility after the demise of your dad

She will rather remarry as a second or third wife than to hustle and train your sibblings she is not the struggling type that will preserve her late husband's family or name

You on your own side, you can't kill yourself as it's painful to you, just face your front if you know that you can't provide for your sibblings and can't put them under your roof

When you think you are now man enough to take the responsibilities of your sibblings, you can negotiate with her new husband, reward him financially and return back your sibblings to your father's house

Your mother no send anyone of you because she is just self centred and for her not to starve, she will accept any type of marriage proposals not minding if she will find peace in an already made home of another woman

Just let it be, no one is going to care for your sibblings if she leaves them behind, and leaving them behind means starvations and you will still be the one they will be calling upon, while she is enjoying herself in her new home

Second wife for that matter

highchief1:
no Toto is meant for one man.its either people used it before u came or people will use it when you leave.

You're referring to ur .....?

dauntless15:
First off, sorry about your dad, but being a guy you're now the representation of your late dad, you should have a say in her life, where I'm from mother's respect Thier eldest son as well especially when the dad is not there anymore and the son is now the man of the house, sit her down, be a man and confront her, your confrontation shouldn't be provocation nor disrespect, calmly tell her the implications of what she's considering and tell her you will loose all respect you have for her if she goes through with it, not outright threat o, but guilt trip her emotionally with intelligence, and observe her reaction.

I've done this already
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ledaman:
Your mum has tried for six years after the demise of your dad.
Some women would never have anything to do with men.
But emotional feelings are not the same.
At least she wants to be loved and happy again.
I know it not easy for you to accept the reality just pray for her happiness and for your younger ones, try and man up to take care of them.
The Lord is your strength.

Amen. Thank you 😭