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Jacksparr0w127:
God forbid it happens, but if you were in the man's shoe, what will you do?

Seriously, I dont know if I will survive that kind of information.

I am numb of what I will do; dont just know bro

Jacksparr0w127:
Getting married to a Jezebel and divorce. These two things freak the hell outta me

I almost married one ; We got dating and into courtship too quickly.
I didnt know i was manipulated into proposing, you know those kind of relationship that you cant even remember when you proposed, but already picking wedding venue.

She was interested in knowing my net worth, and began asking for my bank statement. This was were the bubble burst.

Because i refused, she called of the wedding,even though we have done our second introduction.

When I asked what she will tell her family was the reason for breakup, she said to tell them our medicals came out, and that I was HIV + even though i was not.

When I heard that,my heart unbroke; I knew right away that God just delivered me from the lion's den.

Jacksparr0w127:
It's dad and it really freaks me out when I read such stories

On a hush,and the guy had to accept. Two kids men, and the lady is a friend.

Beware of ladies that sing about their ex

Jacksparr0w127:
But he's right. We read such shiit daily. There's a possibility you know? Everyman should be worried about that

Sure, I know of a marriage like that

feelgoodInc:
my fear is that the baby might not be mine,

That is a deep one bro, you need to seriouly work on your mind

25thJOE:
women and their nagging plus I'm not fond of children

Aviod nags. Learn effective communication, and bro fatherhood will come to you naturally; its an inbuilt instinc

EseWealth:
the fact that people cheat on their spouse scares me

Aviod premarital sex, it will birth the trust you need in your husband.

stud101:
Not being able to provide for my family.

That's no biggie, when you get there you will even surprise yourself.

Have a clear plan for multiple income sources

analice107:
Even when the invitation is given and you rejected it?


Are you only dumb when it comes to godliness or you are deliberately ignorant?

Be nice

I dont think it is a yes or no question like you posed it.

This is a slippery issue, that will need you do a sit down one on one counseling, to exuast all the items you mentioned. Marriage is becoming contemporary, and no longer only traditional

Take time to solve this.

SheldonCooper:
the secrets she has kept from me and i had to find out. Ladies before you marry that guy , tell him everything o not when you guys are married finish, you will start telling him how one Alhaji slept with you or what you did during your youth service. Another fear is lies. A woman that lies to you can cheat and kill you.

Make sure you are painstakingly transparent, and create opportunities for delicate issues to be discussed exuastively before marriage.

IamKashyBaby:
NASOOOO Baba
But dont let ur babymama catch u here oo

Wicked lol

Loyalblak007:
"What if he changes"

"Being submissive to one man for the rest of my life"

If you love him, you wont even feel so.
Make sure you dont marry a dictator

Aderola15:
I'm a product of one marriage, you don't expect me to not have an understanding of marriage...

And nope, ion need no therapist!

I dont mean it that way, moreover you already treating the issue yourself.

Aderola15:
Everything about marriage scares me

What we are already doing through this thread is therapy. Be open, be true, be real.

Ask the right questions, and give the rights answers when asked, we will all get there.

One fears mostly what she does not understand. Do you even understand marriage ?

Rukkydelta:
Getting married to a serial cheat and a abusive partner

Only God can protect you from this.
Just hope for the best, and make sure you have not sown bad seeds that might go hunt your future.

Gofwane:
A nagging wife!

The signs are always there during courtship, it cannot be hidden.
Make sure you aviod this as a plague.

charlito94:
My greatest fear is trust

I pretend a lot in relatships not to care about what the other person does on daily basis or acts that will probably get me annoyed but deep down beneath me I know i HV insecure issues of trust.

Work on it; Start by trusting yourself to do right, and most importantly, in this case marry right

Tajbol4splend:
You must be a devilish person

If you dont understand her, maybe it would have been better to ask for clarification.

People are good you know

jashar:



Intimacy.... someone other than me knowing me....

That's a lot to deal with ooo....

Maybe this here will help : I once heard someone say marriage is simply contracting a person that will witness every aspect of your life.

I mean, the precious moments, promotions, expansion, strugles and exertion e.t.c

This is what is meant, by not good to be alone

walad4yhu:
unfaithful and unappreciative wife

Be true and real about your expectation; do not marry someone beyond you.

The fears we all have is as a result of somethings that went amiss in our developmental past.
This may be due to domestic abuse, witnessed in our familes, or what we see happening in our society presently.

We need to know that the problem of marriage today is these mentalities, that we all have borrowed from creation of others.

You are responsible for the success of your marriage, be true to self and chart the course for your marital bliss. Don't be the reason of another failed union.

Keep the conversation going

Nomfanelo99:
The fact that people change after marriage scares me .

I get, but dont forget that the only thing constant is change; better to hope he change to be better.

Me77:
I have no fear for marriage, marriage fear me instead.

I get, but there is fear involved

ednut1:
Bills

Better hang your jacket and hussle on.

Funky123:
Marriage ke...Relationship ni o

Okay, was wondering where you will trekk to

MykOnyxo:
hitting same punnahh everyday ...mehn that so boring.. but u gat abide to stay faithful

Why dont you marry more than one ?

Funky123:
My greatest fear is dat ve heard many pple complaining guys change after getting married,some guys can pretend ehn and i will always tell my man to relate with me d same way he will relate with me when we get married....No pretence so that i can walk away honourably if i cant cope

Walk away from the relationship or marriage ?

smardray:
Infidelity and i cant fùckíng do anytin

So you already know you are bound to cheat on wify ? lol

This is a direct question to singles on this platform. What are your fears about marriage, and what are you doing to overcome it ?

analice107:
lol. I don't understand.

Matt.11:12. You know what's up.

Just read your posts on this thread. I am following you; I rarely meet ladies that are on points with Rhema

analice107:
Thanks, just downloaded it.

Hmm. It this your other handle or you just hijacked my counsel.. Anyways I like your fevency lol