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Excuses are better sounding to the person making them.

When faced with stress, our natural instincts activates toward fight, flight or freeze (paralysis).

When life situations (traumatic or not) sensitizes a person to constantly choose to yield to those basic instincts, a person eventually learns to react in such ways even if the source of the stress is not life threatening.

For example, some people panic when the phone rings, or a doorbell rings. Some people are fearful of a swimming pool, even though the deepest parts of the pool is only at knee levels. Infact, some people reading about a swimming pool right now may be having increased heart beats!
Some people stay away from making a move towards self development beyond their current level, sometimes the scare is about how people might see them if they fail. In relationships, people pre-consider rejection, and it scares them into never trying!

Response to instincts of self preservation is a great thing. However, when a person allows these natural instincts to spread its effects to other areas of life, then they stand constantly exposed to limitations.

Unlearning the limiting responses, and relearning helpful ones is very critical to progressing from where you're at, to where you'd like to be.

Cyd Sessions is here to assist in such issues. Simply send us a DM on Instagram (@cyd_sessions) , or email us using cydsessions@gmail.com to have us explore these issues with you till you reach a resolution.

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To be authentic means to be genuine . . . to be yourself.

In relationships, people sometimes feel uncomfortable expressing their authenticity, because they do not trust that their authenticity is good enough to meet or satisfy the standards that they perceive of their partner. So, instead they give up being genuine and become actors in a storyline that they are not equipped for.

There are personal values that complement each other, there are other values that oppose each others. When a person adopts values that are opposing in nature to values they already have, they will experience internal dissonance . . . disharmony within themselves.

Operating outside your authenticity has a way of challenging your self confidence. What is self confidence? Self confidence is 'trusting in your abilities, in your judgment, in your personal qualities'. When you give up the authenticity of who you are, you are automatically throwing away the trust you have of yourself. Doing just this is likely to place pressure on yourself. When you do this for a long time, Stress will set in!

Do not set yourself up for stress �.

If you already are experiencing prolonged stress, you can talk to us. Simply send a DM or e-mail cydsessions@gmail.com

Why do people sometimes give up their self confidence. What's the relationship between self confidence and self esteem?


Why do people become ashame of themselves? Ashame of their complexion, ashame of their accents, ashame of their feet, ashame of their bodies, ashame of their personal accomplishments.


Between 'being ashame' and . . . 'accepting yourself as you are, knowing that no one is perfect' . . . Which would serve you better?
Between 'being ashame' and . . . 'recognizing your shortcomings while charting a course for self development', which would serve you better?


Self-esteem is the confidence to truly value yourself. It is the value you place on your worth.


Look within, you are good enough!

You see that feeling you have sometimes bah?

Like . . . you don't often fit in crowds!

Like . . . you seem to ask more questions
than many other people!

Like . . . you see how people often dismiss your sense of identity and dismiss your right to express your individuality in a non-intrusive way.

Like . . . you see how your love for solitude is starting to look like a liking for isolation;
and isolation now seeming to bring you a certain joy! Ehnnn . . . �?!

Please seek for social support! Seek counseling.

Friendly talk sessions that are very non-judgmental, and confidential can be had.

You can Check-in with Cyd Sessions through Instagram direct messaging (@cyd_sessions), email (cydsessions@gmail.com).

You are very Welcome.

This is in contribution to promoting mental health seeking behavior, as well as providing some help to people who are not able to book for paid helping sessions.


This is courtesy of Cyd Sessions.


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I stood there looking, as he was pulled out. He came out a long baby. He came out quiet, wondering what was going on, eyes wide open, as if his sleep was rudely interrupted!

I looked on, wondering. Did I just become a father? As in, I am now somebody's 'Papa'. Strange feeling. I was excited, and a feeling to be there for him, to protect my son grew on me from that very moment.

All this time, I still had wifey's hands in mine. It wasn't just us two anymore, state of confusing lovely feelings.

How do you handle bitterness?
What were the scenarios that made you bitter? Was it Hurt? Was it Betrayal? Was it False accusation? Was it Cruelty? All unresolved?

The scenarios can differ broadly.

People also differ in their capacity to manage bitterness, or manage how long bitterness can persist.

