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Ifeanyinwogu:
Is that all you have to say?? No advice or what’s so ever??

ollykay619:
How much

qloreal:
I'm 28 and looking to get my first car. My budget is 2.5M to 5M max. I would like the gurus here to advise me on the car to go for. I am looking at Mercedes Benz or Lexus

Thank you

BlueAir:
lol na ur papa get fertility issue as at now.na u wan tell me my fertility rate? Oponu

BlueAir:
I highly doubt he's the father of the pregnancy. I've had marathon sex with my Igbo gf since January till this month and yet! Shes not pregnant. So we can't assume that Igbo women have high fertility generally to assume that one time sex led to pregnancy

crackhaus:
I think people ought to normalize using the phrase 'UNPLANNED pregnancy' instead of 'UNWANTED pregnancy'... Please and please!!!

@Priceless007, nothing about your story is unusual.

You met someone, you found her attractive, one thing led to another and sex happened. Pregnancy is just the expected natural consequence of having sex, especially when you don't observe standard safety protocols.
Next time, be more careful...

However, there are two things I would like to point out:

1. You must do right by that child, and this means providing whatever you can financially for the mother to have a comfortable delivery.
I don't want to bring up the issue of paternity because person wey never see money to buy pampers should not be told to use money to run DNA tests. But still, have it in mind and consider having this done somewhere down the line.

2. Do not, I repeat, DO NOT, marry into that family.
That she is about to be the mother of your child does not mean she must also be your wife... Na two different things oo. Take note!
First of all, she doesn't seem like someone who has plenty sense and secondly, her family doesn't seem like they have sense either – this one they're already harassing you at this point, is giving me all kinds of danger vibes.


With all that out of the way, I wish you a hearty congratulations. You're the latest baby daddy on NL.

Bonjovi13:
OP If you have to bring your problems to Nairaland you have to be tough. Lots of them are overtly self righteous and judgmental. Lots of the comments I am seeing feels like they were made by angels who have never sinned or made a mistake in their lives. I can imagine how you feel reading those words in addition to what you are going through. I'm so sorry man. You will get through this.

To your matter...
Id advice you to drop everything that you are doing and seek the face of God in fasting and prayer. Your main request is for genuine repentance, grace, favour and direction.
The matter you are facing is first spiritual than physical. The devil wants to ruin your destiny. You must first break the yoke and get victory spiritually.

Secondly you must grow some balls. Stop allowing the girl and her parents bully you and your family. You must tell them that you will not marry the girl. Not now not ever. That you guys were not in a relationship.

Then you must determine if you are the father of the child. So tell the girl and her parents that you will need to do a DNA to determine the child's paternity. It is only logical for both families sake. You dont want to train another man's child and they shouldnt want to have the wrong man claim paternity to the child. They could get angry and all..but the truth remains that she could have it with some other guy except if that was her first time.(I wonder how you would even know being such a naive guy.Well these are some indications that she was a virgin. Did she bleed? Did you find it difficult penetrating her vagina?)

Wait till after the child's delivery and save towards it. It is very important. Dont just accept the child because a lady said you are the father. Be sure. If they refuse Bro face your life and don't look back.

Thirdly if that college is where you feel you have to be, go back there and find someone influential who can plead your case.
How can they ask someone with no job to go get married. Ask them if married men are immune to temptations.

Let them reinstate you. If they refuse, bro there are many such institutions in Nigeria. Leave and start afresh somewhere else. You sound like a hardworker. Focus, work raise money snd sponsor yourself in school or a vocation.

Listen what you have done was a mistake. A sin yes!But its not the end of the world. You have not committed an unpardonable sin. God has already forgiven you. Forgive yourself and move on. Except if you must have felt that they girl would have reported you to the authorities it was not necessary for you to have reported yourself. It was a private sin. Repent in private and learn and move on. You and the girl could have dealt with it more maturely and privately and found a way to sort things out without jeopardizing your careers and life.

Keep pushing my man.

Eze2000:
I disagree.
Are you Igbo? Do you know the kind of disgrace and stigma that comes to the parents of a girl who got pregnant in her father's house? How about the girl herself?

In Igbo land, to find young girls driven out of their homes for getting pregnant is not odd at all. Sometimes the parent's marriage to older men just to save face.

Igbos are not like Yoruba and Calabar people who consider it ok for a girl to stay in her father's house *(unmarried) and have kids. That girl's parents are doing all they can to save themselves from terrible public shame.

Ifeanyinwogu:
I resides at Uyo, I’m looking for a strong and durable car, the primary purpose is to use it and run a transport called BOLT In Uyo just like UBER

EgunMogaji2:
Yes, I’ll be in the USA in a few months and will be loading containers back. I need this now.

Theunbothered:
Daft man keep talking rubbish.

You're the one who said the federal government had nothing to do with the case.




Jalingo was charged to the FEDERAL court straight!

If the Federal court dismissed the ridiculous case and didn't continue violating his rights they would not be involved in the suit.

The suit is against both Cross River State and the Federal High Court.

This simple concept is what you are incapable of understanding.

I'm done trying to educate fools on how to read simple English.

observanc1:
'cow on my car' means what? That the cow was under the car?
It's so easy to pick up a nokia torch while seating with ashawo in a beer parlour and be typing nonsense because u are using free wifi.
I know the guy whose brand new car was damaged, while u all yap. He's a perfect gentleman, living in a decent location inside abuja city. It's just unfortunate the times we are in. He will overcome this, will just be a little setback, so keep your judgement till the judgement day.

egunna:
I heard him,he confirmed it himself that d car hit the cow before he knew.i think he is just leveraging on the already bad image of d fulanis to gain sympathy.else,I strongly believe he didn't manage d situation well.if u listen to one of d HAUSA guys,he said the cows were just walking on their own.now u can bring d question of are cows suppose to b on the road and all d other issues,but d issue at hand is,did d driver hit the cow or the cow climbed on top of d car.lets Remove sentiment and call a spade by it's name

thelegend1:
Try saying "red lorry yellow lorry" 7x really fast without mixing words.
You can't right? Now hear this, you have a car upwards of N7m which an illiterate (who has different values system) damaged with his cow and you know he can't pay for the damage...won't you mix words when you have been complaining but language and understanding is a barrier for the illiterate?
Secondly, the damage to the car is not in a straight line, the dent on the lower bumper is most probably the cow's point of leverage and the cow is immobilized on the floor by other people/herders to avert further moronic and brazen behaviour...do same with your keyboard.

Papichulostunne:
Collect the cow. Sell it.. Repair your car