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Celebrities / Re: Celebrities At Banky W & Adesua Etomi's Introduction After Party (Photos) by Datingtips: 4:46pm On May 07, 2017
softwerk:
I really hate to sound negatively different but with all the media hype on this union that should have been a private matter now turned public debate; It will take the Grace of God for these 2 lovebirds to last longer that 3years in this marriage cry

Publicity is sweet but I pray they take correction and embrace moderation early enough or they will never have any privacy in their marriage!!!

Too many cooks spoil the broth

A goat that is being fed by too many people usually dies of hunger


You either celebrate with those who are celebrating or keep shut

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Romance / Re: Guys: 7 Types Of Women That Will Give You The Greatest Headaches by Datingtips: 2:17pm On Apr 19, 2017
importexpert:
Dating in itself is fun. But dating a wrong girl is stress. Did I just say stress? Now, that is an understatement. It is like have a banging headache that makes you really feel uncomfortable. If you are a guy, you probably have dated a woman that you later felt was a complete waste of time. Be comforted. You are not alone.

This is why I have checked out seven major types of women that keep making dating miserable for us.

1. The self -centered girl: A relationship is the product of two people taking care of each other’s needs. However, the self centred girl is focused on herself. When you are together, the only issue that excites her is about herself. She does not care to ask how things have been with you. You could be going through a difficult situation and she doesn’t observe to know! It can be very frustrating because you know you are not getting one tenth of what you are putting into the relationship. Let me tell you how that kind of relationship will end: if you try to endure the relationship for a while, you will get hurt repeatedly till you start to resent her. Before you will know it, it will develop to very strong dislike for her. And that will wrap up whatever is between the two of you.

2. The insecure girl: Researchers have not yet found out why people get so insecure. But with this girl, prepare your list of explanations in advance. You have to explain to her why the course mate you greeted was smiling. You have to explain why you checked your phone twice in the last one hour. If she is with your phone, you have to explain why you sent a message with an emoji. My brother, even security cameras cannot monitor your life the way she would. Not even the angels can do a thorough job of recording your every act like her.

3. The verbal girl: She is often nice and pretty. But there is one big problem that she has: her mouth. When she wants, she can pamper you till you reach the clouds and see heaven’s gates. But once she gets angry, her words flow like corrosive acid. It burns every morale and confidence you can ever muster. And watch it; she may not do this to you immediately. Rather, she may start with those around you. But my friend, everything is turn by turn. Hand will soon reach you too. cheesy

4. High maintenance girl: I was once talking to a girl and telling her that I cannot waste time chasing after a girl. She told me clearly that I have to learn it because the woman is the goal. I laughed. That is the kind of mindset this type of girl has. She believes that she is your prize and you should feel lucky to have her. So, once you start dating, you are responsible for her and her generational needs. The money you will spend on her for six months is enough to erect a house to lintel level. In fact, she may probably ask you for monthly salary too. Are you surprised? Don’t be. These are clearly evil days. cheesy

5. The lying girl: She might have a degree from school, but she has one degree you are not aware of: BLL. It means Bachelor of Lie-Lie. She lies almost over everything. Satan, the liar, is not even worthy to do IT under her. Hardly can you ever catch her lying because she is just good at what she does. But if you ever succeed and catch her lying. Forget it man; it’s a waste of time. Even her excuse and explanations will still be lies. Have you ever been in such a relationship with one? It is a really terrible experience.

6. The indecisive girl: She is one leg in and one leg out. You are dating her but you are not sure you are dating her. Whenever you try to discuss about the two of you, she says she is not ready, but she wants dividends of a relationship. She wants you to share her emotional load with you and even expect you to assist financially. She says you are the most special guy she knows but at the same time won’t accept that you are her boyfriend. She clearly is using you to wait for someone better. But, if this is happening to you and you are still hoping for an opportunity, April 1st will not be enough to celebrate you.

7. The wannabe bride: This kind of girl seems pleasant at first. The problem starts when she starts scheming to get married to you at all cost. She keeps bringing up fantasies of when the two of you will be married when the relationship is just three weeks old! You will think it is only older ladies that do this, but even girls of 21-22 are increasingly entering this stage. If you don’t want the accompanying frustration, you know what to do.

These are the ones I decided to write out. You probably have met some women with peculiar issues. You can add your own to the list or share your experience with any of the girls above.

Recently, I deliberately broke up with the No 6 type. However, I have come to learn that you would not succeed with women if all you do is reading their behaviours and attitudes. This would make you come on as being judgemental as you experience emotional upset from time to time. Women are not attracted to men who read and judge them every now and then.

