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Kobojunkie:
In addition to gaining little to deep insight/wisdom as far as polygamy after growing up in it, you also spend your time monitoring my life on NL? Congratulations!

You are easily spotted because of the trash you type here

Thanks to everyone that made sense on this topic and those who spew trash you are not left out thank you.

I have decided I’ll marry my girlfriend irrespective of what you guys think, if na polygamy I nor mind but deep down I know it’s not polygamy because am not marrying two wives at the same time.

If you think it’s polygamy don’t come for my wedding if invited, rice will be enough for those that sees it differently.

My son is fine already he will understand when he’s of age.

Please mod help me close this thread if possible

Cc RoyalRoy

Kobojunkie:
After growing up in it, this is still just what you came away with?

You be goat, Mr know it all… I have been following your comments on NL, you only spew nonsense.

Khayceeofficial:
Having a goal to break the yoke of polygamy, getting her pregnant was your first mistake when you were unsure of being ready for it.

Bruh, if there's anything I don't wish even the person I hate the most, it's polygamy. That shit ruined my own family and till today I know my dad could have avoided that shit if only he had that self control over women. Self control that would have been knowing not to get a woman pregnant when he knew very well he didn't wanna go down that lane with her. My dad got a second wife after he had given birth to 8kids (boys n girls) with my mum.

The only definition I find of that is a selfish human cos every little piece of my family that was hanging on then tore apart and really caused chaos.

Unfortunately, you got yourself into a mess already. Saying you haven't married that lady doesn't take away the fact that you both have a child together. That child would never genuinely experience real love from a family. Even when the kids unite, women aren't designed to love anybody asides their own children.

Sorry if you find this offensive but polygamy traumatized me and I'm just warning bout it. Stay blessed

Thanks bro ❤️

Kobojunkie:
You already abandoned your wife so why do you care if she thinks you are impotent or not?

You already abandoned the marriage and have yourself so many other women lined up so why are you trying hard to make us believe you care a lot about about your wife? Are you waiting to get her pregnant and tied down or what? Why not tell her the truth of what you do so she can find her way at this point?

Something is not right in your brain 🧠 you will leave the topic and start attacking the character, comment on the topic and stop being an ass*ole

Khayceeofficial:
If you really did grow up in a polygamous home, you'd realise fathering multiple children with different women is only an intentional act to make the children suffer

I'm sorry but you failed yourself and your siblings already. If you really were intentional bout avoiding polygamy, you would have never birthed a child with a woman you sure knew you wouldn't Marry

First step in avoiding polygamy is self control over women. Though very difficult but you can't avoid polygamy without doing this first.

Whatever step you take asides marrying the lady the birthed your first child, drowns you in polygamy and believe me, only children get to suffer that one step you take.

Take this as someone who's currently in that reality. Polygamy is a selfish act. I use those words to remind myself continuously

Oga make I explain to you small maybe you will modify your comment. We were dating and she got pregnant (not in Nigeria) I begged her that I was not ready for that at that time she insisted she must keep the baby, she even went as far as telling our pastor who told me she is my God’s destined wife, I insisted that God cannot send my destined wife knowing that am not ready. After much persuasion from everyone including my parents I agreed to father the child with her. Everything was cool till 2020 when she said she can’t continue

I begged because I didn’t want to have kids with 2 different women I used everything to beg her but she said she is taking the decision because of my son, she said we will be happier apart

NB: I brought them back to Nigeria and I traveled to another country, I applied for them to join me twice and they were denied visas, I allowed her live freely but she always refused to take my son to visit my family for reasons best known to her.

Make I stop here because the story long well well. I beg the both women dey on NL here and dem dey follow the thread I don’t know their monikers but I know they are here

Ceska:
If you are having children from more than one woman, except in a situation where you lost your spouse, you are a polygamist. I will advise you to make it work with the mother of your son. He is your first son for crying out loud. It may seem smooth for a while , until him and his step siblings mature. The issues that will arise will be more than enough to send you to an early grave.

I thought polygamy is when you are married to more than 1 wife at a time. I never marry before, I have never taken anybody to the altar of marriage.

Yankiss:
Dont mind him. You never did marry except u do with the new one. Your concern now should be how to make things work , not whether it's polygamy or not.

Thank you my brother

tiswell:
mumu talk

Anyhow talk

Emu4life:
I remember when the World was laughing at Muslims for practicing Polygamy. Today, the purveyors of such propaganda are telling us that Homosexuality is a must.
I call on the Religious Bigots of yesteryears to come and side with their pale skinned masters once again.
Islamic rules/principles is never archaic, you are just destitute of Wisdom

So how your preaching take concern wetin I post

Foodqueen:
Your babe is well learned.

