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VictoriaBee:
Man made culture not woman.

Trash!
Which state is she from?
I'm from Owerri, Imo state and I haven't heard all these, as my cousin elder sister never did it.

For Village girls mostly/only.
Mind you, Village girls are very submissive. Find one for yourself.

Good.
Only Yoruba girls can be submissive.

Lastly, fathers gain mostly from that endless list.It's men that gain from their fellow men for selfish reasons.

VictoriaBee:
Coogar, check again!
Our Igbo men are not complaining.
Most of the men that frequent this section and argue about submissiveness are not Igbo except that dude Njokusomething.
Our Igbo men love us.

Stillfire:
Buhahaha, you are not serious!
We should see ourselves as opposites but equals.

freecocoa:
Ok then, so only married women aren't equal to men and those men being their husbands, guess this means that, so long as a woman isn't married, she is not lesser than a man.

chic2pimp:
Godin has been the best centre back in La Liga this season just as He has been over the last 2-3 seasons. Dude has been Impeccable(For country too mind you). Had He been born German, He will simply known as GodTANK on these pages.

The League starts in August not November so we can't simply omit those two months. The official La Liga website has Godin in the team of the season not Otamendi.Think I'll go with them thank you.

Stillfire:
This is the definition of chivalry

chiv·al·ry
ˈSHivəlrē/Submit
noun
the medieval knightly system with its religious, moral, and social code.
historical
knights, noblemen, and horsemen collectively.
"I fought against the cream of French chivalry"
the combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight, especially courage, honor, courtesy, justice, and a readiness to help the weak.
courteous behavior, especially that of a man toward women.

The word is not ours. So what you listed are not chivalrous acts. But cultural demands that need to be scraped and as a Feminist its either we both pay brideprice or scrape the system with immediate alacrity. Also, maybe you can start by telling me how African society has helped the 'weak-vesseled' African woman! Maybe I will change my views...

VictoriaBee:
They made it seem so.

The whole sh1t was instituted by traditional men. No one woman begged for it.
They can stop it, we won't cry.
Infact, women are clamouring for it to stop but men don't want to end it.

Sorry, this old and no longer applied now except in the Village.

I'm not Yoruba.

In my culture, men don't prostrate but shook hands.

Stillfire:
Males are inferior to females then. How does that feel?
If we can allude to the superiority of the male gender, so we should be able to allude to the inferiority of the female gender.
I have no qualms with women who see themselves as such, but for the love of God do not use it to define other women.

chic2pimp:
Otamendi is NOT better abeg. Over the last 2-3 season's, Godin has been the most consistent and best Centre back in la liga. Also there is a reason why one is in the team of the season while the other is nowhere to be found.

Stillfire:
Again chivalry is the least concern of the African feminist. It does not exist in our environment. I am not interested in you coming out of your car and walking round it for you to open my door. Rotflmao!

VictoriaBee:
President got there by hardwork.
Pilot got there by hardwork.
Other ones were favoured.
Can that be said of marriage that's gotten by privilege?

Ewuro4:
Coogar we have to find another synonym to represent that Word.

The paranoia & katatata wey e dey cause no get part 2.

When you're indeed sure of your capabilities and status.. No yeye word will move you.

That's why we tell them to get a JOB for starters.

Nihilist:
Their roles are clearly different, and only an absolute hater would begrudge Hazard the adulation that his way this season.

He has improved yearly on an outstanding debut season, and creating the highest number of chances in the league for 2 seasons Back-to-Back is no joke...regardless of minutes played

You said something very similar to me in our conversation about Harry Kane.
Stop hating....You cant knock Hazard's hustle!!

Ewuro4:
Hmm
I don't see anything wrong with the attitude. Superiority & Inferiority are both subjective terms.
Feminists made the word frivolous and berating.

I respect what you stand for though.

Nihilist:
How does that make it irrelevant? So what if Silva beat him in minutes/created chance? Is Silva not a world class player?

Stillfire:
Let us not feign ignorance here for the love of God. The Nigerian society does not recognize this fallacy of interdependence you talk about. In fact when a woman is married she forfeits her independence to the dictates of her husband and this is NOT culturally, religiously required of the man to reciprocate his independence to the dictates of his wife.

Chivalry is NOT even an African construct. Where we come from women serve men. Men do not pick up our baggage, hold doors. That is an European construct. Chivalry was for gentlemen, and according to Fela the quintessential african, he is not a gentleman, he is an original african. Which bloody nigerian feminist is interested in chivalry that was never our culture?

