₦airaland Forum

JJYOU:
i am beginning to think majority of the younger men are safer marrying outside africa.

van der jo:
For a man to respect you,first you have to respect who you are cuz it all starts from there,you cannot be a LovePeddler and expect respect from your man,if you a woman that knows what you want,i will respect you,infact i give too much respect to women that knows who they are,and respects themselves,moreover when a man truely loves a woman,naturally he won't like to hurt that woman and the respect will always be there,agreed most Nigerian men has ego problem and the would want to show thier"bruise ego".that is why they do not respect women but there are lots of us that respect women in  nigeria.i am certainly one of them.
hush.

Crude Oil:
Nigerian men this, Nigerian men that. What do you know about nigerian men? All you women do is generalise and stereotype nigerian men in a very negative way. Every human being is different, because you meet a nigerian man that is disrespectful to you doesnt mean all nigerian men are like that.
Next time you raise topics like these, back them up with facts and stop generalising.

Sisi Jinx:
Well obviously, we are talking about someone with major issues here. . . more than the usual being a Nigerian man issues here.

Where did you find this guy??!!

vicade:
Of course not. But if you rub it in his face then that is disrespectful

vicade:
That is the use of courtship. A guy that does not do all these in courtship is not expected to do it in Marriage though i personally think you are right except your fourth point.

The approach to issues matter and in as much as people pretend, during courtship, you should be able to see these things unless of ofcourse the person is non chalant or a desperate old cargo. I know a lot of working class wives who dont cook for their husbands. They leave that to the House Maid. Is that Disrespect?

drrionelli:
This is interesting to me as North American.  Help me understand something:  In the US, respect is not an entitlement, but rather, something that is earned.  Is respect viewed the same in Nigeria?

nuzo:
Nothing my friend. So sorry, i didnt indicate that it was the best and only option.

vicade:
I was trying to say most Naija girls especially the working class and educated wont take such.Unless they are Old Cargo,Illiterate and Desperate.

davidylan:
If you love your partner respect will come naturally. Its a two-way street.

HeatFusion:
Thank you. A designated time should be establish for the time the woman cooks so the family can eat together.
anything before, between and after that, the man/his children can go to the kitchen and find some snacks to eat.

vicade:
Naija man? Maybe. But i doubt the naija women of nowadays will fit the Woman tag in that Dialogue so i presume it might be a Nigerian Man with a Non-Nigerian Woman

nuzo:
@poster

How could you be so heartless?

Whoever is advising your lost soul to go ahead and marry your confused girlfriend must be in one of these groups:

1. Association: These are people who were born SS, they went through much pain, trouble and sometimes discrimination. The only way they feel better about themselves is by seeing more people make the same mistakes their parents made. (the good ones dont feel this way).

2. Religious fanatics: These are a set of ignorant people who have been brainwashed by their pastors and iman to believe that God can clean up all the silly messes they intentionally created. This same group believe that Jesus is going to come down from heaven to become the president of nigeria.

3. Kids: This group of people who are likely to be under 13 years of age believe that only love can see a marriage through. Health, wealth, location etc doesnt matter.

4. Humanitarians: This group believes that a married couple doesn't necessarily need to bear children of their own when there are millions of opharns waiting to be adopted and shown love.

I cant believe that someone will be asking a question like this in the year 2009.

otokx:
You gals should take it easy on the guy.

spikedcylinder:
Apparently. He's a delight isn't he?  

KarmaMod:
Didnt see this thread til now. Thanks Sapphic jare. You;re only 3 weeks late  

Enough with the nasty pics in my thread jare.

Sisi is too psychotic to be a Capricorn  

C2H5OH:
yup. niggas on roids with shriveled privates

HeatFusion:
lmao, girl, you're so funny

Sisi Jinx:
Oy Veh https://fc94.deviantart.com/fs7/i/2005/261/2/3/Faint_Emoticon_by_risika2099.gif