While some people can self regulate: manage how they perceive themselves, the events around them, and the world, reshape their perspectives of the past, manage their expectations of the future etc, others simply cannot (and who's to blame them?).

In the face of bitterness, while a person may attempt to self regulate, its important to recognize that it is useful to make use of social support around you. Or to speak out to persons skilled in helping others understand and manage how they process thoughts and how they behave.

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#resentment
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I have a business that is relatively thriving. I make money. However, I am constantly broke! It sometimes seem I get uncomfortable when money enters my hands. I must somehow find a way to spend it all!
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Is this you? Maybe you are experiencing a learned discomfort (or fear) of wealth that drives you to self-sabotage! This situation can be brought into perspective.

Do not remain silent. Send an email today to book for Cyd Sessions: cydsessions@gmail.com.

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#fear
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To be middle aged or old aged is not a reason to lose hope and give up. Pick up that project again. Is it a book you started to write? Is it a vocational training? Is it an academic training? Is it a community support program? Whatever the project is, take a look at it again.

When you feel like you are running out of time on a task, a goal or a life vision, anxiety can start to stir. Anxiety could go on to interfere with how you make life choices, and then how you go on to behave (whether to proceed with pursuing the goals, completing the tasks or whether to abandon them).

When a person places unrealistic deadlines or timeframes around life goals, they can become stressed ~ K. Ramsay.

You see, it's in the choosing! What are you choosing to do? How realistic are the targets and timelines you set for yourself? Besides the timelines, how are you prioritizing your activities?

Managing stress is essential for great Mental Health.

Stress can be managed. If you need help in managing stress generally, or along the lines of goals, send an e-mail to cydsessions@gmail.com

People sometimes complain about certain people not being Helpful towards others. You may have been an audience to such a complaint or not, I certainly have �.

What if 'Help' as an act is actually contextual? What if different people have a personal 'Helping Signature', and only find themselves aligned to helping in terms of how they are wired to.

Scenario 1:
Sam needs help with money for a visit to the dentist, he states his request to Rita. Rita doesn't have the money, but doesn't tell Sam she doesn't have the money. However, she knows a dentist, Jamil. And requests a favour of Jamil on behalf of Sam. Jamil accepts, Sam gets a session and is grateful. Rita has just helped using her social currency.

Scenario 2:
Bassey is fond of monetizing help. When her friend is going through a bit of health issues, rather than help her friend do house chores, she sends her friend money to get a paid cleaning service. Bassey rendered help using money as a helping currency.

Scenario 3:
Lukman will readily pick you up from the airport. He will help you tear down your house when you want to change residence, and help you arrange your belongings at the new residence. He's hands-on and helpful like that, but he's not so readily involved with rendering help in the form of money! Here, direct rendering of services is the currency of help.

People are wired to help others the way they know how to. This means that when the need to help arises, their first instinct towards help is usually of a certain method. They may be capable of helping in other ways, but their helping signature pulls them towards the methods that resonates with themselves.

� This is one example that mildly reflects that humans are innately selfish. . . .because, except you don't have the capacity at that material time, help that is truly beneficial to a 'help seeker' is the kind of help that is offered in the terms of the 'help seeker'!

In other words, #Allow-the-beggar-to-have-a-choice �! If as a helper you are willing to be flexible with options, you could let the help seeker know about those options �. And then let them pick the one that best benefits the situation they're in. If you don't do this, it doesn't make you a bad person �. Just that, if you are capable, then helping within the terms of the help seeker might be much more beneficial.

Rebekha has encountered self-esteem issues for a while. Her reason is that she is uncomfortable with her weight. She thinks her weight makes her look unattractive. However, when she is sad or worried, she eats a lot. Something could have gotten her to develop a coping relationship with food!


Skilled help that is targeted at resolving such a situations is available. Do not remain silent. Let us work with you in identifying and resolving those unhelpful assumptions and associations you may have validated over time.


Send an email to cydsessions@gmail.com to book for a session with Cyd Sessions.

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Daz was a previously employed bustling construction worker, and he has been out of a job for about 1yr and 10 mnths now. People that seemed like friends have spaced out from him. The emotions from being jobless and isolated pressured him into attachment to much drinking and unhelpful thinking. He knows that the drinking is hurting him, but it seems to be the only solace he feels drawn to.

