₦airaland Forum

Laveda:
I am fine. Hope you are too?

Yea, I am. Thanks for showing so much care.

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I discussed this issue with a learned friend and he said the same thing.

It is disheartening to see supposed learned gentlemen and women give sentimental verdicts on this very trivial issue.

I like this Man!

J

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The show is not even his, it's burnaboy's. He performed as a guest artist. And the pictures circulated earlier on twitter were pictures from omarion's show that flopped earlier on.

LUGBE:
Which truth are you expecting, can't you deduce the truth already, the fool called olodonation is just trying to protect his business, you can imagine. You think the lady can cook up such story.

The man is a beast. What an arrant nonsense. He want to further intimidate the lady knowing fully well she is a student.

The girl could have dealt with him instead of complaining online.

Oga oh, calm down. People cook up stories everyday. Grave allegations are being laid against people daily around the world.

The lady should have known that rape is a very grave allegation, and you have to prove it. A mere twitter story isn't enough evidence. I am glad he has taken the case to court, he did the right thing.

This is saddening. The deaths have become too much.

makydebbie:
We should even ask the girl what she was doing when the guy removed her panties and gave her head. Maybe she was saying, "Stop stop arrrgghh stop nau, I'm serious oh, oya stop arrghh damn, oya now I'm serious stop.. Ahhhh". Lmao.

LancelLogan:
I have chronic OCD coupled with other mental issues like ADHD, chronic depression, extreme anxiety, bipolar, Low self-esteem, Perfectionism(OCPD similar to OCD) and the Fantasy Disorder (i waste hours fantasizing about a character rich fantasy world i have created in my head for almost a decade now) and (i don't know) i think i'm autistic... It kills me inside... I have contemplated suicide but i'm afraid it will be too painful or unsuccessful (since firearms are not sold in this country)...

My mental issues started when i was around 5 years (or maybe since child birth)... My depression heightened during my secondary education at a military secondary school (Nigerian Navy Port Harcourt).

I stay in Port Harcourt and school in the University of Port Harcourt (Uniport)... I'm repeating my final year because my mental issues did not allow me focus on my project and two difficult Maths courses.. i find it hard to focus (ADHD) and study... If i am not battling with that ever present inner OCD voice, I'm fantasizing about another world inside my head...

Everybody thinks i'm rude because i am never smiling and i don't know how to talk to or reply people (I'm always anxious even when i'm familiar with the person trying to talk to me)... no matter how i try i will always say something awkward or I wouldn't be able to say anything at all (my heart will always seem to be racing and my speech stuttering)... So i just detach myself from people generally to save myself from embarrassment...

What my OCD and OCPD has obsessed and compelled me to do over the years is just so much i can't write all about it here... It's more than the regular "wash your hand before and after you touch anything if not you will be infected or fall sick" or "if you press the wrong letter while typing a document, you must clear the whole page and start again if not the document file will be corrupted"]... If ever i try to resist the OCD voice, I'll feel so uncomfortable, anxious, disturbed and drowsy... i won't be able to concentrate on anything at all...

Also, it has made me abusive to my younger brother... If he does something I(or the OCD rather) don't(doesn't) like ... Example, if he doesn't wash his hand before touching things in our room or doesn't follow a couple of sequence i normally carry out while cleaning our room... i get so angry, i yell or sometimes(rarely though) physically abuse him... Any little thing he does irritates me even if he is just playing music, making a call or even laughing at a joke he read on his phone... This makes me hate myself but i can't stop this behavior...

Side note:[I have nothing against Christians or religious people... Please, don't be offended] I recently stop believing in religion (Christianity in my case)... I see it as a mechanism implemented to make people behave and make people be motivated to live and enjoy life... I also don't identify as an atheist because most atheist these days are just religious about their non-believe... They will undoubtedly support theories like The Big Bang Theory and yet criticizes Christians for believing in the Creation Story... I don't believe both of the aforementioned theories(stories)... I can say I'm agnostic because i do not know about the origin of existence.. Although, when i was still an ardent Christian, my OCD voice will compel me to give large portions of my personal savings to "God" so that i'll receive a specific blessing or answer to a prayer request... lol...