She gat brain.

She knows that the moment you both get married, the good baby mama will suddenly turn something else.

Your baby mama is been nice now cos u aren't married.

Think deeply and answer her question....

If u didn't want to smell polygamy at all, why didn't you marry the mother of your child.

It ended in a relationship it’s better that way

transient123:
That doesn't make you a polygamist, but a fornicator.

Whether your fornication is still ongoing, it's between you and your fornicating partner in the guise of girlfriend or whatever, then God.

I nor go respond to you sha.

1Sharon:
Single mothers.

Why didn't you marry your baby mother?

Madam why are you so concerned about that. I don’t want to bring what happened between us up here. I respect her as the mother of my son.

Leave am

Okealaaye:
You are the kind of person the Yoruba call Olojukokoro! You're so selfish that you failed to factor the future of your son into your happiness. There are girls who will not under any circumstance marry a guy from a "divided" home. How does your son cope with life seeing his classmates with both parents now and again? I advise you go and settle with the mother of your child, because as our people would say, a woman who has even one child for you is no longer a concubine - she's a wife. Your girlfriend seems to be more reasonable than you, because her questions are deep and meaningful.

She said “I’m taking this decision because of our son so accept it”

1Sharon:
Women, stay away from single fathers.

Op, what made you not marry your child's mother?

So who single fathers go marry?

Ara21:
Not at all, no woman will want to come spend holiday with her child in a house were the baby daddy is already married and living with his wife, and please take good care of that Child even if you are not marrying the mother.

Thank you, he is my priority already

jackmrandy:
you have a child already with another woman. tell us the full story that led to you not marrying her, and now you want to marry another woman. the fact that you have double dated already shows you are what you are asking already. can't you see it. go and make amend with your baby mama and leave single girls alone. or still go look for another single mother and marrry. case close. who knows if you will still turn this young one now into another single mother.

its time the society awake from all this none sense of turning ladies into single mothers.

Lol I literally laughed out loud. Who you be wey i wan tell the full story

The man was only cured of ear infection but they left him with mental illness

Olarewaju89:
OK.

You better marry both of them to avoid story that touch.

You dey play abi, I know say you dey joke sha

StPete:
Start to request that your child spends some time with you especially now that you’re not married so you will know the mother’s reactions and also to start getting closer to your child

Noted sir thank you

ZIMDRILL:
being married to more than one wive at the same time

Ok meaning wetin I dey do now nor be polygamy abi.

ZIMDRILL:
if the question sound confusing then i can safely say you still need to mature abit

Your girl is way ahead in thinking or she seen situation like yours straining a relationship

yes both mamas and fathers sometimes tend to became jelousy when their ex marries and create drama from nowhere

as for polygamy you claim to grow in it but seem you dont know the meaning

I don’t know the meaning sir, please tell me what it means for me

Olarewaju89:
If you marry this your new girlfriend, then you have continue the polygamous from where your family stop.

I didn’t marry the first woman na, is that polygamy

donbachi:
Not really.i will advise you go with your people and marry your son.ask your people,they will tell you how it's done.
If not,dis your babe go make life more difficult for that young man.if you still feel anything for your ex,settle with her.no perfect woman anywhere.

She is obviously seeing another person already, I don’t want to get back with her even if she is not seeing anyone. As for my babe making life difficult for my son.. I don’t think that will happen

I and my siblings grew up in a very dramatic polygamous home, it was both hectic and toxic at a time.

We vowed to break the yoke of polygamy in our family but I don’t know if I’m toeing the line already.

I already have a child with a lady though I didn’t marry her, but we ended our relationship in 2020. We are cool and we are both taking care of our child without troubles, we only talk about our child and we don’t share what’s going on in our lives with each other.

I recently met a girl I plan to marry by the first quarter of next year, she is from a nuclear family and she knows about my family background as well. She’s been asking me what I’ll do if the mother of my child says she won’t allow my child visits or come spend the holidays with me except she is also allowed to come spend the holiday with my child in my house.

The question sounds confusing at the same time funny to me because I don’t know how a woman I stopped seeing since 3 yrs will suddenly say she won’t allow my child visit except she comes along.

That’s not my worry, I want to know if marrying my girlfriend when I already have a child with another woman will make me a polygamist.

Mod please help move to front page

Cc RoyalRoy

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