Nihilist:
His debut season, Hazard copped 9 goals and 11 assists in the league
The next season, he copped 14 goals and 7 assists in the league, he also created more chances in the league than ANY other player

How is that 'Next to nothing'?

folba:
Well am not surprised, everyone has a right to their opinion.As some pple belives Rooney is the best no 10 of his generation.And by the way why does he not make the Argentina first 11?Just curious tho

FrancisTony:
I'm officially done with you.

Men and women are not the same, hence they are not equal.

A woman is beneath a man meaning she's unequal.

Balderdash! If you can't compare the equality of men and women because they are not the same, I don't see why you should compare that one is beneath another.
SIMPLY, say they're not incomparable.

Bible admits that humans are equal.
By the way, i'm a skeptical theist; christian. Contradiction101.
Bye coogar.

FrancisTony:
All men are the same and a girl screamed; All men are dog, because of her boyfriend promiscuity.

According to Coogar, she's right.
We can see who possess shallow intellectual depth.

FrancisTony:
Ouch!

Buhari and Obama are the same? preposterous but I won't go further with you.

One more question; If men and women are not equal: Are women beneath men?

Chillisauce:
Leave the stupidity for us. We love âm like that. .even in his "stupîdity" some of your colleagues here cannot measure up.

FrancisTony:
You know I don't like quoting or having an argument with you because you're obsessed with fight.

Answer these questions.
1) Are men equal?

2) Are men the same?

Chillisauce:
Jealousy . As soon as you saw he is receiving proposal from youngie and grandmas you just pounced on him.
Nothing you say will make us change our mind.
He is the best thing in t h is section since jellof rice.
Tonyfrancis keep educating them. I Don talk tire.

coogaluta:
100 dislikes for this post

sinizia:
You are right, i overlooked the number of playing time. But still on that, Coogar, Young and Navas can't outplay Hazard if given the same number of playing time FOR NOW. Young improved but he's still won't outshine Hazard. If Young, Navas and Hazard were in Real Madrid, Young and Navas will be benched if a gaffer is to field one amongst the three. Only Sanchez i agree outshines Hazard. If I'm a coach, i'll purchase Sanchez over Hazard because of his pace and goals.

We're saying something alike. @ embolden, that's the point i used in rating Hazard above Fab. When the season started, Fab was head and shoulders above others, he's the engine of that team, but he couldn't keep it going while Hazard kept his till the end of the season. You can't blame Hazard for Mourinho's over-using of players which affected Cesc and Costa. Hazard managed to stay consistent and that's what singles him out as the best out of the team.