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Romance / Re: Guys!!! What Is The Worst Embarrassment You Received From A Lady? by Datingtips: 7:26pm On Apr 14, 2017
One of the hardest things for an average guy to do is approaching and asking a beautiful girl out in a relationship. While many guys have suffered embarrassment from ladies, many would never ask a girl they like out because of fear of being blown off. But why is this so? The main reason is that many guys are ignorant of the socio-discursive process to follow in order to woo ladies of their choice anywhere at anytime. I would be revealing some of these processes in my subsequent posts.

I run a Centre for Research in Personality and Value Development, a think-tank committed to proffering solutions to social value disorder and improving on successful relationship across all social platforms. for further inquiries, send mail to cerpvad@gmail.com
Romance / See The Three Archetypes Of Ladies: Guys, Which One Suits You Most? by Datingtips: 6:23pm On Apr 13, 2017
It might interest you to know that there is a rank scale you can use in measuring a lady to discover if she is worth your time. This is called Attitude and Attraction Rank Scale. Personality rank of ladies are measured and classified according to the level they are occupying on this rank scale. Three types of ladies exist on Attitude and Attraction Rank Scale, namely:

The ‘Total 10'
The first or topmost level on the scale is where a “total-10” lady is found. A total 10 is attractive not for her beauty (she could be ugly but she is contented with her look) but for her combination of positive attitude, fear of God, intelligence, purpose, focus, direction, approachability (smiling, bantering, humorous, respect for others feeling etc) emotional balance, moral discipline among other values and qualities. These and other values and qualities are what she devices to negotiate social transactions either with guys she can date or the ones she only wants to be friends with.

The Slay –Queen
The Slay-Queen occupies the middle of the rank scale. The Slay-Queen is a lady that premises her social power on physical beauty and material possessions. If the Slay-Queen thinks she is not beautiful or attractive enough, she could attempt anything suicidal to enhance her look including going into grotesque make-up artistry or plastic surgery to enhance her physical look. But if she is born pretty and beautiful, this is her currency and she would go any length spending it to attract men. There is a slut locked up in the Slay-Queen which can only be unleashed either by the money, material wealth or a bad boy manipulation. The Slay-Queen takes relish in frivolities such as partying, clubbing, bombing the various social media platforms with her naked or half-naked pictures. She lacks focus and direction in life.

The Bitch
The Bitch is found at the bottom of the rank scale. The Bitch typifies ladies who are sexually unchaste, lewd, lacking in moral restraints, prostituting- trading sex in exchange for money; promiscuous and indiscriminate with sexual references, violent, vulgar, drug addicts among others.

Guys, next time you go out there to approach a lady, try use this rank scale to filter her personality.

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Romance / Re: When Is The Best Time To Ask About Your Partner's Genotype? by Datingtips: 4:51pm On Apr 13, 2017
It is strongly advised that you declare your genotype upfront and immediately before going into a marriage bound relationship.

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Dating And Meet-up Zone / Biggest Whatsapp Group For Single Ladies Living And Working In Akure by Datingtips: 12:39pm On Apr 13, 2017
Are you a single lady, ripe for marriage and looking for a serious and Godly relationship that would lead to marriage shortly? Don't rot and wait in silence. There are good, nice and God-fearing men out here waiting for your hand in marriage. Join this Whatsapp Group for a meet up with these good, nice and God fearing potential Life Partners.

To be added to the group, email your name, phone number and profession to akuresingleladies@gmail.com
No matchmaking fee is involved.Terms and conditions apply.
Bitches and Slay-Queens, please stay away.

Signed: Coordinator, Akure Single Ladies Network.
Dating And Meet-up Zone / Re: Still Searching For The Right Man... by Datingtips: 11:34am On Apr 13, 2017
Mooryn:
Don't just tell me there are no right men because by my judgment I,am a virtuous Lady, And as such should find a rightful guy here for marriage, You may not be 100% qualified/Perfect as no human is, but you should to some extent.
I Posted this letter down here Last week, all I got were young guys looking for dates and attach..

Here it is again....
A God fearing Young Lady, 26, homely, Very Pretty, Average height, Masters Degree in Public Health (Community Medicine) cool headed & relatively employed Needs a Spiritually matured, a mentally, emotionally, Psychologically matured & of course A working class & comfortable guy, probably a Pharmacist, Banker, Lawyer, Or Profession of any field between 28 to 35yrs, probably from the East, strictly for a serious relationship, that will lead to marriage, Pls Unserious fellows stare clear, WhatsApp me on, 08063513060

But you need to state your current permanent location and your Genotype. Lets chat further on whatsapp
Literature / Re: Ola Rotimi's 79th Posthumous Birthday Is Today by Datingtips: 10:34am On Apr 13, 2017
See more details on Ola Rotimi.
May his gentle soul continue to rest in peace.

