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Frankdamaxx:
Those are really wide tyres.

Yeah, I'm greedy like that.

Hi all, I need some help with buying these tyres; sizes 305/65r17 or 305/70r17. No specific brand. Anyone with info on these I'd greatly appreciate it. Thanks a million in advance.

I think the song is good. So let's make it 2 hits out of 5. The video is also hot. D'banj is an enigma. He might go down, but he's never out for the count. Props on this one though. And I'm not even a fan.

Are you people serious? I do not see any assembly line? I see pictures of a new engine and a bunch of complete cars, but no car being assembled. Please provide actual pictures of cars, especially Volkswagen and not hyundai or Ashok-India vehicles, being assembled.

EMANY01:
And the filth gathered well after May 29th i suppose......?

Yes it did.

TheDauraMallam:
People like you are the reason Nigeria is the way it is.

Enough of all these tribalistic sensations.

Be your brothers keeper,_fucktard.

He is correct! What is he doing with Ogun or Osun state when he is representing Brass and Co? It's not tribalism, he should be focused.
What will he do when they pay him the allowance next year?
Will he go again on twitter and announce which state he will pay to next year?
Or will he keep quiet and hope that Nigerians have forgotten that he received it again?
Why not rally people against receiving the allowance in the first place?
Nigerians love to run fire-brigades! smh!!

O dependuru. That's igbo for "well it depends

ozoigbondu:
"God helps those who help themselves!"
Hezekiah 6:1

There is no Book of Hezekiah in the Bible. Lies you Nigerians spread without checking facts. *smh*

andromida: Madness of a raging woman? The point i am making is who grows up first? They can do why can't she do this, why can't he do that, go round in circles and tie themselves up in knots, They can do the blame game and conclude that marriage is endurance and very hard or he can grow up rather than wait for her to grow up. Being flawed is no excuse to maintain bad attitude, he does not need to carry the flaws for life he can outgrow the flaws so whats wrong with that? He need not be responsible for her flaws but he can be responsible for his own. He can be the change agent in the marriage what he needs to put aside is his Ego for his own sake not even her.

I hear you sister, I hear you, but e no easy, make I no lie you. And thanks to troy20 who's playing homo sapien's advocate, I see you bro! It's not easy (I've said that before ). It's not my ego that's bruised making me say this repeatedly, it's the notion that we've been here so many times before. I've tried the talking, the big fights, the screaming, the bigger man, the silent treatment and back again. Maybe I'm not very patient and I'm looking for a quick fix, but it's 10 years now, how much longer do I have to wait? Truth be told, it's better to be hurt while doing the right thing, than wrong, so for my sake I'd better give it another shot. Thanks!

@andromida, thanks for your post, but once again the assumptions, the clichės et al, it always comes to this. I never accepted being the baby or expected to be one of the kids. Here's what I expected: I expected to love my wife and I expected my wife to respect me and be submissive. Did you read where I wrote that I talked to her about the way she spoke to me? So I'm a baby because I realize that talking to my wife is nearly an exercise in futility but somehow it's normal for her not to realize that I'm hurting even when I've explained to her in plain terms that I didn't like what she did?

Then there's the talk about ego. Ego is always spoken of as if it applies only to the male gender, like women don't have an ego. I wish people would live under my roof and see what I go through and come back to this forum to talk big. I'm all for advice, but people should empathize, try to see things from people's views. Maybe my post wasn't clear enough or explicit and your conclusions were drawn from my words, but please let me make it clearer that at no point did I state that I wanted to be mummied by my wife. I simply stated that if people are willing to excuse women for being childish, nags or insensitive (I just picked this one up from your post), then men should be excused if they sometimes act like babies or have ego-trips. But that's not my case here.

A lot of people on here get it, some others don't. I actually stumbled on this post while googling this subject. As I speak, I am 'keeping malice' with my wife. I hear all the names people like us have been called, but I honestly believe that this is the safest way to resolve a problem without getting violent (and I have in the past). I don't claim to be a saint. I've done all things possible wrong in my marriage, but I refuse to take the entire blame here.