I have not talked to anyone about my issues because i know they will not understand... during my secondary school days, i told my parents i was contemplating suicide... they beat me up and took me to church for deliverance... lol... so there is no point talking about it to my family...


I will appreciate talking to someone who understands... Please reply or email me...

Thanks...

I do not know if Nigeria has facilities for people with such special mental ability. But hey, if you can, get help from a professional therapist.

If you can't, read about it and how to manage it.

Do you know why you are depressed? Is there a trigger for this depression?

Get a real friend.

LadyGoddiva:
That’s where I’d disagree with you. The girl is already going through enough trauma, that’s if this story is true and she doesn’t need more people reminding her of how much of a LovePeddler she is. Plus, we don’t even know what really went down that night. She was foolish to trust someone she barely knew, yes, but sometimes we do stupid things without ever expecting a sordid outcome. And I don’t see anyone calling out the man, they’re all laying it heavy on the girl which is so disheartening.

Sorry, but I am respectfully quoting you again. This is a clear case of double standard, so once a woman accuses a man of rape, we immediately assume he is guilty? She doesn't even have any concrete evidence, she deleted screenshots of their chats together. Why delete a screenshot? Why even screenshot it in the first place? Was the deleting done before or after the sex? When and why did she screen shot the chats?

I don't support rape, neither do I support blackmail, her story points towards consensual sex. And she probably said it almost as it is because the guy has more evidence proving she actually came to the house, accepted to cuddle, agreed to her shorts being removed, accepted head. Even if the guy begged for the sex after a little resistance from her, isn't that what most Nigerian women do? Resist at first and then give in at the end? In a bid to know how serious the man is? Or how much he loves her?

Then again, she obviously didn't say No to the end. He slide in effortlessly, went back and forth till he came, she never indicated displeasure while all this was going on. For God's sake, he gave her head.

And Oh, after the sex, she then ran into the bathroom and stayed there till dawn, really? The first time she went in, she came out after he "begged" so why go back and remain there after the did has been done?

LadyGoddiva:
I cannot even believe the comments I’m reading here. Like are you fuckiñg shitting me?? Even from fellow ladies too?
Things is, Nigerians are too close minded and backward thinking. A lot of things can constitute as rape. It’s not only when a random guy abducts you and forcefully has sex with you while you scream and fight back can be considered as rape. The basic thing that defines rape is CONSENT! Whether she was wearing only her panties in the man’s bed, even if she was twerking naked for him, as long as she said NO, then he had no right to try and perform any sexual activities on her.
And since when did agreeing to cuddle him automatically imply consent to have sex with him? He even went on to give her orals and strip her. Thing is, even if she may not have fought back, bottom line is, she didn’t want sex to happen. And he went on and did what he wanted anyway. That’s a more subtle kind of rape.
Nigerians really need reonrientation of their mindset when it comes to the issue of rape. I’m seeing a lot of bs comments like “why would she go to a guy’s house when it’s not her boyfriend” and “why would she wear only shorts in his bed and why would she sleep on the Same bed with him?” The thing is, irrespective of the circumstance surrounding the story, she didn’t give her consent and the man had sex with her against her wish. It wasn’t consensual sex thus, it can be classified as rape. Too bad she’s just speaking up now.

And there is no possibility this is black mail? She was given head, she cuddled, she wore shorts, she went voluntarily to his place. I dare say, she gave consent.

Then again, what if she even forced the guy to have sex with her? Or men can't be raped too? She has no case actually, a good lawyer should be able to put 2 and 2 together and she would go to jail for character defamation.

07034802789, I am interested, very interested.

NwaAmaikpe:

Drop it!!!!

Maybe because it is a generic question. Often misused and over used.

Papiikush:
And that was the end of Olu. Lived a life that doesn't glory God.

Lesson learnt...

1. Say you be Bad guy No mean say you get two lives. You die, we cry, the party continues.

2. Follow me make we go drink, follow me make we go do faaji, join me make we smoke igbo... When you die, you are definitely going to be on your own and the faaji continues the following weekend.

