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sunshineG:
Bro it could be one of three things

1) she may not be ready for a serious relationship now because of her studies. I think you gave one example where she postpone her visit cause she was studying

2) she may not be feeling you but just like you for your nice guy attitude or to chat with. Yep bro friend zone stuff. Some ladies are like that bro

3) maybe she is someone that have been heartbroken before and she will like to study any new guy properly before going into another relationship

It may be one, two or all three of these things

Sadly you cannot do anything about it, if you had a chance with her before, your desperation might have turned her off. So I will advice you to be on your best behavior and play along with her if you truely love her and feel you may stand a chance with her

Otherwise, take her advice and look for some else

Stay blessed

Thanks bro. I'll be on my best behavior. Shallom.

lovelygurl:
Then go and learn to control yourself

The girl seems intelligent, would have done the same. This is just disgusting. Lack of self control is not cool and no its not what a "normal" guy would do but what those without self control will.

Why try THREE times when she obviously wasn't interested when you tried the first time. Why rush her? You just acted like a desperate man wh*re.

Those kind of "moves" only work with girls who are as desperate as you

I'm a cool guy and not desperate, i've never acted that way in my life! i just couldn't control it, was so much carried away with her beauty and calmness coupled with my friend's advise. i simply made a wrong move to a right girl but at the wrong time.

Cholls:
my brother yes u made an ignorant miskake and so fvcking wat! don't try to make it up with her just move on and focus more on yourself development.



Shiit!

Lol..... Mehn this bros no get joy o.

ugwuvictor58:
You can NEVER make one to love u if they don't. For God sake, love is a feeling and once one don't feel such for u ,u have to accept it & move on with life.At the end,u will realise u made the right choice rather than trying to convince her to feel what she don't feel for u.
I recently dealt with such situation.
I met her,the chemistry was like ......oh ! word can't describe it.I finally told her how I felt for her,but she told me she is in a really serious relationship,I noticed it anyway even if she had not told me.It was really tough to come to term with the situation,but I had to,I moved on with life.Did I tell u I weep for missing out on her ? Yes I did !,but that was actually in my room anyway.And I also knew it was hard for her.
She want Friendship,I want relationship.I want to actually BUILD serious relationship with her.Two parallel lines ,as it's being popularly said,can NEVER meet.

I understand you perfectly. i know there are sometimes we just have to let go of some things that might not be that easy for us to let go. But from my own observation about the girl, i think:

1. she was kind of attracted to me maybe because of my status i wouldn't know.

2. She do come to check on me in my research lab at the end of her lectures.

3. She took the risk of coming to my place even when rain was still drizzling, i guess she wanted some sort of commitment.

4. She reads a lot and doesn't joke with her education and i appreciate her.

5. I think she's a good girl.

So that's why I'm just kind of sober and even wary of her perception towards me.

delishpot:
Don't tell me you want to listen to this advice again is it lust or love that is shacking you? If it is lust then take this advice. If it is love abeg, dont agree to be friends o. Keep asking her out and keep being the man you are.
Note.... Women do not like weak men. Don't mistake gentle man for weakman. So don't act like a sissy around her but be firm and just that is what attracts women. Firm and just men who set standards. Imagine Okonkwo of things fall apart minus his anger issues

Thanks a million. I really appreciate ur advise. I promise to act accordingly.

Kondomatic:
Apologize for what BRO?

Bros i just don't understand, girls are just complicated! I had similar experience with two girls during my NYSC, though i didn't make any move and they came to my place more than three times, but to my surprise, one of them later chat me up after my NYSC and told me I'm a dull guy and couldn't make any move when she was coming to my place: mehn it landed on me like a bomb!

pocohantas:
Honestly I don't understand these young men of this generation. I have seen some foolishly make comments like...if a girl comes and you don't touch her or make a move, she won't come again.

I begin to wonder how many girls they know and which kinda girls they roll with. Just like you said...no wonder they end up with those kind of girls who use intimacy as tools..when they hungrily seek it...

Girls need to be very careful now, extra careful.
Their friends are training them to be sharp guys...

Nice to have you here. Lol....I think the guy didn't really meant it, he was just sharing his opinion in a light mood. He might not be as bad as you think.

smartty68:
Lol. Friends can ruin your life Bro.

And you wanted to proof smart bah? And after bleeping her you start announcing it to your friends? Is this what you call love? Guy is lust biko and not love

I love her but what is paining me is that my conscience is not allowing me to rest, I'm not a bad boy but she would now be thinking I'm one of those bad boys, I'm thinking of apologizing to her on Monday. How about that ?

