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All thanks to Almighty God for he has worked wonders in my life
And again my parents for giving birth to me, otherwise there wouldnt be any need to be thankful for a job.
I appreciate u both.(Dad and mum)

I thank God for my current job and I know a better one is on the pipeline soonest

ThanK you God for being GOD

worldstar2020@yahoo.com

am interested

hmmmmmmmmmmm things are happening

wot is the level of development in this area. Wot documentation does the land have??

Men, men, men, they are just the same everywhere
No matter wot u do u please them, they will still stray

sexxxxy:
I like the hustle, really good,

ok,back to the subject,just look at it like this,search your heart do u think your husband is capable of such a thing (molesting your daughter)?after everything he's done to u?cos u know him more, if u really think he's capable,then do something about it(all the above suggestions),

but if think he's not capable of such, then,just watch ppl around your daughter carefully,(even go as far as planting those mini device camera on something close to her, u have to be james bond girl, ),

there's this phone that they sell here,it's just a normal phone,but it's a monitor,u switch it off,drop it casually around a suspect, then once u r out of the place,u call the number(its switched off,but it will still ring, and it wont show the flashing ringing sign,,it picks it self up, ),u can listen to every conversation for hours, not sure if they sell it in naija,but look for something similar

Ok thanks, will look out for stuffs like that here in Lagos

^^^^^^^^ I run a supermarket by the side but now it is closed down until I find someone else. The H.girl in guestion is also the sales girl there, now that she is gone d shop is locked. I have always worked just opened the s.market after we made up after the DAMYSA story.

I intend to do business full time after I had put some things in place, like offsetting the loan I took, putting some structures in place etc. If I resign now the business is going to suffer and collapse ultimately cos it cant yet sustain itself

Yes school here means nursery/creche

mutter:
what you need to do is
First take the baby for a proper examination. The mucus and her putting her hands there may be a sign of an infection, maybe it´s itching her. This infection does not have to be a sign of anything unusual. It may be that the nappys have not been changed frequent enough. It might be that she has been wiped back to front and this can cause an infection.
Secondly you need to prevent it happening again. You have to watch her closely as Oyinda suggested.

Ok, though I have taken her for  general body chek-up, will now take her to a paediatrician will have to give them details of what possibly might be happening so they know what to do.


[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=467117.msg6306304#msg6306304 date=1277849102]damysa,

you didn't answer this question before: what is your husband's reaction to your daughter's situation? what is he saying about her despoil? what steps is he taking about it? he's the father of the child too and should be just as concerned about her.
and for your daughter, like you said, the deed has been done, now what you have to do is take preventive measures. your baby has been despoiled more than once so it means that the culprit is still around. just be extremely protective of her even from the father until you are sure he is not the one. I wouldn't trust him for now.
And really the other thing you should do is take care of your own health and don't let what you know affect the way you treat her as she grows up. you don't want her developing any psychological issues which is common for molestation victims.[/quote]He started ranting and raving that he will kill whoever was behind it and immediately started looking for another school. He was the one that found this present school and made some enquiries and told me to go check out the place. All these happened before the H.girl incidence, now he has become very cold about it cos of quilt, especially after mentioning to him that he has to be sentenced also for being guilty of the same crime.

^^^^^^^ he is urging me to take him to church for deliverance

closing time, baby beckons

nnnnoooooooooooooo but it's all dried up now, cant remember wot she wore that day but her towel is in the rack now waiting 2 b washed. any luck there?

@mutter
Kaiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii no wonder the bible say my people perish cos of lack of knowledge.
well didnt know I should have done that. The rage in me beclouded my thinking, Though mucus was discovered at night during bath. everything happened real fast

Anyways as it is now, admit I wasnt sensible enough in some areas.

Now that the deed has been done can u guys itemize the options available to me.

How do I proceed from now on? That's wot is important for me

I am screaming out loud too who is doing it?

That is wot is my concern now, maybe I am not coherent enough but I can read
who is doing it if it's not in school nor my hussy who then?

am asking u people this question. put urself in my shoes and act in my stead,
going by the circumstance how do u intend to find out?

I mean, am not a witch or something, or should I put a gun on someone or drag them  to court where there are no basic facts
The only thing am sure of is that my baby of 1yr+ is being despoiled and who is behind this

Havent been mentioning my sis and the girl in my post recently cos I have gone past that, infact the girl left y'day morning. dont even understand all this u dont get it stuff

All those criticizing me, give me a clue as to finding out Who & How and stop saying u dont get it.
The only option at my disposal is to change the school and monitor my hubby around her, which I have done.

The truth is am a first time mom and inexperienced as chaircover said.


Sexxxy, Chaircover and mutter please give me a clue as to finding out who  the hell this muster is

Thanks Chair and Mutter

I have wot u two said.

