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supersystemsng:
You're right...But i perceive a marriage with a difference and that from understanding these failures, the ones coming behind will pursue a different cause to create THE IDEAL MARRIAGE...I am hopeful that why all these gloom exist in marriages,there's hope for good relationships without storms

lmao.there's nothing like ideal marriage and when you're referring to ideal marriage, you're talking about Utopian marriages....hello?that is not realistic.....all of us don't even have the perfect life,how much more an ideal marriage.

See henn marriage this days is now A PERSONAL CHOICE. If it pays you or works for you,fine,if not stay single and live the life you want to live without marital or societal inhibitions.more so you know if you're a married woman in Africa there's a limit of things you can do and where you can go,but a single woman and a single mother has freedom from societal expectations.the only thing they'll be saying in her mind is " she's a prostitute" that's why she doesn't want to marry as in the case of Genevieve, toke makinwa or Rita Dominic but no one dares says it to their faces

supersystemsng:
But why you are 100% correct...why don't you also see that there's this one person you'll click with, and it would feel so perfect...

I believe in exclusiveness and i know there are relationships that don't follow this principle...

We shouldn't make relationships look hopeless,dull and terrible...perhaps we need a change of how we see it..Don't you think ?

there are sometimes you need your quiet moment not because you don't like your spouse but you just feel like being left alone and secondly sometimes you can have work related challenges or issues and the only time you can get ideas,answers and inspiration is at your quiet time when everywhere is silent.

Now realistically speaking, marriage doesn't give you such privilege because you might be in the room resting and your children are screaming, playing around the house restlessly,fighting with each other or burning something in the kitchen or your wife is screaming at the top of her voice shouting at the kids or watching TV with the volumes up

When you're married like I said earlier you don't have a space

supersystemsng:
This one worries me....

This days its 80%of wives that pay house rent, water bills,NEPA bills,children school fees and all.the Fathers own is to read news paper, shout is my food ready,go out and watch football with the boys in viewing centre,argue about politics at the beer parlor after work,then go home to sleep and keep repeating the cycle Monday down to Sunday all day long


They dress up hawk lame gists around the neighborhood, return at home at night like they've been at work all day...

that's exactly what operates in African families and when the wife protests or complains ,of course she will get the beating of her life and get blamed for nagging and she will also be reminded of the great privilege she has of being married

I even forgot the flirting with bartender girls at the beer parlor or club girls.my dear married women in today's world are not any better than single mothers.the only difference between them is for the married woman,there's a man living with her and legally fokeen her,the single mom is living without any man and still fokeen albeit with men of her choice

So there's basically no difference between the two

This girl sef

So you too want to eat out of the boxing cake

supersystemsng:
This is a bitter picture of too many modern marriages

that's why I'm always amused at the when will she marry crew.the ones inside are living to pay bills and keep the children and family running, the partners barely have time to talk to each other and when there's a little time left they only fok,they don't make love.too many work ,children and family responsibilities barely makes them ever have time even for their individual lives or have a quiet time to think and meditate alone

I agree with the addage that says the best time of your life is your single hood as a man or woman.the moment you're married your life,time,money,resources,privacy and energy is no longer yours

No married person will ever tell a spinster or bachelor this,all they'll be saying is "go and marry", "when are we coming to eat rice".na only to put up appearances and be forming Mr and Mrs outside.

This days its 80%of wives that pay house rent, water bills,NEPA bills,children school fees and all.the Fathers own is to read news paper, shout is my food ready,go out and watch football with the boys in viewing centre,argue about politics at the beer parlor after work,then go home to sleep and keep repeating the cycle Monday down to Sunday all day long

MadManTalking:
But Wizkid said she has a smelly kpekus.

However, can't remember the last time I watched any other tv except Sony Max and CNN.

bitter and pained soul

Fathers are becoming irrelevant in a family

Out of every 10families,8 are single moms,the 2 still with husbands are just housemates fronting as fathers in the family, the wives aren't any better than the single moms in reality because even the wives are the ones paying all the bills and playing the father and mother roles

This days mothers are now raising their children to live successfully with or without a husband

agrovick:
I found it difficult keeping a straight face while reading this.

Have a good night sleep awon eyan dangote

o yes,I surely will when my son is a billionaire. I can sleep in Germany and wake up in dubai

Eat breakfast in Saudi Arabia ,lunch in south Africa and shit in London

maasoap:
That's it. Not disappointing. Now, go to the nearest bank to you and collect money for being abusive. You want to drag me down to your level? Ko lee work.

which level?

Shaki ena ma'n shey bi ora

Broke ass oshi.frustrated soul to'n wa eni kunra

maasoap:
That's it. Not disappointing. Now, go to the nearest bank to you and collect money for being abusive. You want to drag me down to your level? Ko lee work.

which level?

Wassshhhhhhhh

maasoap:
I don't think this topic mentioned any individual in particular. It is a general advice, no one was named. That's why I said those who will do introspection will do it.

ok

agrovick:
Hahahaha, you are an interesting one.

