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lexy2014:
Am only following ur line of reasoning.



Pls what does d English u wrote mean?

When you hit a person, either with a cane or not, you've already subjected such person to animalistic treatment. Leave English out of this.

lexy2014:
U are right There's nothing wrong in beating children but don't beat them like animals

Ok!

Do you still make mistakes? YES!

So, who beats you when you make these mistakes?

WoundedLamb:
That's actually a figurative statement. If hitting kids with rod makes them better adults, Africa would have been producing the best humans. I believe a child raised without being hit like an animal has a higher tendency of being honest, open and compassionate.

You are correct!

Despite our ways of correcting children, we are still morally bankrupt.

Beating children like animals in the name of correction is wrong.

Positive discipline for better mental and physical health and a happy childhood.

There are no bad children, only bad behaviour.




How to discipline your child the smart and healthy way.

There comes a time when every parent struggles with how best to discipline their child. Whether dealing with a screaming toddler or an angry teen, it can be hard to control your temper. No parent wants to find themselves in such a situation and the bottom line is that shouting and physical violence never help.
Thankfully, there are other, more effective ways and one of them is positive discipline. We consulted Lucie Cluver, Oxford University professor of Child and Family Social Work and mother of two young boys, to explore how the approach can help parents build positive relationships with their children and teach skills like responsibility, cooperation and self-discipline.


Why positive discipline?

“Parents don't want to shout or hit their kids. We do it because we're stressed and don't see another way,” says Professor Cluver.
The evidence is clear: shouting and hitting simply do not work and can do more harm than good in the long run. Repeated shouting and hitting can even adversely impact a child’s entire life. The continued “toxic stress” it creates can lead to a host of negative outcomes like higher chances of school dropout, depression, drug use, suicide and heart disease.
“It’s like saying: here's this medicine, it's not going to help you and it's going to make you sick,” says Professor Cluver. “When we know something doesn't work, that's a pretty good reason to look for a different approach.”

Rather than punishment and what not to do, the positive discipline approach puts an emphasis on developing a healthy relationship with your child and setting expectations around behaviour. The good news for every parent is it works and here’s how you can start putting it into practice:

1. Plan 1-on-1 time

One-on-one time is important for building any good relationship and even more so with your children. “It can be 20 minutes a day. Or even 5 minutes. You can combine it with something like washing dishes together while you sing a song or chatting while you're hanging out the washing,” says Professor Cluver. “What's really important is that you focus on your child. So, you turn your TV off, you turn your phone off, you get to their level and it's you and them.”


2. Praise the positives

As parents we often focus on our children’s bad behaviour and call it out. Children may read this as a way to get your attention, perpetuating poor conduct rather than putting a stop to it.
Children thrive on praise. It makes them feel loved and special. “Watch out for when they're doing something good and praise them, even if that thing is just playing for five minutes with their sibling,” recommends Professor Cluver. “This can encourage good behaviour and reduce the need for discipline.”


3. Set clear expectations

“Telling your child exactly what you want them to do is much more effective than telling them what not to do,” says Professor Cluver. “When you ask a child to not make a mess, or to be good, they don't necessarily understand what they're required to do.” Clear instructions like “Please pick up all of your toys and put them in the box” set a clear expectation and increase the likelihood that they'll do what you’re asking.
“But it's important to set realistic expectations. Asking them to stay quiet for a whole day may not be as manageable as asking for 10 minutes of quiet time while you have a phone call,” says Professor Cluver. “You know what your child is capable of. But if you ask for the impossible, they are going to fail.”

4. Distract creatively

When your child is being difficult, distracting them with a more positive activity can be a useful strategy says Professor Cluver. “When you distract them towards something else – by changing the topic, introducing a game, leading them into another room, or going for a walk, you can successfully divert their energy towards positive behaviour.”

Timing is also crucial. Distraction is also about spotting when things are about to go wrong and taking action. Being mindful of when your child is starting to become fidgety, irritable or annoyed, or when two siblings are eyeing the same toy, can help diffuse a potential situation before it becomes one.


5. Use calm consequences

Part of growing up is learning that if you do something, something can happen as a result. Defining this for your child is a simple process that encourages better behaviour while teaching them about responsibility.

Give your child a chance to do the right thing by explaining the consequences of their bad behaviour. As an example, if you want your child to stop scribbling on the walls, you can tell them to stop or else you will end their play time. This provides them with a warning and an opportunity to change their behaviour.

If they don’t stop, follow through with the consequences calmly and without showing anger, “and give yourself credit for that – it’s not easy!” adds Professor Cluver.
If they do stop, give them lots of praise for it, recommends Professor Cluver. “What you are doing is creating a positive feedback loop for your child. Calm consequences have been shown to be effective for kids to learn about what happens when they behave badly.”

Being consistent is a key factor in positive parenting, which is why following through with the consequences is important. And so is making them realistic. “You can take a teenager's phone away for an hour but taking it away for a week might be difficult to follow through on.”


Engaging with younger children

One-on-one time can be fun – and it’s completely free! “You can copy their expressions, bang spoons against pots, or sing together,” adds Professor Cluver. “There’s amazing research showing that playing with your children boosts their brain development.”


Engaging with older children

Like younger children, teenagers seek praise and want to be thought of as good. One-on-one time is still important to them. “They love it if you dance around the room with them or engage in a conversation about their favourite singer,” says Professor Cluver. “They may not always show it, but they do. And, it's an effective way of building a relationship on their terms.”

While setting expectations, “ask them to help make some of the rules,” suggests Professor Cluver. “Sit them down and try to agree on the household dos and don'ts. They can also help decide what the consequences for unacceptable behaviour will be. Being involved in the process helps them know that you understand they're becoming their own independent beings.”