3. Don't pray to be rich and live big like some people cause the way they will go down ain't go'n be nice.

4. Living fast and furiously will only lead you to one destination. 6ft under.

Let the dead bury their dead. Rip

There is no lesson here. Everybody dies. A slow or Fast life doesn't determine when you die.


The way they go down whether nice or not will be forgotten. The poor man that goes down really nice after much suffering, is he remembered because he went down nicely? What does it matter?

solomix10:
Guys in the house
when a lady comes visiting for the first time and you both have sex.

does it mean she is cheap?

please be sincere.

Women aren't commodities.

J

Rapmoney:
Oga, if you read the post very well, you would have observed that I was even trying to show that there is no correlation between the little indigenous technology we have and 'outstanding' degrees obtained by some folks. I didn't pin-point Arabs that supervise project works as professors or compulsorily, graduates! Don't attack the messenger, attack the message! You are almost contradicting yourself.

Research that aid ground breaking discoveries or self sufficiency isn't supported in Nigeria. Simple answer to your question.

Everybody say After Me, this is Trash


I don't even know if T. I. N knows the meaning of the word "influential"

Someone said Auto Confusion.

Bigsteveg:
Aside from her words, do u have any evidence of physical abuse against her? You cone here condemning people as if you were at their house when it happens.
Any outcry by a woman, d husband is abusing her? What nonsense
How many women has come out to say Churchill abused them.
Ton to should grow up Abeg, she should also deny the allegations of her physically abusing Churchill mother.
Don't say what u do t know.

CC: Chuksemi

ChurchHill's First wife supported Tonto's claims.

She didn't physically abuse the Mom, but she insulted her through a text message. She claims the MOM influenced her Son's behaviors and is a major reason why Churchhill maltreats her.

People here lack basic comprehension skills. I empathize with Tonto. No one deserves to be physically abused in a marriage.


Dear Tonto, let it go!

Gay's should be Left alone Biko.

Tenkobos:
She's your girlfriend sir not your wife so you don't expect her do everything you say. She's also a complete human not a zombie, she has a mind of her own and reason for doing what she did. Reason you may not understand.



My ex introduced me to her husband and I and him do speak on phone sometimes, I am sure you will think I am bonking your wife if you were him.

I have a feeling you haven't even been a relationship before. I have this feeling because you are saying things like a child. A married woman using her Ex's picture as her DP? and you speak to her Husband on Phone? What exactly do you guys discuss? How you used to bonk his wife? Or how he does it now and if he does it properly? Or How she used to moan your name while you bonked her well?

Then, why would you even go as far as knowing your EX's husband to that extent? Isn't that creepy? Oh, and so you know, if ever you love someone, you won't want to loose them, and that's where insecurity creeps in. Sometimes this insecurities may become extreme. But it is normal to have them. Your partner should try to allay your fears when possible, not to their own detriment anyway. I don't expect you to understand this anyway.

This doesn't give any value. What is new here?

sorepco:
U de laff?? U come here de beg 4 advise. We give u but u turn around n mock us?? If i wd supporting ur aggression 2wards the tenanrs u will hail me 4 my ''correct advise''.
Ok go ahead. But be notified that most landlords who throw out tenants properties back up their actions with threat of death 2 wards the tenants if they should take them to court. N they r willing to carry threat of deaths against them. So ve ur assasins ready to deal wiyh any tenants u throw out..

She was just being sarcastic. How couldn't you see that? Or has your sense of Humor left you?

billycayana:
Lol...

Very beautiful dp

Evaberry:
....

Many men have been in this situation and many more will be.


I won't advise anyone to terminate better opportunities because of a girl.

you need to have a serious conversation with your gf, she's 30 will she be able to wait for you bearing in mind this is going to be a long distance relationship.


The chances of her succumbing to pressures to get married are going to be high, can she bear it.

Everyone here is going to advise you to leave this girl and focus on hustling but only you know how much impact she has/had in your life. only you know the pains you will go through you without her

4 Years is no child's play, can you know a girl as much as you know your gf Now, and by the time you make it so many female are gonna be attracted to you only because of wealth

mehn op I feel for you. Just roll a joint, smoke and relax

I quoted you, because of the last line , same thing I would do in this situation.