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This Kyari De Tailor is still very much catching cruise around after he was indicted in a high profile corruption case?


Buhari really has no iota of shame!


Disgusting!

phemmyfour:
Sarr has really improve

A lot

To begin with, this is a good development but as usual, will it live to fulfil its purpose?

When the FG signed the Disability Act in 2018, one of it's key recommendations was to include at least one Person With Disability (PWD), in the board of every ministry, agency, committee etc that is created or established to advocate for these people, but the reverse has been the case.

I mean, who knows where the shoe pinches if not one of them.


I really hope this is a turning point for good for the PWD because they've been neglected for too long, and that's not acceptable.

wolesmile:
This is Toyin Adegbola. The blogger got it wrong. Her own nickname is Ashewo to re Mecca.
The one that acted Toyin Tomato is Shola Shobowale, who also starred as Eniola Salami in King of Boys. Aunty Shola's birthday was two days ago.

If you are of the indomie generation, then you need to go watch Bayo Adenuga's Super Story of old to know how Shola Shobowale got the name "Toyin Tomato"

You guys will have good point but never know how to pass it across without insult.

Hid behind your phone wherever you are and call everybody " indomie generation" because for once in your lifetime you will be right.

As if you were conversant with every damn thing that happened in your generation.

I pity people like you who can't argue successfully without insulting.

Well, that's actually Ashewo to re Mecca and not Toyin tomato as I supposed.

Mercychen:
This is not Toyin tomato.
Toyin tomato is shola shobowale.

[s]No, this is Toyin tomato, not Shola Shobowale.[/s]


Corrected:

This is not Toyin tomato. SHOLA Shobowale is Toyin tomato.

nairavsdollars:
I think Sagay thought he a very sound SAN like Fashola will be made Minister of Justice. He got disappointed when Buhari chose Malami

He was not even in the picture when the nomination was done. Then, another important reason why he won't be considered is; politically, he would be a problem for the President, as he's not known to always keep shut when you're not supposed to talk. Ministers are political appointments, and it is expected that you always dance to the tune of the President. Sagay will not if it is against his value system.

But one thing is clear, he likes Buhari personally.

This man doesn't like Malami one bit. Maybe because Malami failed his Senate screening and still got the job.


The AGF contributed to the unseriousness of Buhari.

This guy is a sore loser just like Jonathan supporters. They never move on.

Cash out policy for the Enforcement Agencies.

This is not good. The death sentence is a no no. As cruel and wicked kidnapping is, it should be life in prison at most.

Please the mods should remove the 450k title. It makes it look like the OP is mostly concerned about the money and not the life of the pet, which I don't think is the case here.

Please keep seeking medical attention. You will meet a good vet soon.

Animals live matter!

SUFFERInSMILIIN:
Let's be serious when i went to police officer is telling you not to come to the police station in Lagos it is not safe to report any crime. The police did some job for me I was supposed to pay them some money which was over 50k he was telling me not to come to the police station and give him the money it is not safe the other police officers cars can hire people to take the money from him and do that to him. This is in the police station in festac Lagos so if police station is no more safe how do you want the ambulance to be travelling up and down.

You are trying very hard for someone to comment on your grammar!

I see what you're doing

Kingcalls:
Lol...he doesn't read our posts...his fans do

Lolz

Kingcalls:
I said what I said for those that said its not about money bk then cos they were making excuses for messi .... u know messi fans love making excuses for him when he fails .... they were the ones that started the assist talk, now they hv entered chances created and cross bars plus key passes as guy man no de score again... they said he was too loyal to leave barca ...

But Messi fans are not Measi na!

You don't transfer aggression. You can't be attacking someone because you feel their fans are unreasonable. It makes you pass unfair judgement.

Kingcalls:
Messi wud still earn with his massive endorsements.... ...he freaking earned 600million euros in 4 yrs

You see these people as Professionals but yet you fail to see they are also businessmen.

Most of this money doesn't go into freestyle, but also to polish their status so they can remain relevant, and this involves lots of organisations and individuals.

That money goes into a lot, so they can't afford to go a single month running a pro bono.

Kingcalls:
Lol... I remember when he was at barca and his fans said , noooo, Messi can't leave barca cos they treated him when he was young and ill... that he is forever grateful and loyal to them .. . I told them that the only reason messi was with barca is because barca is one of the best teams in football and that if it was valencia or villareal that did same, he wud hv left them since...they said I was talking trash ... the moment barca madness start for pitch as iniesta, xavi puyol mascherano dani Alves villa comot.. omo ..baba japa , abandon sinking ship for money men ... I hv always said that footballer are like these modern women, there is nothing like loyalty... they only want trophies and money , if u like build statue put for field in their honor, they will japa once they hv a better offer and opportunity...

If he so much loved barca and appreciated what they did for him, he wud hv actually played for free cos that team got financially wrecked trying to keep messi... just like a struggling man trying to keep his trophy wife...
Guy man japa like oshimole wife as they kicked him out of APC chairmanship

Will loyalty pay his backroom staff salaries?