Born Olawale Gladstone Emmanuel Rotimi 13 April 1938 at Sapele, Delta State, Nigeria;
Died 18 August 2000 (aged 62)
Occupation: Playwright, director. head of department of creative arts at the University of Port Harcourt, Lecturer at Obafemi Awolowo University, Nigeria; has also served as visiting professor, playwright, and director in Germany and Italy, as well as at DePauw University and Wabash College.
Nationality: Nigerian
Ethnicity: Yoruba
Period: 1938–2000
Notable works: The Gods Are Not To Blame, Ovonramwen Nogbaisi, and The Epilogue

Olawale Gladstone Emmanuel Rotimi, best known as Ola Rotimi (13 April 1938 – 18 August 2000),[1] was one of Nigeria's leading playwrights and theatre directors. He has been called "a complete man of the theatre – an actor, director, choreographer and designer – who created performance spaces, influenced by traditional architectural forms."[2]


Early life

Rotimi was the son of Samuel Gladstone Enitan Rotimi a Yoruba steam-launch engineer (a successful director and producer of amateur theatricals)[3] and Dorcas Adolae Oruene Addo an Ijaw drama enthusiast. He was born in Sapele, Nigeria;[4] cultural diversity was a recurring theme in his work. He attended St. Cyprian's School in Port Harcourt from 1945 to 1949, St Jude's School, Lagos, from 1951 to 1952 and the Methodist Boys High School in Lagos, before travelling to the United States in 1959 to study at Boston University, where he obtained a BA in fine arts. In 1965, he married Hazel Mae Guadreau, originally from Gloucester; Hazel also studied at Boston University, where she majored in opera, voice and music education. In 1966 he obtained an MA from Yale School of Drama,[nb 1] where he earned the distinction of being a Rockefeller Foundation scholar in playwriting and dramatic literature.[nb 2]

Theatrical career

Rotimi often examined Nigeria's history and local traditions in his works. His first plays, To Stir the God of Iron (produced 1963) and Our Husband Has Gone Mad Again (produced 1966; published 1977), were staged at the drama schools of Boston University and Yale, respectively.
Later years

Upon returning to Nigeria in the 1960s, Rotimi taught at the University of Ife (now Obafemi Awolowo University), where he founded the Ori Olokun Acting Company,[5] and Port Harcourt. Owing, in part, to political conditions in Nigeria, Rotimi spent much of the 1990s living in the Caribbean and the United States, where he taught at Macalester College in St. Paul, Minnesota. In 2000 he returned to Ile-Ife where he lectured in Obafemi Awolowo University till his demise. Hazel (his wife) died in May 2000, only a couple of months before Rotimi's death.

His later dramas include The Gods Are Not to Blame (produced 1968; published 1971), a retelling of Sophocles' Oedipus Rex[5] in imaginative verse; Kurunmi and the Prodigal (produced 1969; published as Kurunmi, 1971), written for the second Ife Festival of Arts; Ovonramwen Nogbaisi (produced 1971; published 1974), about the last ruler of the Benin empire; and Holding Talks (1979).

Later plays, such as If: A Tragedy of the Ruled (1983) and Hopes of the Living Dead (1988), premiered at the University of Port Harcourt and was a common play in OAU Drama Department. The radio play Everyone His/Her Own Problem, was broadcast in 1987. His book African Dramatic Literature: To Be or to Become? was published in 1991.

Rotimi, a patriot who shunned the attraction of the West and Europe and returned home to contribute his own quota to nation building, was a rare breed. Diminutive in size but a giant in drama in Africa, he was one of the best things that could have happened to the literary community.

His dream of directing a play of 5000 cast members materialised at the Amphi Africa Theater when he was being put to rest as the crowd was drawn to a manuscript of the day's program outline. People made dramatic entry and exit to the stage around his casket with the man turning his casket.

Rotimi spent the second half of his last creative decade reworking two of his plays – Man Talk, Woman Talk and also Tororo, Tororo, Roro – and the result, unpublished at the time of his death in 2002, have now been published under the title The Epilogue. The two plays were probably meant as an epilogue to both Rotimi's theatrical and comic careers, which span the entire spectrum of his career.

It is comical and the language used is a version of "Nigerian English" (for example: "Se you get?" "I called God on him"wink.

The works are also a social satire and this publication will spur renewed interest in his satires. Rotimi is sure to be remembered as a model in the literary genre whose views have shaped the conduct of the theatre and whose plays have demonstrated the power of drama to shape the thinking of the society and attempted to solve some of the problems encountered in everyday living.

