Tell yourself the truth, you are proving yourself and she is not even appreciating it. Never marry someone you would always pushing yourself to the limit for her to like you. Someone is out ther who would take you as answered prayer, s
Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.
But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.
Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.
This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.
I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.
I am creating this thread to publicly call out the gross incompetence of GTBank (@gtbank) and First Bank (@FirstBankngr). I am currently completely stranded, out of cash, and cannot even afford transport fare because both banks are holding onto my money and playing games with my life.
On the 25th of May, 2026, I transferred ₦50,000 from my First Bank account to my GTBank account.
First Bank debited me instantly. After a week of crying out to both banks, First Bank customer care on X just sent me a DM confirming the transaction was successful on their end and gave me the official 30-digit NIBSS Session ID: 000016260525212658002065390897.
Here is where the wickedness from GTBank starts: 1. Over the weekend, a GTBank agent checked their deep server logs and confirmed to me on WhatsApp that they saw the transaction sitting on their server gate on a "BLANK STATUS."
2. Because they saw it, they created a formal inward dispute ticket for me with Reference ID: 260601353720618 and promised it would be credited.
3. Shockingly, this morning (Tuesday, June 2nd), another GTBank agent named Eberechi Chukwueke sent me an email (CRM:033400000396) completely contradicting the bank, claiming they have "no evidence" of the transaction and told me to go back to First Bank!
How can a bank issue a tracking reference ID for a stuck transaction on Monday, and then turn around on Tuesday to say "no evidence"?
If GTBank's server gate rejected the "blank status" transaction, it means the ₦50,000 has automatically reversed back into First Bank’s internal suspense ledger, and First Bank is lazily sitting on my money without crediting my app dashboard!
I am stuck at home, starving, and stranded. Both banks need to stop passing the buck. One of you is sitting on my ₦50,000.
Please help me tag @gtbank and @FirstBankngr handles on social media. Moderators, please move this to the Front Page to save an innocent customer from this institutional nightmare!
Nairaland long readers come and drop your likes and share, don't stop until it's one million. In a world where ideas that change the way the whole universe transact and relate can fit into a tweet. Please make sure you don't read trash!
Reverseng: I was at LASUTH to see a doctor. The registration took 1hr +. Nurses on uniforms suddenly became bus conductors shouting patients names at the top of their voice one after the other. We were more than 50 seated at that registration point. It is close to a new building at LASUTH. Sustainable xxxx...I can't really remember the building name, but that experience left me feeling disappointed in our 'Tech gurus' At the moment, i need a state of origin certificate to apply for Access bank graduate trainee program currently running. Guess what? I was told to GO TO THE PHYSICAL OFFICE AT VICTORIA ISLAND, to get it, or to go to an office in my village in the southeast to get it. I'm in Lagos typing this. I really hope Access bank HR and other related bodies are reading this, because I might have to decline applying for their Graduate Traineeship. And trust me, I'm smart enough for them to want me to choose them. Parents are working 9-5 jobs, while their children are even more hardworking than their parents, working 7:45am -5pm schools. In a school in Ekiti state, each senior secondary student offer 13 -16 subjects. This is not hearsay. Trust me. I served as a corper in one of the schools. And after school closes by 3:30pm, they're told to wait for a compulsory extra lesson while lasts till 5pm. And it's not a free lesson. It's paid for by their parents. Imagine parents paying for their children suffering. Truly, the love of parents triumphs. So children spend Monday - Fridays (7:45am - 5pm) in schools learning 13 subjects, and on Saturdays, they're probably completing their notes or doing 13 different assignments, and then on Sundays, they go to church, rest for some hours and resume school on Monday. And one would expect success independent of theoretical speechification from these children. JSS1 - 3 = 3yrs SS1- 3= 3 yrs That's 6yrs on average
6 years of depression, bought and paid for by parents for their children. And I haven't even included the stress from university lecturers who were forced to study a particular course by their parents or society, and after realizing the disappointment of not following their dreams, become sadists, amongst others, who aim to frustrate students with their chants of "A is for me, B is for your HOD, C are for my loyal students. You can distribute the failures generously amongst yourself"
So you see. It's a snake that eats its own tail. The university lecturers were once children. The tech Bros and Girls too were once children. But now, each and everyone is either focused on milking these children, who they once were, or ignoring them completely, with silly comments like "school made me tough, if not, I would not be who I am today"
No. Being who you are made you come as a child to suffer in the Nigeria education system so you can be sensitized, through suffering, to create a platform to reduce the suffering of others when the time comes.
