kura247: I engaged a lady last year Dec, after so much advices from my parents to chose wisely. I am a graduate while she holds a perfect ssce result and has passed her UTME now hoping to admitted. She is 23yrs and staying with her younger ones, the parents and elderly ones are in village while am in Abuja trying to make ends meet. The first time she visited my parents, she snicked my sister's phone and saw our chats(me and my sister). In the chat my sister complained of her multiple calls from men particularly but any other thing she's very ok to mother them , she therefore called me saying: Girl: am no longer happy in your house. I asked why! she told me the chats and said all the calls is with me I engaged a lady last year Dec, after so much advices from my parents to chose wisely. I am a graduate while she holds a perfect ssce result and has passed her UTME now hoping to admitted. She is 23yrs and staying with her younger ones, the parents and elderly ones are in village while am in Abuja trying to make ends meet. The first time she visited my parents, she snicked my sister's phone and saw our chats(me and my sister). In the chat my sister complained of her multiple calls from men particularly but any other thing she's very ok to mother them , she therefore called me saying: Girl: am no longer happy in your house. I asked why! she told me the chats and said all the calls is with me. simply i said ok. She saw my chat again with my sister when she told me wife doesn't answer her calls again, her hands are off I should go marry my wife. My then wife to be now threw my ring at me and returned the phone i bought for her! saying they didn't tie her to me all my appeals were roughly neglected. In her phone, she forgot to log off her facebook and therein i 2,879 friends mostly men. Her chats with men during her engagement period was heartbreaking. pronoucing love to ppl and showing them directions to the house but the worst of it all she refuses me knowing her place till we partially broke up. Now she tells me her chats was formality.
OrlandoOwoh: According to the OP, Buhari used his one "B" as a Head of State in the 1980s, which was why he chose Osinbajo as his VP in order to use his "B". And he won. Obasanjo used his only "B" in the 1970s, decided to use Atiku Abubakar as his VP. Abubakar's two "Bs" ensured Obasanjo's two tenures. Lol. How will Buhari get a second tenure since Osinbajo has just one "Bs"? Will he use the "B" in his slogan, Sai Baba?
aduku1: Remember in 2013, I GO DYE made a joke saying that before any person can become a president he must have the letter "B" in his name and the more the "B" the longer the tenure....He said president eBele jonathan has only one "B", which is for only one tenure and Nnamdi Sambo may not decide to borrow him his own "B" for second tenure..... could it be that SAMBO never gave PRESIDENT JONATHAN his "B" that was why he lost?
Also General Buhari has used his only "B" before in his rule as a military president could this be the reason for his decision to take OSINBAJO as his running mate so he could borrow OSINBAJO'S "B"..
kelvine: Let me tell you the explanation I got from a similar story. When the house was being built the surrounding was a forest with snakes around. A baby snake or the eggs most probably found it's way into the piping system or soak-away and then began growing over a period of time. In search for light and freedom the only exit pathway for the matured snake after a long period is the water closet as shown in the picture here.
who knows the snake fit get brothers for that closet goin by your explanation
Oahray: WARNING: This post is veeeeery long. There, you don't have to repeat that obvious fact. Cheers.
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE? Very often, we hear people talk so much about unconditional love - from the starry eyed teenager building webs of fantasy, to the married partner sobered up by chunks of unpalatable reality, to the religious zealot who relishes the thought of being a recipient of divine affection without having to lift a finger.
The general consensus in basically every circle is that love could actually be unconditional.
Well, you might have to step out of the box of mainstream ideology and put on your thinking cap for this. Our first stop... The dictionary.
- "Not subject to any conditions." - Oxford dictionary
- "Not limited by or depending on any conditions." Longman dictionary
Condition - "something essential to the appearance or occurrence of something else : prerequisite" - Merriam Webster dictionary.
- "a situation or state of affairs that must exist before something else is possible." - Oxford dictionary.
- "something that must exist or happen first before something else can happen." - Longman dictionary.
A merger of these definitions would see unconditional love being described as a love that exists or is shown without any condition or limit. In other words, nothing else has to happen to make such a love exist, and nothing can happen that would make it remain stagnant or die. The kind of love that appears from thin air and remains as constant as the sun. How romantic!
The reality though differs, and not slightly. So we shall examine reality together.
Romantic love Perhaps the most popular of all types of love, is the one between a man and a woman (the not so straight wouldn't like that description very much). Thus at our very first stop, we collide with our first condition for romantic love - the object of our affection must be of the opposite sex (for the straight) or same sex (for the homosexual). Even those who claim to be bi-curious have their preference.