Just have mercy on the people around you

yes o do that often

maasoap:
You're too abusive for my liking. I'm not surprised though, your default setting is "attack".

Mr eranko you're noticed,now run along and join your colleagues in the zoo

Them no scatter her vagina?see as she dey smile

ecoeco:
...

So in summary

1. U ar 38 yrs old

2. U got into school without any handwork or stable source of income nd dropped out

3. Knowing ur predicament u still had d strength nd pr*ck to pregnant ur wife 1...2....3...4...5 times

4. Instead of u to go nd serve nd learn a hand work u decided to borrow 50,000 probably to keep up with a standard of life dat u can't afford

5. From d story its also obvious dat u wife is also financially useless but can open her legs wide enough to conceive 5 children

6 In simple English 2 adults cannot pay 50,000


MY PROFESSIONAL ADVICE :

Both of you should commit suicide nd donate ur kids to the orphanage home


#Eco99#

maasoap:
You post comments like your blood is boiling.
Radarada.

your blood will boil.oniranu

agrovick:
Bwahahahaha, somebody must have chopped enough beating as a child

o yes.my primary school teachers and mom told me I was very rebellious, tough,hyper active energetic and aggressive in class hence I was beaten

maasoap:
If you leave everyone to continue making mistakes they're making in their lives, this world wouldn't as liveable as it is supposed to be. Haven't you ever been called to attention at one point or the other? Do you insult people who called your attention by asking them what is their business with your life? Going extreme in doing things is not limited to being SU. You get my drift?

I get but the world Will have been easier and less chaotic if everyone minded Their gadamn business. However its a different case if the individual asked for your advise

And yes its only the people I have personal relationships with that have called my attention to something I'm not doing right and I've also called the attention of some others that are my personal people to their notice but to be dishing out unsolicited advise or be bothered about who is not married at 40 because she's too churchy is not my damn business so I care less if she marries at 15 years old or 70

I wasn't born to monitor the marital status of anybody. I have more important things to do with my time and life

maasoap:
All ladies falls into one category or the other. The problem only arises when extremism sets in. Let those who wants to learn, it is not your fight.

who dey follow you fight before?

Katikati

agrovick:
Not important, all I know is you are a feisty one. Your mix of Yoruba & English be bursting my brain

You aren't like this in real life, are you

I am and worse.I drop it like its hot

maasoap:
Don't tell me that some people tend to go extreme in what they do or believe in.
If you want examples, they're limitless.

is it not their life for goodness sakes? Is it your vagina that will wrinkle?

Which one be your own? face your life..is that too hard?

agrovick:
Ijongbon fun ra re

who start am

memories1:
My dear, don't pay much attention to what you read online. Gone are the days when this section of nairaland had a higher number of experienced and reasonable people. There are still a whole lot of good, deliciously imperfect men out there who don't believe in all these crappy double standards. Most comments here are best regarded as a form of comic relief.

well true.you are right

BrainnewsNg:
Mummy Dangote today I decide to talk about the "extreme" born again

which one be extreme and unextreme born again? Again o!

Nairaland ,a land of all sorts

sinaj:
wrong example. You go to a hospital when you are sick, but I dnt go to church coz m sick nd need healing. I go to church to worship him and serve him not because of any pastor.

don't deceive yourself

alBHAGDADI:
pls, run away from such church cos his false doctrines will one day sink into you and destroy you.

God can't allow a false prophet to head his church. So, if your church has a false prophet, then the church in its entirety is false. FLEE

exactly and the worshippers will bear the brunt of contamination, heresies and blasphemies

sinaj:
I go to church to serve God nd not because of any prophet or pastor.

LMAOOOO.this is like going to a fake hospital and saying you're not going there because of the doctor's expertise or because he's a quack doctor but you're going there to be treated for your ailment

BrainnewsNg:
This isn't an insult dear but facts

LMAOOOO.facts indeed.what's the empirical source of your shallow analysis?

Kati kati

Redoil:
Always lookin 4 ways to insult born again

they bash all categories of women because that's their own source of joy derivation

OrdercityWeb:
Kikikikiki.......you're very correct.

Double standards everywhere

the bashing is becoming annoying boring and tiring. Always ranting and criticizing with both sides of their mouth

They're the ones that will bash girls saying they're looking for Mr perfect, when they are guilty of exactly the same thing

Seems female bashing is the new religion and a form of ecstasy for easing out the frustration away

Una don start this morning. Always masturbating on women matters

She's a slay Queen una go bash am taya say she's vain and materialistic
She be efiko/book worm.you go bash am say her itk and sturboness too much
She's s.u born again now na s.u una dey face
She's a virgin una go abuse am say who Virgin EPP? Shes too uptight ,Virgins are too rigid and inexperienced
She's not a virgin una go abuse am say she dey sleep around before marriage.she's too loose
She is a teen mom una go bash am say she no fit use condom
She dump pikin for street una go curse am taya
She abort you go abuse am

So this time na for S.u girls bashing abi

When una finish, Carry una mama marry.shioorrr

Iranu oshi rata marayo

I thought ooni said everything was fine between them and all was well so what's with all this back and forth allegations of olori