Advice for parents during the COVID-19 pandemic

The pandemic has brought about sudden and drastic changes in the lives of families with parents directly in the middle of it. Here are some tips that can help parents get through these and any other stressful times:


1. Pause

We all know the stress when we feel our child is being difficult. At moments like these, being present and stepping back is a simple and useful tactic. Hit the “pause button”, as Professor Cluver calls it. “Take five deep breaths, slowly and carefully and you'll notice you are able to respond in a calmer, more considered way. Parents across the world say that just taking that pause is enormously helpful.”


2. Step back

Parents often forget to care for themselves, says Professor Cluver. “Take some time for yourself, such as when the kids are asleep, to do something that makes you feel happy and calm. It's really hard to do all the things right as a parent, when you haven't given yourself a break.”


3. Praise yourself
It’s easy to forget the as tonishing job you do as a parent every day and you should give yourself the credit, advises Professor Cluver. “Each day, maybe while brushing your teeth, take a moment to ask: ‘What was one thing I did really well with my kids today?’ And, just know that you did something great.”

“We might be in and out of isolation, but you are absolutely not alone,” she says. “Millions of parents across the world are all trying and we're all failing sometimes. And then we're trying again. We’ll survive this together.”

https://www.unicef.org/parenting/child-care/how-discipline-your-child-smart-and-healthy-way

To live within their means is a no-no for them. Stealing from others to live large is their trademark. What shall we then say?

If you can't control your appetite for material things, then, you won't be able to control what comes after it.

STOP THE STEAL!

Another failed party like APC looking for who to blame for its failure.

theTranscriber:
check it again

It's about poverty

Yea. I mean the visual almost tally with the data provided for this thread.

theTranscriber:
I am not the op
I deliberately put that pic

It was almost correct though

[quote author=theTranscriber post=104247288][/quote]Wrong visualisation

Shut up puuu!

Talk and no do set of people.

Government of lies and sorrow.

You can't provide for the people, yet they struggle to make ends meet to the point of hawking satchet water in traffic, but you must kill them.

When will you account for your evil deed?

This rogue of a SAN won't cease to amaze me.


"Gwandu warned detractors of the minister to stay off."

Or else what?

MUMU

Jesters

The southern Leaders have always chosen to be passive in their dealings with their northern colleagues who from time immemorial have been active in all of anything that will favour their region.

My question is; what were the southern Legislators doing when this bill is being debated and passed? Were they bribed, compelled or blackmailed to accept this unjust, unfair and unequal satanic bill?

Where were the southern Leaders when negotiations were ongoing prior to the passage of this bill when their northern counterpart was holding several meeting just to ensure they rally their own Legislators so that they don't lose out?

Our passive attitude to things since the emergence of this contraption has once again surfaced to haunt us on a big scale.

Shame!

The forum appealed to the Federal Government “to support states with grants to directly undertake pilot projects of modern livestock production."

See them, always begging for money from FG so they can spend on their concubines at the expense of the masses. Corrupt lots.

Let's see how this will be accepted by the ruling Miyetti and Malami.

As far as I'm concerned, DECENTRALISATION is the next model to adopt since this evil system has failed.

These ones dey sleep when their Northern colleagues don over run things leave them behind. I pray it is not too late to rescue the situation because they (we) have been outsmarted already.

Misleading topic title.

Go find out the difference between "road network" and "road condition".

Lord, come rescue Nigeria form this Political Elites. They are in love with themselves at the expense of the masses. No single one of them has the interest of the people at heart but theirs and their families alone.

We can't continue like this. It is not working!

Kosoco:
Very Unethical to tap his voice call.... That total invasion of his privacy..

Stop spewing thrash!

Somebody who invaded the privacy of over 100 people, stole their details and used it to defraud their government should not be expecting he accorded that right. He does not deserve it.

Heartless being!

If you beat a woman you will be going to jail.
It is only animal that fights not to talk of beating a woman.

Pathetic!

I fear for the worst!

Buhari has put himself in a position to be blamed for this and I don't pity him.

It's a laudable ONGOING project.

iLegendd:
See this 30 seconds video (old, but reuploaded) interview of Pep talking about Chelsea's tactics. So, I don't think he looks down on them. He's more scared of Chelsea than any team.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xq5HAR0HrQU

When he was asked about the Chelsea game after they lifted the EPL on the last day, he said Chelsea won the last 2 games against them, congratulations but this is a different game entirely and his boys are ready and are all out to win the final.


No be mouth Pep they use style make so?

This was the only guy that regarded Chelsea before the match on Saturday. He was confident but never wrote Chelsea off, unlike Pep the great and some of the city players whose belief in their attacking force thought they were going to massacre Chelsea, forgetting that if there's a team you shouldn't brag against until after the outcome is Chelsea.

Better luck next time. Pep still remain the best coach to me for now.

Get well soon Kevin!

Chelsea for life!

Then open the border. What kind of senselessness is this?

"...... it’s about societies, it’s about humanity, it’s about education and development."

African Leaders don't see it this way, and that's the reason we are messed up.

This Country is crumbling financially and we are being overrun by insecurity, none of this idiots could put on their critical thinking cap and save their State not to talk of helping the country. All they do is to argue, attack and counterattack themselves.

They continue to deceive Nigerians with talk and no do system of rulership.

This set of Nigerian Leaders are the reason hell was created.

Hyenas

Don't doubt any story that has to do with religion in Nigeria

Up The Chels

"Mr President is making haste slowly."

Nigeria matter!!!!!!!!!! Make I just dey laff.