What happened to using technology to alleviate the suffering of children through the introduction of a passion+brain-friendly scheme, across all levels, from Primary to University.
1) Mondays- Wednesday = Classroom
2) Thursdays- Fridays= Online lectures
3) The presence of equipped and numbered guidance counselors whose job is to study a child and try understand where their passion lies, so that their education will be tailored to what they find joy doing. A hairdresser has no primary business learning geography, neither does a DJ have any primary business learning 'almighty formula'
This tailored form of leaning reduces the number of subjects that students are exposed to and secondly, it reduces the 7:45am - 5pm jobs that students work in schools. Now schools can comfortably close by 12-1 pm, even on Mondays because of the reduced work load of the students. And mind you, when this efficiency has been created in learning, the free time of children should not be filled with more schoolwork/assignments because of a pathetic saying that "an idle mind is the devil's workshop"
6) A course in AI/ prompt engineering to enable students appreciate the fact that suffering isn't hardwork when they're able to swiftly generate an AI picture with precise prompt engineering, compared to a conventional graphics designer that spends decades on it.
7) Ban the physical submission of notes or handouts, especially for marks.
Also ban lecturers from physically selling handouts to students. A lecturer with an Innovative solution, be it in paperback, should copyright or patent it and lease it to students through the school education authority who thoroughly screens and approves it for sale at a very subsidized fee to students in ebook format. The sheer volume of students demands in campuses around Nigeria should compensate for the price reduction. There should be a digital right management thoroughly applied to the ebook to disable copying and mass production. These amongst other solutions
To wrap this post up, Nigeria has become a nation where suffering is being seen as hardwork. We've become so used to seeing as "suffering= good person/hardworking" and "not suffering= bad person/lazy" But suffering is not hardwork. The morality of continued hardwork is the morality of slaves. I've written about this here on nairaland. Do find time to look it up, at your convenience of course.
I'm open to hearing your suggestions on how schools can be efficient, especially in Nigeria so that the coming generations don't go through the suffering we passed through while in school
ThompsonJoo: I use a Meta Verified Facebook account, but I recently discovered that my account has been disabled. Unfortunately, I am unable to log in, access my account, or even submit another appeal for review.
This situation is quite frustrating, especially considering that the account is Meta Verified. I would like to know if anyone here has experienced a similar issue and, if so, how it was resolved.
Please, mods, help move this post to the front page so it can get wider visibility. I believe many other users may be facing the same challenge and could benefit from the responses and solutions shared here.
Any helpful advice or guidance will be greatly appreciated.
Kuchingoro when be say even people palour na gutter, I laugh dem!!
StoriesUpdate: Our Environment, Our Peace”: Rotary Abuja Jabi Lakeside Redefines Community Safety in Kuchingoro
ABUJA: The Rotary Club of Abuja Jabi Lakeside launched its project dubed "Our Environment , Our Peace' in the Kuchingoro Community. It challenges the traditional view of security asserting that a clean, sustainable environment is the foundation of social stability and conflict prevention.
By integrating environmental stewardship with peacebuilding, the Club is addressing the root causes of community tension: poor sanitation, blocked infrastructure, and resource-driven friction.
The Philosophy: Our Environment, Our Peace
Speaking at the launch, the President of the Club, Rotarian Caroline Morah, emphasized that the project title is a call to action.
"We cannot have a peaceful community in a degraded environment," Morah stated. "'Our Environment, Our Peace' reflects the reality that when we take care of our surroundings, we remove the stressors—like disease and flooding—that often lead to neighborhood disputes. A healthy community is a harmonious one."