Job loss (or joblessness), idleness, isolation are situations that when experienced at the same time, can negatively impact a person's mental health.

Unburden your thoughts, talk about that situation, you can get skilled help with managing such situations.

Send an email to cydsessions@gmail.com

or

Follow @cydsessions on Twtter and Facebook and send us a DM. On Instagram, we are at: @cyd_sessions.

We are available to speak with you.

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Hello. .

This is a short exercise we'd love for you to get involved in �. Post here 3 things you like about yourself. You may choose to explain each of the 3 things or not, your choice � .

3 things Cyd Sessions loves about itself:

(A) We like that we're big on the idea of “Prevention”: Poorly managed unhelpful thought patterns produce unhelpful emotions. Unhelpful emotions allowed to fester can establish a pattern of choices and behaviors whose consequences may be very unhelpful. We encourage you not to let unhelpful thoughts fester, speak to a skilled helper.
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(B) We like that we care more for emotional stability, than for feel-good strategies, �: Emotional stability reaches for the root of the issues. Although this requires responsibility and honest participation from the recipients of therapy, it usually is better and longstanding �.
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(C) We like that we do care �.
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Now your turn, who would go first? (Photo credit: unknown)

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Were you ever taught that:

Sex is bad and private parts are disgusting?

Or, that the opposite gender is a taboo not to be associated with?

Or any other type of scare associated with sex?

In an attempt to preserve moral purity, as well as trying to prevent the myriad of issues associated with unprotected pre-marital sex, some parents or guardians have instilled fears and negative automatic thoughts about sex, among some young people. Many of such young people have carried these fears and unhelpful thinking patterns about sex into adulthood.

Now, relationships and marriages within which sex is an important component can (and have) become plagued with issues due to previously instilled deterrents that may not have been communicated with proper context or guidance.

People who were raised to think of sex (and the opposite gender) in a negative way, probably had to grow in this thinking pattern for decades. The thing is, the act of marriage is unlikely to just easily pull down the anxiety they may be having. These are thoughts and beliefs that they may have held unto for so long that it would have become a part of them. Therefore their negative response to sex (and the opposite gender) could be an automatic reaction that happens without conscious thinking.

The good thing is that, anything that was learnt can be unlearned. Talking to a skilled helper can be a start towards unlearning and relearning.

Book a session with Cyd Sessions. On Facebook and Twitter, search for @cydsessions. On Instagram, search for cyd_sessions.

We have Zoom/WhatsApp video or audio sessions, as well as in-person sessions. Privacy, Confidentiality and a very safe space is assured.

[We encourage sex within the context of marriage]

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Anxiety and Depression are important issues that people experience. And the impacts of these issues should be taken seriously, especially when they have been experienced for a protracted time.

For a fact, events that have already happened and events that are yet to happen are things that are outside any 'present' time. So, when these feelings persist for a prolonged time, it can be debilitating for such people.

Self awareness and effective self management requires an understanding of thoughts, and how deep-seated beliefs contribute to sustaining unhelpful emotional outcomes and behaviours.

Join the conversation, like and post a comment.

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#selfworth
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Simply request for a session by booking on our Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pg/cydsessions/services/

Or follow us on Twitter using: @cydsessions or on Instagram using: @cyd_sessions

While there, you can send a DM and we will book you in for consultation.

Best regard

While we actually want our emotions well managed, the assumption some people have about 'triggering events' directly leading to 'emotional outcomes' can make self-managing emotions tricky.

Cyd sessions will clear those assumptions. Prevention is awesome.

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How often have you told yourself, 'I cannot be loved', 'I am not wealthy enough', 'I am not intelligent enough', 'I am not resourceful enough', 'I am not fluent enough', 'I am not pretty or handsome enough' etc.

How sensitive are you to criticism? Are you often hostile, even though you know that your reason for being hostile isn't enough to cause you to react in such ways?

Self esteem refers to the amount of importance we attribute to our own worth. It refers to the assumptions, judgements and general beliefs we have about ourselves.

When a person mostly assumes worse case scenarios, or mostly chooses to accommodate thoughts that support negative outcomes of themselves or their efforts, low self esteem can be the case.

