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supersystemsng:
I wonder tire o..I no sabi sey yu be Area...

Anyway when dem rush go carry, you go see them with one cloth dey form corporate centre left right and centre...May God help all of us..rule, have a relationship, and hustle along the side, when finances rise, marry your chic...Shikena...Want a happy home, try to fix finances first, otherwise you hear them calling their wives witch...When such cases reach me, i ask how many business did you do that failed to qualify your chic as a witch...and the typical response i get is a dumbfounded look...

When they make money it's their own, when they are broke, the chic is a witch and her family low lives...

you no ask the evidence of witchcraft?

Na them dey blame their wives and transfer aggression on their wives.

Them full Lagos. Any small thing them go dey beat their wives till them enter kirikiri for murder.

He who lives without a plan,plans to fail

supersystemsng:
120k is cool for miniflat in some areas.

30k Monthly feeding

15k Miscellaneous

20k Monthly Savings

165K DECENT

Exactly and I'm talking about Lagos

folakemigeh:
Mediocrity at work... SMH

mediocrity or imbecilic brain you mean?

supersystemsng:
A man without a stable income should not consider marriage...We've been there, we know what we're saying..before we started looking at the opposite gender, some stability was reached...young boys and ...

when it comes to v@gyn@ and brez I don't know why men lack common sense,but they'll be quick to refer to women as fish brains

Vagyna wey you go fok taya wey your preek go red and refuse to stand again when money come.

We know dbanj story for vagyna matter,when money come e fok red white black yellow,anything, no be him taya last last kukuma go marry quietly?

vislabraye:
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The Op did not factor in transportation.
This post is unrealistic although the Op means well. 30k a month is not enough for me talk less of 20k for a family. Na suffer head be dat. Abi which house person fir rent with 20k a month you come talk say make him pay tithe.

a decent and conducive House for starters is 120k for a couple o and that's just a neat and habitable self con .so op supporters respect yourself.marriage is not your priority now if you're earning 20k

supersystemsng:
Sir jobs maybe inexistent but needs will never be unlimited in this life...Sir, hustle, hustle, a man should hustle Sir, we are all not there but should have a sharp focus on where one's headed

exactly. He should hustle and FORGET ABOUT MARRIAGE FOR NOW WHICH IS MY POINT

supersystemsng:
Obasanjo at 58 had just 19,000naira in his bank account

obasanjo was from a poor family and made-up his mind not to ever be poor or let his children experience poverty

supersystemsng:
Well, as of 2003 earning an income at that young age, i wear slipper go market items, why can't men wake up and get the hustle on..which one is 20kper month

it's not as easy as that.jobs are not as easy as buying indomie

supersystemsng:
bros i'm 30 and not married... don't mind the f00ls, let them jump in and see if marriage is a joke.

abi. When I hear that 30 shades,I'm like so? So what.

The only thing you should be pained by is when they say no wonder you're 30 and haven't built a house,no wonder you're 30 and you don't have a big booming business

Obasajo was a head of state at 39,so what if you're 30 and unmarried? Ehen?

supersystemsng:
I started paying house rent at 19-20...I wonder why men of this generation won't stand up to take a stand...

times have changed.20k in the late 80s or early 90s isn't the same again. The challenges of youths in the late 80s and early 90s isn't the same again.house rent in the late 80s and early 90s isn't the same.we live in more perilous, dangerous and unpredictable times now

Stop comparing when you were 19 then and now

HMZi:
and thats exactly why u r 30 and *unmarried*.. grow sense

is marriage an achievement? What happens after the wedding?

No wonder you're 30 and unmarried is a marriage pressure line going stale.my father will say even if you're 40 and not financially ready don't enter. Marriage and wedding aren't the same after wedding nobody go look yours side again including the marriage mockers you'll live with your decisions and start paying bills till you die

AreaFada2:
Fact is millions of Nigerians have no steady legit 20k per month.

