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lovewins:
It was a boring match because the Koreans wanted it boring.

What do you expect when you have a 5 person defence wall

They needed to short circuit the fluidity of the Falconets movement especially in the final third and they succeeded

Kudos to the Koreans, they were very disciplined

Alas, a moment of brilliance was all we needed

fitzmayowa:
The gal is gone....

Amya:
I actually believe this is his real self and not a game. Narcissists always need steady supply, BB house or no.

The worst thing for Bella is people won't even hear her when she cries out because viewers and housemates have been sold to a fairytale. She's about to be mentally and emotionally drained. I don't envy her one bit.

IGoComotYaTeeth:
hmmm so that means I'm a narcissist cos im vengeful too

Amya:
I'd earlier said i was going to expatiate more on the narcissistic traits i see in Sheggs and maybe educate someone too in the process. Who knows, i might even save a life today.

Narcissists have a particular image they want to project. They would do anything to be seen in the light they want to be seen in. They want to be seen as the Perfect person, the perfect spouse, the perfect parent etc. The fabric of their very own existence is created by others view of them. They're empty inside and need a lot of external validation, adulation and attention. If anything gets in the way of the perfect picture they want to project, then the blame goes to anybody but them. They would throw anyone under the bus, start the most ridiculous smear campaign, do any and everything to insure their white remain unstained. It's not them, it's you. lol.

Narcissists have three Phase they're universally known with. The Love-bombing Phase, The Devaluation Phase and Finally, the Discard Phase. The Phases are sometimes one off, or go around in vicious cycles.

In the Love-bombing Phase, It just feels too good to be true. The target is loaded with over the top amount of affection. flattery, praise, very early in the relationship in other to win over the target. But most important of all, even the above listed is that they say exactly what their target wants to hear.

Sheggs came into the house and set his sights on Bella. I would think that she made the perfect target for him because her stoic personality made her a challenge and narcissists love a good challenge. I remember him saying she didn't look at him twice when he came in and that's why he set his sights on her.
The supply narcissist get from cracking the hardest rock is quite exhilarating. Sheggs went further to love-bomb Bella. He keyed into her deepest desires and brought them forth with his words. In the first few days of their meeting, he's already talking marriage, kids and the beautiful perfect life they'd have together. He talked about how perfect they are together and how everyone envies their love. Slowly Bella's stoic self begins to break and she fell yakata. We see it in the way she gazes into his eyes, the lingering touches and the blooming intimacy.

Now that he knows he has her in the palm of his hands, her moves for phase 1 round 2 ALIENATION. Narcissist will never be successful in being narcissists if they're unable to completely alienate their prey. He's not so comfortable with her creating deep bonds with others, He doesn't want her to dance with the guys etc. As a Narcissists succeeds with the alienating their prey, they proceed further.

They invalidate your feeling. I've seen this play out with Sheggs and Bella. When she tells him about something he did that she did not like, he blames her for feeling that way or causing it. Narcissist are self consumed individuals. Their needs come first. They like to have power and control over you and make you subservient to their needs. It's always all about them. Your emotions and priorities are something they don't care about. They will make you feel less then any chance they get. They will say you're naïve and that there's something wrong with you. They would keep trying to push and shape you into what they think their perfect mate should be like. You dare not be yourself. They keep on pushing your boundaries and if you keep adjusting just because you hate wahala and love peace, thinking they'll leave you alone. For wia! They'll never stop pushing and pushing and pushing. They slowly chip away at your self esteem and sense of self, till you lose yourself.

Unfortunately, there a lot of people who have found themselves in that vicious narcissistic cycle and can't get away. They begin to truly believe they're the ones with the actual problem because they've been gaslit to the moon. They keep thinking maybe if they do more or become better their spouse will change, but no, they simple don't change. The Narcissist will call it a day when they no longer have a need for you and brutally kick you to the curb.



Two months and two weeks is a short time to witness the full scale of a narcissistic abuse in the BBN house ,but as we've been seeing with Sheggs some of this character flaws as i wrote above still peeks through. For Bella's sake, i hope she somehow does not get sucked into a life of pain with this guy, if not, last night's tears is only the beginning of her woes.


Run Bella, Run!

bentenny:
Grooovy causing problems in both levels without making an effort

Geezeem:
We will never forget!

Sweetpink:
Behold the next HOH!!!

TheGidRedpiller:
This is very funny actually. So AMUSAN, or whatever the name is spelt like, brought the gold medal to Nigeria for the first time in a long while at a very legendary stance, great, that is very great of her.
But of course, my problem however is the fact that feminists do not want to shvt up about it.

Since that triumphant win, women all over social media keep coming for men like at if amusan ran against men on the track, of course i haven't said anything about it up until now.
Now let me say something!

For the millionth time, WOMEN CAN NEVER BE LIKE MEN!!
Women can never be as passionate as men.
Women can never be as sacrificing as the men!!

I called something THE BENEFIT OF HER PVVSSY sometime ago, the summary of this is that, women act like they have too many alternatives, because they actually do!
A woman is out here working her assss off because she WANTS to, but a man is doing it like HIS LIFE DEPENDS ON IT!!
There is a big difference!

Still Typing...

daveP:
Since none of the two are listed anyway. Then it seems so. None can lay claim to her right now or after this WC.

mostob:
.... Anyhow you called it boss.... anyhow

Deltamani:
FLOURISHE SABASTINE