Practical Tools for a Plastic-Free Future To ensure the "Our Environment, Our Peace" vision lasts beyond a single day, the Club moved from advocacy to direct action: Combatting Plastic Pollution: In a strategic move to clear Kuchingoro’s drainage systems, the Club distributed reusable bags to residents. This aims to slash the community's reliance on single-use plastics, the primary culprit behind the stagnant water and flooding that plagues the area. Empowering Local Leaders: The Kuchigoro Peace Ambassadors, the Club’s primary community partners, received a massive donation of sanitation equipment, including wheelbarrows, rakes, shovels, gloves, and rain boots to maintain the standards set during the exercise. A Legacy of Impact The community’s enthusiastic turnout was a testament to the 13-year partnership between the Rotary Club and Kuchingoro. Chief Ibrahim Wambi, the Chief of the community, lauded the Club for its consistency, noting that the "Our Environment, Our Peace" initiative is exactly what is needed to foster long-term unity.
As residents cleared gutters and adopted reusable alternatives to plastic, the message was clear: Peace is not just the absence of war; it is the presence of a clean, sustainable environment.
fergie001: Osborn Umahi, son of the Minister of Works, Engr. Dave Umahi has picked the APC LGA Chairmanship form for Ohaozara LGA in Ebonyi State.
Supporters stormed the APC Secretariat when he picked the form pegged at ₦30 million. Osborn was his father's campaign director in the 2019 Guber election.
He has also been endorsed by the Governor, Francis Nwifuru.
drstranged: I’m currently in the South East, and normally by late November we would have started feeling harmattan — cooler weather, dry air, dusty breeze, at least some signs.
But now, just a day to Christmas, everywhere is still hot. No harmattan breeze, no dryness, no dusty mornings. It honestly feels more like February or March than December.
This feels very unusual to me. In all my years on earth, I can’t remember a December like this.
Is anyone else experiencing the same thing in their area? Could this be climate change, or is this just one of those rare weather shifts?
Good treatment is not enough, as a parent, you are only a guardian, only prayers can make you have complete fulfillment from your your children, if he had not acted wild as he did, who knows untimely death or other negative thing may have still denied them the joy of fulfillment from him!
guobe: In my former neighbourhood, there was this young man that was studying medicine in the university, a very brilliant chap and doing very well in his academics.
Though the parents were struggling financially, they made sure all his needs were met.
An opportunity came then with the Nigerian Government giving scholarship to scholars to school in Russia and this guy was successful as he got a scholarship to study Engineering in Russia .
That was it ,he married a Russian woman and broke communication with his parents and siblings in Nigeria .
The parents were heart broken especially the mum as it made her fall ill and she never recovered from it. She died and the son didn't come to Nigeria for final farewell.
The dad just died and still no show from him. Just got chatting with one of his siblings and he said he is yet to fathom why he acted this way as he was well treated as a kid before he went to Russia. What could have really made him to act this way is a million dollar question. Life.
Security operatives have apprehended a group of suspected criminals, including two mature men and a woman, alleged to be involved in a notorious ‘one chance’ robbery scheme.
According to eyewitnesses, the suspects were caught after attempting to rob unsuspecting passengers in a commercial vehicle. The victims, who had boarded the bus thinking it was a regular ride, quickly realized it was a setup when the gang allegedly began dispossessing them of their belongings.
The suspects, described as “mature individuals” rather than youths, reportedly used threats and intimidation to carry out the robbery before being intercepted.
Authorities say investigations are ongoing to determine the extent of their operations and to identify other members of the syndicate. Residents have been urged to remain vigilant and cautious when boarding vehicles at unverified bus stops, as ‘one chance’ robberies continue to pose a threat in several Nigerian cities.
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Also ban lecturers from physically selling handouts to students. A lecturer with an Innovative solution, be it in paperback, should copyright or patent it and lease it to students through the school education authority who thoroughly screens and approves it for sale at a very subsidized fee to students in ebook format. The sheer volume of students demands in campuses around Nigeria should compensate for the price reduction. There should be a digital right management thoroughly applied to the ebook to disable copying and mass production.