So the write up is very useful. Even many NLers talking still rely on parents, siblings, bfs, sugar daddies for 5 or 10k. Nor be 9ja.
In difficult times, managing the little you have is as important as looking for avenues to increase income.

You think unemployed men in their 30s & 40s are not shagging women, getting them preggy & living together/marrying?

Of course they are. It might not be what we deem as ideal. But it is simple reality.

it is better,infact Its a better alternative to rely on your parents than enter a marriage when you're not financially stable

supersystemsng:
Yeah, that's what i do, seasonal friends...

Back to marriage, how much do you think a couple should earn, the guy and the female to have a decent marriage

minimum of 150k for a start

And that's after you have made investments that's already yielding better profits o,no be change

supersystemsng:
This is a wicked descriptive...which is why ladies should look for a guy with potentials before marriage... if one can't save 500k in a year now, under this current dispensation then we have problems o...the economic situation of the country isn't smiling and the picture you painted is how many marriages look like..

A friend of mine will say, after them don sell to-to finish, them go use the devil money open wine shop sit down in front like holy holy...

that's because women know their time in the market is short.after they use Toto sell market,they use the dividends of the Toto to open wine store

There's a Yoruba celebrity,I don't want to mention her name that dumped her poor husband and married a sugar daddy of course she knew the politician will not marry her or be with her forever, they both "HELPED" themselves, after the politician had his fill dumped her and she used the money she got from that politician to open a intimacy gadget shop.

People were telling her to go back to her husband, she said the guy is still poor and struggling, he has nothing to offer her and her mouth is bigger,she's tired of "God will do it man" she wants "God has performed a miracle man" or no man at all.

supersystemsng:
I still haven't recovered fully..No enemy in life like old time friends...I change address easily thesedays, phone numbers, social media accounts...they can rot in hell for all i care

lol.na person wey know you in and out,know your story or history dey do person the most.that's why this days people don't have friends for a long time. Just seasonal friends for a situation, event or period of time

Benita27:
You're right, for those who expect others to fix their mess for them. Going into marriage with 20k salary, you'll definitely take loans in order to catch up with bills.

I'm not surprised people support this 'cause they think marriage is a walk in the park.

no it's not because they think marriage is a walk in the park,it's because misery loves company. A miserable or struggling Person wants others to be like him and join in the patching up here and there they call marriage

supersystemsng:
I learnt the hard way. They killed my biz and i almost died. Now no one knows where I stay, my number, my picture, my email, nothing....we don't have friends anymore, just leechers everywhere...funny enough if one still goes out of range, they employ local tactics...

hahahaah you make yourself elusive. They only see you from afar but cannot get to you.you make sure you have no old time friends that's too close to you because na old time friends dey betray the most

shaybebaby:
I would have given my 2 cents but you are throwing down all the cents this topic requires. Any thing I say would be double post.

I don't get your point ma?

supersystemsng:
Lol... Chai Chai Chai. you're cracking me up..I don't fall into that regimen sha...You reminded me of my friend's fiancee who asked me for sex a few times 6 months to her wedding, also telling me to propose to her and she would leave the guy.I got so mad, i quit the fellowship we both beloned so my brother would have peace of mind.. How can ladies be so...?

if your wife has been struggling with you and has barely benefited 1k from you and has been supporting you without benefit, the only benefit she has gotten from you is sex and then someone is flashing 500k at her and is ready to open a big supermarket for her,money wey she never see for her life and the man says I'll give you if you're ready for me to fok you in the presence of your husband and she looks front, she looks back,she looks at how many years she has been in that marriage and the guy has never bought 150 naira pant for her and someone is flashing 500k,you think she will not willingly and happily fling her thighs open and give him different styles in the presence of the husband?

Don't you know its very easy to snatch a poor Mans wife and disrespect a poor man and also get away with it?