NifemiOlu:
I don’t think I need to define the meaning of feminism at this point but a careful look at the core of feminism shows that it is centered on economic, social and political rights of women.
Feminism is a great movement as no human is expected to be subordinate to the other sexes—males and shemales. It is germane that I let you realise that feminism, to African women—at least most women, is a fraud. It is a fraud because it is not understood in the right context, the African context.
The aim of feminism all over the world is different. In the US, feminists are calling for equal pay with men. What do Nigerian women want? They want equality but then, ask, is there a state government that pays women less than their male counterparts? Is there a private company that does so? The answer is NO but there persists a problem—an inequality problem. The Nigerian laws have protected women more than they could imagine and providing equality but…
I have studied feminism or let me say I’ve been ‘following’ feminism since 2009 and since that time till now, I have not read a robust article that did justice to the place culture in feminism in Nigeria. All feminist arguments have been imported just like ‘our’ makeups and shoes and bags and sin bras…I love sin bras…another broad day light fraud.
An average feminist in Nigeria looks like this: educated, beautiful in her own way, smart, independent, religious and wants to get married. But little did many of them know that those guys selling that brand of feminism from abroad are people who don’t practise religion or let me say people who are not religious as we do. They don’t really place a premium on marriage as we do. Marriage is the bane of feminism in Nigeria. Take it or deny it.
Marriages in Nigeria draw their strength from culture. When we look at cultures from most parts of the country, we could deduce that most are suppressive to women and children but comes the issue of marriage that is rooted in culture. Let’s take a look at some of the world’s leading feminists: Naomi Wolf (age 52, divorced, 2 kids), Natasha Walter (48, unmarried, 2 kids), Opray Winfrey (61, engaged since 1992 till date), Elizabeth Wurtzel (47, married May 9, 2015) and so on. I am not painting a razor sharp view that feminists were not happily married, I am just showing a general overview of what their lives are. In top countries, you cannot easily say this is the culture of marriage…everything seems general. In Nigeria, women are tied down by culture even more than religion.
Culture is the major problem of women in Nigeria and not the ‘men are against women’ mentality some clueless women are preaching as feminism. I believe for women to thrive, most cultures need to re-evaluate their positions on women or women should be ready to live happily like the above named women because you can’t proclaim to be a feminist under a culture that suppresses. How many women are ready to leave their father’s house with defiance, move in with a man, have his kids etc? These are what people selling feminism from abroad are doing. They are not bound by culture as the Nigerian woman is.
Women need to place themselves highly in terms of image. Look around, which gender walks almost naked and demands respect? Women! Look at music videos, girls shamelessly throw themselves up and down. I remember before my grandma died, we were watching a musical video, she shook her head and said “that’s why girls need to be circumcised” I understand the poor woman’s argument but health experts have made us to know genital mutilation is bad. If women are cheap, how do you convince up holders of tradition to discontinue circumcision?
Feminism in Nigeria should never have an outlook of the foreign type of feminism because it is a fraud…a joke in its entire sense. The laws of Nigeria have provided safety of the woman but ignorance is killing many women. I feel the type of feminism that should resonate in Nigeria is one that should centre on girl-child education but every other thing that concerns women have been taken care of by appropriate laws. Even the girl-child wahala has been taken care of by the government but the major problem of women is culture and not the men in power. If women can be united, wonders will happen but as one of my lecturers would say, “A woman is the problem of another woman”. At work, who creates problem for the other woman? A fellow woman. Who marries or dates a married man? A fellow woman. Women need to start kicking against terrible cultural practices rather than cooking a war with the ‘male gender’. Sellers of feminism abroad don’t have a cultural problem, they have a gender problem but as Nigerian women, the problem is not in the gender but the culture.

FrancisTony: Men and women are darn equal.
Men and women represents human and even the holy bible said that God made all things equally in His image.

Are they the same? NO? Infact, no two humans are the same whether male or female.

folba:
Where u wan put Godin

StarBoard:
that would be the same la liga that we were knocking not a while back.
im not sure Otamendi is as good as you say he really is.

sinizia:
Bro, don't let sentiment or hate cloud your reasoning. I hate Chelshit doesn't mean i won't acknowledge a quality player when i see one. Even in Barca team, other teammates of Messi are important too, but it doesn't stop Messi from being the king; same thing applies to Chelshit. As long as this season is concerned, only Sanchez can be compared to Hazard in those names of Navaz etc that you listed then.
The Belgian recorded the
most duels won
Eden Hazard 335
Alexis
Sanchez 284
Nemanja
Matic 278
Ahmed
Elmohamady 273
Joel Ward 261
chances created (101)
Eden Hazard 101
Cesc Fabregas 95
David Silva 95
Stewart Downing 85
Christian Eriksen 84
Most dribbles completed in BPL 2014/15
Eden Hazard 179
Alexis Sanchez 115
Philippe Coutinho 109
Raheem Sterling 103
Yannick Bolasie 89
http://www.premierleague.com/en-gb/news/news/2014-15/may/270515-2014-15-post-season-tracking-data.html
So you see, putting Young, Navaz etc in comparison to him is you simply hating.
He Won PFA player of the year, won LMA player of year. Was in PFA team of the year. What else do you want this guy to do before you acknowledge him?

sinizia:
I agree. The hype is too much but that's because Chelshit fans are touts and noise-makers.

To me, and going By stats and what i watched, Hazards edged Fabregas. Fab wasn't consistent, his performance tailed off during the second half of the season. Hazard was consistent, saving Chelshit on many occasions when Costa started getting injured and Fab losing form.

moonraker:
I do find opponents. However its one or two things.


Its either i find them, i see that the latency is in the red and i quit real quick orrrrrr i see that the latency is yellow and we both quit.