@chair, the girl told her family at home and they reported to others. that was how the meeting was called.

Also I am very firm on this matter cos of where we are from (Ishan, Edo state) those people from there knows wot am talking about. Just for posterity sake I dont want to be questioned/interrogated for any wrath that he might incur upon himself.

After that Damysa story, I came back to say we have up and that every thing was now ok. Honestly this man has been very nice and sweet since then only for me to wake up to this again last week.

agabaI23:
Change her school and see if that continues.

Thanks bro, I have done that already, she has started going to a new creche y'day

chaircover:
OK Damysa. I appreciate your honesty so Lets break this down so I can fully understand this. This  is not a court of law, so if you don't want to answer any of these questions, i titally understand. What I am trying to achieve here is to get you thinking about this a bit more deeply.

1. Why have you forgiven your husband so easily?

2. Would you have forgiven so easily if it were a stranger that did it

3. Do you think your husband is mentally challenged (no disrespect)?

4. Your husband gave you an STD, which you treated because you were able to identify the symptoms and could take yourself to the doctor for medical treatment.  if he was molesting your daughter, then its possible that he has/or about to give your daughter the same STD. My question is  how can she ask for medical help at that age

5. In the whole wide world, whose job is it the most to look after and protect this child?

6. Do you think your husband needs help?

7. Do you think that you need help

8. Worst case scenario, what could happen to you if you were leave this man?

9. If you happened to live in a civilised country, what would have happened to this child? will either you or your husband have access to this child?

10. Lets assume you are still married to this man when your child grows up. What do you think she will say to you both?

11. if your husband can do this to his own child, which child is safe in the neighbourhood?

Just a few questions to ponder on. I know that your quest to remain married is playing a large role in all of this, and you know Me; I always advocate marriage but lets face it, is this man worth being called a husband and father?

OK Damysa. I appreciate your honesty so Lets break this down so I can fully understand this. This  is not a court of law, so if you don't want to answer any of these questions, i titally understand. What I am trying to achieve here is to get you thinking about this a bit more deeply.

Chaircover even though u bash me I accept it, cos its constructive, honestly I dont even believe somethings myself. I will answer your questions with all sincerity cos it will do me a lot of good than harm.

1. Why have you forgiven your husband so easily?

I forgave him cos he openly said he was sorry and family urged me to let go and have been pleading with everyone since. I only forgave the cheating and despoiling aspect cos the H. girl in question has forgiven him openly too. He has become a shadow of himself since this matter came up and have been remorseful.

2.Would you have forgiven so easily if it were a stranger that did it.

Dont care who the culprit is, stranger or hubby, will get to the end of this as soon as I have some info

3. Do you think your husband is mentally challenged (no disrespect)?

No he is not, think it's more of a spiritual influence prolly cos of wot he's been doing (pay back time/law of Nemesis)

4. Your husband gave you an STD, which you treated because you were able to identify the symptoms and could take yourself to the doctor for medical treatment.  if he was molesting your daughter, then its possible that he has/or about to give your daughter the same STD. My question is  how can she ask for medical help at that age

Few days ago I took her to the doctor for examination and insisted on a general boby check up.

5. In the whole wide world, whose job is it the most to look after and protect this child?

Me, as the mother

6. Do you think your husband needs help?

Yes, more of spiritual help than physical and he has admitted to this

7. Do you think that you need help

I and everyone around me knows that I have my sanity is intact. There have not been any record of medical or spiritual challenge  in my linage.

8. Worst case scenario, what could happen to you if you were leave this man?

I may probably not get married again cos I would have lost total trust in men, cos we dated for 4 yrs and two yrs into marriage all these are happening, dont want a repeat again (2) Maybe cos of some insecurities, loneliness, fear of the unknown, wot will happen in the next marriage if I eventually decide to get married again, facing the world as a single mother. otherwise nothing else should hold me back cos I dont get any support from him be it moral, financial etc

9. If you happened to live in a civilised country, what would have happened to this child? will either you or your husband have access to this child?

Please chaircover expantiate, dont understand this question

10. Lets assume you are still married to this man when your child grows up. What do you think she will say to you both?

Cant answer this question until the case have  been determined.

11. if your husband can do this to his own child, which child is safe in the neighbourhood?

If it is true, no child is safe

Just a few questions to ponder on. I know that your quest to remain married is playing a large role in all of this, and you know Me; I always advocate marriage but lets face it, is this man worth being called a husband and father?