Any kind of egbin can tale a poor man.the nickname of poor married men in Yoruba is "oloriburuku" meaning an unfortunate man

Anybody has a right to call you that if you're poor.that's why you hear anybody calling okada men "oloriburuku" or touts

supersystemsng:
Hahaha my childhood friends, you reminded me of them today! They go about life carelessly, when one plans his own life, they start going diabolic, baba he did me this, she did me that...looking for how to pull one down

na you go stay away from them.if they live in Kaduna,you live in lagos ,cut all access that they have to get to you.if they consider how much they'll spend to cone to your house,they'll hands off your matter and forget about you

supersystemsng:
Chai Chai Chai, you've finished Nigerians. Jesu

its just the fact.if you're not careful sef they'll take your wife and kids away from you with money

There's a Yoruba proverb that says with money you can do anything on this earth, with money you can break the law,you can also sleep with a poor man's wife in his presence,impregnate her and dump money on his chest

supersystemsng:
In a society or generation where compromise is seen as weakness and is taught so, it's what is expected. Too many ladies are filled with ...can't find the word, it reaches to the heavens. Their ego is just way too much, bad enough when they start reaching 40, the voodoo now starts to clear from their eyes, alas, time is almost out... For me, i believe in compromise, i can't marry a lady that won't learn the act of compromise...

no woman in this generation especially when She's well educated and well traveled is ready to compromise.. Once something isn't in their own pace time or convenience off they go

Like you don't know?

Don't even let me talk about pressure from see what Daniella wore to that party me too I want to wear it

Social media nko,TV and magazines nko?

HMZi:
all am saying is even rich folks have shitty marriages..money can neva guarantee marital bliss..20k salary uh!!! i av seen marriages that survive on less and bro they r happy...

every marriage has problems. The problems in rich people's marriages is usually infidelity or lack of time for the wife or kids

But poor man's woes in marriage is more than the rich

Pikin go sick,no money to take the child to the hospital, it's either the child's sickness degenerates till she dies or they live with the sickness for life

A poor man in marriage cannot eat what he likes,na management things.na that Kain marriage wey wife go buy egg on credit and then they will cut the egg into 4 parts for the wife and children

When your friends invite you for wedding or social function shame no go gree you go.there was one poor ma I. OUr neighborhood lamenting that his cousin did wedding and he wasn't invited.I asked the younger brother why he wasn't invited, he said he is a nobody, we don't want someone who will come an embarrass us,a poor man is an embarrassment. I got the message and when he asked me how far I didn't even know how to put it to him,I just said go and ask your brother

Bottomline is poor men aren't respected at home or outside

Your life is miserable and no one wants to be associated with you

The poverty extends to your children because anybody can bully rape or assault them and you cannot do anything about it because you don't have money and so your children are vulnerable to the wicked elements of this world

That's reality.com

Benita27:
What's more worrisome about this write-up is the idiots who liked it?. WTF, even as a single girl. My TP to work and other expenses within a month is more than 20k.

#mediocres.

do you now know the funny thing about it.when they rush into marriage with the meagre income they have without proper planning, vision and foresight they'll start to envy the ones who didn't rush into marriage to plan and invest in their lives and then be stalking them about to give them money,if those ones refuse,enemity will start. That's when you'll hear,she's proud,he's selfish, he's full of himself

supersystemsng:
Maybe we'll both disagree on this part. I agree with your father and tag with him on this. We have become so in love with ourselves we can't bear each other. Check the comments on the romance section. Check the contents of our music and movies, guys don't trust ladies, ladies won't compromise. It takes compromise to live with a person for a lifetime , a skill modern teachers tell you not to do and the society says is maga. No marriage can ever last without some form of compromise at some point and our ladies these days have become somewhat cold, the guys are write-offs , under-developed and lack stability. I wished i could paint a good picture about marriage in Nigeria but sadly i can't...

I teamed up with some old friends in ministry and one dude i used to know as super-spiritual told me this, only three out of ten marriages in our generation will stand...

Press toothpaste from middle, war breaks out, come in after 7pm it's a war, say this statement, you're hurting me. Say it the other way, you're anti-women and a woman hater, we've become too knowledgeable its now wounding us, yet we go on hurting with being single, can't tolerate people and want to be married...