Kondomatic:
Here's what you will do.



Accept your place in her life and pay attention to her likes and hates. Try to figure out the type of man she wants.
You can ask her but don't reveal your intentions.
Once you have figured out her kind of man and all she likes and hates, the next step is to sit down and plan your next move which is to pretend to be what she wants without revealing your true self.


Free regular sex is guaranteed if you succeed and you even stand a chance to date her if you still want to.

This works only for those who can exercise patience

Thanks brother. But that patience is the issue, her exam starts soon, around September. I appreciate your candid advise. But what about stylishly apologizing to her when i see her on monday?

delishpot:
If that is how you pick your babes then I am sure you only pick up girls who are after your pocket. They kiss you just to get Tfare out of you. So she should kiss him to prove love? And who told you people just love like that? Does she know him well enough to kiss him?
Abeg what are Nigerian parents doing? Who is training their sons concerning sex education?. No wonder most if you guys end up with use and dump girls.

Dude just cracking a light joke. Don't take it too personal.

SUPERPACK:
tell her you are willing to take her as just a friend without attachment, do remember sex is nt what makes a relationship to last, take her out to places, play games with her e.g ludo, table tennis, or lawn tennis etc, do nt make her believe you are in a hurry, and watch how how the principle of STILL WATER RUN DEEP works......

Thanks brother. I'll act accordingly.

smartty68:
You mistook lust for love OP. You don't try to take advantage on most people simply because they're nice. Before you make a move aIways try to understand people, moreso it was her first time in your place.

I know bro. My eyes don clear now, and the truth is i've never made such silly first time move to any lady in my life. I just want her back.

delishpot:
You more than goofed. You destroyed your reputation for her hand. If she were my sister I would advise her not to come back. Because any woman you like you just set out for intimacy straight that means by the time a girl is sending you a thank you SMS it man's you have chopped her pkonmo. Such men are randy and would pick little excuses to cheat. A man with self control gives his woman peace of mind. She can rest assured that he wouldn't jump in bed with the first woman that catches his fancy or tries to seduce him. No one wants to be with a potential Street dog Na. You sef reason am.

Like i earlier said, i was wrongly advised by friends and i regret it. I'm not that type of guy, I'm a cool guy and that was why i got attracted to her, she's the cool type too. I'm not a potential street dog. It was a mistake, i have sisters too.

alex81:
1st day somebody came to ur house u want to kiss haba bros, is dat how u use to do

what do u expect her to think?

i know i messed up and i regret it, so what can i do now to help the situation. I was wrongly advised.

waleyp:
LOOK AT YOU, YOU ONLY WANT TO CHUK HER CHUKU CHUKU, THATS NOT WHAT WE CALL LOVE. BUT ITS A NICE STORY ANYWAYS. YOU SABI TALK STORY WELL WELL

Bros please help my life naw, don't even know what to tell her when i see her on monday. I was wrongly advised by my friends. I'm a cool guy.

delishpot:
How can you just kids a woman like that? Too many movies have spoilt you. What next?

I know i goffed anyway but i never knew she would feel bad, i could not control myself.

ShobayoEmma:
Life is more than sex relationship and marriage. Without these three, you can still enjoy life to the fullest. These three things mentioned are bound to bring you headache.

It's not as easy as you think especially when you've seen the person you are attracted to and you are about losing her. Not being attracted to someone is a another thing else.

The truth is i have been a little bit down and unable to get a sound sleep since yesterday night.

I met this cool lady like a month ago, what really got me attracted to her was her beauty, calmness, and her carriage. We started talking and i asked her out the following week: she just kept smiling and that was all her response, so since then, she do branch at my laboratory where i do my research work whenever she's done with her lectures. We do have great time gisting and all she's fun to be with it and all my friends like her.


Two weeks after, i invited her to my place and she agreed, though she couldn't meet up the first day she promised to come due to her reading schedule, but she later came the following day even though i thought she might not come that day because rain fell heavily around the time she promised to show up, though the rain later stopped but was still drizzling. I was so happy when her call came in and went to pick her up, i welcomed her to my place warmly and we started talking, she was seated on the chair and i sat on the table facing her, we had a great talking time and we laughed over many things.