The injustice in this country never seems to stop.

She lost her job, was intimidated, and now rendered visually impaired in a country that care less about people with disability.

Shior!

Elliot2:
You are right. But then, him taking his time to do the research himself shows that he is interested in the discourse. If I bring the evidence and yet he waves it away, my time is lost on him. And that is not fair.

Correct. But doing so would mean you have done your part. It is now left for him to help himself out with the information you have provided.

That being said, taking the vaccine is helpful first, to the recipient and then to the society at large regardless of the conspiracy theory around it. It has nothing to do with the faith or belief of the individual.

Elliot2:
Kindly use your internet browser.

When you are trying to help people see the reason why something should not be done, I don't think this is the best approach. You should at least be evident in your submission.

Elliot2:
Why should one not be skeptical? Look at Israel, even after gain over 80% vaccination, the crisis is still there meaning, the vaccines don't work. You have been lied to!

Do you mind dropping a link where it is clearly stated that 80% of Israel's population have been vaccinated and yet they keep dying of the virus?

And as a good student of statistics, do you think using only one country out of many to back up your claim is valid?

Why are you sceptical about getting vaccinated in the first place?

Taking the jab will shield you from the adverse effect of the virus and that's what should be important to you. To attain herd immunity, a certain majority of the population need to be vaccinated.

I don't know what your worry is, but I can tell you taking it doesn't affect your faith or belief. Whatever contrary meaning ascribed to receiving the Covid-19 vaccine is not true.

I have been vaccinated, and I am leading a campaign for people to go get it because it's for our own good.

In all of this, People With Disability (PWD) should be carried along.

It is a good thing that Nigerian youths are forming alliances towards the SDGs, as whatever the youth generation don't give interest to dies on arrival. But we are forgetting or overlooking the fact that disabled people are a crucial part of the development goals.

We can't have a fair society if this set of people continue to experience discrimination and stigmatisation among us. Inequality and poverty increase among them if they can't move around easily and access facilities.

Their social and economic life is equally important.

We should not forget that if we must have an inclusive society, we must carry everyone along.

We aren't surprised about this act from a Nigerian Police. The majority of them are lawless and lack self-control.

It is just a shame that these are the set of people enforcing laws in this Country.

It is sad!

This government does not value human life. It has never been this bad.

No single effort is being put to stop killings. It continues to look like it's a deliberate attempt to cause famine.

It's a big shame!

If you like, carry Nigerian politicians matter on your head like gele. You're on you own cos they are one and the same.

Great news!

Time to take my second shot.

Nigeria government will always wait for gift, or else, the citizens are on their own.

We got the first set of vaccines on a charity note and now this one. People's lives would be in continuous danger if these big Countries aren't coming to our rescue. Talking about a sovereign Nation.

lexy2014:
Am only following ur line of reasoning.



Pls what does d English u wrote mean?

When you hit a person, either with a cane or not, you've already subjected such person to animalistic treatment. Leave English out of this.

lexy2014:
U are right There's nothing wrong in beating children but don't beat them like animals

Ok!

Do you still make mistakes? YES!

So, who beats you when you make these mistakes?

WoundedLamb:
That's actually a figurative statement. If hitting kids with rod makes them better adults, Africa would have been producing the best humans. I believe a child raised without being hit like an animal has a higher tendency of being honest, open and compassionate.

You are correct!

Despite our ways of correcting children, we are still morally bankrupt.

Beating children like animals in the name of correction is wrong.

Positive discipline for better mental and physical health and a happy childhood.

There are no bad children, only bad behaviour.




How to discipline your child the smart and healthy way.

There comes a time when every parent struggles with how best to discipline their child. Whether dealing with a screaming toddler or an angry teen, it can be hard to control your temper. No parent wants to find themselves in such a situation and the bottom line is that shouting and physical violence never help.
Thankfully, there are other, more effective ways and one of them is positive discipline. We consulted Lucie Cluver, Oxford University professor of Child and Family Social Work and mother of two young boys, to explore how the approach can help parents build positive relationships with their children and teach skills like responsibility, cooperation and self-discipline.


Why positive discipline?

“Parents don't want to shout or hit their kids. We do it because we're stressed and don't see another way,” says Professor Cluver.
The evidence is clear: shouting and hitting simply do not work and can do more harm than good in the long run. Repeated shouting and hitting can even adversely impact a child’s entire life. The continued “toxic stress” it creates can lead to a host of negative outcomes like higher chances of school dropout, depression, drug use, suicide and heart disease.
“It’s like saying: here's this medicine, it's not going to help you and it's going to make you sick,” says Professor Cluver. “When we know something doesn't work, that's a pretty good reason to look for a different approach.”