And that first statement of yours, many marriages are acting, or two hommies leaving together forgetting the essence aka substance of marriage, the soul is gone, the shell is only what's left...

May God help us

which kind of life is that? I cannot sit with a person I cannot stand for less than 15 minutes how much more living in the same house with the person

The last time I and someone (a roommate)stayed together I was 23,several years back.we couldn't stand each other because we saw things differently and did things differently

When I want to bath I will tell her to remove her bucket because the bathroom was quite small she won't answer me, she will use me and be watching film so I will bath and some of the water I use in bathing will splash into her bucket.

We pay for things together and we're still not best of friends.the only time we talk is when we have a visitor

Even despite the fact that we both contribute money to pay for gas and eat at at the same time, we both know we can't stand each other

Some other times I want to watch MTV,she wants to watch E! We also disagreed until she decided to buy hrt own TV and also connect it and we're paying for the same dstv o.


That's exactly how some marriages are.no one is ready to bend for the other and compromise for the other and that's me living with my own gender o

When she sweeps she sweeps only her own side and has her own bin she empties

Now we don't stay together though but we're still frenemies, we say hi to each other when we see.we're even friends on social media and attend owanmbes together but we both know how we feel about each other for the short time we lived together

lloyds:
In the days of Oyedepo and Fela Durotoye, Nigeria is not as hard and cracked as it is now.
I stay in self contain in Lagos now, and News bill alone for last month was over N9,000. Despite the fact that I don't watch TV, don't even stay in the house often.
This is not realistic bro.

exactly. 20k is barely enough for a spinster or bachelor how much more a couple.

Gerrard59:
Honestly, Sir, I'm surprised this is coming from you.

It's not sustainable and it further perpetuates poverty. Yes, things are hard in the country but people should not increase the "hardness".

and then multiplying their woes by bringing children into it

supersystemsng:
God bless you for that decision. They hastily push one into error. Many marriages around i see are nothing but jokes... May God help this generation. I met a childhood friend who stayed in another city in my street recently, i asked guy what's up, he said he was running away from the house that with him being away the landlord won't disturb his family..He started lamenting. this dude was from an Okay family...he ended up his discussion with guy don't go into marriage without 150k per month steady except you want ups and downs... it depends on individuals involved and the I.Q of the guy but in Nigeria today both husband and wife should be able to make 150k monthly to kickstart a marriage..the expenses isn't a joke... feeding,accommodation,transport,cabletv, PHCN,water,family,shop or business..men, all of this on a paltry sum...chai..May God help us get it right..

exactly my point. These days the liabilities of marriage is more than it's profit.
I see marriages of my friends,I see through their acting that all is fine. I was shocked to my bones when my own father could open his own mouth and say you children of this generation are complaining about marriage,even our own generation we patch our marriage, we only tolerate and adjust to each other in marriage.many times we can't stand each other but when we remember what society will say we will just stay put


I didn't even bother giving him a reply, I just stylishly excused myself

Marriage in Africa is extremely overhyped.they paint it as an achievement before you enter, after entering the reality hits you and there's nowhere to go

[quote author=cuteguy123 post=59679833][/quote]the better for you.broke ass leading other gullible fools like you into penury

supersystemsng:
Lol..people will force you to marry but run away when expenses come..Lol..no be today

when people started pressurizing my 25 year old brother to marry,na insult I use chase them comot. Them no dey use eye see a young person in the prime of his life trying to carve a niche for himself, the next thing is marriage, just because he finished from law school you didn't even talk about how he will get a job establish himself financially, you're talking about marriage. Na you go help am pay children's school fees, na so all of them talk to their legs

Maxvasia:
Thank you very much. These people forget that life is not telemundo. How often do we even practice what we preach? 20k a month and the first thing u think of is marriage cos "age is not on ur side" .

what is the use of marrying early and cannot afford to buy what you want, will you even benefit from the advantages of early marriage at the end of the day? Without money?