Though there might be some insecurities here and there I mustn't stay in a marriage until I drop dead. Actually the comments I got from the  DAMYSA story  helped me a great deal in facing this challenge. I never knew I was half this strong until now. When I was growing up I use to tell whoever cares that I will annul my marriage at the slightest sign of infidelity but here I am taking all the sh.i.r.t in my marriage. wot an irony. That I am even a bit calm it's cos of the worst stories I have heard since this issue came up, Truth is I dont give a hoot about this 'thing' called marriage anymore.

^^^^ I couldnt have forgiven my husband so easily of such a grievous offence if it has been established that he is the culprit. I only let-go of the despoil issue cos the victim in question have totally forgiven him in the presence of people and he has been running from piller to post asking for peace.

I have never been a liar all my life dont see why I should start now by fabricating stories.
The truth is most people think I dont have a case cos there are no clear evidences  showing that either  the school or my husband are culprits as no mother has ever complained of such. I stylishly asked one of the mothers whose baby is there, she said that's is the craziest thing to think.  There was a time I noticed some marks on her legs as tough she was flogged when I complained one of the carer started shouting of false accusation that how can they do that to a little baby, but the truth is that I have seen her flog a little boy of about 2yrs before then. funny enough the mothers there supported her saying they dont think they can do that. maybe she fell down or it could be mosquito bites.


I may have forgiven my hussy for every other thing but if he is responsible for this, am prepared to fight him with the last drop of my blood,

And that's he must go to the village to face the elders, he cannot hide it there cos he knows the consequences,  there should an admittance or some sort of evidence before I take any action.

The fact is am losing my mind and I am being affected psychologically, I am ready to initiate legal proceedings against him or anyone responsible including reporting the case to some human right activist.

Lawyers in da house, do I have a case here?

^^^^^^^ Pls if u know the answer tell us. it is very important I know cos I am still pondering over it.

I never proved u right cos I already mentioned some incidence that have been happening and how he has been blackmailing emotionally, saying I have to confess wot I have been  doing blah blah blah. I didn't paint a picture that the home was so perfect b4 this happened.

Didn't just start calling u names, u started it first and I gave your words back to u. that am having crisis in my home didn't warrant u to calling me a shameless harlot. couldn't just come to terms as to why u were rainning insults on me

I only opened up in NL cos it's internet, dont ever discuss details of my marital affairs with anyone otherwise I would have long left except my mum who knows few and how, my husband will always call to her. If I had told her about the STD no matter how supportive she has been, she would have personally come to drag me out of the marriage.

Thanks for your contributions anyways

@chaircover and all pls I might not be able to answer ur question cos it's almost 5pm and i got to pick up baby
will continue 2morrow.


after dropping off my uncle husband came to my office begging, whaling and crying that he is sorry, that he needs help and total deliverance, that he feels something is wrong somewhere and prolly under a curse and that he wants to get to the root of this. That he feels a bit relieved cos this is an avenue 4 him to actually get help now that the whole world is aware.

Nlers are bashers, no pros am cool with it pls make it constructive

OAM4J:
I think she was referring to the house help.

Yes the house girl

OAM4J:
think she and the husband are right now busy making the second baby. . . give them some more time.

Chiddysville:
that's nice

I don enter wahala ooooooo Una no kill me
na so marriage be, Now I know it's just too overrated and am missing spinsterhood

chaircover:
OK Damysa. I appreciate your honesty so Lets break this down so I can fully understand this. This  is not a court of law, so if you don't want to answer any of these questions, i titally understand. What I am trying to achieve here is to get you thinking about this a bit more deeply.

1. Why have you forgiven your husband so easily?

2. Would you have forgiven so easily if it were a stranger that did it

3. Do you think your husband is mentally challenged (no disrespect)?

4. Your husband gave you an STD, which you treated because you were able to identify the symptoms and could take yourself to the doctor for medical treatment.  if he was molesting your daughter, then its possible that he has/or about to give your daughter the same STD. My question is  how can she ask for medical help at that age

5. In the whole wide world, whose job is it the most to look after and protect this child?

6. Do you think your husband needs help?

7. Do you think that you need help

8. Worst case scenario, what could happen to you if you were leave this man?

9. If you happened to live in a civilised country, what would have happened to this child? will either you or your husband have access to this child?

10. Lets assume you are still married to this man when your child grows up. What do you think she will say to you both?

11. if your husband can do this to his own child, which child is safe in the neighbourhood?

Just a few questions to ponder on. I know that your quest to remain married is playing a large role in all of this, and you know Me; I always advocate marriage but lets face it, is this man worth being called a husband and father?

[b]OK Damysa. I appreciate your honesty so Lets break this down so I can fully understand this. This is not a court of law, so if you don't want to answer any of these questions, i titally understand. What I am trying to achieve here is to get you thinking about this a bit more deeply.[/b]Chaircover even though u bash me I accept it, cos its constructive, honestly I dont even believe somethings myself. I will answer your questions with all sincerity cos it will do me a lot of good than harm.