How often have you played down your own need for pleasantries and good treatment within your love life, or even among friends.

Often, people describe themselves using past experiences. Do experiences at an earlier stage in life define who you currently are? Do these experiences shape the kinds of esteem thoughts you have of yourself?

People will always compare where they currently are with where they've been; And also, where they are in relation to where they hope or would like to be.

When the expectation of where you'd like to be does not match where you're at right now, disappointment and self-judgement can happen. And self esteem can become ruffled.

If a person experiences life from a low self esteem point of view, there is a possibility that this could make them prioritize the pursuit of experiences that they hope will soothe the voids, the insufficiency, or the feeling of being stuck.

Often, this kind of pursuit is of the gratifying type. A repeated sequence of feel-good quests and void-fillers.

Are you great at your job? Have you been chasing personal development hoping that you'll at a point feel good enough to deserve a promotion or a raise in pay? However, you remain uncomfortable about the idea of a pay-rise because you think 'You aren't still good enough to deserve one?

Are you often suspicious and unbelieving when people tell you that you look very good, but in private you keep trying to outdo yourself using beauty tips every now and then; with the hopes of finally feeling good that you do look good?

Low self esteem can keep a person stuck on a feel-good quest and its refill over and over again.

Without knowledge of who you really are, and the understanding to value yourself in spite of any imperfections (percieved or otherwise), the quest to fill a percieved insufficiency can go on forever.

Your vision of self has to be more compelling than the mere feel-good quest. The concept of self has to be re-evaluated in terms of 'Who You really are', and 'Who You could be'. Then goals can be set and pursued.

Hello everyone. This is Cyd Sessions.

I am in the practice of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). CBT is a form of talk therapy that is result-oriented, goal-focused and collaborative in nature. It is a process of psychotherapy that assumes that unhelpful thinking patterns result in unhelpful emotions and behaviours. CBT has historically been proven to be highly effective when used in situations of:

1. Anxiety (and some types of fear).
2. Depression.
3. Anger & aggression.
4. Stress disorders.
5. Eating disorders.
6. Smoking cessation plans.
7. Problematic gambling and some other forms of addictions etc

In effect, if you find that in your Relationships, Career, Personal growth and Development, Recreational aspects of life, et cetera you are experiencing anxiety, depression, stress and other undesirable emotional outcomes, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can help you in addressing such issues.

I will be sharing awareness messages on issues surrounding the experience and expression of emotional reactions. You will have access to awareness on the relationship between thoughts, emotions and consequences. You will have access to messages on self awareness, and how being in touch with your identity can remind you of your purpose.

You can follow Cyd Sessions on Instagram @cyd_sessions, on Twitter and Facebook @cydsessions. On my handles, you will be able to request therapy sessions with a certified CBT Practitioner.

Welcome.

Hello everyone. This is Cyd Sessions.

I am in the practice of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). CBT is a form of talk therapy that is result-oriented, goal-focused and collaborative in nature. It is a process of psychotherapy that assumes that unhelpful thinking patterns result in unhelpful emotions and behaviours. CBT has historically been proven to be highly effective when used in situations of:

1. Anxiety (and some types of fear).
2. Depression.
3. Anger & aggression.
4. Stress disorders.
5. Eating disorders.
6. Smoking cessation plans.
7. Problematic gambling and some other forms of addictions etc

In effect, if you find that in your Relationships, Career, Personal growth and Development, Recreational aspects of life, et cetera you are experiencing anxiety, depression, stress and other undesirable emotional outcomes, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can help you in addressing such issues.

I will be sharing awareness messages on issues surrounding the experience and expression of emotional reactions. You will have access to awareness on the relationship between thoughts, emotions and consequences. You will have access to messages on self awareness, and how being in touch with your identity can remind you of your purpose.

You can follow Cyd Sessions on Instagram @cyd_sessions, on Twitter and Facebook @cydsessions. On my handles, you will be able to request therapy sessions with a certified CBT Practitioner.

Welcome.

It's generally expected that with pre-mature ejaculation, causes revolve around physical dysfunction or psychological issues.

Before setting off to explore psychological issues, people experiencing this are usually advised to clarify that the issue isn't actually of a physical origin (like cardiovascular issues, diabetes, use of certain drugs etc).