Still in division 2?? Got slapped back to div 4. Mehn, i give up. i think i am meant to be btw div 2 and 4 forever. No glory for me.....

weedtaker:
morgan and khedira will be okay in the midfield section, but i no gbadu dat otamendi, we just need a giant centre back to pair wit smalling, ezequiel garay, mikel san jose, and papadoklus of bayer04 will be good, nd guys what about witsel nd naingolan de are also gud midfielders

MissNairaland1:
Anyone who immediately blames a woman for the breakup of her marriage without first knowing the issues at stake is in need of therapy. Two people got married not one.
She is not God.
Even God will not make the marriage work when two people or one of them is committed to wrecking it.
It is bad enough we live in a patriarchal society, where most women have little or no rights as regards self development, fulfillment of purpose and a place of honor on their own marriages but, when you add on the mix of misguided and blind men and women who twist scripture and bring in pseudo-cultural ideas (or even actual cultural practices but, outdated and deadly ones all the same) we see just how evil this thing becomes.
What happened to two becoming one? What happened to two people being responsible for their union? Why should one person take all the blame? And why the woman?
Now, don't get me wrong here. There are some pretty evil women out there (men too) who actually just married to use the person and other devious plans. For those, feel free to throw it all at her feet but, unless in those extreme cases, take a moment and think about the issues. That is if you even bother to hear them.
I get so mad when someone mentions marital issues and one homosapien just pipes up and says it is when the woman does not give him sex when he wants it or she does not cook well. Or she is not sexy enough. That's a load of nonsense mixed in with a generous portion of horse manure.
Listen to an issue before you start mouthing off on things you know nothing about. It is not wisdom. It is actually pure foolishness. Proverbs 18:13.
Yes, food and sex are important. No one said they are not but, if that is all that comes to mind as the reason for a marriage falling apart, then that person needs some serious counselling and reorientation.
"Church" has ruined marriages.
"ministry" has ruined marriages.
The way childlessness was handled has ruined marriages.
The list is legion.
It is not always about bedroom gymnastics and, it is not always the fault of the women.
For some ladies, their offence was being with that man who is selfish, abusive and adulterous. They have done nothing else wrong but, someone somewhere will say what has the woman done to spoil it. It is silly.
It is even more sad that some women carry this ridiculous idea and feed it to others. If men alone did it, that's bad enough. Must a woman also open her mouth and say "a woman is the keeper of the home and if it fails it is her fault"?
Is the man a photograph or decorative China on the shelf? He does not have work to do in the marriage atink? Is he not the head of the home? Does he not know he should lead?
Abeg, don't go and form counsellor for someone's marriage and talk nonsense. Hear first and then think before you speak.
Better yet, for some folks it is safer for them to never even attempt counselling even after hearing, thinking and, praying.
Some folks will just still end up spewing nonsense out and causing more harm then good. Bhet we no go gree na. All of us na anointed ministers and counsellors, so we know what we are saying. Nonsense and ingredient.
Please for the ones who like to do things right, don't meddle into what you cannot handle and don't go to people who don't know what they are saying/doing for help. Wisdom is profitable to direct.
From Nneka Nwachukwu....
Ehen! And for those cows looking for "inspirational" and "non-negative" posts, I hope this serves your bloody needs.
Anumkpamas!!!

MrTA:
As much as I would love us to sign Morgan Schneiderlin, probably just rumours as we'll be linked with over 100 players.

StarBoard:
which would be a shame if it geys to that.
Even in injury ravaged seasons Aguero still scores in the 20s.
Hazard and his ikebe super football still gets top player despite scoring a bulk of his goals from penalties. in a season where Aguero kept banging in goals till the last day.

nyabinghi:
blashpemy bawo, he is over rated like nani

sinizia:
Exactly my thought!! Till this minute, how Aguero missed out on the PFA team of the year still shocks me. I can't wrap my head around it.

StarBoard:
well I wont front. aguero when fit is as fearsome as they come as a striker. I wonder what he has to do to win player of the year.

StarBoard:
aguero didnt score vs chelsea.
it was Lampard at the Etihad and Silva at the bridge I think.

leggo:
A travesty. Wait till the experts at sky/sportsmail tell you hazard would walk into any elite team in Europe , walk in as a tourist or what

StarBoard:
hazard was barely there in his first season at chelsea if my memory serves me correctly.
I still am at a loss as to how someone still thinks Hazard is "a step below messi and ronaldo".

leggo:
blame the English media who made this Chelsea team out to be the new invincibles, hazard as the reborn talisman, Henry. Kane should have won the award but deluded players voted the beta version of Lennon

StarBoard:
I'll say that I thought Fabregas was more important for Chelsea this season than Hazard was. Fabregas' assists for chelsea in his first season were quite insane in my view. I stand to be corrected.