The latest incident stemmed from a simple conversation I was having with my wife, while driving to the shop, which degenerated to her raining insults on me. I parked the car and asked her in different vocal tones, why she felt the need to insult me over nothing. I told her she needed to change. I started the car and drove home. She kept quiet while in the car and declined to continue the shopping. Next thing my wife came talking to me as if nothing had happened between us, complaining of finger aches. I was shocked! No apology, no response, just a simple act as if the whole incident hadn't occurred. I responded to her, told her sorry, but I did so in cold tones, to let her know that I was still upset with her. Next day, it was my wife ignoring me and keeping the 'malice'. Now, someone in this forum would like me to walk up to her and talk to her about the sad way she is behaving again?

It's been 1 week now, and she wished me a happy new year, to which I grudgingly responded, but she doesn't acknowledge me otherwise. She is yet to apologize and she has gone further to tell lies to who would listen about why we are quarreling.

I'm not here to say that malice works, neither am I here to sing its praises, but please tell me how to communicate with a woman that you cannot communicate with? A woman who finds it so easy to verbally abuse you at the slightest bit of tension? I have a short temper, and I can get very angry, but ignoring her and walking away has been a safe strategy for quite a while. Women always ask men to be men, tell me what is stopping a whole host of women in our generation from being women? Do some of them even know what that means these days? When we start these discussions, some ladies quickly push the 'be a man' card, at the same time, they quickly refuse to be mothers or submissive, all in the bid to be enlightened. If I am not a man because I choose to keep to myself when my wife isn't mature enough to accept that she did wrong, what does that make her?

What pisses me off with some posters is that they are quick to call people names, yet neglecting the shortcomings of those who provoke this sort of behaviors in people like us. Someone here says we should excuse women for being naggers, but they cannot stand men who are 'naturally babies'. I love my wife, and I would do anything to keep her happy all the time, but I cannot continue to endure the verbal abuse I receive, in private and in public. I end my tirade with a reminder that I haven't always been an angel, which should show that I have a sense of when I'm at fault.

Obasanjo cannot do jack! Well...he can but they might just move it to South Africa or something. Mnet is a satellite/cable company with roots in SA/US. I believe they held a party for Bayo on his return from BBA. Hmmm, I think OBJ sent him a congratulatory message or something...

Thanks Bagoma! Nice issues up in here.

Who says Big Brother is about sex?

It's the sort of people in big brother that make the show what it is. If we are so uppity about how morally conservative Nija is, then why don't we wait until the morally conservative housemates go in and start holding fellowships on the show?

The show to me is a no holds barred reflection of the society. BB Africa showed everyone how diverse Africa was. Bayo didn't exactly engage in most of the acts until everyone else rubbed off on him. Plus he showed all of us how foolishly proud most Nigerians are.

We're worried about shower scenes. Those scenes are at early hours of the day, so hey if you catch yourself watching a shower scene, you have no one else to blame. TURN THE CHANNEL! That's what a remote control is for!! Big brother is a reality show. Sex, nudity, violence, joy & pain are realities, get over it!!!

Hi Y'all, newbie here.

Submit a paycheck to your husband? sounds a bit extreme but not out of place. Let your husband know how much you earn? I think should be applauded. I started showing my wife my payslip (not to be confused with submiting my paycheck to her, though I don't even see a thing wrong with except that I'm currently taking my lovely wife on a course on personal finance right now which I believe she'll come out in flying colours), and after a while, she got tired of wanting to know how much, as long as stuff came out from it.

What I see most of the time with womenfolk is akin to the Queer guys fighting for gay rights. A woman wants her husband to share in the domestic activities in the house, but she also wants to (re)define the word "submission". It wasn't until I got married that I realised what a bitter taste that word left in their mouths.

For the Christians amongst us, somewhere in the Bible it says "submit to your Husbands as unto the Lord". I'd like at this point to say "Nuff Said!", but I just have a little more to say. Really, now more than ever women, in their quest to establish their equality to men are losing their God-given strength and real power over men. The strength of a woman lies in her soft tongue and submissive spirit and not in a contentious spirit or harsh tongue (or the straight fist, either).

I'd daresay the issue with the paycheck couple probably wasn't about the paycheck in the first place.