As a normal guy i tried to make a "harmless" move to kiss her but she ignored by turning her face sideway with a warm smile, i also played along and told her to feel free. We gisted for a while and i made another attempt but encountered same fate, she later told me she'd soon be leaving because it was late already and rain was already drizzling, i was already lying on my bed and she was still sitting, so i stood up and made the last move which she also ignore with her warm smile. So i escorted her home and when I got back home, she sent a thank you text on my watsapp and we started chatting. I later told her how i find it difficult to read her mind due to her smile and calmness: her response was unexpected, she told me she doesn't know how to say it, that she only want us to be friends with nothing attached, i was so shocked and confused, she said she would advise me to look for someone else, i felt so bad and agitated. I really love her so much, i just don't know what to do to get her back. I asked her whether i've done anything wrong and she said NO. Please i need your help house. I don't Want to lose her at all.

belindar:
You are the one that is mentally derailed. The question you should yourself is wether the lady in question is a British or not. Also why is your APC govt always jump into a moving train?
Those people you mentioned never tag the lady as a Nigerian.
Your Abike is looking for cheap popularity. Political prostitute.

When someone is beclouded with hatred, he/she wouldn't mind blaming the creator whenever the sun shines. What sort of stupid question are you asking me whether someone is British or not, does chinyelu sound British by ancestry? and again must someone be an APC member for sharing an opinion contrary to yours? i pity your drowning soul. You seriously need to undergo LOBOTOMY.

NwaAmaikpe:

Come On You Gunners

Arsenal is on the right path. If only Wenger could weed all the Muslim players...they are Arsenal's problems.

Check out clubs like Bayern Munchen.

Ribery is a muslim.

CROWNWEALTH019:
This ugly thing has opened her mouth again to spew thrash .

Her mate they NPA they control billions she's here looking for cheap popularity.

No wonder she blocked me on twitter I finished her.


How in anyway is she better than our dino melaye a man that loves the masses.

There is no man in the Senate that got so much love for the youths other than dino melaye.

The recall would not stand as a representative of the Nigerian youths

Are you not a biafran anymore?

CROWNWEALTH019:
Shut up there

What days
We going to clear ekiti state

No Biafra again?

belzabull:
lalasticlala. rules broken

Madam you smoke shi.t ? where was your parabolic head when he insulted my father ? Abeg pasa godi one side.

ChiefSweetus:
Ya old ugly and smelly mama!

Weakest and silliest clap-back i've ever seen. Try harder!!

ChiefSweetus:
Stay plis
Ozu nwuru anwu!

mumu grade one. omo ale jati jati, oponu sowe nu. iya e ti fidi jona. Abi radinu omo komo. I never even knew you are still alive. keep flexing in your pond of misery.

ChiefSweetus:
you are trueeeeeeee son of your bàstard fadaaaaaaaaaa!!!!! carry on, nwa akwuna!

I can see you've been severely hit below the belt. Go find somewhere to end your miserable life.

ChiefSweetus:
My father is your ex-landlord. And he is your real father. so your father too is a fùcking clod. akpa amu udene nwuru anwu!

Omo Ale. You and your imbecilic monster father have already affirmed that common sense is alien to your bloodline leaving you and your wandering zombie family to wallow in their pool of idiocy and stupidity. ko de ni daa fun iya laya e. omo lasan ikeji aja, abiradinu akidanidani akotileta.

tit:
olosho her husband is in hospital in coma instead of she to look after her husband she is doing ashawo work all over the place for money. useless akara fryer

That describes the id.iot that belched you out.

ChiefSweetus:
You must be an e-diot for asking me that last question. And if you dont know about her two-faced anti-masses antecedence since being fully enmeshed in the murky waters of Nigeria's eye-service politics, then you must be an e-diot.

You useless and brainless father that belched out must be an i.d.iot with a tepid brain. I simply asked you what his wrong with SSA on diaspora congratulating Nigerians doing well outside the nation and you are here spewing thrash. Simply say you just hate the woman because she's not from your region because you have no point to affirm what she has done bad. once again your father is an i.d.iot.

belindar:
Yes that correct. She is not a Nigerian. Abike is just trying to be relevant. If the lady in question wants to contest for election in Nigeria, will they allow to even go to pry not to talk of winning.

Abike your mouth is smelling

Are the likes of stella oduah, uche ekwunife, Nnenna-Ukeje not in the parliament? Is your brain paining you?

ChiefSweetus:
Abike Dabiri is the greatest let-down in modern political and moral history!
Honestly, a (wo)man's true character is revealed not when s/he has nothing, but when s/he has everything. The compassionate NTA Abike died long ago. This politically-exposed fiend is an embarrassment unto herself and those that held her in high esteem!

How is she a let-down? is it wrong to congratulate her as the SSA on diaspora ? Are you alright?

CROWNWEALTH019:
She's not Nigerian, we expired 2014

were you not the one supporting saraki the other time ?