1. Why have you forgiven your husband so easily?
I forgave him cos he openly said he was sorry and family urged me to let go and have been pleading with everyone since. I only forgave the cheating and despoiling aspect cos the girl in question has forgiven him openly too. He has become a shadow of himself since this matter came up and have been remoseful.

My husband is here in my right now, dont know wot he wants, will back  come to continue,

will be right back

Yes Chaircover, am that same lady I didnt want to come out as damysa with this story after wot happened before cos very body here will asked me to leave. I decided to post as damysa so some people will know where am coming from. U can tell from the ID that it was just registered that day I made the post. I wanted fresh ideas without relating it to the former.

well as unbelievable as this might sound it is true. As I write my husband is with my oldest uncle here begging
Wot do I stand to gain by telling cock and bull story, dont I have work?? I am being paid to render services in my organisation wot time do I have to be cooking up stories on the internet for people who dont even know me.

mutter:
Well stone me if you want to but something here is very fishy.
I am a mother and this simply hurts me so bad reading this.
Sorry but I have to tell you this either you are fabricating some story here or otherwise you must be a very irresponsible Mother that needs to be charged along with her husband.
When you have even the slightest susison of abuse you go the the Doctors and the cops and all other organisations. It is not in your hands to negotiate when your husband sees his daughter or for you to forgive him etc
That child is a person under the law and deserves to be protected and you are doing no such thing. If I had my way you needed to be sentenced.
God girl are you a mother
If my husband where to do such a thing to my baby, God forbid!!! I don`t give a damn if he has been bleeping all the girls in the world. I do not have time for village meetings specially not with househelps family.
This would be only about my daughter. How can you be making plans with a househelp etc,
Youneed forgivness for being a criminal or a liar.

It's so good to know how mothers feel about such brutality and the extent they can go in fighting for their own.
Remember I was shocked and confused, couldnt think straight at that time, so many ideas racing down my spine all at the same time. I honestly didnt want to do smthing I will regret later. I eventually squashed my plans with h.girl cos it wasnt necessary. The only action I took then was to come to Nairaland

Pls note that I accused my husband despoiling my baby in the heat of this crisis didnt catch him red handed, I said that in one of my comments. And who told u I have not taken her to the doctor. How can I call cops on someone am not sure about, only a daft will do such. u called me a liar or criminal, that I fabricated the story, well u are entitled to your own opinion. I couldnt be surprised if u are that way.

@ALL
I dont wanna call the cops cos he can bribe his way through if its actually true. I know where am from and my family is prepared to deal with him squarely. It happend to someone in my area last year, the next day the man was back home as though nothing happened. It shouldnt just be between me and him in Lagos alone.

Anyways he's admitted to despoiling the girl in the present of people and have been pleading on his kneels. I cant just imagine how he stoop so low and crash landed himself, the truth is he has lost respect. Though I have have forgiven him these are hard times for me,
Baby's school have been changed

Be sure to get to know the root of the problem before going ahead with the marraige plans
men could be very gullable, his enemy of a mother could turn out to be his best friends 2morrow and u will be
in the middle of it all.

Be careful

Hello Mr Kaita, dont just worry about any threat you recieve, if any body KAITA you, KAITARIAZE the person too, Man no go vex KAITARIZATION continues

Ha ha ha with all these stories emanating from the french squad, one would consider Nigeria players SAINTS. Don't think our boys can condescend to all these bullshirt.

from Konti

loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool

kaitaraization:

Narialanders here comes Kaita's brother, he is an NL member and leaves in Abuja

@Konti can u tell us wot made ur brother acted the way he did? hope u see wot u people's kaitarization has done to the country. thank u oooooooooh

Quote from: sealworld on Today at 10:12:44 AM

For Saying such against Eyeama, you are not only short-sighted but suffering from a combination of two serious brain infection of all time Kaitalocosis and Mutallabsis, Eyeama who is highly rated and have saved the collapse defense structure from goals. the lazy chickens played well untill your uncle KAITA messed up. Therefore he should take the full weight of is dubious error .

You have problem and your problem is the inabiity to read and understand simple English and the inability to think on your own. I said Vicent doesn't deserve to play for the Eagles as he deserve something better than the Eagles, is that too hard to understand?

It is difficult to understand/comprehend because your English construction made it so. u sounded like the Nigerian team is too highly rated for a small Eyeama to keep for. I understood it anyways

lollllllllllllll canuck ooooooooh go man go, u are da bomb I feel u

Apology my foot, I thought they undergo behavioural training on the pitch.
Kaita as you have KAITA naija,  I will also KAITA u at the airport, just dont come home oooooo lol