After that first condition has been met subconsciously, we start to look at other areas that may turn out to be deal breakers for us. Ever wondered why we don't fall in love with everyone we know? Unconditional love means you can love that unclad lunatic every bit as much as that smart, good looking man or woman who shows you nothing but care. No?
Let's look at a purer love then...
A parent's love Quite simply, the reason a parent loves her child is because it's her child.
Mothers are undeniably the face of parental love, and the reason isn't far fetched. They are generally more expressive of their love. So fathers, bear with my illustration.
Take a moment to think about your mother. Now imagine you are her only child. One evening you are playing with other kids in your compound and armed men burst in. They inform everyone that they are there to kill every child in the compound, but because of some reason I don't know, they give your mother the opportunity to choose just one child to be saved. Which child would your mother pick over you?
Unconditional love means that it doesn't matter that the child nearest to you isn't your mother's child, she can save him/her instead of you. Would she? No?
For the religious, specifically Christians, let's look at an even purer love.
God's love "God is love" says the Bible. John 3:16 says he loved the world so much that he sent his only begotten son. For many, that screams unconditional love. Just pause for a minute and complete the verse. The benefit of that love, eternal life, is hinged on faith in Jesus, or else destruction. A limitation or not?
Well let's go further than that. How many animals are promised such eternal life on the basis of faith in Jesus? The answer shows that man is unique, and why not? He was created in God's image. That in itself, is a condition that gives man the edge over animals. No artist would let a rascally child destroy his masterpiece without doing something about it.
Psalm 11:5 says that God hates anyone who loves violence. That makes it plain. Our desires and resultant actions can lose us God's love. Unconditional love?
Love for total strangers This probably is the closest one can get to unconditional, for the recipient of the love shown is not the person's creation neither is he a relative or friend. However there still is a condition.
Imagine a man who braves blazing fire to get into a house. He believes there are children in there. As he gets in, he notices a litter of helpless baby rats huddled against a corner trying to get as far away from the flames as possible. Would he stop to save the baby rats or continue the search for the human children?
Your guess is as good as mine. The children would be a priority because they are human. There you have your condition.
LOVE AND SELFLESSNESS Let me quickly correct a possible perception. This article wasn't written to make love in any form seem selfish or impure.
That man who constantly gives of himself and strives to remain faithful just to make his lady happy, even when she doesn't always appreciate it...
That faithful woman who gives her all because she genuinely wants the best for her man, even when there's that lingering possibility that she might lose it all in a blink.
That father who would rather take a bullet in the head than let his family members get hurt, or jumps into a river when he cannot swim, because he cannot watch his child drown...
That mother who would ferociously stand between her child and death, and do whatever it takes...
That person who believes that every other human should be given another shot at life, against the backdrop of the world's racist, tribalist and xenophobic tendencies...
All these are examples of selfless love which take different forms. Been conditional doesn't make them any less beautiful.
However when one insists that he/she must be loved absolutely, regardless of what he/she does or does not do, it reveals the self-centred nature inherent in most humans. A nature that seeks to receive without having to give anything.
Love can be selfless, love can be true, and love can be enduring. Do your part, make yourself loveable, love selflessly and appreciate the imperfect love shown to you. Maybe we can somehow make the world a better place, at least for those we love.
imoh4king: Nairalanders! I greet you all. I work for the Devil himself...my Boss has been the worst experience of my life. If my Boss worked for me, ooo God , what will I not do? I will demote him first and slash his salary by 30% reduction. I will send him on official assignment to Gombe with N10,000 for three weeks which includes transport, feeding and accommodation. Any day he comes to work 5 mins late, I will take N5000 frm his salary ( as he has done to me before). God should deliver me, because I will so so frustrate him till he......GOD WILL PUNISH THAT MAN. hoping to resign soon.
emmyrichie: I will teach him that shouting, throwing insults and nagging will throw employees off balance... and that withholding employees' salary for months is an offense punishable by banishment from one's country.
It kills their zeal to contribute selflessly.
How these Bosses think sometimes make me wonder what kind of trouble or hardship they passed through that made them act so mean
Jokes Etc › Re: Which among D 36 States Do We Have D Most Beautiful Gals Nd Handsome guys? by Dannidom(m): 7:24pm On May 02, 2015
I engaged a lady last year Dec, after so much advices from my parents to chose wisely.