Plays

(1963) To Stir the God of Iron
(1966) Our Husband Has Gone Mad Again—depicts the cocoa farmer and businessman Lejoka-Brown as a self-seeking, opportunistic leader who could make better contributions to his country outside of the political arena.
(1968) The Gods Are Not To Blame—an adaptation of the Greek classic Oedipus Rex; the main character gets trapped by pride, ignorance and the caprices of the divinities.
(1969) Kurunmi
(1970) Holding Talks
(1971) Ovonramven Nogbaisi—the title character simply luxuriates in the grandeur of his office. Although he is a custodian of culture who inspires people, he does not actively participate in their struggles.
(1973) Grip Am
(1973) Invitation into Madness
(1977) Akassa Youmi*
(1979) If: A Tragedy of the Ruled—in If, the young firebrand Hamidu is nowhere to be found when a real commitment is required.
(1985) Hopes of The Living Dead—Rotimi here depicts a different kind of leader: a selfless, result-oriented, committed leadership complemented by a followership that believes in the good of the generality of its members through the application of itself to the cause that is beneficial.
When the Criminals Become Judges

The Epilogue: Two unpublished plays of Ola Rotimi

Man Talk, Woman Talk

Man Talk, Woman Talk is humorous, as quintessential comedies from the author can be. He makes use of wry humour to seek a level playing ground for resolution of the biases men and women nurse about one another and which affect mutual co-existence of the two. The scene is a court though devoid of the usual technicalities of court rooms. Instead of legal jargon, there is humour, arguments and counter arguments. What the author arrives at is not to prove which gender is superior but to show the complementary roles of men and women. There is a great deal of wit in the work and the setting here is the university environment where the youthful contenders are idealistic.

Tororo, Tororo, Roro

Tororo, Tororo, Roro is a coincidental meeting of two fellows from Man Talk, Woman Talk, Tunji Oginni and Philomena James. Both run Hotel Kilimanjaro with different motives and a chance meeting between them elicits lessons as both share each other’s problems.

Performances

First performed in Nigeria in 1968, The Gods Are Not To Blame was produced at the Arcola Theatre in Hackney, London, in 2005. Femi Elufowoju Jr had his first theatre experience in 1975, at the age of 11, when he saw a revival of this very play, performed in a reconstructed Greek amphitheatre at a university campus in Ife; and brought it to the UK shores as a British leading theatre director under the company name Tiata Fahodzi[6]

His last production was a staging of Man Talk, Woman Talk at the French Institute in Lagos, Nigeria. He also produced Tororo Tororo roro, a play of the Absurd, as a convocation play.
Textual sources
Style

For Man Talk, Woman Talk, directorial approach must have fluidity which will allow for creativity of the actors. The technicalities of the stage should be carefully applied in such a way that they will kill expected boredom associated with court scenes for if not done, the whole dramatic in the act will be flattened out. It might do the play a favour if it is given the kind of approach Ola Rotimi himself used in the directing of the premiere of the play. It is the technique that allows a kind of participatory interaction; the one that accommodates the audience contribution.

Awards

Rotimi was awarded two Fulbright Scholarships.


Plays and literature

Kurunmi[nb 3]
The Gods Are Not To Blame[nb 4]
Ovọnramwẹn Nọgbaisi[nb 5]
Our Husband Has Gone Mad Again[nb 6]
Holding Talks[nb 7]
If: A Tragedy of the ruled[nb 8]
Understanding "The Gods Are Not to Blame"[nb 9]
Hopes of the Living Dead[nb 10]
Viandanti della storia[nb 11]%
African Dramatic Literature
Playwriting and Directing in Nigeria
The Epilogue[nb 12]

Books, essays and political commentary

Books

A Dictionary of Nigerian Pidgin English: with an introductory survey of the history, linguistics and socio-literary functions
Introduction to Nigerian literature[nb 13]%
The Living Culture of Nigeria[nb 14]%
A translation of the play "The Gods Are Not to Blame" into Setswana[nb 15]†
Statement towards August '83-[nb 16]
The Masquerade in Nigerian history and culture[nb 17]*%
An interview (1975) with Ola Rotimi, Senior Research Fellow, Institute of African Studies, University of Ifẹ, Ile Ifẹ[nb 18]
Diversity of Creativity in Nigeria*
African Theatre in Performance%
Akassa you mi
Issues in African Theatre

Articles

"Conversation with Ola Rotimi"
"How the kingfisher learned fear"
"Review of: Kiabàrà: Journal of the Humanities 1" (June 1978)
"Through whom the spirits breathe"
"The trials of African literature"
"Everyone his/her own problem"
"No direction home"

Archival material and ebooks

Archival material

Papers[nb 19]*
African Papers, 1963, 1968–1989
Gbe'ku De:pièce en 1 acte

ebooks

Initiation into Madness
Our Husband Has Gone Mad Again
If
Holding Talks
Hopes of the Living Dead
Grip Am
Akassa you mi
Kurunmi
Ovonramwen Nogbaisi

In 2015 Society of Young Nigerian Writers under the leadership of Wole Adedoyin founded Ola Rotimi Literary Society(www.olarotimiliterarysociety..com) aim at promoting and reading the works of Ola Rotimi.

Source: Wikipedia The free Encyclopedia. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ola_Rotimi. Accessed Thursday 13th April, 2017.

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