Rather than punishment and what not to do, the positive discipline approach puts an emphasis on developing a healthy relationship with your child and setting expectations around behaviour. The good news for every parent is it works and here’s how you can start putting it into practice:

1. Plan 1-on-1 time

One-on-one time is important for building any good relationship and even more so with your children. “It can be 20 minutes a day. Or even 5 minutes. You can combine it with something like washing dishes together while you sing a song or chatting while you're hanging out the washing,” says Professor Cluver. “What's really important is that you focus on your child. So, you turn your TV off, you turn your phone off, you get to their level and it's you and them.”


2. Praise the positives

As parents we often focus on our children’s bad behaviour and call it out. Children may read this as a way to get your attention, perpetuating poor conduct rather than putting a stop to it.
Children thrive on praise. It makes them feel loved and special. “Watch out for when they're doing something good and praise them, even if that thing is just playing for five minutes with their sibling,” recommends Professor Cluver. “This can encourage good behaviour and reduce the need for discipline.”


3. Set clear expectations

“Telling your child exactly what you want them to do is much more effective than telling them what not to do,” says Professor Cluver. “When you ask a child to not make a mess, or to be good, they don't necessarily understand what they're required to do.” Clear instructions like “Please pick up all of your toys and put them in the box” set a clear expectation and increase the likelihood that they'll do what you’re asking.
“But it's important to set realistic expectations. Asking them to stay quiet for a whole day may not be as manageable as asking for 10 minutes of quiet time while you have a phone call,” says Professor Cluver. “You know what your child is capable of. But if you ask for the impossible, they are going to fail.”

4. Distract creatively

When your child is being difficult, distracting them with a more positive activity can be a useful strategy says Professor Cluver. “When you distract them towards something else – by changing the topic, introducing a game, leading them into another room, or going for a walk, you can successfully divert their energy towards positive behaviour.”

Timing is also crucial. Distraction is also about spotting when things are about to go wrong and taking action. Being mindful of when your child is starting to become fidgety, irritable or annoyed, or when two siblings are eyeing the same toy, can help diffuse a potential situation before it becomes one.


5. Use calm consequences

Part of growing up is learning that if you do something, something can happen as a result. Defining this for your child is a simple process that encourages better behaviour while teaching them about responsibility.

Give your child a chance to do the right thing by explaining the consequences of their bad behaviour. As an example, if you want your child to stop scribbling on the walls, you can tell them to stop or else you will end their play time. This provides them with a warning and an opportunity to change their behaviour.

If they don’t stop, follow through with the consequences calmly and without showing anger, “and give yourself credit for that – it’s not easy!” adds Professor Cluver.
If they do stop, give them lots of praise for it, recommends Professor Cluver. “What you are doing is creating a positive feedback loop for your child. Calm consequences have been shown to be effective for kids to learn about what happens when they behave badly.”

Being consistent is a key factor in positive parenting, which is why following through with the consequences is important. And so is making them realistic. “You can take a teenager's phone away for an hour but taking it away for a week might be difficult to follow through on.”


Engaging with younger children

One-on-one time can be fun – and it’s completely free! “You can copy their expressions, bang spoons against pots, or sing together,” adds Professor Cluver. “There’s amazing research showing that playing with your children boosts their brain development.”


Engaging with older children

Like younger children, teenagers seek praise and want to be thought of as good. One-on-one time is still important to them. “They love it if you dance around the room with them or engage in a conversation about their favourite singer,” says Professor Cluver. “They may not always show it, but they do. And, it's an effective way of building a relationship on their terms.”

While setting expectations, “ask them to help make some of the rules,” suggests Professor Cluver. “Sit them down and try to agree on the household dos and don'ts. They can also help decide what the consequences for unacceptable behaviour will be. Being involved in the process helps them know that you understand they're becoming their own independent beings.”


Advice for parents during the COVID-19 pandemic

The pandemic has brought about sudden and drastic changes in the lives of families with parents directly in the middle of it. Here are some tips that can help parents get through these and any other stressful times:


1. Pause

We all know the stress when we feel our child is being difficult. At moments like these, being present and stepping back is a simple and useful tactic. Hit the “pause button”, as Professor Cluver calls it. “Take five deep breaths, slowly and carefully and you'll notice you are able to respond in a calmer, more considered way. Parents across the world say that just taking that pause is enormously helpful.”


2. Step back

Parents often forget to care for themselves, says Professor Cluver. “Take some time for yourself, such as when the kids are asleep, to do something that makes you feel happy and calm. It's really hard to do all the things right as a parent, when you haven't given yourself a break.”


3. Praise yourself
It’s easy to forget the as tonishing job you do as a parent every day and you should give yourself the credit, advises Professor Cluver. “Each day, maybe while brushing your teeth, take a moment to ask: ‘What was one thing I did really well with my kids today?’ And, just know that you did something great.”

“We might be in and out of isolation, but you are absolutely not alone,” she says. “Millions of parents across the world are all trying and we're all failing sometimes. And then we're trying again. We’ll survive this together.”

https://www.unicef.org/parenting/child-care/how-discipline-your-child-smart-and-healthy-way

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If you can't control your appetite for material things, then, you won't be able to control what comes after it.

STOP THE STEAL!